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I have been with my b/f for about a yr and a half now. We have definitely had our ups and downs. Last year i was at a friends house and one of my b/f's good friends showed up. He asked if i wanted to hang out. Went to his house and he put the moves on me. I refused to have sexual contact with him. Even though i had the urge to. He told me that he was sorry and that he couldnt help but wonder why i was with this other guy and that he thought i was pretty.
Ever since that time, he always makes comments to my b/f about how my b/f doesnt treat me right. Or he will joke around about how im his type. We live in a tight-knit town where everyone knows everyone. I see this guy everyday and he always smiles or stares and then looks away.
My major problem is that im finding more and more that im not in-love with my bf anymore as he has become physically violent.
My sister-in-law thinks that i should leave my bf and go with this guy. I am quite tempted as he and i have so much in common and he knows how to treat a lady. I also have a medical condition where i cannot have children. And this guy has full custody of his little girl. Every time i see him with her i melt because he is such a good father.
Am i wrong for wanting to try and have a relationship with this other guy?
And do you think he would be interested in trying to have a relationship? (link)
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I think you should really break up with your boyfriend.When he got physically violent with you then you should have broke up with him then.The other guy sounds so perfect.And i think you should start a relationship with him.And you even said it yorself he is such a good father.And you also said that you are starting to be not in-love with your bf so whats the point of being with him.And for your two questions my answer to the frist one is no(after all your startin to be not in-love with your bf)and for the second question my answer is yes(it seems like he likes you).
**~~GOODLUCK~~**
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so last night i got really drunk and cheated on my bf and i cant even remember what the guy looked like (i hope he wasnt ugly lol) but the problem is i dont feel guilty about it at all and i know thats not normal..so does this mean i should mabey reconsider the relationship i have right now with my boyrfriend? (link)
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If you dont feel guilty about it then I think you should reconsider the relationship.After all he is your boyfriend and if you dont feel guilty about cheating on him then whats the point of being in a realtionship.
**~~GOODLUCK~~**
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alright,
well i have a boyfriend that i really do like. But before we were going out i liked this other guy but he already has a gf. but he still liked me a little bit. well then i started going out with a guy but i still have feelings for the other guy. and i talked to him on aim and he wants me to break up with my boyfriend so we can go out once hes single. i really like him but i dont want to hurt my boyfriend plus i really like him too! i dont kno what to do, help if you can,
XconfusedX (link)
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If you realy like the guy your going out with then you should chose him.You cant break up with your boyfriend then wait for that other guy to be single.What if he dosent break up with his girlfriend then how would you feel?My answer to your question is stay with the guy your going out with!!If you really like the guy your going out with then you shouldnt be asking this question!!!
**~~GOODLUCK~~**
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Okay I went out with this boy a grade ahead of me thinking i liked him (Let's call him George). It turned out i didn't really know George so I dumped him three days later. Now George is obbsesssed with me and I can't stand it. He keeps telling me how hot and beutiful I am and it's driving me insane! Yesterday I went to an amusement park and I was hanging out with my friends and the new boy that I like (lets call him Bob). George kept following us around EVERYWHERE. We tried to ditch him but then when we did he just kept calling my cell phone! It was getting so annoying that when he called I just had Bob answer my phone. I just want my own life back. What should I do? I don't want to be mean but I don't want to talk to him at all. I don't even want to be friends with him so don't tell me stuff like well just talk to him about it. I can't talk to him about it! So please help. I'll rate! (link)
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Well your going to have to be mean 2 him if he keeps on bothering you like that and it wont realy matter cause it seems like you dont like him at all.Or just get one of your friends to tell him to leave you alone and you dont wanna be friends since you dont wanna talk to him.
**~~GOODLUCK~~**
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What do you do when the person you love moves away, but not permanent he comes down one weekend in every month? Who do you go to when you have no one else to talk to because he’s always busy? What do you do when you think of the other girls he is probably with and talking to? Why do so many things run through your head when you are trying to get over him, because you know you will never be good enough for him? Why can’t he just accept me for who I am? I can’t be perfect, and if he loves me like he says, then there should be no problem. How do I stop crying my self to sleep every night because I miss him so much? Help please. I’ll rate high =] (link)
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the best thing i can say to is break up with him.he shouldnt be to busy for you if he loves you.he shouldnt just be able 2 see you one weekend every month.and this may sound stupid but if you realy think he is with another girl then ask him(turst is suppose 2 be a very important thing in a relationship).and if you think you are not good enough 4 him then find someone good enough for you.and if he cant accept you 4 who you are then you really dont need him.and my opinoin is that nothing can stop you from crying about him so much accept yourself.
