My name is Melissa and im 16 years old. I'm a junior in high school in a pretty small town..i love hangin with my friends and i lovvve helping people/giving advice. I was a member on here from july 04 and then when everything with site got all messed up I was forced to make a new account :( Ive been giving advice for a very long time on this site..my old user name was icey0990. I'm into sports like softball and tennis...i play on the school teams for that...i also like to play bball,swim,go walking in the woods for fun..i lovve waterfalls.. i have my own right near my house :) Ask me anything and dont be shy!
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me and my ex boyfriend have gone out twice and the last time i dumped him because i thought he was flirting with other girls cause he was calling them "sexy" and stuff but thats a whole different story but now hes leaving me comments saying "hey sexy i miss you" and stuff like that and hes leaving me compliments but hes saying the same stuff to other girls, the thing is though hes only talking to those other girls cause he wants to "get some" and he knows hes not going to get anything from me, he says he likes me still and he misses me but i dont get it if he likes me and i know he really does like me then why would he flirt with all these other girls? someone wanna fill me in? (link)
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I he really wanted YOU he would be trying to get you back...he would be showing you he really cares..nottt flirting around with all the other girls he sees...what you said is coreect : he just wants to get some. he doesnt sound like hes all that great..you desserve better!
-meliss
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i met a kid from another town & he is so cute & nice & i just had such a good time with him. he asked me to hang out again & i said yes...which will be fun. except this kid has had girlfriends before, i have never had a boy friend since 7th grade (i'm in 11th). if he tries to kiss me i will have no idea what to do! people say it will just come naturally but what if he thinks i'm a bad kisser? HOW DO YOU KISS? and should i tell him i have never kissed anyone before?! (link)
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No..you dont have to say anything. You should go with the flow and relaaax definately. Kissing comes natural..look i have told this to many of my friends who have never kissed before.and after their first kiss they would always come back to me and say "you know what melissa? you were right." So trust when everyone says its natural. when the right moment comes..eith you or him slowly move in for the kiss..and as long as you dont slobber all over or shove ur tongue down his throat all wild and nasty..you will be wonderful. if your reallly concerned go to google and look up tips
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i heard a lot of people talking about how the first sign a relationship is going to end or when its going bad is when the guy er girl says "theyre too tired" er "rather sleep" then talk/hang out with you. it seemed kind've ridiculous to me, but i was wondering what other people thought.
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everyone gets tired sometimes..maybe from school or other stress..so if your bf/gf is tired once in awhile and needs some time to catch up..thats fine..i mean your not a robot and you cant be all I LOVE U I LOVE u if your feeling really tired and you just wana crash for a little bit. this doesnt mean the person doesnt love the other..it just means they need some time to rest up. if it becomes a habit..then i would be concerned
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Me and my boyfriend of two years just broke up. I don't know what to do anymore. I feel really depressed. And it feels impossible to get over him because we planned everything. Plus I have depression on top of that and he was truly the only best friend and soulmate I ever had. He was the one who broke it off because he's suddenly not ready for a relationship.
How do you get over someone for that long?
