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I'm Rachel, I'm 20 and a Junior at Michigan State University! I've been with advicenators for a few years, and I enjoy coming on ever so often to help someone who needs it. I love giving advice, especially to people who have been in the same situation as I have. So ask away ;)
By the way, I just wanted to let everyone know that though I do enjoy this site, advicenators does not consume my life, so please be patient when waiting for a response. It may take up to 2 days, it may be instantaneous.
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Me: F19 boyfriend:M19
So my boyfriend that I have been dating for a year and 4 months is being a jerk. Here's the story... two weeks ago he throw a party at his older sisters house when she out of town. When the sister came back a neighbor told her he was throwing partys. She asked him if that was true, he lied and said that he threw no partys while she was gone. Well she believed the neighbor over her brother (my boyfriend). Will my boyfriend is so mad that she did not belive him. Me and his sister are good friends. We hungout all day together (two weeks after the party issue). When he realised I spend the whole day with her. This is what he sent me via text message...
Boyfriend: Im so mad at her u dont even know. And uve spent all day with her.
Me:I guess we will talk about this later... but I don't even know why you are. You did have a party at her house. She is not mad at you for it. Just drop the whole thing she believed robben over you.
Boyfriend: F*** off. Go have fun... No we wont be talking about this later. Turning off my phone! Dont text me or call or show up on my breaks.
Me:Jon you don't tell anyone to fuck off especially the one you love. That is very disrespectful, and rude. How dare you get mad at me for hanging out with your sister when you two have a problem
Me:I thought you were goingt to stop being so mean and disrespectful to people. And not treat me like sh** What happen to the guy the guy that wanted to become a better man and not turn into jeff?
* jeff is a really mean guy who treats people really badly*
What should I do? Am I wrong for hanging out with his sister? I am so mad he told me to f*** off I have a right to be right?
You're not wrong at all for hanging out with his sister. If you and his sister are good friends, then he should accept and understand that. Whatever problems he has with his sister are HIS problems, not yours. He can't expect you to be mad at her just because he is. You definitely have a right to be mad at him; he had no right at all to tell you to f off when you did nothing. Seriously. He needs to mature and be a big man about this. I would talk to him about it and tell him that he's being wrong, he needs to stop, basically tell him that his problems aren't yours.
Honestly, he sounds like a jackass. If he continues to treat you bad, I would end it or consider going on a break.
How can I write about my whole life online? to where I can let others view it.. and get feed back?
There are many online journals.
Personally, my favorites are
- xanga.com
- livejournal.com
- blogspot.com
These free journals feature personalization, and enable comments for visitors.
You can also you Myspace Blogs (blogs.myspace.com), which isn't as fancy as the others, but will get the job done.
:)
What age do you think is the best for having a first boyfriend? :)
It depends on the level of maturity and how serious the person wants to be. I think that around 14 is a good age to have your first. I know my friends who have "dated" from the ages 9-12 realize how immature their relationship was, and don't consider it a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship since they were younger at the time and weren't really serious about it.
The guy that I like is about 25 pounds overweight and isnt athetlic at all. I asked him if he wanted to play tennis with me because I have been taking lessons. The whole time we played he critized me, saying mean things like "your stamina is terrible", what kind of lessons have you been taking", and " I thought you would have been way better". He was really upsetting me so finally I said that I was still learning and to give me a break. The thing was that he was a lot worse than me, and I was trying to say nice things to encourage me.
A couple days later he told me that he thought I should lose 15 pounds. I am average, not fat. He is way more overweight than me and I have never said anything to him because I know it would just hurt him. My feelings were very hurt with all his negativity. Should I move on?
YES. YES. YES.
He's not worth it. His criticsm and negativity are horrible; no one should EVER say that kind of stuff to you and if they do, they're not worth your time. You deserve someone so much better; someone that makes you feel better about yourself.
My really close friend Amanda is obsessing over this hot kid at school. Every conversation is spent talking about that he looked at her! I mean he just looked at ya! She claims she "loves" him. She doesn't even know what that means! She has talked to the guy ONCE and all it was was him asking her what period an assembly was!! She says that was the best moment of her life! In her profile she writes all this love crap...its pathetic. How can I tell her she should stop claiming she's in "love" and focuz on whats really important??
I know how it feels -- a lot of my friends are like that. But I guess you have to wait it out a little. It happens to me once in awhile, too, but she'll get over it soon. One of my friends liked a guy (secretly) for 4 years before she got over him.