**~~goodluck~~**
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My names "Ali" and i met my friend, joe in grade 7. I am now in grade 12 and hes in University. He has gay tactics which are not attractive for a girl. So i went to prom with him because we were friends and such. I think hes starting to like me though because hes overprotective and never wants me to like anyone even if their his best friends, (who are so sweet). His mom put our prom picture in her kitchen where his whole Italian family can see it. It is so annoying and i will never EVER like him more than just a friend. How should I tell him?
Sorry this is long (link)
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I think you should tell him the truth.That you dont like him.But what if he dosent like you what if he is just being over protective.If i where you i wouldnt jump into conclustions so fast.Just wait untill he shows you more signs(or clues).That he likes you.Then you can tell him you only like him as a friend.
*Good luck*
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Ok so there is this guy that I like and my friends tell me that he seems like he likes me too because he keeps looking at me all the time. But then my sister was talking to him online (she found his sign name and added him) and she asked me who he was and he said his name and she told him that she was in middle school so he said "ewwww". Then he lied and said he was a year older. Then she asked him if he was a friend of mine and he said "No, I don't know geeks". Then he blocked her. I am so upset. What does this mean? (link)
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I think it means he is a lier and i dont think you should like a guy like him.what if you end up being his girlfriend and he sarts lieing to you.I think you should go and look for an honest guy!!!!!!Hopefully everything works out!!!!!
*Goodluck*
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Hi, I'm the one who wrote about my boyfriend who so rudely dumped me without as much as even TELLING me, and then saying that I didn't have feelings and desserved my heart broken as much as people wanted too. Now I am a generally nice person, but this got me so upset. :( Well now hes going out with this other girl, and they keep iming me to tell me what a "loser" I am and how I can't "get" any boys. I blocked them but I still have to see them at school. By the way, their screennames are pyroboy9977 and XoCheerQtXo3222, if anyone would like to talk some sense into them.
Sorry for wasting your time, but I'm really stuck here. And I feel like there is something seriously wrong with me. :( (link)
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There acting stupid.Why the hell are they going to keep IMing you after he broke up with you.And he shouldnt even be saying how you cant get any boys you got him didnt you.Tell them to stop fuckin acting like a baby and telling you all that shit cause he and his girlfriend are the losers cause they cant find anything better to do so they start messing with you.Gosh they are so fuckin premature.Tell them to go the hell away and stop bothering you they need to learn how to act there age.And if they keep on messing with you just ignore them.They need to grow up and act there age.And why is his grilfriend messing with you she dosent have nothing to do with yall breaking up.
*Good luck*
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i love this girl. But not in a love love way. as a friend, and i am a girl myself. but i love her alot. noo not as in girlfriend love dont get the wrong idea. but when i told her i loved her she thought i loved her as in more then a friend and she blocked me on aim. what should i do? i tried calling but she wont pick up (link)
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Your friend should stop acting like a littel girl.She should have gave you time to explain what you meant.Try to go to her house and explain what you meant.And if she wont answer the door try writting her a note explaining what happend and leave it by her door.And she should have gave you the time to explain cause friends tell each other that all the time.
