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Hi, this is Kate and Kayla.
This column is here to help you with your boy,girl, and anything else problems. Get advice from teens like you that have been there. We are pretty good at giving advice! Hope we helped!
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even if it's a sad smile
cuz wats even sadder
than a sad smile is
not smilin at all :)

Part of bein a champ is actin like a champ You have to learn how to win and not run away when u lose


I'm twisted cuz one side of me is tellin me to move on on the other side I wanna break down and cry!


Crushes only crush you,
Falling only hurts you,
Hearts will only break you,
If there is no love to save you.


Many people will walk in
and out of your life,
but only true friends will leave
footprints in your heart.

Love is strong yet delicate.
It can be broken.
To truly love is to understand this.
To be in love is to respect this.

There's always that one person who will always have your heart.

advice

hey people..lol..how do you let a guy know that you like him and that you want to go out with him..without saying "i like you"???

DeeMocha

Flirt,flirt flirt! Lol. Let him know you are interested and be really nice 2 him! Hope I helped!
Oxkatekaylaxo

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Ok, everyone and I mean EVERYONE says my b/f is bi. I don't really feel 'comfertable' going out with a bi person. My friends and other people like never shut up about it and it's really annoying. What should I do??

TALK TO YOUR BOYFRIEND. Tell him you deserve to know if he is bi. If you don't feel comfortable even if he swears he isn't bi, then just be his good friend. Hope I helped!
~oxkatekaylaxo

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Ok, yes I'm the same person that's been writing the rumor questions. My boyfriend isn't coming to school the last few days and I can't get ahold of him on the phone, so I decided I wanted this advice now. Today me and my best friend were walking around the school and we started talking to one of my boyfriend's friends. My friend had her cell phone and said that I should call my b/f. And his friend said, "he's half gay." And we asked how he knew. And he said "cause he told us." Do you think this is reason to believe he is bi? And if it is what should I do? I mean as long as he loves me it doesn't really matter much, but still...it's wierd!

Well, it depends on who that friend is. Are they someone trustworthy? Do they lie alot or like to joke around? Most guys like to joke and might want you to fall for it. Don't assume anything until you to your boyfriend. Tell him you don't care, you'll love him anyways but you have a right to know. Hope I helped!
~oxkatekaylaxo

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My bf and I are 8 weeks into our relationship, things are good I guess except... I kinda feel like something's wrong.. Even though it shouldn't be :( I guess the best way to put this is, ever since we started going out nothings changed! We're still like friends...just who now make out and spend weekends together. And it's abit uncomfortable for me.. for some reason... don't get me wrong I like my guy alot but it feels strange because I still see him as one of my friends I guess... like the first time he started kissing me I pulled away because it felt weird and he mistook it that I wasn't comfortable with kissing lol... he told me he'd lay off until I was more ready! He doesn't know how I feel, I guess I'm afraid to say it.. it sounds like the start of a breakup afterall! And well.. I'm not exactly feeling a spark for him either, I find his personality cute, even adorable! but he isn't exactly attractive looking to me, I know that's mean to say.. but I just don't feel any spark there.. this kinda bothers me I guess.. but I still like him! I am messed up? What do you think I should do? I'm going to try and talk to him about it when I see him but what sort of things should I say? I really dont wanna hurt his feelings with what I say, do you think this will end in a break up?? :(
Please help! i'm 16

Well, I would start off with trying to tell him how you feel. From the way you put it I would guess that you two were meant to be really, really good good friend-but that's it. If you don't fell comfortable around him it is pretty safe to say you don't really like him "like that". Just ask yourself what you would tell someone else to do. Hope I helped!
~oxkatekaylaxo

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ok, I'm supposed to ask this really hutt guy out tomorrow and i dunno how!! All my friends are like "write a note, tell him directly" but im too scared to give him the note because he'll show it to other people and im waaaaayy to shy to ask him directly. so how should i ask him out? and trust me, i need to ask him out tomorrow. i really wanna be his girlfriend!!!! hellllllppp!!

i rate 5's for good answers.

