My name is Tucker. I'm a 17 year old Christian guy who loves music and helping people. I'm the vocalist/keyist for a Christian Metalcore band called lightenmyeyes [www.myspace.com/lightenmyeyes], but I also play guitar, bass, drums, and trumpet.
Website: Myspace
E-mail: lightentuckerseyes@yahoo.com
Gender: Male
Location: Greenville, NC
Occupation: Musician
Age: 17
AIM: lightenmythighs
Member Since: May 14, 2008
Answers: 3
Last Update: May 14, 2008
Visitors: 625
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ok i kinda got 2 questions
what is the difference between love and lust and how can i tell it apart?
secondly
all last month i went crazy over this girl (she has a boyfreind but we still flirt a little in our own way. we've been freinds for years) but her boyfreind went away last week to go somewere with his freinds for a holiday and we had been invited to a freinds party on a friday and another party on the sunday of that week he was off. we had an awesome time i felt we had gotten closer then the day after we wre fine but her bf came back i was fine with it, then i started getting really lonley and the day after i got outa bed and went to college and i didnt say much all day and when i saw her i had lost all feelings for her. i still feel nothing for her but just as a freind, did i just expirience lust for a long time? because i really did care for her now i feel like i'v betrayed her in some way.
ps: i dont want no one saying anything like she cheated on her bf kus nothing happend ;) (link)
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Lust is what many, many people mistake for love. An easy way to tell the difference is by what you do and how you feel when you're around the person. If you're very physical and all you can think about is the physical part of being with them but it has no feeling in it, chances are it's lust. However, if you're more interested in mental aspects of the person [as in you care more about how their day went than about making out with them] you could very well love that person.
To the second part: feelings fade sometimes. It could be that when you started feeling lonely and depressed, you could have subconsciously "killed" your feelings for her so you would feel better. You could also be feeling guilty about the fact that she has a boyfriend [once again, subconsciously] and done the same thing. The best thing to do for now is just remain friends with her and see if the feelings come back.
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My brother is a little wild thing when he's ready and today when i came home, my mom told me he knocked out one of his front tooth. It looks really weird, it is COMPLETELY knocked out.
should we carry him to a dentist tomorrow? (link)
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If he's not in horrible pain, then yes. My friend had his tooth knocked out and couldn't go to his dentist for two weeks and was fine. Just load him up on some painkillers and take him as soon as you can.
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21/f
I am getting married soon, but there are still some issues bugging me that I thought my fiance and I had resolved.
- He smokes
I know this is a personal choice for him but it does affect me. If I really don't like it, shouldn't he at least try not to smoke in front of me? He only started doing this recently, before this he used to hide the fact that he smoked (cause he knows I hate it) and lie to my face when I would ask.
- He brings home his friends porn
He swears up and down that it's not his. Fine, but if you know I don't like it then don't bring it into our home. If it is your friends property then let your friend keep it, no?
- He has MOOD SWINGS like you would not believe. One minute he is all sweet and cuddly and the next he's scowling with a nasty attitude.
- He doesn't like to think about the future, aka he has no idea what he wants as a career (although he has a good job for the time being) and he doesn't even put thought into it.
I don't know what to do. These are things that seriously bother me. I've brought these issues to his attention and nothing changes, or it changes for a week or two then we're back to square one.
There is also stuff from the past and I try to let it go but then he shows me that he doesn't have the will to change.
I'm supposed to be getting married in 3 months! HELP. (link)
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Talk to him about it. There's really no other way to get around that, and if he won't talk about it then maybe you should consider putting the date off for longer until these things get worked out or even ending them all together. Hope I helped =).
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