about

i'm melanie, call me melly ♥
i'm 18 years old & from long island
i go to University at Buffalo,im majoring in nursing and absolutely love it!

i have the big accent, the big smile and the even bigger heart :)


i love giving advice and helping people out, which is why i`m here. I also love getting feedback, it tells me if I did my job. =)


No question is stupid, ask away! ♥

....I might not always give you the answer you want to hear, but from me youll only hear the truth



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i did the cabbage diet, the original version from Poland, and i lost 7 pounds in 6 days. it's an unhealthy diet since you don't eat carbs, but you should only do it for 1 week at a time. And most people say its impossible to keep the weight off, but I prove them wrong.



advice

how do you say yes ?
and like
how does someone ask will you go out with me ?
wanna be my gf?
or what !?
helpppp

well, everyone asks wil you go out with me differently. The last time someone asked me out. it was after I said, "do you want anything to drink?", and he said, "no, but i`d like a date." and i started to laugh. IT was so funny, sometimes guys have stupid pickup lines, or others will straight out say, "do you wanna go out with me?", when you say yes, you just say, "yes", "sure i`ll go out with you!", its really not difficult.
hope i helped
xo

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15/m

what can i do with my girlfriend when we make out to make it a little more interesting?

please and thank you

you guys could play a game with a sour icebreaker. You have to try and get it out of eachothers mouths, or keep it away from eachother. It can get very steamy.
hope i helped
xo

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i dont like my boyfriend ((that i started going out with yesterday)) as more than a friend. i've figured that out. i always feel akward talking to him, and when i think about him at all, look at his screen name, or talk to him, my stomach hurts. that takes up a lot of time in my day. im not ready to break up with him. he LOVES me. i'd feel way too bad. i also feel like its too soon. but the feeling i get from him makes me feel nervous, and its a bad nerevous. help?

eek. I think you need to breakup with him, whether you feel bad or not. Put yourself in his shoes. Say he leans in to kiss you, but you don`t want to, and he says why? If you continue to date him, even though you don`t really like him, it`s kind of like you`re leading him on, or teasing him. I know you feel bad, i understand, but again, what if you were in his situation? You could go up to him and say, "Derek, I don`t think this is going to work. I don`t feel comftorable around you and I dont think that`s going to change."
and then if you want you can say, "but we can still be friends."
=)
hope i helped
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what is the difference between holding hands with your fingers laced or just with the two hands cuffed together. does it mean something different if a guy holds your hand in one way or the other?

and does hugging from behind mean a guy likes you? when do you know a guy wants to kiss you?
thanx everyone i really need to know soon hahaha. =)

"and does hugging from behind mean a guy likes you?"
this is a very general statement, and there really isn`t an answer.
Usually when a guy wants to kiss you, he will constantly look from your eyes to your lips, about like every 2 seconds. It really depends. And honestly i dont believe there is a difference with how you hold hands.
hope i helped
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theres this guy in like almost all of my classes. He flirts with me a lot and teases me, (lol i seriousely just noticed that today) but you see he has a girlfriend. So why would he be flirting with me and giving me all of this attention?? I would just like to know why? Or a better question is why do guys do that even when they know they have someone already?

Because guys are horny basturds. haha, sorry that made me laugh. But sadly, its true. You can flirt back if you`d like, but don`t take it seriously. He shouldn`t be doing this if he has a girlfriend, obviously he`s unloyal and not worth your time, unless you just want a boytoy.
hope i helped
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I know this is a kind of personal question, but I've always kind of wondered what girls think when a guy gets a hard-on dancing with them. So basically, I only want girls to answer this question. Do you like it? Does it freak you out? Is it more of a compliment or is it offensive? Basically, just tell me what you think about when you feel a guy get hard when he's grinding with you, etc. thanks.