I know EXACTLY the situation you are in! It has happened to me a few times. Well, the first time I asked a guy out I wrote him this note thing (one of those that say push on the front and then they open it and there are two choices) and i said do you like kate (yes and the other was no) then on the next part it said will you go out with her (yes or no) and so then I told him how i felt. HOWEVER he was a really good friend of mine and this may be too corny to do if they are not a close friend. Maybe talk to him online , but the only thing about that is that someone else may be using his SN. Your best bet would be a note or having a friend of either yours or his ask him for you. If you are friends with one of his friends it might be a good idea to have them ask him for you and help to persuade him to go out with you. Hope i helped!
~oxkatekaylaxo

Ps. tell me how it turns out!

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hey well i am having a problem. okay i dated this guy for four months and i really fell in love with him. at first it was great he was sweet but then we started having problemslike arguing and we would just fuss all the time well that was about last semester of school. this is our second semester anyways his name was andrew and i found out that he had some problems like mental. and i kept breaking up and going back with him on and off. well we broke up feb. 2 of this year and i then started dating this other guy for almost three months. i fell in love with him and he was the second person i ever loved, but andrew was the first. when andrew found out about me and jeremy he started making threats to him and saying all this stuff. well then i finally told andrew to stop and let me live my life. okay me and jeremy have been broke up for a month and a few days. i then have dated this guy michael whom i with now, well i dont care to much for him like everybody thinks. then today andrew's Best Friend who has grown up together came up to me and told me about andrew wanting me back i thought i was for sure over him but when he told me that all these feelings have come back and i am so confused on what to do. my friends say call him and see if he changed and the question is should i call him? and see if it is true? or should i write him well i am writing him now well plz help nikki

Wow. I am sorry you are in such a tough spot. DO what ever you think is best for YOU. Your friends can sometimes know you better than you know yourself (my friends have proven that) but the major decision is up to you. If you still like him, then give him a chance. If you do decide to go out with andrew again, break up with michael and give it a little bit of time. That way you can smooth things over between you and michael while you decide what you want to do about Andrew. Hope I helped!
~oxkatekaylaxo

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female 16... (the guy is 16 also)
The guy i like is really shy about girls, hes never had a gf before, and we are really good friends. ive liked him a long time, and i figured it was just time to tell him. I guess he really had no clue.. yesterday i talk to him alone after school, and said you know i like you and he was silent scuffing his feet and half smiling and he said THANK YOU.. tell me what is that suppose to mean? thank yOU!? and then he said wow this really caught me off guard i i.. and his friend walked by and siad lets go, i need a ride home, so hes said well i guess ill talk to you later and left...do you think maybe he jsut didnt know what to say, usually he'd say oh well lets jsut be friend or somthing like that but he said thank you, and its such a neutral comment... plus most people i know think he likes me.. so do you think maybe he was jsut caught off guard and didnt know what to say or what?

Well, thanks is a very neutral comment, but it is probably a good thing. It most likely means that he is flattered by what you told him. Hopefully your "friend" (wink, wink) will tell you,soon,what that meant. I would say just realize that this could be good or bad. Don't get your hopes up, but at the same time, don't think that it is a definate no. PLease write back and tell me how it turns out! Thank you for asking!!!
~oxkatekaylaxo

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well here it goes. might be long.. well me and my boyfriend have been goin out for a year.. and i hve noticed now that i am losing alot of my friends over him :-/ bc it seems like he is all i ever have time for and the only person i am ever with. i miss all my friends alot and i dont kno what to do.. i love him alot and we hve been goin out alot.. but sometimes friends r more important but, i never get to spend any time with them... or as much as i would like.. seems like im not invited many places as i used to be and my friends jus dont hve much interest in me bc im jus the girl with a boyfriend thats no longer fun. i dont kno what to do bc i kno it would be hard to break it off.. but jus sometimes with him is jus not the best and it seems like everything i do makes him mad but i cant get mad at him. dont get me wrong we do hve some great times together but i think we might jus need to go our seperate ways but every other time i hve tried breakin up i ended up wantin him back soo bad! and i jus dont kno what to do.. please give me some help and maybe leave a sn so i can contact you

signed::
xox lover OR friends?