If it really bugs you, try to hook them up or start getting them talking and really being friends. Or just tell her how it's bugging you, but do it nicely and in a non-threatening way. (EX. I know you like ____, and he's a really cool guy and everything, but it's kind of starting to annoy me a little when you talk about him so much. I don't want this to get in the way of our friendship, but maybe could we not talk about him as much? We can still talk about him, but maybe lower it down a little.)
Hey guys,
I already asked a quesion a while ago about Valentines Day. I really don't know what to get my best friend Daniel. I'm wanting to get him a stuffed animal off of this one site, but I'm having a hard time picking between all 4 bears I like. I was wondering if anyone would like to go to the site and look at the bears I'm choosing from to maybe get him, and tell me what one you like the best. I can't really decide, so if anyone wants to look at the bears I really like they are on www.bandannabear.com-I like the 2 bears in the very first row and the 2 bears in the fourth row. Those are the ones I'm choosing from to get him. If noone wants to do this, it's alright. By the way I am 15/f and he is 14/m turning 15 on the 31st of this month. He is very sweet and mature for his age. He lives in a different state, and I plan on meeting him as soon as I can save up enough money for me and my mom because she wants to go too. We've been talking now for over 6 months and aren't going out yet. We consider ourselves going out though. We already sent each other gifts for Christmas. Someone help me out if you want! If not, it's alright. I love everyone on this site anyway! Thank you so much!
I agree with the others; the first one in the first row is really cute :]
I'm in the eight grade and I'm a 14 year old female. Some boys think that i am pretty. But I haven't had my first kiss yet. I want my first kiss to be spectacular, something that I will remember forever.
I feel really left out because all of my friends have had their first kiss and more. I just want to know the ages of people when they got their first kiss and details (like where, how, etc.) it will make me feel better. Thank you in advance!
I was 12 years old and it was with my "boyfriend" of 2 months, at my basement for my Christmas Party. It was kind of rushed and I felt kind of pressured into it...it was what all of my friends and his friends expected, so I did it. And although I liked him A LOT, it wasn't special the way I wanted it to be.
Don't rush into things like I did...if you wait, your time will come. :]
how do you make-out..lol odd question..but..i've never done it before..
Massage and play around with the other person's tongue. =P
Okay during the summer i lost my virginity to this guy, well tonite i went over to his house and we are like best friends now but i miss him and i really want him.. it makes me sad to see him cuz he is always talking to girls and never talks to me about what happened should i tell him how i feel or not
Definitely talk to him before you don't get the chance too! If he's your best friend he won't make fun of you or yell at you or whatever because good friends aren't like that. Good luck and tell me what happens!
im the person that wrote about me and my boyfriend takin a break well he finally called sunday and he did cheat on me. So we broke up sunday nite. Well i really didnt talk to him at all monday in school and Monday nite i wrote him a real long letter explaining to him how i felt and all that. I even told him that i loved him in the letter and just all that. Well he read it tuesday and we talked and then today we skipped skool and we hung out all day and he told me that he thought about my letter and that even yesterday he thought about me. Im just wondering tho am i really dumb to sit there and talk to him or am i just a girl who is madly in love wit a boy. Im really sorry that this is soo long but i just need sum advice
I think you really like him and maybe you should give him a second chance BUT you have to watch out because a lot of times guys who cheat go back to their girlfriends and cheat some more. And if you do decide to give him a second chance, if you want you could talk to him about how you felt about it. I hope everything goes well between you guys!
Ok, I'm 14/f
And there is this guy at my church. He is soo funny and he's a really good Christian, which is very important for me, and he has an awesome personality and is very fun to be around. The only problem is, he is really small. He is like 1/2 a foot shorter than me and weighs about 30 lbs less. Beside all this, I really like him a lot because of the inside, which is really what counts, but I'm afraid of what my friends would say if we dated. Because well, I've been known for going for the good-looking guys. So what should I do?
I've been in this situation before, and I think you should do it. If you really like him, then the outside really shouldn't matter. If your friends don't appreciate the fact that he's short or whatever, don't listen to them. All it does is make them look shallow because a guy is short. I mean, you wouldn't want to reject him because of them and realize you missed out on what could've been the best guy you've ever met, would you? He seems like a nice go, so go for it! If you're friends don't like him because he's shorter..it shouldn't matter to you! I hope i helped!
how many boyfriends have you had? i'm doing something with the infomation so be honest.
I've had...only 4. And I also dated two of them twice.
i love my bf but i dont know what to do. last year i really liked this guy, we had a lot of fun but never went out. this year we are in no classes together though. i saw him at lunch the first day of school. our eyes met and i felt really hurt. i feel such a deep connection with him, but i feel like i just like my bf as a crush. i dont want to break my bf's heart, he is wonderful. im so upset, i dont know what to do now.