Personally, I really don't mind, because I know it's something guys can't really control. If a guy gets hard while dancing, I just act cool about it and pretend not to notice, because usually the guy is embarassed about it, and I don't want to make him feel worse. I like it when a guy gets turned on by me, it makes me feel good. If your in a situation where the guy gets hard and you feel uncomftorable, then just tell him your really hot and you needa drink and you'll be right back.
hope i helped
xo

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16/f
I really like this guy [hes 18]. All of my friends including him know i like him. He stays at my house alot cause he is my sister's good friend. And all my friends are always like 'did you make a move' and im like no, because i dont really know how to make a move..like what should i do? Im use to them making the moves, and im not sure he likes me like that so he wont.

thankss.

Well when your sister is not in the room, you could try the nervous game on him and see how it goes. If you don't know, the nervous game is when you place your hand on his chest or some other part of the body and ask him ar you nervous? Then slowly move to his crotch area, get closer slowly, and continously ask him are you nervous each time you stop and get closer. If he say's yes, well, he's not a good player.
hope i helped
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ok sooooo i asked out that girl alex and she said yes right away im sooo fucking happy but i still wonder did i do the right thing??? i mean sure a am very happy but is wat i did going to cause eney kind of problems oh i just dnt no if i did the right thing just something in my gutt.
help please!!

calm down you lucky kid.
you striked up the guts to ask a girl out and she said yes. congrtulations! not mant guys have those kind of balls.
She said yes when she could've turned you down.
There's nothing to fuss about. It seems like your just nervous. Don't sweat it kid, just be yourself. i'm sure she'll like the real you.
hope i helped
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okay so last year i was like pretty popular with a bunch of friends. and this one girl, lets call her layne, we were like best friends. She would steal my sayings and my ideas and use them as her own. Shes a MEAN GIRL..mainly REGINA GEORGE. b/c if she knows you like someone & she likes him too, she gets him ALWAYS. She does this thing..its called flirting...and i cant do that. I've tried to hard to understand & ive tried it, but boys just like her the most. ANYYWAY

This year i only have two good friends. Compare that to last year. Last year everyone wanted to be around me and stuff. YOU KNOW?

is there any advice that helps me get better friends or anything? I want to be fun to be around and i want to have people who want to be around me.

think about this:

a wise man once told me,
"if you can count all your true friends on one hand, you are truly blessed, if you need two hands, you're lying to yourself."

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13 going on 14/f

kay, im pretty sure that some of ya`ll had read my enteries about him lately .. my bestfriend i fell for him .. he likes my bestfriend and my bestfriend likes him back also.. so i had let her have him, yeah okay .. so on w/ the story. i like this guy a whole lot.. and my bestfriend my "twinnie" cause we have so much in common & we're so much alike that's why we call ourselves twinnies.. so then yeahh my twinnie knows that i like him too .. but then each day when i talk to her, it seems like she cares less and less everyday.. she says that shes taking risks to be w/ him .. including losing her friends except for me.. but she doesn't know how much this is hurting me.. js thinking about it makes me wanna cry about it. i've waited for him for so long .. and i keep saying to myself that their my bestfriends & that i should be happy for them and maybe in the future i can have a chance but yet mine & his friendship is too good, cause he basically tells me EVERY SINGLE THING. and i dont wanna lose that either.. its kinda hard to explain.. but i hope yall know what i meann, because he doesn't know that i like him .. and i don't really want to tell him that i do either, because yannoe .. its kinda gonna be awkward.. for us .. because i know that he likes my twinnie and he talks about her to me on the phone EVERY NIGHT .. yess that's how close we are. I can't really take it anymore .. i wanna let go of him .. but then i cant because i promised him that ill always hold on to his hand no matter what. Help me & please give me some advice.. i've been through this for too long, i can't take it anymore. i want to move on but i cant, because i don't want to leave him... he wants me by his side =T i even pray & wish at 11:11 >.

Communication is the key here.
Your "twinnie" is actually willing to sacrifice some of her friends for one guy? That's not too bright. A wise person once told me, Chicks before dicks. You need to talk with her. Friends are forever, she won't be with that one guy forever. Expecially since she's 13/14 years old. Tell her EXACTLY how you feel. If she's your best friend and you can truly tell her everything, then she will most likely listen and be willing to do something about it. In order to save your friendship with her, BOTH of you need to stop going for this 1 guy. There are a couple hundred million guys in the world, and i'm sure you'll find at least one to suit you. Plus your only 13, wait till you get to highschool. Theres a bigger variety of cute guys to choose from. You also need to tell this guy how your feeling. I know it'll be tough and hard for you to admit it to him, but better out than in. And when your on the phone with him and he starts to tell you about which girls he likes, then just simply tell him that you feel uncomftorable talking to him about that stuff.If you need anything else, just pop one in the inbox. Good Luck!
hope i helped
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What are some cute little things i can do for my boyfriend. We've only been dating about 3 months, so its nothing THAT serious..but i want us to last..