Well, try being a lover and a friend. It will be hard, but you can do it. Tell your b/f that you two should take a break for a while, and get used to life without him. Never lose your friends over a guy- it's just not worth it. If you find that you can finally get along without your man, tell him how you feel. Even if you can't, you should still tell him and if he doesn't accept it and can't realize that you need your friends too, then you should DEFINATELY break it off. He can't control your life. You are too good for him. Hope I helped!
~oxkatekaylaxo

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Hey1 I've been with my boyfriend for a bout 4 months now and his birthday is coming up. I don't have much cash, but I want to get him a gift he'll love. Does anyone have ideas of gifts or nice plances to get a boyfriend a gift?

If he likes sports, maybe you could get him a sports cap or shirt. Maybe a nice chain. Or, you could take him out to dinner to a resturant!
Hope I helped!

~xokateKaylaox

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ok i like this guy ALOT and were going out but my friend also likes him and shes not talking to me because im going out with him but she also told me over and over again go out with him he really likes you and i kept telling her no no because of you and he told her before we were going out that he didnt like her he liked me so now im going out with him and i dont know wbout my friend...

i need help!

I think your friend isn't a true friend. If she really was, then she wouldn't care if you were going out the the guy she likes. I mean she told you that you should go out with him and so you are... There is nothing wrong with that. You should remind her that she was the one who told you should go out with him. She has no reason to be mad at u. I hope i helped!
~oxkatekaylaxo

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For the last few days a bunch of boys in my class have been looking at me funny. At first I thought that I mite have had somthing weird on my face or maybe my outfir looked redicules to them. Then they all started talking to me. Not at once, but boys would come up to me all threw out the day and talk to me. This one boy even said that his best friend (one of the boys who wouldn't leave me alone) had a crush on me. I didn't belive him. Another one, was always trying to make me laugh, anouther one was always starring at me. The boy I have a crush on is really cool and always talking to me too. I can tell he has a crush on me. I think all the other boys have crushes on, and it really freaks me out!!!!!! A bunch of girls have been giving me the cold shoulder, or being really mean. My crush is my best friend too, and we are always together, some stupid boy calls us the love birds. I really don't know what to do. Should I just stay away from all boys in general.

NO NO NO! lol. I would die for a chance like that. Just be friendly towards all those boys who like you (let them down gently) As for the boy you like, I tend to like my friends as well. Tell him how you feel and if he likes you back, maybe you two can plan a date. Boys are wierd like that- when their friend likes a girl, they start to like them too. Hope I helped!!!
~oxkatekaylaxo

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there is this guy and i have liked him for 2 years now. We went out last summer but the day before school started back we broke up. My dad found out some stuff we did and talked to josh and told him not to talk to me ever again. josh has a girlfriend now but i still want him so bad. My dad told me the other day i could talk to josh again. And i really want to but we havent talked in so long and i dont know what to say. I dont even know if he wants to talk to me anymore. Any ideas on what to do? i'll rate high for answers!!!

Try calling Josh and telling him how you feel. you never know, he may feel the same way for you. Even if he doesn't break it off with his g/f, you two could still become good freidns, so at least you will get to see him. Hope i helped!!!
~oxkatekaylaxo

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Ok, I've been seeing this guy for almost 4 years (I know, quite a long time!) I met him at uni and now I am in my final year at uni and he is working miles away. We have never been apart like this before as we were always together at uni.
I have mixed feelings about how much longer I want the relationship to go on for. Whenever we speak on the phone he says something stupid or puts me in a bad mood and makes me unhappy.
I feel I want some time to be young free and single especially as I have been witht the same guy for such a long time. Surely these signs mean it won't last??
Also, I went for dinner with some friends of my flatmate and I met this guy who I found really attractive.
I would never ever cheat on my boyfriend but why am I thinking of this other guy all the time when I should be thinking about my boyfriend?
We all went out last night to a club and he was there. He walked me home. Nothing happened but it was so nice to have some attention from someone else and for some reason he made me feel more wanted than my boyfriend does.
Help!! I am so frustrated I don't know what to do! Even if anything did happen, this guy goes back to Australia at the end of May.
Thank you so much if u do reply - i really appreciate it and will give you all 5's! x

