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Okay, so i like this one kid who i have never met in person. He is my cousins best freind. And well we are supposed to hang out on thursday. And well i dont know if he is going to make a move. because on the phone he was like what would do i did make a move and all that. and i told him i probably wouldnt care. So should i try flirting with him? or what. also this sounds stupid but how do yu "flirt" ?
by the way. im 14

Sure try flirting with him, but make sure that even if you know hes your cousins friend and all, just make sure hes not going to harm you at all like any creep over the internet can do. When your fliriting, you can nudge him and smile at him with a little grin and giggle and what you think flirting is. I thnk of flirting as cute things, if you know what i mean? Hope this helped.
Katie, ♥

ok im a girl and im 14 well my boyfriend wants me to talk nasty with him and i really dont no how...i know that sounds stupid but yea, and he wants me to kiss him but i dont know how to do that either...sry if those were stupid question but please help me.thanks

Its not a stupid question dont worry about it. Well Im not sure how to really talk nasty but you could try saying stuff like how horny you are or how much you want him, haha sorry if that sounds weird. You can probaly see how people talk dirty by watching movies or tv shows, etc. Now about the kissing,
http://www.sextutor.com/kissing.shtml
Try going there, you can get tips on kissing and I think that that site gives good pointers. Hope this helped.
Katie, ♥

hey katiee.
well, somethings been bothering mee lately.
and i dont know if i can like sum this up
in 2000 words. because its kind of hard. . but oh well. ill try

I know how you feel when you have someone you love, hating you, trust me. Maybe you should try explaining to him what happened.. and how hurt you are and what you went threw. I went threw something kind of like this. So basically you just want him to be okay with you? I would just say to try and tell him what happened basically and if that doesnt work, just keep trying to get over him. I wish so badly that I could make people not hate each other for reasons like this, but sometimes you just cant. But i mean this when i say i know what your going threw too. But your not stupid for trying to get over him, cause thats what you should be doing when you want to not hurt anymore, and you want to be able to be your happy self again. By trying to get over him, you were helping yourself in the long run, cause really- if you kept liking him, how are you going to like someone new? How are you going to be happy ever again when you find out he has a girlfriend and your left in the dust with nothing but a broken heart? So your not stupid for trying to get over him. Theres not really much you can do in a situation like this but tell him what you side of the story is. Im sorry that i can't tell you how to make him like you, i wish i could do that for people.. but if you want to i.m me at HONEYBUNS9223- im always here to talk to cause I can relate to whats happeneing to you. So feel free to talk to me or contact me or what not. I reallyyy hope this helped.
Love, katie ♥

okay well my boyfriend is younger then me like he is in a dif grade but like only but some mounths you get? well i dont find it a problem but he is really shy i guess you could say he isnt like other boys all sweet to their girlfriend and stuff he doesnt get serious and my friend talked to him bout that like i didnt even tell her n e thign she could tell and he said he'd change but i dont want him to change it would just be nice if he got a lil serious more often and i really like him and i show it he doesnt really show that he likes me and it would be nice if he did but i dont wonna change him like i want him to be himself but he has to remmeber that he is in a relationship i dont if he acts this way becuase he is younger or what but i dont should i want to change him a bit since we are goin out or should i not like i dont know he always acts like we are just friends it bothers me. should it? i dk if i should talk to him bout it or what.i know it doesnt seem like a question but im just so confused.

Well if your in like in 7th grade and hes in 6th grade, then its kind of hard to be serious cause you are still younge. Maybe don't say for him to take the relationship more serious, cause im sure if your younge then its not that that serious. But if its older than you could say that. Try telling him that you love who he is and you don't want him to be or act any diofferent than he normally is, but you just feel like he doesnt like you alot cause he doesnt really show it. If he is shy then it might be kind of hard cause .. well hes shy. This question was kind of hard for me to understand so if i didnt answer it right just ask again.. hope this helped.

okay so me and my boyfriend just broke up. and i want to get over him because hurt me pretty bad. and its really hard for me to let go. i always think about him,i try really hard to stop but its just not working. im thinking maybe i should stop talking to him, but i dont know if i could force myself to do that. i need help plz.

