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Ok so this guy (who is now a senior, "Ben") and I (now a sophomore) have been on/off for the last 6 months. In January, we met at school, and we liked each other, but I stopped liking him after I found out he was a player and crap. So then we didn't talk and I got another bf meanwhile, but then, "Ben" and I started talking in May and we got together. After 2 weeks, he broke up with me OVER A TEXT and it literally didn't phase me at all. I wasn't sad, or anything. I just moved on. 3 weeks ago, I went into the store he worked at, not even knowing he was working, and saw him. I was with like 5 other guys, and that night, he texted me and asked me a bunch of questions. We started talking, and we got back together. We hung out twice, and the second time, it was a date with his friend and my friend. That day did not go good at all. Half of the day, he was mad at me because the two did not "hit it off" so I got blamed(go figure). Then he broke up with me again over a text, and this time I was crushed. Idk why, it was just hard because I kinda wore my heart on my sleeve with him and trusted him. His excuse was "He's moving and needs time to think..."
Idk what to dooooo :/ I can't move on.

it only seems like it now, but on and off boyfriends are not that great. just be friends with him and try and find other guys that ur interested in...

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14/f.
I think guys are waywaywaywayway hot.
Like, I totally like guys.
But sometimes, I think girls are hot.
Like, I think Mandy Musgrave (the actress who plays Ashley Davies on south of nowhere) is wayyyy hot.
And I think her kissing gabriel ("spencer") is way hot.
But, I wouldn't want to actually do anything with her.
Same thing goes for these two chicks at my school,
and one of the ppl in T.A.T.U. (the russian band)
idk, like, i think they're hot,
i think them kissing other girls are hot,
but i wouldnt want to kiss them or anything, like i would a guy.

soo what does this make me ?

youre probably just bicurious.

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17: female
so ive known this kid for about 5 years now. we've been like supposively "best friends" for about 2 years now. he is my cousins neighbor so we use to hang out ALL the time. like everyday in the summer. before he was going out with his girlfriend everyone would be like are you two going out (because of the way we acted towards each other) but since we go to different schools i hardly see him anymore :( he has a girlfriend of about a year and a half. keep in mind he is 16. ive always had a thing for him for about 2 years now but he doesnt know anything about it! im not one to share my feelings; ive never had a boyfriend. but everyone thinks im so gorgeous and are blown away when they find that out. we have the greatest talks but im just so jealous because i wish he could be mine. but i know he is compeletely in love with his girlfriend and she is absoultely gorgeous. he texted me one day about two, three weeks ago and was like i miss you so much. i was talking to nick (my cousin) at lunch today and i was like gosh i miss her alot, i really wanna hangout with her again. i was like awww. i seen him tonight at a hockey game because he wanted me to go. it was a girls game and it was his school vs. my school and his girlfriend was playing. when i came with my two other friends he was like come on kristin sit by me and told my cousin to scoot over haha. so he would like wisper stuff in my ear. he always jokes around and was like yeah kristin (me) was the first time i "did it" and we always just joke around like that and i fall for him all over again & there was this older guy that he knew from hockey that was sitting next to him and he was like gosh isnt he pretty, and the guys looks at me and just smiles. i use to just be really angry at him because all he does is hangout with his girlfriend and cares about her now, and plus im jealous but everytime i hangout with him it feels so right. nobody knows i mean like nobody that i have a crush on him =p i try so hard to get over him because i know him and his girlfriend will probably be together for a long time (unfortunately) and i know if they broke up we could probably have a thing. telling him my feelings wouldnt help any either. i mean i know he is in LOVE its obvious. he doesnt see any other girl like he sees his girlfriend. she is his first everything (if you know what i mean). what do you think i should do. hes my best friend. and i really care about him & always feel comfortable around him. i try really really hard to be happy for him and i am happy that he is happy but for me, its like im dying inside. and i never want that night to end when we hangout...

thanks - sorry soo long.

ive beenin this cituation many times befoer and the best thing you can do is justy be his friend for now b/c he already has a gf adn it sounds to me like he really likes her. so just be there for him when he needs you, as his friend, unless he becomes single or tells you hes interested in you b/c it could make your friendship akward if he doesnt feel the same way about you.

