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well i have this boyfriend named mike and this best friend named brittany. lately brittany has been flirting with mike but mike of course has not been flirting back. she has started lightly hitting him and he would just look at her funny. she even says stuff like "say hi to mikey for me" i don't want to lose her as a best friend and i really really like my boyfriend. and when me and mike hug she starts trying to say i'm cold let me get in the middle. and when we all sit down she like throws mike up and tells him to sit next to her so she could be in the middle. in the middle of me and him! help (link)
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Maybe she is afraid she is loosing you... I would talk to her about how she's feeling. Tell her what you've noticed lately and see what she says. If she says she likes your guy... be sure to remind her that he's umm... YOURS. lol, Good luck! just be honest...
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my grandma wont let me have a boyfriend and all of these guys like me and i like one of them but i cant have a boyfriend but the thing is i have gone behind her back and dated like 3 guys (not at the same time) and she didnt find out so should i just go out with him or not and how would i convince her to say yes bc my mom did alot of bad things with guys when she was my age and my grandma thinks i will turn in to her but i wont so can you help i rate 5's (link)
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talk to your grandma about it. Don't yell, just talk to her. I wouldn't go behind her back again, even though you didn't get caught the first time, because if she does find out you'll break her trust and then she probably won't even consider the matter at all. Anyway, talk to her. Sit down and set rules with her, that way it's a compromise. Be mature, stand your ground, but, again, don't yell or wine, that will probably just make her think that you're not old enough to have a boyfriend at all. Good luck!
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breaking up with your boyfriend for his best friend...?
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still going out with him because he's a really good guy and you're afraid to break his heart...?
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what should I do, because my boyfriend is the most amazing guy ever, and he'd cry and be depressed for months if anything happened. But I just don't have feelings for him anymore, and his friend and I like eachother... help! (link)
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I think that still going out with him even though you don't like him anymore is worse. It won't b real anymore and he'll probably notice. Just be honest with him and let him know what's going on! Good luck
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i have a boyfriend.. we'll call him R. R and i have been dating for 7 months. The first 5 months were great! He's been starting to hit me, he kicked me, and I fell and I had a bump on my head last week. Last night he tried suffocating me. I've also been told about him flirting with about 5 other girls at school. 2 of them are some of my best friends. Oh, by the way, I'm only a freshman in high school. He's a sophomore. But anyway, I'm so sick of hearing about him doing other stuff with girls. He told me if i ever broke up with him, he'd ruin my life. What am I supposed to do? I am scared of him, but he'll do crap to ruin my life (believe me, he's done it to many.. trashed reps.. everyone hates that person, etc.) but what can i do? please help! i'm scared (link)
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You need to tell an adult what is going on. This isn't a relationship, it sounds more like abusive blackmail. You need to get out of this relationship because things are just going to get worse, and the longer you stay with him, the harder it's going to be. You can bounce back if he says bad things about you, but you need to get out of this situation before you really get hurt. Good luck!
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well i have this g/f that ive gone out it now for like 3 weeks i like her and all she wants me hold her hand and all that but im in 7th grade 12 years old and i c like seniors holding hands and all that but holding hands with her makes me feel like ever1 is watchin me and i dont like 2 be in the spot lite. well i do but thats not the piont. should i hold her hand or wat
signed
holdin hands impared (link)
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just because seniors hold hands, doesn't mean you have to. you can hold hands when it's just the to of you if you don;t feel like making a PDA, which is ok might I add. Do whatever you feel comfortable doing. Good luck!
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im in love with this guy havebeen together for 4yrs but i had left to get engaged to some else things didnt work out for me he accepted me back now i feel like im the only one in this relationship, he stopped communicating with me tells me he busy will call me back and he never does tells me to wait for him comes two hours later now ive asked him what the way formard he said if i think he is a problem lets go our separate ways, what do i do i dont want to lose him not now not ever. (link)
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You need to tell him how you feel. Just be open and honest and he will understand. Good luck!
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Ok, Recently i told this boy lets call him kyle i like him and i really have major feelings for him and he told me he has serious feelings for me we keep writing to eachother and flirting but i have a boyfriend... lets call him justin and kyle and justin sit at the same table at lunch and usually justin walks me to gym and he forgot about me and i forgot about him and is that a sign to break up with justin and go out with kyle? please help me i know this is confusing but i really need help! i'll rate high! (link)
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I think I would just be honest with this Justin, your bf. He deserves to know what's going on and will probably be hurt if he finds out about how you like his friend from someone else. Good luck
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Okay one of my best guy friends is home for vacation. And I really like him like alot but he doesnt know (like no one told him). And I want to go to the movies with him tonight but his cell phone and computer arent working. So should I call his house (even though we hardly ever talk on the phone and if we do its on his cell phone) and if so what should I say?
ps. I would also like to invite his best friend who is home for vacatino also
PLEASE HELP I RATE REALLY HIGH! (link)
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I you like him that much and he's only visting for a short time than I would call him. But I don't know if I would invite his friend along. After all, you want to spend time with him and having his friend along might leave him (the friend) out or you could end up getting left out. Just call him and be like, "Hey, are you busy tonight, I wanted to see if you wanted to go to a movie?" good luck!