And I am homeschooled, so I can't keep very busy and I don't have too many friends to help me cope with this because I left my public school and won't be going back. I will rate, thanks. (link)
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"it is better to have loved and lost..than to have never loved at all"
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I love knowing that my boyfriend is caring and trusting but I can't help but feel like I need to watch him. I know he likes me and doesn't want to be with anyone else, but I can help checking the comments he gets from other girls on Myspace or how he looks at other girls. I know its pretty normal for any girl to do that. When he doesn't message me (when he's online) I get nervous that he thinks I'm insane or something. Yet I know that he probably isn't paying attention to the screen, is busy, etc. I've never been like this with any of my other boyfriends and he makes me nervous/intimidated, (In a good way) because he's exactly the type of guy I've always wanted. I just don't want to lose him but I know inside he likes me a lot. How can I deal with these somewhat jealous feelings I get when he talks with other girls and understand he likes me not them? Sorry if that sounded conceited, I'll rate. (link)
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heyy i know what you mean! girls leave my bf tons of picture comments about his beautiful blue eyes..but you cant et too upset over it because hes with you! he could easily have the other girls who call him hot or whatever..but hes with you ! jealousy is a normal feeling..i think what you should do is open up communication more with him..if me or my bf gets a lil jealous we talk to each other about it..sometimes a little reassurance from him is all you need..like you might be together watching a movie at your house..bring up the subject maybe..and i guarentee you he will pull you tighter and let you know how much he cares for you and rtheres no reason to be upset..reassurance from himm will help a lot more than reassurance from us
:) hope i helped out
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I am so upset with a psychic reading that I had today. I paid a lot of money- 80 dollars for the reading and it was done over the phone. I only did it because my mother said she's been going to this guy for the last 15 years and that he was very good- and his other testimonials on his website looked promising. Well I asked him if I would end up with the guy that I love- I've been friends with him for a long time. He was really negative and said he did NOT love me- that he thought of me as a fantasy and not reality and he would never commit to me. He told me to cut off contact with him forever- and not to tell him I'm cutting off contact with him or else he'll do anything to be my friend again. I was almost in tears because I feel in my heart that he does love me but is shy. I don't want to cut off all contact with him I think this psychic is nuts. But my mother said how good he is- what should I do? I am so upset! (link)
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dont let this get to you at all..you cant live life doing what some phycic tells you..live life for ourself..follow your heart..you might make mistakes on the way but we are only human..live life to the fullest wih no regrets..pretend you never went to that dumb reading and follow your heart! :)
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what are some cute flirty things that cna do with my boyfriend. like mess with him and still have fun and not get him mad. like he likes to mess with my fingers and put them in his mouth and etc. what are somethings i can do .. an ideas would be appericated.
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little playfighting is cute
so is tickling..hehe me and my bf would tickle each other like crazy and laugh a lott..then eventualy we would settle down and cuddle up in each others arms :)
stroke his hair
my bf absolutely lovvvves backscratches..lol so try that maybe
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hi , im a guy im 16 , i live in winnipeg manitoba. theres this girl at school ive known for about 2 months, through a girl i new i met her. she introduced us , we just said hi in halls for the first cuple weeks. after that second semester started and we were in a few clases together , im in grade 11, so's she , shes 16 too. i knew she had a boyfriend since i met her. i started talking to her alot , i mean alot, im honestly on the fone with her now. we talk alllll the time , hours on the fone every nite, she talks to her boyfriend a couple times a day. she lives just outside the city , 15 minutes away, her boyfriend has gone out with her for 10 and a half months, shes not a virgin at all , they dont have sex tho he wont have sex with her. he says they dont need a physical relationship, she wants sex tho. i no everything about this girl, she nows evrythin bout me too, i want her to be happy, but i want to be with her, she wants ta sleep wit me cuz shes sexdeprived, i want ta be with her. she seems happy with him but says shes not really, nd he treats her like crap, i hope ur still reading, im sry its long, i need advice badly, were almost best friends, i want them to break up but her to still be happy , and always be happy, wat should i do? (link)
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All you can do is let the girl know where you stand..that you think she can do better and how you have feelings for her. Other than that..its all in her hands. You cant makkkke her break up with him..she has to break up on him on her own..and if your pushing too hard for them to breakup..it might get around and people dont like when someone is trying to break people up and you might get some people pretty mad at you
hopefully she will come around though
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his guy I like wants me to suck his you know what. He has had a lot of girlfriends and he's really cute and I do like him and everything. Would it be bad if I did it? (link)
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Think of it this way:
the guy does not like you back ..im sorry but he doesnt :(
if he did he would not be asking you to suck his "you know what." Instead he would want to hang out with you,cal you on the phone,talk with you, get to know you. But all this guy wants is some action. You doing this for him will NOT make him like you in the bf/gf way..you doing it might make him feel good..but it wont make him want to date you. Dont fall into the trap of doing something just so the guy will like you..it doesnt work that way
I wouldnt do it..but hey its your life *im not being sarcastic either* Seriously..its your choice. If you want to go ahead with it go for it..but dont expect him to start to like you...he just wants ass.
