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So untill around last christmas i had this boyfriend... lets call him B. ok well i knew that B liked me and i wasnt really sure how i felt about him, so i dumped him..now this summer, i really miss him.. and i dont know he dosnt seem like he wants to talk to me , everytime i im him hes always like hey.. and hes soo boring..
i want the old B bak..
soo how can i get him to like me again
and how do i tell him i like him ??
hey, first of all you can never get anyone to like you. it has to come naturally. also forceing someone to like you is the perfect recipe for disaster. if you werent sure how he felt about you and you two were going out, thats a problem. communication is one of the most important things in a good solid relationship. once you get used to not communicating wiht someone, its hard to fix. you should just try to put all the old feelings away, and look for someone new. he seems to have moved on, and you should too. rekindleing the flame works sometimes, other times it donest. this time, i dont think that it will. if you really feel like you need to try it, then go ahead. but id advise you not to because you would have to come on strong to get him to start talking to you again because as of now hes not interested in you. coming on strong is usually a turn off.
Ok my BF and I have been going out for almost 3 months. We went out before for about 1 1/2 months, and the whole time, I always feel so shy and self concious around him. What can I do to boost my confidence?
Shy Lady
hey, alright well its totally important to be comfortable around your boyfriend. signs of not being comfortable show that your not ready for a boyfriend or that the boyfriend that you choose isnt right for you. give it another month or so and see what happens. if you start to realize that you would probably feel more comfortable around other guys, thats a problem. you should end it then, and explore other guys. but dont blow it, first reliatonships are always akward, so thats expected. but if you juts cant seem to work it out, then you end it.
okay so i really like this guy n he likes me too, but ive never had a bf so its really wierd and like now im afraid to....also i like dont know what to do like when his arms around me, n i dont know how to makeout, someones pleaseeeee helpp
hey, oh god. alright well first off, theres no right or wrong way to makeout. i promise you that once you start making out with him, it will just come to you and you will just go with the flow. having your first boyfriend will always be akward, just like all the other firsts in life. when he puts his arm around you, just cuddle with him =]. be cute.
Well My Ex Boyfriend Passed Away At Age 17 He Meant The World To Me I Neva Got To Tell Him How I Felt That I Loved Him..But When He Died He Took My Heart With Him Do You Think Ill Find Love Again He Is All I Think About So I MEan I Dont Know I Cry Over Him Everyday..
hey, im sorry for your loss. crying is the normal reaction to someone passing away that you care a lot about. theres no real way to tell if you will ever find love again. some people do and some dont. for example, my grandmothers husband passed away, and she never remarried. then theres other people that remarry within the next year. i guess it really depends on how much you really did love the person and how well you learn to accept the fact that there really truly gone and know that they would want you to move on and be happy.
its long, but keep on reading its interesting, and if you have any heart, or are really good at giving advice, read the whole thing, and respond. PLEASE!
Ok, I like this guy, I'll call him Brian. We have known each other for almost a year, and three months of those, we were involved. We were each other's first relationships, but he ended it, because we were just acting like friends, so we might as well stay that way. Well, its about six months since we broke up, and I still like him, and I think he likes me too. We talk on the phone basically every day for no less than an hour and a half up to three hours. Well, we are just friends, but last week we had this long conversation where we were just asking each other questions. And we took it too far, to the point where i asked him if he would ever rekindle old relationships, referring very well to his only one: with me. He doesnt kno that I officially still like him. Well anyway, it came out that some other girl has caught his attention. hearing this I froze up...even though my guy best friend talked to Brian, and brian told him, that he would rekindle old relationships, and that he does like me...the only thing is that he doesnt want to make the same mistakes again and hurt each other in another relationship (brian doenst take chances), so he didnt want to go there with me again. So, I called him up , trying to be the mature person and told him, that iwas sorry for taking the question game too far, and that I just wanted to be his good friend and that I hope him and the other girl work out. So, he got the idea that I didnt like him and that i basically put the seal on what could have been us by being just 'friends. the only reason why i did that is becuase i didnt want to get hurt, so i backed off when i heard he was interested in another girl. Turns out, he doesnt officialy really like her yet, he just wants to get to know her, so basically i had a chance, if i would have fought for him; but like him, i dont really take chances, and i gave up,because i wanst sure if he would reject me by telling me he just wanted to be freinds, which is why i beat him to it. So in like three days, i went from the girl who could potentially be with brian to the girl that happens to be his really good friend and is helping him get the other girl. KNowing very well that should be me. I should also mention the fact that when my best freind was talking to brian, he asked brian if he was just talking to the other girl to get over me, and he said 'no comment'. And we still talk the same amount of time, because he says he really likes talking to me, but last night, i basically helped him plan a date with the other girl; i would rather be the friend that he can talk to about the other girl, then be the girl who doesnt know the details on his love life. I put his potential happiness in front of mine, instead of fighting and trying to succeed with him. And i dont want to officially become that 'buddy old pal'. cuz it sounds immature, but i know we are meant to be together, we just click, and i hope u know what that feels like. Brian took the safe way out, by not going there with me again, and i accommadated him. And i dont know if I should try fighting for him again, or what? I need advice and major opinions on the situation. iwant to know what i could have done better, and what i should do now. I am going over his house tomorrow, so i wanted to tell him whats really good then, but that would mean i would have to eat all of those fluffy just friends words i gave him a few days ago. sometimes i feel that he has to explore other girls to really know if we are meant to be, so he wouldnt have any 'what ifs' or regrets. HELP PLEASE!!!
