hi everyone....
hay im sally, im 19. i love to give advice so ask me anything and i will answer as best i can!
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i am currently studying family and children studies certificate III at wollongong tafe and i love it. i love kids and one day i hope to become an early childhood teacher and work with 0-3 year old children. i'v been writing poetry since i was 13 and i hope that one day i can publish them in a book! that is one of my dreams.
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so keep those questions comming...please comment back, i'd like to know if iv helped or not thanxxx i have a blog! feel free to check it out: http://justsallyy.tumblr.com/
xoxoxoxo :) xoxoxo xoxox
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Location: Woonona in NSW AUST.
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This guy and I had been pretty close best friends for 3 years. He was leaving out of state and it was hard to say goodbye. We said our goodbyes, and then a week later i find out that he hadn't left!!! I was thinkin, what he fu**? Are you kidding me? So he had been hiding the fact that he hadn't left. I felt so used. I felt like wow, you tricked me into thinking that you liked me and having me tell you how much i liked you by saying you are leaving? that is some fkd up sht....when i confronted him about the situation, the boy was freaking out. He felt very bad about it....to the point where he was about to cry. He said that he had been planning to surprise me for my birthday, but the thing is he didn't say a word to me on my birthday!!!He forgot about it!!!! He said he had called me but my phone was off, true, there was a time when it was off...but i'm sure thats not the reason why he called...he had called to find out if my best friend's friend was still having her party with me. The thing that makes me not believe a word he says is because He felt so bad about it. I feel like he had been lying to me about so many things, and when i caught him, he felt bad. He didn't want me to see his real side so thats why he kept apologizing and trying to cover up for the shit he did. What do you guys think? am i on the right path? (link)
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i think your on the right path, but for him to lie to you about something as big as leaving, thats a bit weird even if he was "going" to tell you on your birthday.
you said that you found out that he didnt leave so why didnt he tell you..
you need to ask yourself:
-was it cos he didnt want to see you for a while?
-why did he lie about this in the first place?
-when was he planning on telling you that he didnt leave?
-and how long was he planning on going without you knowing he didnt leave?
he was probably only freaking out cos he got caught and didnt have an excuse for you so he panicked. i dont think that was a nice trick to play on you or anyone for that matter..
doesnt it make you feel like he doesnt want you in his life cos he lied to you to get you out of it. this boy just does seem like an ASS! and you deserve better then that! if this happened to me i wouldnt waste my time on him anymore.
to me it doesnt seem like he wants to be your friend anymore.
hope i helped. lol [sorry its so long]
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So I'm ready to ask this girl out, we're friends, and we've been talking a lot lately. Here is more or less what I plan to say, is this good at all? Give me specific suggestions please.
"I’ve really enjoyed getting to know you better over the past couple months, and I feel like we’ve become pretty close since we’ve been talking everyday. To be honest, I am realizing that I’m starting to fall for you and your awesome personality. Basically I would like to know where you think you see this going between us, because I know where I would like to see it go." (link)
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this is really good... i can tell your being honest and thats what a girl wants from a guy
-honesty. just tell her what you like about her and dont hold back.
i think you should just go for it, there's not much i can add to what your going to say because you'v pretty much said it all.. apart from the ovious 'will you go out with me' part of the convosation but im sure you'll get there.
goodluck xxx
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I dont know how to flirt at all.
i need help.
and part of that makes me not know how to talk with guys. please help me learn how to flirt. tell me what i need to do.
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just be interested in what the guy has to say and what they'v been up to. laugh and smile A LOT, find any excuse to touch his hand or sholder ect.
try and talk a lot, twirls your hair.
tip:wear eye makeup so when he looks at your eyes they stand out and he is drawn to them.. mascar, eyeliner but not eye shadow because it will be too much.
goodluck:) xxxsal
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im super super shy and i cant help it.
it ruins everything. my face gets beat red. and i start like idk stumbling over stupid words. and i just get sick of it.
i get all nervous. adn i never no what to say. can someone please help me to overcome my shyness, im 15 by the way. (link)
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Hey i used to have the same problem! i used to be REALLY shy.you just need to be comfortable around your classmates and friends.
Dont be scared to vioce your option, i know its hard when your shy but trust me people wont talk to you much if your shy unless you talk to them first, iv experienced that! it sucks.
Start by saying hi to whoever your sitting next to and just get used to talking to them first. just say whats on your mind and dont hold back.
once you'v got that, it will be easier to talk in front of a group of friends.
its hard being shy when no one talks to you cos your quiet and they dont know you. once they get to know you, you'll make friends in no time.
start by saying HI.. thats all it takes! once you get used to talking to people the nerves will go away=] xxxxsally
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Okay, so i followed your original addvice and i was trying to just be my self, and i met a guy in my gym class who i really like, and my best friend thinks he likes me becase of the way he treats and talks to me. The new problem is i dont wanna ask him if he like me, because if he doesnt that would be akward, but if he does like me i want to ask him out. But i dont know if i should ask him or let him make a move. What do you think? (link)
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aww yay=] this is the hard part trying to figure out what he is thinking...
