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Q: ok so i really really like a boy who is 18, and he likes me. but he said "we probably wont date" because of our age difference. but i cant get him off my mind.

so i am now dated a boyt i like, just not as much.

and i dont want to hurt him, but i want the older boy so bad.

what do i do?
what do you think will happen?
will the older one date me eventually??

thanksss.

umm.. i think that you should go for the younger one. if he is already telling you it wont work.. then dont push it. when i was a freshmen i was ALWAYS going after older guys.. so one of my friends told me " if you date an older guy. its cool. if he dates a younger girl. it says alot about him in a negitive way" so i would defff go with the one your age!
good luck girl!

Q: I was wondering what peoples opinions are on telling a guy you like him. If you like a guy that you're fairly close to, do you tell him or not?

hmm. i would drop in in a conversation casually.. like. be talking to someone else.. but close enough for him to hear you.. and so that he knows you want him to hear.. like. yell it almost.. haha. and be like. yaaa.. i have the biggest crush on (name).. but dont tell him!.. and then when he looks at you.. wave.. lol.. or something else that is obvious.. but not desperate.. and something that wont make him uncomfortable.. lol. like.. just dont be all serious about it.. be playful!

Q: Me= 17/f Him= 15 almost 16/m

We're dating.
He's indecisive(sp?)
Making stupid choices..
He's breaking my heart..
It hurts so bad...
I can't let go..

How do I?
Help? =[

ugh. okay im like in the same situation. im 16 hes 15.. but yeah. like i thought he was mature.. and now he is BREAKING MY HEART too. so this is what i did.. i pulled way back from him.. i didnt call or text until he called or textd me.. and i blew him off when he wanted to hang out.. and now he is calling me every 3 seconds.. lol. but yeah every guy wants what he cant have.. so i would say def. pull away.. and dont be the "stupid girlfriend" who is so in love with him and he is talking trash to his friends about you.. just dont be too vulnerable.. it should make him come crawling back.

its working for me so far.. so good luck hun!

Q: 13/f
ok so theres this guy i like named cody. were kind of friends but not really. i talk to him on myspace and aim sometimes. so one day i see hes on aim so i say hey to him. heres how it went..

me-hey
cody-what do you want now
me-umm i dont know
cody-then dont talk to me
--cody signs off--

im not exactly sure what i did to deserve that. my friends are saying maybe he was in a bad mood or hes under alot of pressure right now (he has me and my friend ashley chasing after him you could say. she asked him out and he said no and he also knows that i like him). anyway when i read that i almost cried. what should i do??

guys are dumb sometimes and like. their friends will be over and they`ll write like that.. and then the next day.. they`ll talk to you.. also.. it could have been one of his friends. especially in junior high... he`ll mature in about 3 or 4 years.. if that.

Q: Hi,

well, i really like this guy, but i dont know how to flirt well, or how to catch his attention. I'm in class with him for like 3 hours a day, and i was just wondering, like, what types of perfume scents, or little flirting tips, would help me to get his attention.

Please help!!

PS (i'm 16 and so is he)

k ill name some perfumes that boys have commented on... love spell from victorias secret. esencia de duende.. iiittss so so so good!! paris hilton.. curious..

my advice for the flirting.. next time yall have an assignment with partners.. be like.. do you have a partner? and if he says no.. be like. well you do now. and if he says yes.. be like. well.. sucks for them.. cuz im your partner now! lol. you just have to be condident in yourself!! :) thats really like the biggest turn on for guys because they like loud outgoing girls.

good luck!

Q: 17/F

I'm dating a guy but we're not bf/gf... just dating open ended so we're pretty much allowed to date other people too. The thing is that I don't want to go out with anyone else; just him. So far he hasn't been seeing any other girls, but if/when he does I know that I'm going to feel completely crushed. How do I get him to like me enough to consider only me in a relationship? Lately he's been kinda cold to me, too. I feel like I'm losing his interest, any ideas on how I can spark up our relationship up?