hey, alright well first of all your being very mature by putting his happiness in front of your own. that shows that your ready for a mature relationship. also always remember this quote: "mature love is wanting the other person to be happy no matter what; immature love is wanting the other person to be happy when there only with you". my ppinion on this is that you should let him explore other girls. when you hangout with him, confess to him that all that you said the other day was bull. let him know how you really feel. basically tell him what you just told us. its going to be hard, no doubts about it, but the only way to have a real chance with this guy is by telling him every bit of exactly how you feel. good luck.
ok so i went to a youth group thing on wednesday and there was this guy there.and whenever i think about him i get butterflies in my stomach and i dont even know why because i don't like him or anything. hes my age and hes not really cute but he is funny.we didnt really talk at all nothing but" who is that?" while we were playing a game kinda like man hunt in the dark.but this is what we did.
-me and my friend were playing ping pong, but then his friend wanted to play so it was us against his friend so then he played.and i was like all hyper from soda(i had a lot) so i was acting like a 5th grader.and i like took the pingpong paddle and put it iinfront of my face while i was tlking 2 my friend, so thenhe did the same thing 2 his friend.
-so then like 10 ppl were playing in the gym, and my brother hits me w/ a tennis ball so i run and get both tennis balls and throw them at him, not really hard but playfully.but it looked like it was hard,so then this kid goes "ok you threw them at him, go pick them up" and i go"no" and just walk away. and i was acted so stupid!!! like if someone did those things i would thnk the were so immature and weird. and whats weird is that i like his friend more then i like him.so why do you think i get butterflies when i think about him and how can i make them go away? oh and ill be in his class next year, if that helps idk how it will but w/e.
sorry if its long. i will rate. thanks in advanced. = ]
hey, you probably think you like his friend better than him because his friend is proabbly better looking, but not as funny. you definately like that kid. some people have a weird way of flirting and i guess your one of those people. you flirt kiddish, which could be a turnoff sometimes. tone it down a bit, then you should be fine.
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ok so is it true that guys like it when they have to chase a girl.. n work for it? if that makes any sense
hey, well it depends what the guy is looking for. if he wants a serious relationship and has true feelings for you, making him chase you for a while will become annoying and he will loose interest. for the first few days, its fine tho. if its just a hookup, making his chase you can be okay for most of the hooking up. no guy likes to get a girl easily right away.
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i know this is really stupied but how do you make out?
hey, yeah it does sound really stupid. anyways, there is no wrong or right way to makeout. it just comes naturally, i promise. your at least an average kisser no matter what, unless your all slobery. there are cute little things that you could do during the makeout session tho. like play with his hair. also play around with where you place your hands. try placeing them on his shoulder or back.