there are a few things you can do if you want to let him make a move first like
get your best friend to causally ask him if he likes you when your not around but without making it oviouse or say to him "we should hang out sometime" thats way you can see if he wants to see you outside of school.
you wont know unless you try and it might just turn out that he is too shy to make the first move and he could be waiting for you to do it first... i think if he takes to long to make a move then you should ask him, but if you dont want to do that straight up why dont you and a bunch of friends go to the movies and you can ask him if he wants to come... thats a good way with out asking him directly and make sure you sit next to him at the movies.
i hope this helps you... goodluck=] xxsally
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tonight me and my boyfriend french kissed for the first time. and first time for me ever. we're the type of couple that can laugh about intimate things and the whole time he was doing it i was trying really really hard not to laugh because i knew i wasn't doing it right. Or i was and i just thought it was funny. I know that probably makes me sound really immature right now but i couldn't help it.
So what are you supposed to do?? Because the whole time he just had his tongue in my mouth and there wasn't any room left in there for me to do anything. haha.
help me. (link)
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well at least it wasnt as bad as my first time!!
my boyfriend at the time tried to eat my mouth he opened it that wide! diasterrrrr!
it sounds like you were going good apart from the laughing haha. all you need to do is when he puts his tongue in your mouth you move your tongue around his. like your playing tonsil hokey thats wat people call it. haha.
if you want to suprise him next time you go to kiss put ice in your mouth and when you kiss him use your tongue to push it into his mouth... and it will be nice and cold for him=] haha. or you can use something sweet instead like a lollie or something. thats always fun!
it will actually give you something to laugh about!
hope i helped you =] xxx sally
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okk.
This guy (lets call him seff) Seff likes mee.
And i like him too.
And so my friend asked him out for mee.
He said noo because he didnt know mee.
And i need questions to get to know himm..
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ask him things about: what he likes to do,does he have any hobbys, what he did on the weekend,
talk to him about thingd that happen at school or things that you have done in class.
be random guys like that so just talk to him about anything and let him get to kno the real you because thats what he likes about you so go for it. dont be afraid to be yourself =]
goodluck xXxsallii
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I go to this camp & I'm in close contact with this one guy who I have a little crush on. From his body language I can tell that he's kind of into me but he's never talked to me. I smile at him but he's too shy to make conversation. Camp ends soon, how can I get this guy out of his shell?! (link)
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i think your gunna have to make the first move, if hes shy then he will probably be waitning for you to talk to him first.
so i think you should just go up and talk to him... once he knows you he probably wont be as shy.
hope i helped xxsal
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I have a bf and i cant tell if he really likes me or not. can u please help me? (link)
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hey you should talk to him about it... because in the end all you can do is trust him when he tells you he loves you. if you cant trust him then your relationship wont work.
relationships are based on trust and thats how both ppl in the relationship stay faithful to each other because they trust each other.
you need to trust him. so talk to him.
hope i helped xoxosal
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My boyfriend and I have only been going out for a week or two. We're pretty good friends, though. He's straight edge. I, however, am not; I drink casually and smoke from time to time. He doesn't know this. I'm pretty sure he'd be mad at me if he ever knew I had tried it. I really enjoy his company and talking to him, so I don't want to break up over something like this, but I don't want to start off our relationships with secrets. What should I do? (link)
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hey just tell him about it. if he really likes you then he will understand. tell him you dont want to keep any secrets in your relationship so he understands. =]sal
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I have liked my good guy friend romantically for a good 2 years now, but the problem is, his parents are super strict and have actually arranged a marriage for him. I think he might like me back, but is there really any point in pursuing him? I don't want to get my heart broken...
What should we do? (link)
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hey... i think the best thing to do is to tell him how you feel and talk to him about it because if you dont you will regret it. do you know the saying...
'hearts are broken from words left unspoken'
if you dont tell him your heart may still get broken but then if you do tell him it could still get broken.
you need to decide if you love him enough to take a chance, he may like you, but you never know unless you try.
It doesnt matter if his parents are strict because in the end he will do what is right for him, he will make up his own mind because no one can do it for him.
but first you need to make up your mind, dont leave it too late.
hope i helped xxsal
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Well me and my boyfriend broke up a few days ago and its been 8 months. And we were soo happy and we never fought once. I love him soo much and he told me he loves me and he'll never forget about me and im an amazing girl and any guys would be lucky to have me and so on.so we hung out for a couple of hours and it was the hardest thing ever. but we didnt break up because we cheated, or fought too much, or anything like that. we still love eachother very much, and have these strong feelings for eachother. its just we went to fast. and im thinking, like is it too late to fix. we can start from the start and go slow.He tells me he tries so hard to keep me off his mind, and when we see eachother and look in eachother's eyes, we get emotional. i just need to know, is it over? does he just want space, and then he'll realise what he did? do i move on? i'm so hurt here, i love him soo much, and he told me he loves me and he always will. And he wants s to be friends and still talk when we can?. but Will he realise his mistake? (link)
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its never to late to fix things.
if you still love him and you dont want to lose him tell him about it. talk to him. talking about things is the best way to sort this out. because you might regret it later on.
besides you both still love each other.