Tell your boyfriend that you think the two of you should take a break. If you find that you are happeir without him, then there you go. Have fun with this new guy until may. You never know, you may find a way to stay together, and even if you don't you can still write each other and stay good friends. Sounds like you are too good for your other boyfriend anyways.
Hope i helped!!!
~oxkatekaylaxo

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I have no clue what to get my boyfriend for his birthday, he likes sports, and xbox games, I dont know if he would like jewelry. Can anyone please help me?

Gte him tickets to a game or something you KNOW he would like. Go with your instinct on this one-you know him and no matter what you get him, he should still love it because you gave it to him.

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Hi my name is aaron. i used to have alot of friends most were girls and lots of girlfriends. But now none of them relly pay attention to me do any girls know what i can do to get them to like me...i have hered about ignoring them

Girls are attracted to guys in many ways(trust me, i know) Try being very friendly. Once you are good friends with a girl, you have a greater chance of them liking you. Talk to them about common interests, like sports. Don't ignore a girl-it makes them think that you are rude. But don't play EASY to get-that will turn them off. You know a girl is flirting with you when
-They laugh at all your jokes(even the ones that aren't funny
-they always smile, not just to be friendly
-They are shy or joking around you
~oxkatekaylaxo

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I met a wonderful man one month ago. We were dating happily for 2 weeks when all of a sudden his ex-girlfriend now wants him back. They have 2 children together. He is now not sure what to do, he doesn't think she will ever commit, but he thinks he needs to try for the kids. He phones me every night and at the moment we are just friends. Do you think I stand a chance at keeping this man, and any advice on how I can keep him. Do you think I should be bold and tell him that I want him and that I would be the best thing for him ? He does really like me.

Well, he shouldn't let an ex hold him back. Tell your boyfriend or "friend" that he has a responsability towards his children, but not his now ex-girlfriend. If she is not going to commit, it is not fair that he should. Try to get to know his ex and ask him to bring the children by every once in a while, spending some quality time with them. He should think about paying social security to his ex and the kids, to help support them. Tell him how you feel!!!
~oxkatekaylaxo

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Ok. There us this guy named Josh. We have had plans to go out after my best friend had broken up with him (for the 50th time). We wanted to wait a while so she wouldnt get mad and so she would get over him. Well it turns out she isnt over him and hes not over her, but he still likes me. So i see him flirt with her all the time, and it really hurts. I know he still likes me because we always flirt together all the time. But i just dont know what to do. I don't think he can choose between me or her. I REALLY like him. But i dont want my best friend to hate me. And i am affraid that if she goes out with him again i will be really hurt and depressed, i have a funny feeling i wont want to hang out with her anymore. PLease help! I dont want to loose my best man or my best friend!!

Tell your best friend how you feel. It is not right for her to keep breaking it off, each time taking a peice of your heart with him. If she still doesn't understand or gets angry, you may want to hang out with some of your other friends for a while, until she realizes that boys aren't worth losing a friendship. When a boy is undecided between two girls, they usually see different qualities in both of those girls. Be flattered that he likes you, but find someone else to crush on. If he can't pick between you, then he is not worth it.
~oxkatekaylaxo

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This morning my boyfriend is being a major jerk. I don't know why, but it's like he doesn't even care how I feel today. I wish he would just talk to me. I am trying to send him hints, but it's not working! How can I get his attention?

It sounds like your boyfriend is having a bad day. Tell him how you feel, and if he is still acting like a jerk, give him some space and time to cool off. If he continues acting like this, you might want to take a 'TIME-OUT" in your relationship.
~oxkatekaylaxo

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