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Q: 15/f

so i have a boyfirend that i've been going out with for three weeks now. And lately things have gotten alittle less exciting between us two. i can't date so it's not like we can see eacother alot. during school days we spend like 15 mins before school starts half an hour at lunch and ten mins after school. we talk on the phone for like a few hours @ night but thats basically our day. I wanna know what i can do to "spice" up our relationship. I mean he's such a great guy,he's the starting quarterback, he's smart and funny, he's so handsome too :]. i would hate to lose him...

Please help me out! thank you :D

in order to spice up your relationship you should take risks. try going somewhere before after or during school to make you both nervous and excited about if you got caught. my friends used to go in an empty science lab just for a few minutes or behind auditorium curtain. then they would return back to class.

Q: My bf just broke up with me like 3 weeks ago, and we had been going out for 9 months! At first i wasn't too bugged by it b/c he had been being a jerk and it was kinda nice being single. Now, he has a new gf (they both go to a different school) and i almost feel jealous. We e-mail eachother...but don't ever talk on the phone...even tho he said he wanted to be "friends" still. I just want to get over this guy since it seems like he got over me pretty quickly (he got a new gf like a week and a half after we broke up). When I e-mail him I think I always sound desperate and like i'm trying to get him back, but i don't mean to sound like that nad i really have no idea what to do.
HELP! i'm so confused :(
-rachel, 13

okay if you are truly not jealous, then let him come to you. you are friends now, but not as good as you used to. say vague answers and let him email you first. this is just the awkward patch of sorting out what you are now. patience and time will gradually make you become friends again. and dont let him know your love life or that- let him knw your having a good time. i hope i helped :)

Q: Okay i met this girl at the family party and we started talking and i asked her number and her screen name so she gave it to me, and after that we talk for 3-6 hours a day, we also talk and flirt on the phone,text and chat online. We've known each other for a month and half we hung out and we flirt too, and i know she likes me and i like her, she even cooked for me but the thing is i told her that i love her and she started acting different, i told her i wanna be with her and i love her and everything and when i told her she started picking fights and she told me that she doesn't believe in love, because it sounds too serious and she doesn't like it when i say i love you to her. She never had a bf and she says shes a flirt but i know she likes me, yet she didn't wanna go out with me, and i told her we could be friends, but she keeps getting mad or picking fights about it and she told me that we shouldn't talk for a while and so i agreed and told her to talk to me when shes ready but its been 2 weeks and shes still hasn't talked to me even when we see each other she ignores me and wont even look at me in the eye, and she wont reply my texts, and i didn't know why she wont talk to me if she likes me too, but i don't know now what do you think about this? we were doing REALLLY good and we liked eachother, but when i told her i how i love her and wanna be with her she started acting weird and we dont talk anymore, please help..

after reading this, this story reminded me much of myself last year. this boy and i reallly liked each other but when it got too serious i freaked out. for some reason i would get angry with him and either lash out at him or ignore him. i think it was because i like this chase, something flirty and simple and when it got too serious i panicked. i also dont always trust my feelings so when i feel like im being tied down i worry maybe i made the wrong choice. relationships take a lot of commitment and patience and maybe she wasnt ready for it. what i think you should do is respect her wishes and not make any effort to talk to her. i told the boy i didnt think we should talk for a while and i ended up thinking about him every second. i realized how much i did like him, but it was my pride i had to obtain so we didnt talk. in the end i gave up and we are friends now and im glad we are. i hope everything works out, and make her come to you. maybe by the end of this mess you will both have matured and you can start over.

Q: I'm a 15 year old female.
Okay, here's the deal. I've liked this guy since 7th grade...we're going to be sophomores this year and this summer we've gotten close. We've even gone on a sort of date. So, a couple says ago he asked if i considered us "talking" and I said that I did. He agreed and we texted a little that day. A day or so after that I texted him while i was shopping and he replied to one message but not the one that I sent him back. I was like "oh, well whatever" to that. The next day I texted him again, just to see how he was doing and because he's usually always the one to say something first and he didn't reply. He's not replying to anthing on myspace and he's just not talking to me in general. I mean, what's up with thaT?