Any cute things i can do? like notes in his locker and stuff like that?

Thanks a bunch!

Notes in his locker is extremley cute. Slip it into the locker and i'm sure he'll be happy to see something from you. Or if your at his locker with him, you can slip a cute little note into his lunch. Just don't over do it, it will, most likely freak him out if you do.
hope i helped
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dear reader,
i am 14 old boy. there is this girl that i asked to be my gf and its already been about 2 weeks and i still didnt get my answer. every time i call her up she says shes busy and cant talk. i think shes trying to avoid me also. what should i do?

rafol boy

confront her in person.
if you can't do that, then i'm starting to think the answer is no.if it takes a girl two weeks to give you an answer and she's also avoiding you, then most likely the answer is no. she probably doesn't want to say it to your face because she knows she'll hurt your feelings. but props to you for striking up the courage to ask a girl out. most guys are afraid they'll be turned down which sometimes happens. but there are only about a couple of million more girls in the world to choose from.
hope i helped
xo

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okay so here's my probelm,,me and my bf have been together for a year and a half, and i really care aobut him , but there's times when im like all excited to see him and really happy about it and sure i love him, but there's times i don't even know what to think about it , i think that it might be cause im on christmas brake and have been hanging out with him more than with my friends and i don't do much things around the house just see him and when im with him i really feel i love him! but when he's gone, i just spend time watching tv or in the computer , and i start wondering things like if i really love him if i want to be with him :S im sooo confuse :S

i think it is cause when i don't go out with no one but him , and i'm just sleeping watching tv and computer all day i think about stupid things , it's these one of those?? cause when i have a very busy week or a week when i go out a lot with friends and him and im just too busy i'm like totally in love with him and wanna see him talk to him every second, i don't know what to think about it ...i don't wanna talk to him about this cause he might think i don't care about us anymore wich i think i really do cause when i'm with him i really like it , or how would i know i like him as a boyfriend and not just as a friend :S im sooo confuse he's really nice and really loves me a lot! and do a lot of things for me but i don't know what's wrong with me!!

good news! nothings wrong with you.
great news! there is no bad news
I'm going through the same exact thing. except he's not my boyfriend. after I don't see him for a month, my likeness for him goes away, and I only like him as a friend. but when I see him, all my feelings of likeness for him rush back and I want to be with him every second. It's normal to think about your relationship with him no matter what. Also your period could be affecting your feelings. During different weeks after your period youre hormone levels are still unstable and sometimes they're soaring, sometimes hitting rock bottom. Don't worry about it.
hope i helped
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I am VERY single, and would rather not be. I am interested in this guy, but I think that he is more interested in my sister. Do you think that I should let him know how I feel? What is he going to think? And how should I bring up the subject? Please, I need help.

Jenn

i think you should tell him how you feel, you never know if he likes you back. Who knows what he thinks, isn't that why you're going to tell him? You should bring it up by saying, hey whats up and how are you first, and then slowly come to say, "I've been crushing on you lately, and i just wanted to know if you feel the same way." be yourslef, and dont get disappointed if you get turned down, theres millions of more guys out there. good luck sweety, hope i helped
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I have only been dating this guy for two weeks
i rlly like him
i have already kissed him and i have never done that before this soon anyway
we already tell each other i love you and all this
some of my freinds say im falling to hard to fast
what should i do ?
do you think it is true?

i highly doubt your falling in love, love is such an abused word these days. 2 weeks, and your already telling him you love him? i truly don't believe it. i think you should rethink about saying i love you again to him, you guys might be sending eachother mixed messages.
hope i helped
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My boyfriend doesn't like that Im on Myspace because alot of people message me from all over and he doesnt want guys I used to talk to reconnecting with me through Myspace! Is he being reasonable or unreasonable?