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Sorry its long, but I need help. So, I'm 15, and I have a boyfriend, "George". And he isn't the type to get jealous. But I flirt with other guys. And I don't feel bad about it, and shouldn't I? Also, yesterday I almost kissed this guy "Miles", and I wanted to kiss him. And besides all that I like this other guy "Ryan". So now, when I'm around "George" I'm really quiet and not myself, cause I'm thinking about "Ryan". I don't know what to do. Is this normal even? What should I do? (link)
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Definately think about breaking up with him.Right now a relationship doesnt seem right for you..almost kissing this one..having felings for that one..its not right to any bf/gf no matter if they are the jealous type or not. Nothign gets me madder than seeing someone who is in a relationship getting reallly flirty like that...the whole liking others,almost kissing others, sitting in others laps,talking flirty to them, the list goes on
my advice..think if you were in your bfs position. its not right is it? i would break up with him .
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I'm in 10th grade, and I have a crush on a shy guy. He tends to talk to me when no one is around and occasionally, he'll give me a little play punch. He'll also make fun of me; not in a mean way, jokingly. I'm not sure! Do you think he likes me? If he does, any suggestions? (link)
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yeah he could definately be into you it sounds!
suggestions..talk to him on AIM,through myspace..and eventually work up to the point where your comfortable to ask him if he wants to hang out
get a friend to talk to him for you a little...get him/her to put in a good word for you and ask him what he thinks of you
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While i have never been for abortion, i find my self in an aknward situation. My friend thinks that she is pregnant. but she doesnt know for sure. she doesnt live close enough to a hospital to go and she cant buy a home preganancy test. I think that she is just feeling gulity because she had sex with her boyfriend and the stress i giving her these symptoms. But we have no way of knowing for sure. She says that if she is she will find the quickest way to have an abortion. I dont know what to do. (link)
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what you need to do is be there for your friend. even if your against abortion, your friend needs you right now. support her no matter what. you can support someone even if your against what they are doing. she needs you to be there for her. its her choice..so just support her in what she does
-melissa-
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I am 15/f
How do you show someone how madly in love you are with them? No matter what I do..he still doesn't believe me. He says he loves me, and I do believe it..but how do I get him to believe me?? Help me please! I will rate!! (link)
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"actions speak louder than words"
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Alright so me and my bf broke up 2 days ago but we are still basicly together nd tryin to fix things... the problem is I dont really want to i dont think. I dont know how I would be able to just end it with him without telling him straight out. Im not good with that sort of thing
People always tell me how i can do so much better and that he is just an ass and all this stuff But i dont think I can do better..
What should I do?
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only you can decide if you want to fix things and get back with him. if you decide you want to give it another shot and fix thiongs with him..then go for it. dont always be so concerned about what others thnk. however, you sound like you have mixed feelings. definately dont toy with this guy..dont make him think you like him and you want to be with him if your not sure.
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ok i need long detailed answers for this one.... ive been in a relationship for a year and a half and im wondering some things. what is a relationship supposed to be like? how do you work out problems without getting pissed off/ frustrated? how do you have fun like u used to? thanks i will rate good for good answers! (link)
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Wow, 1 1/2 years is great! obviously your doing something right if you have been together for so long! My longest relationship was nowhere near as long as yours..but to me a relationship should consist of a balance of many areas... a balance of affection, your other interests like sports ..friends, and other stuff in your life. A healthy relationship should be one where the two of you are mostly happy ..in other words if your always arguing thats not good..but some arguements are bound to happen. when you do argue, try to keep calm and let him talk..let him say his side..then you express yourself..in the end kiss and make up about it ..or agree to disagree. its normal to get frustrated and pissed off..but to work something out and avoid frustration, try to just stay calm..walk away for a minute..etc.
how to have fun like you used to :
-go for a picnic in the park, amusement park, to the store,scenic walk, etc. think of something sifferent to do..a trip maybe..something different you will both enjoy. go outside and play tackle football, go to a football game, a drive, a walk, drive in, try something new! if you want..innbox me about both your interests and i can help you figure out more stuff to do.
:) hope i helped ya!