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im 14 and i am IN LOVE with this 7th grader (ima 8th gradeR) well i was gunna tell him on vday but i didnt get a chance to. so the next day i was gunna hug him & tell him how i felt & then kiss him on the cheek..then my so called "friends" went behind my back & told him & now hes not talkin to me..today he said lik one thing & that was about our how-to presentation..but he keeps starin @ me..does he like me? should i get over him? oo & we have 2 classes together & thanks to my firnd with a BIG MOUTH told the wHOLE calss!! & it think he got nervous or embarressed..(I DID) & so now i think i chased him off...but i dont kno what to do..i really love him.. (link)
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You need to tell him how you feel yourself. He might think that your friend is starting rumors and giving him a hard time. If you know you love him that much, than take the time to set the story straight, it will be worth your time, trust me. ;) Good luck!
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I like this guy at my school. I'm not sure if he likes me or not. He's a senior and I'm a freshman. We are friends, and his best friend is my brother. I want to become more than friends, but I'm not sure if he does. My parents and my siblings don't think I should date or anything of that sort. This guy is not like any other guy I know. He's special, I just don't know how to tell him that. I'm also not sure if he likes me. Whenever he's doing something, he always persuades me to go. And if I'm not going to do something, he then says, "well then I'm not going." I don't want to say anything because that would be awkward at school and church. I'm not sure what to do, should I go for it and ask him or not!?!?! Sorry its so long! (link)
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I think you should see where he stands and talk to him about how he feels. Your never going to know how he feels if you don't talk to him. Who knows, he may be crazy about you but not wanting to say anything because of your brother and you parents and the whole not dating sitation. I'm your age, and my mom is the same way. I think that if he does like you, you could work something out between the two of you, until you can convince your parents that you're mature enough to date. Good luck!
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my boyfriend is supposed to hug me on valentines day and it would our first hug ever... but i don't know what to do... this may sound stupid but please helpp.... i love him soo much... also im afraid my arm pits will smell because lately my deoderent hasn't been working... any suggestions on good deoderents and no spray because i have a reaction to it... thanks... 13/f (link)
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Don't worry about the hug, just enjoy the moment. If you're nervous, it won't be natural and you won't enjoy it as much. About the deoderent, try a gel, that's what I use, and it's strong and covers up odors really well! Hope I helped!
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OK so my boyfriend got me a lot for Valentine's day and all I got him was a teddy bear. I cant think of anything else to get him. If anyone has any ideas at all please help me!! Thanx so so so much , I rate high. (link)
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make him something yourself. The best gifts are ones from the heart and he'll apperciate the time and effort. Or better yet, cook him something. Guys love food. Cookies, or a cake or something. He'll love it! Good luck.
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o my goodness!! i was JUST HANGING out wit my lover dom. i over heard him talking to his/mine friend shawn, he said liz (a girl) likes him!! liz is pretty and dom always likes her! soo any way dom goes to shawn-liz likes me, i like her to,shawn goes go out with liz then, dom goes in 5 days!!! that hurt soo much i was gonna cry but i hide it! (im crying as a write this) i love him so much!!! i had my first kiss with him, he had her first kiss with liz!!! i love him to death!!! i would do anything for him!! please help! please tell me how i can get over him!! (link)
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If you love him to death and would do anything for him, than you need to tell him. He;s never going to know that you still have feelings for him if you don't tell him. And if you wait until he is going out with this liz chick you'll be too late. Good lucK!
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My exboyfriend and I have been hanging out. We're the closest you can be without being together. Valentine's Day is coming up, should I get him something because we have feelings for each other, or should I just leave it alone since we're not together? (link)
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I think that if you still really like him that you should get him something anyway. You can give things to your friends on Valentine's Day, guys or girls. As for what to give him, I have no clue, I'm sort of having the same problem myself. But anyway, don't let the fact that he's your ex stop you just showing him that you still care. Good luck!
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I'v been doing the whole secret admirer thing for a day or so now. I think that this girl knows its me doing it. Should I just play it off and continue with the plan or should I just forget it and go for it. (link)
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I think that you should just go with it. She'll probably think it;s sweet that you 're going way out of your way to show how much you like her. Besides, she might not even know... Keep it up because it will be great to see how she feels about you in the end... Good luck!
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Ok well me and my boyfriend have been broken up for 3weeks now.We have both moved on to new relationships.The problem is lately I havn't been thinkging about my new boyfriend but about my ex.I feel really bad 'cuz my new boyfriend likes me alot but i can't seem to get my ex out of my head. I need help i am so confused 'cuz i don't want to leavemy b/f on!! (link)
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It sounds a lot like you are just going out with the guy you are going out with now to get over your ex, but it's not working, and that's the problem. Maybe you should tell the guy your going out with that you need sometime and thought you were over your old guy, but your not and you just need sometime. Good luck!