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Well i am 14/f, and i know im young but i think i am in love with this guy. His name is Chris, and hes 16. Well, we are like best friends. Hes always over my house, and im always over his. Well we about to cross the street, and it was night, we wanted pizza. Well a car went speeding past and he ran and pulled me back. We both got cuts and bruises, but he saved my life. And he was so worried he carried me home and stole his parents car and took me to the hospital. another time, i was locked out of my house, and he came and picked me up, and walked me to his house, I ended up sleeping over his house, in his bed with him. Well nothing happened, but we were cuddling. We have this thing that we get each other, and our families are so messed up, divorced and dead. But...he has a girlfriend, of 3 months, on and off. She is a whore and cheats on him but shes really attractive, and she has a hold over him. He tells me that he cant get over her and doesnt love her, and she hates me and curses me out, and i told her i love him and she punched me. He got so pissed and broke up with her but they got back together. What should i do? Tell him? or no? Thanks in advance

you should tell him! it sounds to me like he is interested in you since he did break up with his gf for a while when she punched you.

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Well here it goes ..
This is kinda silly but i found out i really like this guy in my class..
Well everything was going fine until i saw him like constantly with other girls and how he acted around them. Like when he's with me i feel like a princess but hwne he's with the other girls it's like i'm a nobody cuz what he like does/says to me he says to other girls ..
Then he asked me to sit with him i'm like nahh .. cuz i was sitting with my girls and then he just randomly asked someone else like he really didnt care, if i were to sit with him or not. When i'm talking to him this girl "EM" walks by he totallyy freezes. thats made me feel even worse.. So now i'm really mean to him because of how he treats me . And he acts like helikes me trys to talk to me and make eye contact and stuff because he knows i'm mad at him . But i cant tell him why i don't want him to know i like him because he use to like me and i liked his best friend at the time .. and so he stooppeedd .. and i try to be nice but all i can do is act mean because i think in my head be nice and when it comes to flashbacks of how he treated me comes and i act like a b**** .. and the more i see it he cares when i'm mad and he trys to talk now a days . What should i do ?
i want him to like me ?
I don't know what to do ?
and being mad had made him turn to my best friend ..
and she likes him now and he might like her.. oh please answer :)

hes a player ¡DUH! this happened to me like a few days ago adn so na id leave him alone cuz hes just playin with all ya girls to see how ya react, so he can find whotever hes interested in.

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ive been in a relationship for 2 years now. at first everything was great, we even got engaged! since then hes been acting like a jerk! he hates my job and threatens to leave me if i dont quit,everytime we fight the first thing he does is tell me to find another place to live! he puts me down alot and he is getting more controlling. he seems to have little respect for me and when i confront him about it he just turns it around. im emotionally drained! is this the real him?

yes you should leave him cauz you need to have a guy who respecets you, and someone who dnt put you down.
theres way better guys out there than him, if hes actin like this now he'll most likely act like this when ur married.

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15/f
to give a bit of a background...me and this guy went out for about a month in 11/06, and then broke up
we grew up a bit and then start going out again in february 07. we were "the perfect couple" according to everyone. and we agreed, we were always happy with eachother. he got to know my entire family, i met his family, we were really close basically, and obviously cared about eachother
earlier in december i broke up with him, not because i didnt love him, but he was doing a lot of things that really bothered me. i tried telling him, i wrote him notes, i said it to his face, i got his friends to talk to him. nothing worked, so i was left no choice but to break up with him.
it was a nasty break, even though i wanted to stay friends with him. theres some other stuff in the middle of this (he cut, smoked, some other forms of self harm, i tried to get him to stop...)

on the last day of school i opened my locker to find a bag of stuff i got him (birthday gift, 6 month gift, all the pictures of us, everything that symbolized us)

they were his things though so i tried to put them back in his locker but he purposely got his combo changed so i couldnt (he admitted to that)

that bag of stuff (besides leaving me in tears) started to make me realize how much i miss him..or what we had at least

and i cant tell if i want to get back together with him, or i just miss what we had.
because i cant picture myself with anyone else because i know it would never be like what i had with him

do i go back to him?

no ypu shouldnt go back to him cauz hes still the same guy who cuts, smoke, adn all the other stuff that u hate about him that made you break up with him in the first place. you only miss him right now since youre still in your emotional state cauz youve only reaciantly broken up with him but when you finsd someone else to make u happy youll forget about him.