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ok well last start at the start new year friend holds party the girl i really like and every1 at the party knows i like her is there we kissed it was good but then the next day talking to friends i hear that my suposevly best friend had gone through with her after i had kissed her i was to angry as we were all pretty much drunk so it was annoying but it was ok but when i went to ask him about it he was like nothing happened untill he finally aplogies to me so i kind of forgiven him and we got back on with our lives. well after that me and the "girl" we like kiss like every party and that. so last week people were asking why i didnt ask her out so i had decide to do it tomorrow ( were going to the pictures together ) so we were at party on tuesday and like had alot to drink and we kissed again as per usual and my best friend was kissing her friend so it was all good untill i went away to shops to get midnight snack with a couple of friends and when we got back it had quiet down abit so we stayed for a couple of hours then left. well tlking to a friend who was at party and he was saying u hear about my best friend and the "girl" and i was like no he was well they supposely did it when we went to the shops. so know i no i dnt no what to do. ave decide not to ask her out and just try and totally forget about her but what about my friend do i confront him and find out his side or what please i need some advice thanks
hey, alright well both of them arent being good friends to you at all. that girl knows that you two are best friends im sure, and obviosuly she just doesnt care. those types of girls like hooking up better than relationships and im pretty sure that if you asked her out, she would cheat on you, maybe even with your best friend. as for your best friend, hes a man whore. he knows that it upset you the last time that they even kissed (never mind had sex). now i know that we dont know if its true yet, but im pretty sure that if its not, that something as little as kissing at least happened between them. so all in all, your friend is a hoe. he will keep stealing your girls/hookups. as for that girl, she will end up with a disease one day.
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I've been friends with this guy Brandon for two years. I honestly love him, I mean we haven't just been friends we've been going out and sometimes things stop us but this time nothing is getting in the way. My mom doesn't like him at all, she doesn't know that we ever dated. I love him and I know I'm too young (16) to be making the decision of who I want to be with for the rest of my life but I know I love him. Last night I told him that I can't be with him anymore because my parents don't want me to marry out of my religion (I'm a muslim and he's Christian.) He was crying and so was I. I want to be with him more then anything but my dad said if I marry him he's going to leave my mom and I love my mom and don't want her to be alone because I'm being a selfish snob. I don't know how I can make them understand that he means absoluely everything to me. Any suggestions on what I should do?
hey, well why do you HAVE to get married RIGHT NOW? you guys are only 16, why not wait until your 18? those two years might help you out in the long run, because than you can explain to your parents that you really love this guy and it would be a good time for them to try to learn to like him. explain to them that he isnt going anywhere for a long time (if you stay together for two years that will help back up what you said). if your rushing the marriage by getting married at 16 because your afraid that if you dont he will move on, thats unhealthy. dont tell your parents that your planning on getting married at 18 and your just waiting it out 2 years to make them like him.
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I am a 34 year old female, and I just met this woman that i like, and my best friend of 6 years is now jelous and says she is in love with me. I do love her as well but i never thought she looked at me that way. But recently i met this other woman, who i like I dont want to hurt her feelings, but i want to give my bf a chance too. Sounds crazy i know but what should I do. I dont want to lose my bf because of this woman, that would be too much for me. How do I break it off without hurting her?
hey, well sometimes the truth hurts. always put yourself first. let the lady off whos interested in you easy. yes, she will be upset, but her happiness is not worth you loosing your true love.
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Ok I'm 16 and a female. It's summer and all i can do is think about this one boy. Does anybody know what i could do? I really like him and im not really sure if he likes me back. He's usually at my bus stop and lives on the street right behind me! Please Help!!! Thank You All!!!
hey, well this is a stupid question. your asking us on this website if somebody that we dont know likes you. you need to ask him stragiht up if he likes you or not and tell him that you like him. point blank.
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okay. this may be a tricky one, or i just may be stupid to not have figured it out. my ex-boyfriend & i went out back in november for about 3 months & broke up. then we went out for another month in like april / may. we broke up when we had this huge fight but i wasn't too upset about it at the time, but ya know the whole you don't know what you got till it;s gone. obviously he felt the same way because this other guy asked me out, & when i said yes my ex was like all "i want you back". i still loved him but like i needed a change. when me & the other guy broke up about 2 weeks later my ex asked me out. again. although one of my friends liked him & we were all going to a party at her house & i didn't want it to be awkward between us, but he said he didn't like her, & we weren't that good friends. so i told him that of coruse i'd go out with him, but not until the party which was 2 days later. BIIIGG mistake. at the party, all these guys "forced" my ex into asking the girl out, a likely story. but anyway he told me he didn't really like her, but when they broke up he didn't want me anymore. that was like 3 weeks ago. since then , or since november!, i haven't been able to get him out of my mind. i want him back. i need him back. & don't just say to give up because i know that'd be the logical thing to do, but i'm willing to work for this. please give me some tips to get him back! =\
hey, well you got it right when you said the logical thing to do would be to give up. it really needs to be done. he plays with your head way too much. no guy is worth that much, especially if you guys had issues before. if your heart is really set on giving him ONE more chance, think about why you guys ended it before. if he cheated on you, i take that give him another chance back. that to me is ridiculous. if it was for other various reasons, maybe try it ONCE more. if i were you, i would just give up tho.