Try hanging around other guys that you can start to like, or just that can help you get over him. Maybe dont talk to him as much so you wont think about him as much. Good luck, hope this helped.

okay, here`s my problem.
my current boyfriend jordan went out with my best-friend hannah for about 2 months, then they broke up, and 1 month later he asked me out. and the thing is, hannah and jordan will talk on the phone all of the time. he talks to her more than he talks to me. and i`m getting kindof jealous. now, she still likes him, but he`s over her. and the only time i talk to jordan is when i call him. so basically, how can i make it so that they don`t talk as much and me and jordan talk more?
also, she`s been my best friend for 10 years, they`ve been friends for about 1 year, and he`s been my boyfriend since march, i don`t want to lose either one.
aaallsssso; she`ll talk to him about her problems more than she will with me.

thanks alot in advance, i L0VE your column.

Hm, maybe try telling them how you feel. You might be scared to loose them, but if shes your real friend and he really cares about you, dont you think that they'd be afraid to loose you too. Maybe tell Hannah that you feel that she thinks she cant talk to you and you should let her no that she can talk to her probelems with you and not just Jordan. You can tell Jordan that you feel that there might be something happening between him and Hannah and that your getting kind of jealous. Or just say what you feel, take the risk. You never know what can happen, but im sure its better then getting upset about it and keeping your feelings inside you. I really hope this helps, if you need more advice ask again or just i.m me alright? And thank you so much for loving the column, that made my day. =)

Okay, well let me tell yu i used to be the nerdiest looking girl on the plant, trust me. I had braces and these giant glasses. Eww (no wonder no body looked at me) well anyway. i got contacts and bot my braces taken off. Now i think i look better than i did, but i still like dont have any guys liking me. What can i do to have more guys like me? Please help me!

You can work on your hair, how is it now? If its long and cut straigh, you can maybe try getting layers. You can also straghten your hair if you dont, or try srunching it with gel. Im sure if your hair is better, you should look better. Also teeth, if your teeth are whiter its way more attractive then yellowish with plaque. Eyebrows, you can always get them waxed once, then keep tweesing them to make then thinner and neater if not already. Clothes can make a differece, if you have a nice body you might want to try wearing a tighter shirt (if you feel you can look good in it) besides wearing a baggy teeshirt. And you dont have to shop at stores like Hollister or Abercrombie, etc to have nice clothes either. Make sure your face is nice, a few pimples isnt that bad, but if its ance badly or tons of nasty stuff, wash your face, use clensenser or just make sure your face is clear. You can wear makeup too. Some eyeshadow, a little eyeliner, bronzer. You can i.m me if you need tips on any of these things, I'll for sure help again. Hope this helps.

ok i have a girlfriends and i rly rly like her but im afraid she doesnt like me what should i do¿

You should ask her if she likes you or not. Maybe say that she means alot to you but your not sure if she feels the same. Hope this helped.

oh my katie. i love you you are one amazing person i love you and think you should know that xo

Aw why thank you vury much =)

im a 13 year old girl. So i met this one kid on myspace and he lives like an hour away and were in the same grade and everything well he thinks im hott and he wants to meet. and hes said he's gotten a bj and got some for 15 minutes as in sex im guessing. well so would that be wrong of me to meet him?think he might want to hook up because he always ask me what im wearing and he says he wants to kiss me. lmao.

You should be really careful. It might not actually be a kid, it could be an internet preditor. We had an assembly aabout this at school and people can get raped/hurt/killed by things like these. I would be super careful or just keep talking online till you know for sure hes a kid and actally 13. If hes some rapest you could get into alot of troulbe. Just be careful.

ok me and this guy are gonna hook up at a party nxt weekend and he thinks ive done this before.. i havent. i hav eno idea how to kiss and this is a big problem! i dont want to suck and i am NOT backing out of it. how do u kiss. i know this is an awkward queestion but i need help...
xxxooo

Dont worry its not akward. Well its kind of hard to explain how to kiss because theres plently different ways and you can never be sure how your going to be kissed. If you want to know how do kiss, watch movies or shows or anything where people kiss and observe how they do it. Or you can practice on things, I know it sounds weird but you can do it to like a pillow, mirror, almost anything.. practice makes perfect =). Heres a site that gives tips about kissing, i wouldnt go on it when your parents are over your shoulder though. http://sextutor.com/kissing.shtml

Or you can i.m me at HONEYBUNS9223 and I'll explain it to you if you want a persons opion. Hope this helps & good luck =)!

okkkkk. so im Heather
so i really would like to get "closer" with guys. if you know what i mean. but i just dont know what they would think about me after it or if they would compare me to other girls and like say stuff about me.. i dno really how to explane it. but a lot of guys dont think i would do stufff with them. but really i woulod. like say for example. that hes guna finger me. what do i do when he;s doing it and how long does it last. and how do i know if he guna do it?? ahh please help me. maybe i just should go for thinigs and not think about the consequenses.. i dno*!

