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love or so i thought
ok i kinda got 2 questions
what is the difference between love and lust and how can i tell it apart?
secondly
all last month i went crazy over this girl (she has a boyfreind but we still flirt a little in our own way. we've been freinds for years) but her boyfreind went away last week to go somewere with his freinds for a holiday and we had been invited to a freinds party on a friday and another party on the sunday of that week he was off. we had an awesome time i felt we had gotten closer then the day after we wre fine but her bf came back i was fine with it, then i started getting really lonley and the day after i got outa bed and went to college and i didnt say much all day and when i saw her i had lost all feelings for her. i still feel nothing for her but just as a freind, did i just expirience lust for a long time? because i really did care for her now i feel like i'v betrayed her in some way.
ps: i dont want no one saying anything like she cheated on her bf kus nothing happend ;)
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To answer your first question-Lust is any intense desire or craving for self gratification and excitement. Love represents a range of human emotions and experiences related to the senses of affection and sexual attraction. The word love can refer to a variety of different feelings, states, and attitudes, ranging from generic pleasure to intense interpersonal attraction. This diversity of meanings, combined with the complexity of the feelings involved, makes love unusually difficult to consistently define, even compared to other emotional states.
Your friendship has lasted for years, and sometimes with those friendships, you can like them for a long time, wake up one day, and feel that you do not like the person anymore, that is normal. Feelings and emotions change so often. It could have been a phase, and maybe down the road you will like her again. I do not believe it is lust, because you seem to care about her too much to JUST want her. Bottom line, you have not betrayed her. You guys seem to be great friends and should continue to let your friendship grow. I hope i helped :)
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Lust is what many, many people mistake for love. An easy way to tell the difference is by what you do and how you feel when you're around the person. If you're very physical and all you can think about is the physical part of being with them but it has no feeling in it, chances are it's lust. However, if you're more interested in mental aspects of the person [as in you care more about how their day went than about making out with them] you could very well love that person.
To the second part: feelings fade sometimes. It could be that when you started feeling lonely and depressed, you could have subconsciously "killed" your feelings for her so you would feel better. You could also be feeling guilty about the fact that she has a boyfriend [once again, subconsciously] and done the same thing. The best thing to do for now is just remain friends with her and see if the feelings come back.
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