-We usually text for hours and talk on myspace and stuff....I don't know why we don't call yet.

it seems that you really like him, and sometimes when you really like someone, you have to let them come to you. guys arent interested in girls who like them, or girls they could have already. so lay off the texting and myspace posts-that might be a turn off for him. and if he doesnt text you or answer you back then he is different then you thought he was.

Q: hey i had the question about how i was mean to my boyfriend.. well he's coming over tonight and i wanted to do something special un sex related just to show him why he loves me.. why he shoudl be with me.. any suggestions?

try to think back when things were less complex, or how you two got together. what attracted you to each other? any special times? try to do something romantic or even just simple and fun. really listen to what he is saying and try to really connect with him. have patience with him and be kind and compassionate. i hope your evening goes well.

Q: so my boyfriend and i have been dating for 7 months now, and i was always very mean to him, just because i was truly scared of him breaking my heart. i would always threaten to break up with him just because i was scared that he would do it first, but i knew that i would never really break up with him because i love him, with all of my heart. well yesterday he was talking about a break up due to all the mean hurtful things that i sometimes say to him. well obviously it tore me apart and i literally begged for forgiveness. we came to the conclusion that we should trial date for a week and see how that goes.. and see if i can stop my mean ways, and if i can regain his trust.. just try to get back to normal again.. well i slept over his house last night and we had a conversation about how he does truly love me and how he still wants to marry me.. and i thought that this meant that we were back to normal and everything.. so we had sex.. twice.. well then today he tells me that he isnt sure about whats going to happen and that we still have alot of work to do before we're normal again.. he told me that theres still a chance that this wont work out.. and so here i am devastated.. and clueless as to what i should do.. any advice is greatly appreciated.

I understand you truly love him, and losing him would be terrible, but your actions and attitude towards him is pushing him away and straining your relationship. if you love someone you have to accept that it can be painful but also great if you are open to it. don't push love away. he may not be the perfect boyfriend either, but if you two overcome your obstacles and work together, your relationship could improve. have sex after you work everything out, not when you are in limbo. work to gain his trust and remember how you would feel if he treated you that way.

i hope i helped

Q: ok hes only 1 yeah older but still.
im scared hes going to want to kiss me and im scared cause i dont know how..im 13 and hes 14.
like how do i know if he wants to kiss me? and how do i kiss him. like, all the ways to kiss.
lol and please no links.

Thank ya!

heey no worries. if your boyfriend hasnt kissed you yet, he will soon. but also you have to show signs that you want to be kissed: flirt with him, show confidence. Also, when you guys kiss, you will be in the moment, so close your eyes, lean in (not to forceful) and purse your lips (open slightly). It doesnt really matter what you do with your arms, work off his body actions. he might slightly hold your face, you can slightly hold his, or wrap your arms around his neck, whatever feels right. if he wants to french kiss, again act off him. he will slightly slip his tongue into your mouth and you do the same. keep your mouth open wide, and move your tongue around his, even tease it. remember to swallow so it doesnt get messy, and breathe. it is okay to stop for air. also, you havent mentioned if he has had his first kiss, if so he can direct you, if not you can learn from eachother.
i hope i helped :)

Q: hey. umm i'm really confused about what to do with my close guy friend. We have been really good friends for a few years but i have always liked him and he likes me. We have reallty good chemistry and we tried going out and it was nice but i broke up with him. i'm not really sure why.

I was really hurt after that. Since then he's been with a few girls but he still likes me and i really like him. I want to be with him but i'm afraid of getting hurt or i'm afraid it might not work out again. He's made moves but and I can't stop thinking bout him and i don't know what to do!

I've read your answers and i always agree with your advice so thats why i asked you. Any advice will be appreciated, thanks soooo much!

Ok, well i myself have been in this kind of relationship. but, the thing with me was i realized that we were just very good friends-all those mixed feelings and flirting were never going to change or go away, they just weren't going to be pursued. you also have to take into account how often you do see him, and if anything were to happen, who would be affected by it.
Getting hurt is never a good thing, but getting hurt can also make you realize what you have lost. Sometimes it is not the relationship or the liking between you two that you lost, but the friendship. And maybe the getting hurt is a good thing because if you have tried it before and it hasn't worked out, maybe it wont in the future. you may have good chemistry and look cute together and some people might take those risks and want to try again, but others might just accept that it hasn't worked out and it will not.
There might be friends who have mixed feelings about the situation, thinking it is cute, but then upset about the outcome. they have to realize that the people in the relationship do not intentionally mean to be unfair to the other partner, but they are just basing their actions off their feelings. and sometimes their feelings can lead to unclear actions,and it just does not feel right.
well i hope i have helped you and cleared some things up.