he might need space but at least talk to him and find out what he wants and what you want to see if you both want the same thing.
if you leave it to long and he realises that he misses you, you might have already moved on or he might have moved on when you realise you miss him.
hope i helped. xoxox
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f/13 so i like this guy who is my firends brother(hes a year younger than me) and he found out that i like him and told his sister( my friend) that he found out but then nothing happened between us. but when ever i go over he is always like teasing me and stuff like tipping my chair over and he dosent do that to my twin sister who also comes over when i go over. and now im confused on what i should do/ if he likes me or not. (link)
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if he is paying more attention to you now then before he knew you liked him then i think hes interested... time to flirt... it cant do any harm. besides just see what happens xx
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So there is this guy. He is really nice and funny and he is in a lot of my classes. He is in plays, musicals and he is really good at writing poetry. I always thought he was gay. He acts like a little girl too so I thought he must be gay. I am not trying to be mean I am just wondering. Because he got his ear pierced in the left ear and that is the one that means you are straight. What do you think about this? I don't want to ask him because that would be rude. He also made a joke about a gay person being gay. I was like what? My friends are not to sure of it either and one of them likes him and she didn't know if he was gay or not. Do you think he is? (link)
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hey i have a friend like this any w think hes gay... but he is bi so yeah thats another reason.
But just because hes in musicals, plays and he writes poetry doesnt mean he is gay... he could just be a really sesnseitive guy, and he might act gay but even that doesnt mean that hes gay. but he could be and the only way your gunna find out is if someone asks him. hope i helped xxx
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should i ask a guy to marry me? becuase I'm so in love with him so bad, we been together for 3 year, i want get married, but should i ask him or wait? (link)
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hey if you truely love him then ask him to marry you. dont wait. xxsal
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would you go out with someone who is going to graduate at the end of may. he's a year ahead of me and im scared that i'll get too attached. would you forget the risk and take the fall? (link)
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hey lifes all about taking risks i say go for it. cos if you dnt u might regret it. xx sal
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okay so my absolute BEST friend lets call her lola. Is kinda getting me mad
EVERY BOY IN THE WORLD IS IN LOVE WITH HER!!
and it just gets me so sad :[
cause no one ever liked me. =\ besides in 5th grade, and i am now in 8th.
she is SOO pretty, skinny and funny
and i just wish i could be like her.
i want boys to like me too =\ but they never will.
and i just met this kid and i was starting to like him. then i introduce them and he asks her out and she said yes ( she didnt know i liked him )
its like whats wrong with me?
why can she get EVERY guy?
i wish i could be just like that.
but i never will =\
help ? (link)
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hey ive felt like this before and i know it sux, you just got to be yourself and try not to let it bother you cos things will come your way, somethings are worth waiting for.
you need to like yourself before anyone will like you. dont be shy or hold back just say whats on your mind and everyone will love you. Just be yourself thats all that really matters.
you just have to keep positive and a guy will come along dont worry. but dont wait for this to happen cos it will only get you down.
just have fun :) and dont worry. hope i helped xxxx sal
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My ex recently came back into my life, and she was my first and only true love. We have been spending a lot of time together as well. She has a boyfriend of 4 years and he is the complete opposite of me. He doesn't treat her like she should be treated all the time. Yesterday she decided that he was the better choice. He doesn't go to school, he doesn't have a job, and he has no plan to do any of these things. Am I wrong in saying that I am the better choice?? (link)
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hey you might be the better choice and even if you know that its not like you can do anything about it. its her choice who she dates.
so the only thing you can do is move on even though it is hard you need to make yourself happy.
xxx
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I'm shy so if I don't ever approach another girl first.I work in retail sales and sometime some girls would just stare at me or smile.I put up merchandise and a lot girls stand so close to me that I could actually brush against them. I just totally ignore them. Do some girls get offended if u don't acknowledge them or don't say hi.how do i know if a girl thinks I'm cute?
Sometime they would um twirl their hair when they with friends or their parents (link)
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well if u dont ignore them when they are trying to get your attention then they will think your not interested... if they stare at you, smile and twirl there hair then they are oviously trying to get your attention and sounds like they think your cute.
you should just say hi and see where it goes from there. HEy you never know what could happen.
xx
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ok well ive always thought of myself as straight but theres this girl weve been friends since 6th grade now in in 9th.!>. and she just cam out and told people that she was bi sexual.! but the thing is that recently ive benn wanting her attention and its kind of like a girl crush.!>. and she is the only girl so far that ive thought of this way.! please help me.! im soo confused.!> i mean i think of her as more as a friend but i dontknow i just need some advice.!> (link)
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hey this is perfectly normal.. we all feel attracted to someone we feel comfortable around and can be ourself with, someone we trust and are close too.
so just relax its completly normal to be confused about your feeling towards other people.
just because you have this attraction with this one girl doesnt mean that your bi because you may never feel like this for another girl again but then again you might be bi... that is something you have to work out for yourself cos your the only one that can aswer that.
but hey if you have feelings for her go for it.. you can only go with them or ignore them. (i cant really tell you wat you should do tho) hope i helped xx sal
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