*Good luck*
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hey everyone. first of all i am a 14 female. there is this girl, yes a girl, and she is 17 female. i have liked her ever since LAST august (2004). then, over christmas break i found out she was gay. hang on, let me go back. at the beginning of july(2004) is when i first met her. we started becoming friends around the end of august. so i would say i started liking her at the beginning of august. i play softball from july-the end of september with her. that is the only time i talk to her.. once softball was over last year, we werent friends anymore. well, we were but we never talked and i think she forgot about me. well, ever since softball has been over since last year, she is all i have thought about, and i mean every day i would think about her. every time i think about her i get nervous but happy. like, i dont no, i cant explain it. i dont think this is a crush either. i would do anything for this girl. i mean i would even take a bullet for her. but, now since softball has started, its gonna take a while for us to be friends again. meaning, she hasnt talked to me since softball has started this year. and i no once games start we will become friends. and, she is the only girl i feel like this for, i have never felt this way about ANYONE either. but, she also has other friends on our softball team that im sure she hooks up with. i mean when i see her, i dont no its just shes soo pretty and i cant help but stare. so, my question is, do you think this a crush, love, or obsession? one more question, does this mean i am straight, bisexual, or lesbian? (link)
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Well for your first qustion i think its all i mean after all you would take a bult for her.And for your second qustion If you like boys and if you like that girl more then a friend it probaly means your bisexual.
*Good luck*
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well there's this guy i like..and we've dated before and we always seem to fight now but we're the best of friends..well today we got in a big fight..and i told him i didn't want to hang out with him again this summer (we don't live in the same town) and he's like w/e and he got all mad at me..later i told him i was sorry and i still want to hang out with him and he's like yeah right and than i got an e-mail from him and it was this chain that he sent to me and it said that like he will always be there for me and everything and how i'm a great friend..but later he sent me a message when i wasn't there and it said i hate you (one time i was talking about someone hating me and he said "who could hate you"). so it kills me to know that he hates me. and he pretty much said that he could never hate me. i have no idea what happened..cause we always kid about that stuff be he didn't say he was kidding or anything..i'm soo worried about our friendship now..and i didn't even do anything..i love this kid right to death and i would do anything for him..i never knew how much the words "i hate you" could feel until you hear it from the one person you would do anything in this world for..even give up your life for them to keep living. it hurt me so bad..and i just want to tell him but i don't know if i can even express to him how much it hurt me. please help me..i just want to know what to say to him..i know it's really what i feel i should say but i need some help. i rate high! please help me! i'm stuck in the gutter on this one. =/ (link)
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You should say that it realy hurt you about him saying he hates you.Ask him if he realy hates you or not.Somtimes people say they hate someone cause there just mad at that person.He is the one who said how can anyone hate you.But it realy dose hurt to have someone say they hate you.But if he realy dose hate you you should just move on with your life cause if he where realy your friend he wouldnt say that.And he should be the one saying sorry for what he said.Even though you realy love this person and he says he hates you and realy means it then you should just forget about him.But he might have been kidding.
*Good luck*
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I'm in love with my best friend. I've liked him for as long as i can remember, years. I haven't liked any one else within that time period. But we're best friends.
I've tried telling him, and he just wasn't (won't) feeling it. he has liked me before, but i kept it as friends.
But now he likes one one my good (female) friends. And he is constantly trying to be around her, even though they wouldn't be friends if it weren't for me. She has a boyfriend of her own. He just dosn't get the picture.
It kills me to see him try for her. Giving her the attention i've been dying for, for years. It really breaks my heart and i don't know what to do.
He already knows how i feel. I just do not know what to do. Or how to mend a broken heart. (link)
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Well this may be hard for you but the best thing to do is just give him up and go on with your life.If you have been trying for years and he still dosent want you the best thing to do is just go move on with your life and find another guy.And you or your frind needs to tell him to stop trying cause she already has a boyfriend.
*Good luck*
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Girls: Do you think it would be cute for a guy to ask before kissing a girl? Would you find that cute or weird? (link)
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i think its cute.Unlike some guys who just go ahead and kiss you and you dont wanna be kissed.I think it would be cute.
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I am getting closed to 18 and I have never had a boyfriend. Now, it seems kind of weird, but I have no problem with it. I've had plenty of shots, but I'm not rushing anything and dont plan to waste time with the wrong guy. {I'm very picky.) My family, on the other hand, makes it seem like a big deal, when it's not. They are always asking me why I haven't brought any guys home, etc. My younger sister, who happens to be a huge slut, made this ridiculous remark that I am a lesbian. Now her and my parents joke about it. And sometimes I think they really think that. (Which I'm not. I'm totally against that stuff and they know it.) Whenever my sister and I get in fights she's always like "Atleast I've had a boyfriend." I know I'm not experienced and stuff..but there's no one I'd want to go out with at the moment. I've already explained this to my family, but they still get on my case about it. I used to be able to ignore it easily, but now it's hard. I already have a low self esteem, and they arent making it any easier for me. Any suggestions? (link)
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That is rude when your famly calls you a lesbian even if there joking or not and atleast your not a slut like you say your sister is.Try your best to ignore those rude commets your sister and family say.To me your the kind of girl who is looking for the perfect guy so you wont have to get your heart broken like some girls do.And its good to be picky about a kind of guy you want.And you need to tell your family how you fill about those comments.Its your life so why should they realy care if you have a boyfriend.Dont worry about your sister saying atleast she has had a boyfrien cause all you need to say to her is "atleast your i am not a huge slut".Talk to your famly and ask them to stop calling you that cause they might take it as a joke but you dont.