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whenever my boyfriend comes over, he and my mom will sit and talk forever. and for some reason this makes me sooooo mad! he's so irritating cuz its like he's trying to show off and impress her with all these stories about himself. and she listens to him and laughs like he's the funniest person she ever met. my mom says he's just trying to make a good impression because he likes me so much. and she says she only listens to him because his own parents pretty much ignore him (which is true) and she's just trying to be nice. but it still really bothers me, and i'm not sure why. i know i could join in their conversation, but instead i just get mad. why does this bother me so much?
hey, well i understand her point of view. that was how my mother was with my ex boyfriend. dont talk to your mother about it, talk to your boyfriend. let him know that it bothers you. if he knows it doesnt make you happy, im sure that he will cut down. talking to your mother was pointless, it doesnt make your boyfriend cut down on the talking. people cant fix what they dont know that there doing wrong.
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Sorry this is long!! I am 14/f and I am going into high school. I like this one boy that I went to grade school with. We were at this party and we wre playing truth or dare and I dared him to tell who he likes. He looked at me and was like i like someone who is sitting right in this circle. I was thinking omg i think its me cause when he was saying it he was looking directly at me and was smiling. Then i said who is it he said um its tara. Ouch did that hurt! but my friend says she thinks that he is lying but i dunno i felt sometimes that he liked me. he told me he i am the only one he can talk to about anything and he trusts me. But the problem is we are really good friends now i am stuck in "just friends" and i would never want to ruin our great friendship. what should i do?
hey, well i understand how you would not want to ruin your friendship with him, but then again there goes that word friendship. the word that you just said that you dont want to be stuck at. you need to tell him that you like him. yes, its a bold and confident move and you might not be bold or confident, but it needs to be done. trust me, if you dont do it youll just be stuck wondering what if i did and what could have happened if i did, and i know that you wouldnt want that. sometimes guys are super shy and dont want you to know that they like you, thats why you can tell him that you like him first because then if he likes you, he wont be afraid to say so because there is no rejection involved. believe it or not, guys are totally afraid of rejection. its actually one of there worst fears and thats what usually stops what could have been a good reliatonship, because the guy is too afraid to ask the girl out and the girl doesnt make the first move. dont let that happen to you. guys also love confident girls, so be confident! oh yes, also if he doesnt end up liking you after you confess to liking him, dont worry. it might be akward at first, but let him know that your not going to let it ruin the friendship that you two have or bring you down. let him know that your perfectly fine with it, even if your not. good luck. =]
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if your boyfriend cant get it up does it mean hes not attracted to you?
also if he cums real fast, will he ever get better?
hey, well i talked to my guy friend and he said that thats true. he says for girls that he doesnt find attractive, he cant get it up for. yes, its possible for a guy to get better. the cumming really fast comes from inexperience with sex (only having sex once or maybe twice), or just being a virgin totally.
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Ok. I am going to use real names because I don't feel the need to hide this.
I have a friend Taylor. We have been good friends for a while. I also have a best friend Dave.
Dave and Taylor were together, but not going out. They really liked eachother, understandable right?
Taylor "broke up" with Dave, then hated him for the last 4 months. For no reason at all, just wouldn't talk to him and made fun on him constantly. Dave hurt for a while, but finally got over it.
Dave and I have been extremely close ever since we met. Dave and I now are kind of, as you can say, together.
Ever since Dave and I have been together, Taylor has been trying to talk to Dave again, and asks me ridiculous questions about me and him and what we do. She said that him her and can only be enemies, or lovers. So what does that mean? If she is trying to talk to him, that might mean she wants to be lovers with him.
She insists she is over him and does not want him, but why is she constantly asking me about it? And flipping out on me about him. I think she still has feelings for him, which is understandable. But she has hated him for 4 months, and Dave would try to talk to her, but she was just such a BITCH to him that he got over her.
It's not my fault me and him like eachother, we cannot control feelings. I understand where she is coming from because it is her ex, but still, they are over, and she knows it.
I don't know what to do. I do not what to loose either of them. Taylor is just being very immature about this and said she might as well go hook up with my ex boyfriend Justin, so I would know how it felt.
Dave and I have been through A LOT together. Like, a mad amount of stupid shit we have done and gotten in trouble for. Taylor seems like it is right to bring those mistakes up to make me sound like a bad person.
I tried talking to her so many times.
Now I am thinking I should just end it wtih Dave so this whole thing would stop, no matter how much I don't want to.