Q: ok hes 21. my parents know him but i just dont know what else to he does get to hang out sometims but not enough. wat to do?

him being five years older definitely concerns your parents. they do not want you to pressured into anything you think you shouldn't do. being 16 and being 21 is a big gap, and he has experienced more than you, and might be moving at a faster pace than you should at the time. i understand you really like him, and he may really like you, but in my opinion waiting a little might be the best idea. he can already drive, smoke, and drink. you could be exposed to things you might not be ready for.

Q: hi, i need advice. im 16 and the guy i love is a bit older than me. my parents want let me be with him so i have to sneak. i do feel horrible about it. i really want a relationship with him. i dont know what to do. please help!

first it depends how much is a bit older. next, if you are feeling guilty, how about you try to convince your parents how much of a good person he is and try to show them that. your parents are just looking out for you and want the best for you that is why they are concerned. i hope i helped :)

Q: I need an honest viewpoint on this.

Lets say you're a 16 year old girl and you broke up with your 16 year old boyfriend (which is my case). You broke up with him because he's been giving you really obvious hints that he didn't wanna be together anymore. He even said so one time. After a week of breaking up, he sends you a text saying something like: "You're contagious because I cried for no reason last night"
and all of a sudden, you start seeing your ex boyfriend depressed. (he never was before...in fact, he was happy). He tries to flirt with you more... He doesn't eat at lunch...he feels really sad and crappy. He doesnt flirt with girls like he usually did to try and make you jealous. He just sits in your table at lunch and sulks.
If this was your case, do you think he's depressed over the break up?
Thank you

I do believe that he is depressed. A lot of people take relationships and friendships for granted. They do not realize until they have lost the person they cared or loved, how much they did care and love them. I think your ex is realizing what a great person he lost and his true feelings are coming out.

Q: ok i kinda got 2 questions
what is the difference between love and lust and how can i tell it apart?

secondly

all last month i went crazy over this girl (she has a boyfreind but we still flirt a little in our own way. we've been freinds for years) but her boyfreind went away last week to go somewere with his freinds for a holiday and we had been invited to a freinds party on a friday and another party on the sunday of that week he was off. we had an awesome time i felt we had gotten closer then the day after we wre fine but her bf came back i was fine with it, then i started getting really lonley and the day after i got outa bed and went to college and i didnt say much all day and when i saw her i had lost all feelings for her. i still feel nothing for her but just as a freind, did i just expirience lust for a long time? because i really did care for her now i feel like i'v betrayed her in some way.

ps: i dont want no one saying anything like she cheated on her bf kus nothing happend ;)

To answer your first question-Lust is any intense desire or craving for self gratification and excitement. Love represents a range of human emotions and experiences related to the senses of affection and sexual attraction. The word love can refer to a variety of different feelings, states, and attitudes, ranging from generic pleasure to intense interpersonal attraction. This diversity of meanings, combined with the complexity of the feelings involved, makes love unusually difficult to consistently define, even compared to other emotional states.
Your friendship has lasted for years, and sometimes with those friendships, you can like them for a long time, wake up one day, and feel that you do not like the person anymore, that is normal. Feelings and emotions change so often. It could have been a phase, and maybe down the road you will like her again. I do not believe it is lust, because you seem to care about her too much to JUST want her. Bottom line, you have not betrayed her. You guys seem to be great friends and should continue to let your friendship grow. I hope i helped :)

Q: im13 and wanted to know what a 13 year old girl likes about guys and how they like them to kiss. Any help?

There is no category of thirteen year old girls. All girls have different interests; therefore, it is your job to figure out what they are. One thing all girls like is when guys are thoughtful, and show the girl they do care. People kiss all different ways, but always remember to be RELAXED. If you are nervous, it can affect the kiss. Take deep breaths, and have confidence. Do not be too forceful, but gentle. Hope i helped you :)