Sex is not an option

a. talk to him about it.. tell him you want to date exclusively and see what he says. the worst he could say is no.. and it stay the way it is..

b. try new things with him.. go on pic nics.. go hang out with his friends and do what they do.. just do cute little dates that would make yall like each other even more.. do things yall both like!

Q: Alot of the time, I start to like guys after I find out they like me. I feel like this is wrong or cheating them somehow. I mean it kinda feels like I only like them because I like the attention of having them like me. Is this ok? does anyone else do this?

okay. i dont want to say that i do that... but i totally do that.. i think its because you kinda sorta look at them a different way.. like idn.. lol. but yeahh i defff do that too!!

Q: my boyfriend is two years younger than me. is it bad? i mean he acts alot older and we really do like eachother..

no its not bad. my boyfriend is one year younger than me.. but he is 10000000 times more mature than me.. so no.. if you like the guy..then you like him. i wouldnt worry about it!!

:)

Q: My boyfriend and I have been dating for going on 9 months now and lately I've been feeling like he's losing intrest. Can anyone tell me a few signs of losing intrest? Before I jump to the gun I want to know what the signs are. Thank you.

not answering phone calls, not calling you as much.. seeming like hes not listening to you.. not telling you how he feels..

but if he is.. i would suggest.. pulling away a little bit because there is nothing a guy wants more than something he cant have... so.. it always seems to work if the girl pulls away.. that the guy trails behind her.

Q: hey i'm having a HUGE guy problem. and i just need opinions on what you all think so is their anyone out there with a heart that would help me by just giving me their email adress or IM or anything so i can tell you the story because the guy its about goes on this site. thanks soo much. please help im desperate.

mesaaz1990

Q: I just broke up with my boyfriend a week ago. And I still love him. Well on Monday he asked some other girl out but she never gave him an answer so he gave up on her(supposedly). And he likes to say shit like he broke up with me and other stuff. But whenever he see's me or talks to me he seems so sad. Like I called him to see if I could drop by real fast to give him his key back and he said yea sure. When I get there he looked at me sadly. Then when I was leaving he stood at the screen door and watched me walk away. Then he called me today to see how I am doing and stuff. When he said bye to me it sounded really sad. What does all this mean? It makes me really confussed =/

okay. well. the other girl=rebound. he doesnt care about her or else he would still be trying. also, if he told you about it.. its a possibility he is trying to make you jealous... anyways.. he still wants to be with you. im in almost the same situation.. kind of.. and my ex calls me everyday to see how im doing and he`ll tell me i look beautiful and blah blah.. hes just being a guy though.. soo.. bottom line is..... he still loves you. & almost all boys will say theyre the ones who broke up just so they dont feel like a pansy.. so. yeah. good luck.

Q: how do you get someone to call you without actually saying that you want them to call you?
14f

take their cell phone and put your number in... OR!! take their phone and call yours.. and then you both have each others numbers.. and be like. "here! now you have my number so u can call me"! and it wont seem weird or anything

Q: hi im a sophmore guy and i like this frosh girl in my geometry class...we have been talking for about 2 weeks now and theres something about her that attracts me to her i was going to try and become better friends first then ask her out but yesterday a guy i dont know who he is but he asked her out and now i regret not asking her but at the same time i feel she wouldve said no becuase we dont know eachother that well...so my question is should i tell her how i feel or let it go for a while and still hang out as friends then when and if they break up tell her how i feel? thanks so much in advance

okay... so i had a boyfriend.. and this other guy liked me.. and i liked the other guy too..l but i was like.. well.. if he likes me.. he would have made a move.. so my bf asked me and i said yes. well.. a few days later.. the other guy told me he really liked me which made me realize i didnt really want to be with my boyfriend after all... i sayy.. go for it.. tell her

Q: 15/f

I know I am attractive, smart, funny, outgoing and kind but I do not feel like a guy could be attracted to me. I know there are guys, who I am not interested in, who have a crush on me.. but I don't feel like that is even possible. I haven't dated a guy steadily for more than two years now. Why might I feel this way? How do I overcome it? Do I even need to overcome it?