Someone please help me, I really don't know what to do.
hey, well this is a pretty hard situation. i think that you and taylor both have a point. no, its not right to date your friends ex, but she was the one that said that she was over him. when she said that, that gave you the impression that she was over him and that he was up for grabs. so i think that its taylors own fault because she basically gave you the okay to have feelings for him. if she truly wasnt okay with it, she should have spoke up. she cant expect you just to know/assume that shes not okay with it, i mean, you are not a mind reader. i think that you should have a talk with taylor. i normally would write to you that friends come before guys, but since your already involved with dave because taylor said that she was over him, i realize that its going to be hard to get out of. during your talk with taylor, explain to her what i explained to you. say to her that if you knew that she totally wasnt okay with you being with dave, that you would have never gone for it because friends always come before guys. but tell her since that she did say that she was over him, that you already got involved and that its going to be hard to get out of and you dont want to get out of it because of your feelings for him. during your talk, dont hold back feelings (vice versa) because the problem wont get fixed if you do. i wish you luck. =]
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My brothers best friend is 19. I'm 15. He's four years older than me. Ever since I was 10 or 11 my aunts have been bugging me that he likes me and one day were going to fall in love and get married and all this shit. Well, for the past two years I have fell in love with him. He treats me so well and we have so much fun together. Even when my brother isn't around we hang out. I just want to know how I should tell him. I wrote him a 30 page letter about how I feel about him and everything, but I don't know when or how to give it to him. He leaves for college at Penn State in August for his sophmore year of college (I live outside of Philly) and I want to tell him before he goes, should i?
hey, well dont give him that letter. thats just creepy. if any guy gave me a 30 page letter, i would be scared, haha. anyways, hes going away to college. college guys hookup with college girls at partys etc. you might be thinking "oh no, hes not like that", but hunny, every college guy at least hooks up with one girl and im just trying to save you the heartbreak. there is a 1% chance that he got all of his hooking up done in freshman year and that hes mature. if thats him, i still wouldnt give him the letter. i would tell him yourself in person and if all goes well, give him a kiss. goodluck kid =].
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Hey, I'm 16/f and my boyfriend is 18/m.
He is the most amazing guy I have ever met. We have been dating for a few weeks, but we have been friends for months before that. We talk on the phone for hours beyond hours every night and he is just simply the most wonderful guy I have ever met =]. But the thing in, when we kiss, we both don't feel anything...at all. We have talked about it and we have made it clear that we both want to kiss each other, but we don't know what's wrong. It seems like we are missing the romantic aspect of a relationship. Everything else in the relationship is completely fine. We talked about how it sounds like we are just friends, but we came to the conclusion that if we were just friends, we would both like each other way too much.
I honestly think that it's somehow my fault that we aren't "feeling anything" when we kiss. Does anybody know how to fix that? I'm crazy about him, but maybe I'm just shy and maybe it's ruining the kiss? At this point I really have no idea.
Thanks for the help =]
hey, well i agree with the dood below. if your just pecking, your not going to feel anything. you need to go into deep making out. get really into it. try sitting on top of him while making out. switch up the hand placements. put your hand on his shoulder, back, or head. run your hand through his hair and play with it. do your best to make it sexy/passionate. also long makeout sessions tend to get more romantic. =]
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okay first off.. my boyfriend is 15, and i usually keep a straight face when people plays around.. but sometimes i play around too.. but thats more like when i'm in the mood to play around. my boyfriend.. now and days he keeps saying "wanna box?" which gets really annoying now and days... and i usually say "what good will that do? i don't think fighting solves anything." and then he tells me i'm scared. but i'm not scared.. i told him "i don't want to hit my own boyfriend." and then he makes up all these things and he says "YEAHH YOU SCARED" or "im going to win!!!" and if i say "okay fine i will." and all the sudden he turns bipolar on me (first his happy then sad... like mood swings..really fast). and he says ":[[ you would hit your boyfriend?" and i'm like "no..." and then he says "YOU WANNA BOX?!" again. and i say "yeahh you would hurt me." and then he says "i wouldn't hurt you baby..." ...... WTF?! and when i told him that bothered me, he said he can't stop saying it.. hes js trying to "krunk" me up. -________-" but what it really is doing is getting on my nerves.. but when i'm not in the mood he doesn't say it.. but he ALWAYS thinks i'm in the mood. so help me please?? i really need to be more patient with him, but then that js gets plain annoying yannoe? help me please!
hey, haha thats pathethic. you just need to tell him straight out how you feel and not us. hes your boyfriend, so communication shouldnt be a problem. ♥