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boyfriend mad for hanging out with sister
Me: F19 boyfriend:M19
So my boyfriend that I have been dating for a year and 4 months is being a jerk. Here's the story... two weeks ago he throw a party at his older sisters house when she out of town. When the sister came back a neighbor told her he was throwing partys. She asked him if that was true, he lied and said that he threw no partys while she was gone. Well she believed the neighbor over her brother (my boyfriend). Will my boyfriend is so mad that she did not belive him. Me and his sister are good friends. We hungout all day together (two weeks after the party issue). When he realised I spend the whole day with her. This is what he sent me via text message...
Boyfriend: Im so mad at her u dont even know. And uve spent all day with her.
Me:I guess we will talk about this later... but I don't even know why you are. You did have a party at her house. She is not mad at you for it. Just drop the whole thing she believed robben over you.
Boyfriend: F*** off. Go have fun... No we wont be talking about this later. Turning off my phone! Dont text me or call or show up on my breaks.
Me:Jon you don't tell anyone to fuck off especially the one you love. That is very disrespectful, and rude. How dare you get mad at me for hanging out with your sister when you two have a problem
Me:I thought you were goingt to stop being so mean and disrespectful to people. And not treat me like sh** What happen to the guy the guy that wanted to become a better man and not turn into jeff?
* jeff is a really mean guy who treats people really badly*
What should I do? Am I wrong for hanging out with his sister? I am so mad he told me to f*** off I have a right to be right?
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he sounds like alot of trouble. I would just move on and find a guy to treat you better. you can hang with any one you want to.
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You were fine to hang out with his sister, who is also your friend.
It was no very bright of you to stick yourself in the middle of his argument with her.
The correct response to his childish 'You spent all day with her, waaah, waah, poor me.' comment was not to rub salt in his wounds, but to simply defend your own choice and say “Yeah. I know you're angry with her, but she's still my friend.”
You took sides and you stirred up trouble instead of just standing up for the fact you are friends with his sister, regardless of their fight.
You were probably completely right about a situation, and still completely wrong for butting in.
Sure, your boyfriend response to your silly shit disturbing with even more rudeness and childishness, so if it’s really important to you to say he was ‘more wrong’ then sure, he was ‘more wrong’. But I think it’s important for you to recognize that you stuck yourself into the middle of a stupid argument between siblings, and what’s worse, you did over text messages, which are always a horrible way to handle a fight and a great way to cause misunderstandings and hurt feelings.
Go ahead and be mad at him. He was childish and rude. But also pay a bit of attention to how you could have handled this better. It’s always tough to be put in the middle, but there are ways to handle it with more care and clarity then you did here
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You're not wrong at all for hanging out with his sister. If you and his sister are good friends, then he should accept and understand that. Whatever problems he has with his sister are HIS problems, not yours. He can't expect you to be mad at her just because he is. You definitely have a right to be mad at him; he had no right at all to tell you to f off when you did nothing. Seriously. He needs to mature and be a big man about this. I would talk to him about it and tell him that he's being wrong, he needs to stop, basically tell him that his problems aren't yours.
Honestly, he sounds like a jackass. If he continues to treat you bad, I would end it or consider going on a break.
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You should just break up with him. Weeeeeee
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