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ive been talking to this guy for about a month. supposedly he has these deep crazy feelings for me, but im just not feelin it. great guy but yeah you know. anyway hes being WAY clingy and im seriously thinking hes just trying to get to me so he can get him some. how should one go about explaining to this person that while hes cool, he needs to LAY OFF and if hes in hopes of getting some, might as well just go pick someone else, without using those words? =]. i need a way to just kind of ease into to it and say it... but without being.. awkward??

well since he just aint listenin to ur polite explanations youre gonna have to be mean about it adn like totally cut him off if he stilldont understand that you aitn wantin a relationship wiht him.

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i really like this boy but he asked out my sister she said no but i dont know if he has changed his mind about her what do you think i should do i really like him alot

hello uve got ur answer already, ur sister said no which means she aint interested so go for it babe!

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Every time I seem to get "physical" with a guy,
I start to lose interest in the guy. It's like,
"Oh, well. We went all the way. There's nothing more
to do, and you're starting to bore me anyways."
I feel like one of those guys that uses girls,
but the weird thing is, I'm a girl!
Shouldn't I be the exact opposite of this?
Does anyone else feel the same way?
I mean, it's so annoying that I always lose interest
in someone after we get physical and I really don't want to!
Because how will I ever get married or anything?
Suggestions?

yes i am the same way and i agree with the previous answer that u probably didnt have any thing in common, adn all you wanted to do was get "physical" adn thats it. next time take it slow with a guy so you can find out if you like him or if your just interested in getting physical with him....

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my bf is starting to bore me. when ever we hang out or hold hands in the hallway he never says a word. i try to start a conversation and i feel like im talking to myself. also he has no experience bc im his first gf so my friends always tell him to put his arm around me and stuff. also i like the guy to make the first move. i no he might be shy but he doesn't do anything with me. im really not into him at all anymore and when ever he comes near me i think...great hes here now. he totally turning me off now. i like a lot of my guy friends more than i like him. how can i break up with him bc i don't want to hurt his feelings and i will feel really bad. thx in advance♥

go somewhere private so no one will overhear, and tell him that ur realationship isnt working out.

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i have a bf and we dont see each other much, but im seein him in another month. i want 2 go further with him, but not much. maybe like him feelin me up or somethin. but how can i make that happen w/out me sayin anythin at the time? how can i give a hint? other then puttin his hands on me. i just wanna go a little furthur then makin out (which i still duno wat 2 do w/ my toungue, so if u could help w/ that 2, that would be m-azing.) advice? thannnkx.

wel i cant really say im an expert, but they say i do it really good, maybe your stiff, so try movin your head side to side at times, and twirl your toungue with his, and stick out your tounue while he takes on his youngue and play with it, like snakes, its really fun and it can put you in the mood. i dont know, if this dosnt help, tell me, i might be able to help you better. while you guys are making out you could always feel up his leg, and that would give him the hint that youre wanting to move alitte bit further into yalls relationship.

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okay so, i dated this boy for about a year, after all that time, he started taking everything we had for granted and bragging about things that had happened, i had liked this other boy for a while and i found out he liked me and it pushed me to break up with my boyfriend, we dated for two weeks, he got drunk, and broke up with me through voicemail, after a week of crying and not knowing he was drunk when he had done this, he now tells my bestfriend that he regrets everything and started talking to me again, in the week or so we weren't talking, i started hanging out with my ex, and i still really like the other boy, but i don't know if i should trust him enough not to do the same thing again over the summer. help?

well.... since you dont trust either of them you
should hang out with both of them, take it slow.
if you cant make up ur mind about which guy you want, then neither one matters b/c if it's too hard to decide between the 2 of them then.. i guess you dont really like 1 more than the other!
hope this helps!! ;)

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