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I technically can't "date" until I turn 16. I've had boyfriends before but not ones you actually go on single dates with and things like that. My parents are okay with that kind of thing, but what if a guy actually asks me out? What should I do then? Thanks! (link)
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if i have feelings for someone..it doesnt matter if im not allowed to date..i would still say yes to the guy and work around the parents. so if you get asked out and you like the guy..say yes :)
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i met this really really awesome girl melissa and we talk like nonstop from like when we get home from school until like 3am about everything and anything we met each other and even had fun in a car and loved it! she lives about 10ish miles away about and i dont go in that area much anymore since my mom moved down south..i want to see this girl named melissa coh** so baddd like everyday!! is there anyway i can see her more? or maybe become close to her family so i can spend more time with melissa and be able to see her alot..or even be able to sleep over and all!...what is some advice to this situation?..love ya melissa!!! xoxo im rich 17 male and live in new york and melissa is 16 female and lives in new york (link)
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awww
well my advice on this situation is this:
i know with my family..as long as you present yourself well and your polite and stuff..my family would love ya. My dad is always telling me how I choose my friends wisely and stuff..i have a pretty good relationship with my parrents so they trust who i hang out with and stuff.
as for spending more time with her.. i guess just see her when you can..boys sleeping over a girls house is a sticky subject. there are some parents out there who dont care and are fine with it..but mine for example..definately would not be ok with it...plus you have to make sure the girls house can accomodate you...is her house big enough? all that stuff.
i know how badly you want to see her everyday..but just see her when you can during the week and definately on the weekends. At least you guys wont get sick of each other! whenever you see each other you would be dying to see each other and there would be lots of cuddlin and kissin involved :) lol so in a way its not so bad if you can only see each other 1-3 times a week..you definately wont get sick of each other!
hope i helped..good luck ;) lol
xoxox melisssa xoxoxoxxo
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I really want to find the right guy (link)
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aww sweety im terribly sorry you were assaulted.
Look, the right guy who is sweet,caring,..everything you want could be anywhere! Thats the beauty of life! You dont know who you will meet,bump into, or notice! Just be yourself and who knows when a great guy will come along.
I'll give you a personal example on how you just never know when you will bump into an amazing guy :
You know of myspace im assuming? Well awhile back i added this guy from a couple towns over..and i figured..just a "pointless myspace friend" ..you know, the ones you never talk to or anything..they are just on your friends list.
Months went by..and one day i posted a bulliten complaining how bored i am and stuff..and what do ya know?! The 'pointless myspace friend' responded to it ..and we got talking..and wow he is great! we wound up hanging out and we are going to hang out again!
So you see, you just nevver know how or who you will meet and when..its one of the beauties of life!
Be yourself! you desserve to be loved..and you will find that ..but you mustttt
-be yourself
- keep your eyes open
-be friendly
maybe at basketball games or somethin you will meet someone from a different schoool..or if you and a group of friends aree out at the movies ..get flirty with a group of guys
*keep me updated ..i hope i helped!*
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ever since i started walking to school there have been these 2 girls who always say hi to me and i never really thought anything about it until one of them asked me out and at first i wanted to go out with her but then somthing inside me told me she's bad news and i dont know if it's because im neverous i dont know if it's because ive seen her smoke a few times i dont know what it is but could someone please help me i dont know what to do. (link)
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i wouldnt jump to any conclusions or anything just yet. get to know her more first..maybe she just tried smoking..maybe shes not addicted. tell her how smoking is a huge no no for you. dont go out with her just yet, but also dont kick her to the curb. hang out with her as friends..learn more about her..then make a choice.
hope i helped
-meliss
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I really like this boy A LOT..in love with him..yes he's my first love. Anyways, me and him have been talking a lot more and it seems like he's starting to like me again and I don't wanna let him go. Then there's this other kid that I liked for a couple days and he likes me but my two other best friends are like madly in love with him. Which one do I picK? PLEASEEE i need some help...i really love the first guy though and I don't wanna let him go but I just don't know if I just give the other guy a chance :/ (link)
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eh.i would stay away from the new guy..its a sensitive subject if two of your best friends are in love with him. i would keep flirtning with the guy yooou are in love with. "good things come to those who wait" i always say
:)
good luck!
-meliss
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