*Good luck*
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do i deserve another chance if i got advice and relized my problems? (link)
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Yes.As long as you dont do what you did.Everyone desvers another chance when they have relized what they did and they wont do it agin.
*Good luck*
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I have a new boyfriend & he's my first. He tried to kiss me the other day & I was ready but I was worried I wouldn't know what I was doing. I made an excuse that I had a sore throat. Obviously, I do not want to have to do this forever so does anyone with experience have any kissing tips to give me (a first timer).
Thanks,
Elle (link)
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There are some tips at http://www.myjellybean.com/flirt/kiss.html
they have tips on the kind of things girls need to need to know about dating and stuff like that:)
*Good luck*
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Ok, there is this guy that I like. My friend found out that he liked me too. He was mad about me knowing I liked him. I told him it wasn't a big deal because I like him too. So now we both know about our 'secret' crushes. It's just weird because he was acting different. I don't want to ask him out right now though because I'm going on vacation Sun. and I won't get to talk to him. So don't tell me to just ask him out. Does anyone know why he's acting different? Or what to do in a situation like this?
Thanks!
p.s. I'm 13/f. (link)
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Most boys act that way when they have finaly told there crush that they like them.It is kinda a good and a bad idea to ask him before and after your vactin.IT bad before your vaction because he might cheat on you(hopefully not)And it dependson where your going over the summer because of the way you are going to keep in toch.And it is bad to ask him after your vaction because he might find a new girl.But go with the one that you think is most likly NOT to happen.Have a nice vaction.
*Good luck*
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ok there is this guy on myspace thats wants me to hang out with him. i don't know if i should. i know my mother wouldn't agree with it, so what should i do?? is it good to meet someone from online?? (link)
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Well you never realy know.Some people are that crazy that they might just do somthing and others just have common since.But if you watch the news when some people do that they end up getting raped or things like that.But if you realy wanna met that guy i sugest you take a group of friends(more then 1 friend)to be saft.And for your second qustion it is realy not a good idea.Be saft.
*Good luck*:)
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Hey guys!! Okay I have a really confusing conflict! I am going out with this guy and I like him a lot and he is a great kisser! but I just found out he cheated on me. and he is the kinda guy that doesnt seem like he cares so I dont know if he cares about me. ok I like his friend, we have talked a lot and I know he cares and I know he wouldnt cheat on me....I dont know if I want to break up with My boyfriend and go out with his friend or if I should stay with my boyfriend and see how things go?! PLEASE HELP!! I need all the help I can get!! (link)
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You should break up with him.What if he dose it agin?If he is the type that dosnt care then you shouldnt be with him.About the other guy don't just go for him after you break up with your boy friend(if you do)give it some time.Since your boyfriend is the type that dosent care then it seems like if you and his friend went out he wouldnt care.You should br carefull for those type of guys who dont care.And for the kissing part it really dosent matter how they kiss it matters what you feel about them.
*Good luck*:)
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I went to a friend's camp this last weekend. She told me that there was this guys a few years olded then us but he was annoying, stupid, and ugly.Then we went out onto the lake and he came along. He had this really big tube and we were all just chillin on it and pushing each other off. then one time it was just me and him and i justed to like him but kept myself from liking him because of what my friend said. i know it doens't matter because i probably won't see him again but should i of let what my friend say keep me from liking this guy?? please help! (link)
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No.If you like a guy you should like him because you like him.You souldnt stop liking him just cause your friend dosent like him.
*Good luck*:)
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