Thank you :)

i dont think you need to overcome it... high school is too short to be with one person the whole time... and maybe.. those guys that your looking for are too intimidated of you... my friend is probably the prettiest girl in the entire state.. lol.. and she rarely gets asked out and thats because people think shes intimidating... try talking more and more to the ones you want to be interested in you.

Q: So me and this guy were together but I broke up with him for reasons we both understand. Now, we both really loved each other. His friends said that I hurt him when I broke up with him and that he still likes me alot. I like him again, also, and I really love him and want to be with him again. At our school's football game, we were both talking and flirting and I thought he would ask me out again, but my friend asked him and he said he didnt want to be in a relationship right now. On my part, what can I possibly do to try to get with him? I know sometimes you can't change someones mind but..

Any suggestions? thanks so much!!

tell him straight up... " i made a mistake.. i miss you. your the one that i want... && im asking you back out.... && this is a one time opprotunity!" lol.. && dont make it awkward.. smile && stuff when your saying it..

thats what i would do

Q: my relationships dont last, but my new bf for once is.. the love of my life. How can i try to make it last?

or any tips?

P.s. i always break up with them, why.. i dont know, would there be any reasons why? Is it possible that im a slut?

im just like that too!! i get bored with relationships... or im only in it for the chase... but if your with somebody right now who you think is the love of your life.. i wouldnt think you`d get bored!!

&& trying to make it last? keep it interesting.. dont do the same thing everyday! go out on dates.. do different things.. !! things that would make yall closer....

&&& no!!!!! your not a slut.. lol

Q: Ok…..I have a boyfriend that used to be just my friend, and then we started going out!! I mean I love being in this relationship but sometimes he acts different not mean but different! You know how sometimes just the tone of his voice or things he dose, just make you feel like he is acting different? And then you ask him what’s wrong or why are you acting different, he says how am I acting different? And you can’t really tell him! Because its just the way he’s acting not the things he dose. So dose every man do this?

uughhhhhh i believe so...
at least all of em that i`ve met

Q: Im 15 and I really like this girl that im friends so i was wondering if you had any advice for how to ask her

hm. idn. it depends on like. how you are... does she know you like her? my boyfriend was soo cute when he asked me out.. cuz he was all shy.. haha.. he was like.. "uh... sooo.. uuhh... mmm.. uuhhh.. doo you maye.. uhhh.. wanna go out with me?" and i was like. YES!!! lol.. but then this other kid asked me out too and he was like. " straight up... i really like you and i wanna be with you!" and i really liked that... so ya.. idn how you are though..

Q: so im a 15/m and im goin into sophmore year and i havent made out with a girl yet ive gotten close so many times but someone has always come over that she's friends with and messed everything up and ive tried other times and just kind of avoided it what should i do to get over the fear of doing it once so its not a big deal anymore?

thanks in advance

you gotta like.. give yourself a pep talk.. lol.. for real.. when you look in the mirror... be like.. " im gunna make out with her today.. and its not a big deal.. millions of people are making out right this second.. why shouldnt i be one of them!!" lol.. and just do it... you`ll get over it!!

lol.. good luck

Q: okay so i am going to homecoming with this guy that i really really like a lot. i am quite nervous about it too. what kind of dress should i wear. how should i do my hair and makeup? any tips for any part of homecoming would be greatly appreciated.

ahh.. im going for the first time this year too and im soo excited and nervous.. but all my friends are experienced in it.. so theyre all helping me.. i would go to nordsrtom.com and go to homecoming dresses... and look at the girls.. theyre hair.. theyre clothes.. and everything! its all very cute! and i think u have to get him a bootineer. lol. idn how to spell it. but yeah!!
hope i helped