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My bf just broke up with me like 3 weeks ago, and we had been going out for 9 months! At first i wasn't too bugged by it b/c he had been being a jerk and it was kinda nice being single. Now, he has a new gf (they both go to a different school) and i almost feel jealous. We e-mail eachother...but don't ever talk on the phone...even tho he said he wanted to be "friends" still. I just want to get over this guy since it seems like he got over me pretty quickly (he got a new gf like a week and a half after we broke up). When I e-mail him I think I always sound desperate and like i'm trying to get him back, but i don't mean to sound like that nad i really have no idea what to do.
HELP! i'm so confused :(
-rachel, 13
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Ouch.
13 and a 9 month relationship?
No offense intended at all when I say you aren't really equipped to deal with this well.
I've got a link for you, if nothing else it should make you laugh. But the advice there has saved my bacon more than once in a bad breakup.
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Break contact. Delete his e-mail address and block him. Delete his phone number and block that. Tell him that you need him to not talk to you.
Separation gives you space for healing.
Other than that, read that whole post. Its funny, and its very, very true.
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The best answer to you regretting your emails and feeling that you sound jealous would be, to NOT email him. That way you don't regret and it seems as if you are over him and frankly don't care about him anymore. So stop emailing him and just see what happens, you'll be over him before you know it. Remember the easiest way to get over a guy is to cut ALL communication with him for a while, a while could be months or just days, depending on how fast you get over guys. You never know, he could be a jerk and force himself into a relationship when he isn't ready, just to make you jealous. So forget him, he isn't worth it. Plus, it is over.
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okay if you are truly not jealous, then let him come to you. you are friends now, but not as good as you used to. say vague answers and let him email you first. this is just the awkward patch of sorting out what you are now. patience and time will gradually make you become friends again. and dont let him know your love life or that- let him knw your having a good time. i hope i helped :)
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