♥ Heather

First, always always think of the consequenses. Thats very important. Even if you do think of them, sometimes things go bad. Im not saying not to fool around, just make sure your safe. And if you want to get closer to guys, then go ahead. If your going to get fingered and worry about how long its suppost to be, then dont. Im pretty sure theres no perfect time for getting fingered. If you plan on getting fingered, andyou dont know what to do, you can always just keep making out while your doing it, or like kiss his neck, or have him kiss yours. But you seem like your thinking to hard on what the perfect way is to do sexual stuff. If i were you, yeah i'd think about consequenses but you should do what you think is right. I hope this helps and that i answered your question okay. If not just ask again. =)

Okay. (these are fake names) so me and Sue like Rick. and i heard from Bob (ricks best friend) that he likes me more. well i dont say anything to sue. because she is the tyoe that makes up lies and im sure you no how that is. Well we were on the phone (sue is my best friend.) and just out of no where shes like yea well Rick likes me more. i no its not big or anyhting. it just gets me upset. i dont no what to do. am i making a big deal out of this. should i just forget it. like its not like this is the first time this is happing. Sue does it alot. Okay thanks for taking you time to help me with my promblems.

If "sue" constantly does this and it bothers you, you should maybe tell her. You can be like, "Sue you shouldnt make so much stuff up, or lie alot". But if your willing to get in an argument make sure you have good examples or reasons why you think she lies alot. Or you can just try and forget about it, and then deal with it next time when she acts like this. I hope this helps, and I'll always answer yours or any one elses questions =).

ok, i will i.m you sometime, your page says its honeybuns5678.

its- HONEYBUNS9223. Or tainTed X0 lOvee. Doesnt matter.

but you and me are both in love with you, im just a dog eared page you turn back to, wheres the place for me when we are both in love with you.You acted like i was never gone, when i was gone and now i am gone. But my time has come to go, goodbye, i need you to be waiting here when i get back for i shall be alone, and cold and waiting for some shelter to garnish me with what i want. Be there?

1st one- Dog Eared Page by The Matches. Hah. Dont know that other one. But if this is the same person who always asks me these kind of lyrical questions just i.m me or soemthing. If your trying to tell me something.. talk to me.

That's gross, your picture is just nasty in your bra, I think thats totally inacceptable

Im sorry you think that. Im changing it soon.

okay. so theres this guy i like. and my best friend likes him to. (were all 13) and i think i am prettyer than my friend. but she thinks this guy likes her more. but i dont think so. he flirts with alot of people. and my friend is like yea he likes me and she is telling our friends that he likes her. i mean he flirts with us. but she is getting obsessed. i mean what should i do.

i can see if you cant answer this.
i admitt it may be confusing.
thanks in advance.

Well, it seems like its your own friends fault that shes being so obsessive and getting her hopes up, cause they'll just come crashing down. You could tell her to be careful and not to get her hopes really high cause if things dont work out how shes plans then she'll probabluy just end up getting hurt. Or you just wait it out untill you find out who he actually likes and then if iuts not her then she might be hurt, and you should just be there for her. I hope this helps! =)
Katie, ♥

I really like this boy. We broke up around a week ago, we both still like eachother, and he wants me back. I dont want to hurt him anymore than i have what should i do?

Sometimes you just need to love, cause in the end someone is always going to get hurt. Love is like one big risk. Injoy it. I think if you like him then you should get back together with him. You can't stop someone from being hurt, but you can always sugar coat things so they dont hurt as much. If you get what im saying? Like.. if someones breakingup you can be like "I think I want to break up.. But we should still be friends and maybe we could get back together sometime".. instead of "im breaking up iwth you". Cause of course the first one will hurt alot less. I hope this helps. =)
Katie, ♥

thank you sooooooooooooo much, I love enchiladas. I will pay you tommorow with pesos.

Hah, your welcome.

Im wondering how to make enchiladas and tell my Boyfriend im cheating on him.

Echiladas-
http://mexican.allrecipes.com/directory/3353.asp
or
http://www.elise.com/recipes/archives/000055enchiladas.php
Cheating-
Well I dont think theres an easy way to tell someone your cheating on them. You'll probably just have to come out and say it in the best, painfree for him way you possibly can.

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