Tell your boyfriend you need a break and you need to figure things out, or that you might not feel the same way for him you did before. And tell him no matter what happens, whether you end up together or not, you want him to be there for you and be your friend. He might not understand, but he'll be there for you. You need to tell the other guy how you feel and how much you want to be together. I hope it works out for you
ok i have 2 questions
1. my ex-boyfriends when we broke up he said 4 me to promise to call him everyday still (we dont go to the same school) what does this mean??
2.we or he still says "i love you" and is always askin me out but then after he says sumthin he'll tell about this girl at his school how he walks her to class and holds her hand and it makes me sooo SAD that im not that girl....is he trying to make me jealous???...cz its workin!!
3. how can i tell him that i still care 4 him and why he keeps makin me jealous and that its hurtin me ...bad...too!??
1. Yeha he still wants t be your friend or he might have a little feeling for you but he wants to take it slow.
2. He's trying to make you jealous, maybe tell him if he keeps doing that you'll start saying no. Or make him jealous too. =o)
3. Just tell him how you feel. Start it off with something like, "I don't know how I feel about you, you keep doing things that make me jealous and you're hurting me." Or something like that. The best way to do it is to just tell him straight out.
4. Ask him why he is making up stupid excuses and just stop waiting for him if he's that unreliable.
Okay, in my own opinion, this doesn't have to do with you, he's a jerk. I really wouldn't give him the time of day if that's the way he's treating you. There are plenty of guys that are so much better than that and maybe you should start looking for them. Since you do like him my advice would be to talk it over, and see why he's doing this to you. You do't deserve to get hurt like that all the time. I hope I helped =]
I broke up wit my boyfriend and I still love him to death.. And i cant stop but I broke up wit him cuz of parental reasons ** He's 15 and im 13 ** Now all i do is think of him... But what makes me feel worse is that he was cring the whole day :-( i dont know what to do.. Cuz If i didnt break up wit him i would get into troble, loose my trusts from my parents and never get to see him or talk to him.. But now that i broke up wit him i can talk to him and see him :-(
Tell your parents how you feel and that nothing bad will happen between you. Let them know he's a good guy (if he is...) and ask if you all could hang out so that your parents can see his behavior. Promise that you won't do anything that would break your trust with your parents. This may go a step too far for you, but my friend did it just so she could be with her boyfriend....the only time she could go out with him is if it was supervised OR certain places where they could be checked up on. But if they still don't accept him, you have to accept that and let your parents decide. They ARE your parents, and they should know what's best for you.
Well, I like this boy, say his name is Bob. But he has a girlfriend, named let's say Lori. Now Lori is one of my good friends, and Bob is like, my best male friend, but I really really like him. And he flirts with me a lot like online, and in person when Lori isn't there. Now I don't want to ruin their relationship, but they never see eachother and stuff, I so know eventaully, they'll break up. Should I just wait for them to break up, because I know he likes me, and he knows I like him, or what. I am s0o Confused.
Like everyone said, give them time. if they eventually DO break up, you need to talk to 'Lori' about it because if you start dating, it might hurt her. Just let things cool for awhile and if she`s ready to let go, you can start dating.
Well there's this guy I loved. we went out for only 3 months but i really really loved him more than i loved anyone else. then he cheated on my. im still in love with him is that wrong or weird? cuz i cant get over him!!!! i know i shouldnt ever go out with him again but i kno if he wuz to ask me out id think about it...is me l0ving him wrong?
Hmm...are you the same girl because it's only been 1 second. lol sorry if you're not. Anyways, no it's not wrong because a couple exes down, I really loved. He was EVERYTHING, but he broke up with me (actually, he didn't do it. He told ym best friend to do it the jerk) and went out with my best friend. There's a saying, "First Love NEVER goes away." and it's true. There's nothing wrong with you being still in love with him because it's perfectly natural. But I don't think going out again might be the best idea. I can understand second chances, and if you really feel it's right, go ahead. Just remember that the world is full of cute/cool guys that are looking for a girlfriend. Who knows, that might be you. And they could be WAY better than your first love. =)
how do you make out? what do i do with my tongue? please explain in detail....i do not understand...this sounds to diffulcult
Don't worry, it's not hard at all. Just let everything go with the flow. Don't just leave your tongue limp, move it around and stuff. I guess you could say 'explore.' use your tongue to play with theirs. Everything will just fall into place.It's really natural and you will be really suprised at how easy it is. ;D If you need more help feel free to ask me. =)