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okay, so there's this guy at my school, I dont really know that well, and I'm new here this year. but he''s supposedly the hottest guy. Two months ago he started flirting wit me almost everyday, and some other girls actually did think he liked me. A month ago one of my friends asked him if he did and he said yes( i wasnt there), but then a week ago my friend told me that she and another friend asked him again a week ago, and he said I was disgusting and he only liked to make fun of me. But he still flirted with me uptil then. I'm confused, does he still like me, and tried to cover up for it? Because in the beginning it genuinely seem like he liked me when he flirted. I DO know he's somewhat of a playboy. I'm in Middle School.Female, of course. (link)
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If u know that he's a player, than he might have just been flirting to flirt. There's this girl @ my school, who will flirt with any guy she thinks is hot (even if she knows they have a gf...)until it gets a little to serious and then she backs of. She's afraid of commitment. Maybe it's the same with him. He likes you, and will flirt with you, but doesn't want anything serious. SOme people are just like that.... Hope I helped, anymore ?s send them to my inbox, later!
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okay to set things straight im 14/f and I like this guy who is 13/m (Daniel) but, i have this exx bf who is 14/m(alvin) and he still likes me alot and it is kind of my fault that we broke up, so i feel like really bad, but i like Daniel alot but i think Alvin is more experienced cause he has had more than one gf and Daniel well.. i'd be his 1st and i'm not a hoe im still a virgin and i plan on stayin pure till marriage, but i like kissing and i dont want to like be all pushy w/ Daniel but i dont want to be one of them couples that are too shy to hug because i would have to kill my self cuz those guys are the clingy ones what do i do? i like them both but daniel more cuz he is more athletic like me. (link)
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If you like Daniel more, then go for Daniel. But like you said, be sure not to be pushy and such. Don't worry about your ex, u sound like you just still might be getting over him. But that's in your past, so I would go for Daniel.
Good luck!
ps. way to go on wanting to stay pure till marriage ;)!
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okay, so my friend and I need some ideas for valentines day for our boyfriends. we heard they were cooking something really good up, so we need A REALLY GOOD thing sto top thiers. anybody got any ideas?? gracias..i`ll rate you a five no matter what because you tried. (link)
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as a joke, you could say you can't make it to their big dinner and then surprise them with something big when you show up anyway. Or you could bring dessert or something.... Idk this is a hard one. I would deffinatly make them something though if their going so out of their way to cook you dinner.
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Okay im 15 .. and i like these two guys .. tha first one lets call him Joe ..okay well he goes to my school .. and hes a junior(im a freshman) well our lockers are right next to each other so thas sorta how we met but then we started talking,talking bc i became "close friends" with his friend (lets call him) Steve .. well me ans Steve just have sorta drifted away .. but me and Joe still talk alot !! n we talk online n everyday at school .. and i like him alot .. hes 17 .. soo hott and is soo sweet to me!! we just sorta click i guess.. hes so awesome .. and then tha other guy lets call him Bob .. well i met him about a month and a half ago from my two bff's ..Well we have all hung out together a few times and me and Bob talk online all tha time n see each other about every weekand(hes a freshman too but goes to another school) .. so every weekand me and my friends go to these local concert things .. its just basically a whole bunc of local punk/emo bands and they play .. its really awesome .. well me n my friends have been goin every sat. night for tha past month .. well this comming up saturday .. i invited Joe and Bob .. and they are both sorta thinking like im guna be there n we can get close or flirt or hook up or w/e .. which we prolly will ... but i dont want like Bob to think like we are guna make out or anyhthing bc then Joe is guna be there and vice versa .. i dont want to hurt either of them .. Me and Bob talk ALOT and we both like each other and know it.. but me n Joe .. well i like him ALOT and i think he knows it but im not sure how he feels about me .. I really like both of them .. Bob has a great personality and is SOOO sweet .. There are so many things i love about him .. but then Joe hes so hott ..and nice and sweet..n i like alotta things about him too .. and i told my mom that i liked both of them but she keeps insiting that i should forget about Bob and just keep persuing Joe !! but i think she thinks that bc hes older and his family is way rich ... so im not sure what i should do about this upcomming weekand .. Pleae help ? I rate 'XoX (link)
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I think that it's really up to you. I would go with the freshmen guy, because you to can face all the rest of high school together, enjoy senior year together. And ur junior friend leaves for collage too years before you. Just my opinion, but it's truly up to you. Here's a way for you to decide. Get a piece of paper and draw a line down the middle and write each of the guy's names @ the top. Start listing what you like about each of them on both sides. The hard part is, you can't put the same thing on both sides, like you can't put that they're both sweet, you have to weigh it and pick one. That way it's not a tie and you can back up your decision. Good luck!
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