he's being unreasonable and over protective. being in a relationship with someone usually includes trust. he should trust you that you're not doing anything behind his back.
hope i helped
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which part of a guy physically do you like the most.....eyes? abs? arm muscles? cheekbones? hair? lips?

thanks for reading

the smile and eyes
abs wouldnt hurt either
hope i helped
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i've been going out with my boyfriend for almost a year now (a year on the 1st of january) and i love him to death. we broke up for a few weeks before the summer, & he was talking to another girl. once i found out about that, i felt this sudden urge to cheat on him. well maybe it was just because i knew someone was around to cheat on him with. but whatever. one day after school i had this boy ben* come over. ben* is basically a major player, & i didnt know that when i met him.. anyways, this was the 1st time me & ben even talked outside of school & he ended up having sex with me. my boyfriend called my cell phone right after he left & i felt SO guilty. my relationship got back on track with my boyfriend.. & 5 months later, i called up ben & hung out with him again.. and cheated on my boyfriend again. this time it was because he wasn't paying enough attention to me. and here comes the worst part. i hung out wiht my friend carlene & her boyfriend dan the other night.. and dans 21 year old cousin kyle came with us. i ended up on top of him making out wiht him (is that illegal!? i`m only 15)..me & my boyfriend have sex without a condom because we trust eachother & i`m on birth control. i found out a month ago that i have recieved HPV from ben* and now my boyfriend also has it from me. i need to break this habit .. i may not have the best boyfriend.. but i do love him.. & i can't use cheating to get back at him when he upsets me. its just not fair.. & i realize that.. but i need to control myself.

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you got yourself in a pretty sticky situation. If you really loved your boyfriend, you wouldn't have cheated on him. you can't keep doing what you're doing. either dump your boyfriend all together, or tell him EVERYTHING. dont leave something out because you think it makes it sound worse. Put yourself in your boyfriends position. what you're doing isn't fair, nor right.
you didn't even really ask a question...
i gave you my advice. tell him, and if he really loved you, you would forgive him. i don't care if you rated me a 1, i gave my advice.
hope i helped
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15/f
K, well I've liked this guy named Jeremy for about a year and a half now. We are really good friends, but nothing happened between us at all for about a year because he had a girlfriend. I noticed a change right away in our relationship once he broke up with his girlfriend. He flirted with me a lot more, and just gave me more attention.

Anyways, at the beginning of the year, I told him I liked him and he told me he liked me back and thought I was cute. Well, that same weekend he went and made out with 2 girls. Ever since then, he's been known as this big partier. I have gone to a couple of parties with him, and I know that he just wasn't in the mindset for a serious relationship.

Then, as we got even closer in the last few weeks, he told me that he was ready for a gf and that he wanted to hook up with me in my hot tub this weekend. Now, I've always imagined making out with him so of course I was all ready to say yes.

But now, I wonder ... he might just be leading me on again, and telling me he wants a relationship so that I am more willing to fool around with him. I don't want to just be his make out buddy. So -- what do I do? Do I risk being used and just have fun this weekend, or do I tell him that's not such a good idea?

tell him everything you just told us. Tell him that you think he's just leading you on so he can do more with you. If you don't want to be just his make-out buddy, tell him that. If you want to take the risk of possibly being hurt, then make out with him and fool around this weeked. But if you want to have fun and not have your heart broken, talk to him.
communication is key.
hope i helped
xo
your damn lucky you have a hot tub...

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hey im 13 and asked dis girl out b4 she said no i really lyk her should i ask her again or keep being frends

if a girl said no the first time you asked her, then i highly doubt she'll say yes the second time. if i was her and you asked me out and i said no, and then you asked me a second time i'd be annoyed at you, so i wouldn't ask her again. you guys should just remain friends and maybe in a year you could ask her out again, or over the summer, but no sooner than that. unless she flirts with you and shows you she likes you.
but i do give you credit for having the courage to ask her out.
hope i helped
xo

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