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ABORTION
While i have never been for abortion, i find my self in an aknward situation. My friend thinks that she is pregnant. but she doesnt know for sure. she doesnt live close enough to a hospital to go and she cant buy a home preganancy test. I think that she is just feeling gulity because she had sex with her boyfriend and the stress i giving her these symptoms. But we have no way of knowing for sure. She says that if she is she will find the quickest way to have an abortion. I dont know what to do.
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well i mean you could maybe tell her what you would do in this situation but dont talk her out of it thats not right....i mean im not for abortion or anything i would never get one but sometimes its for the best.but make sure she knows what shes doing and thats shes sure she wants to do it.many people who have abortions end up feeling guilty later in life or soon afterward.
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It's up to her, no matter what her decision is, you should be there for her. Are you against abortion to the point where you'd throw away a relationship over it? because good friends are hard to find.
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well one way that you could help her is by getting a home preganacy test 4 her and taking it to school and have her do it their they only take a few min. to do, or have her spend the night with you and her do it their.
and if she finds out she is try not to let her think about the bad things help her think about the good things. tell her you will help her talk to her parents and tell her that you will be their for her no matter what happens.
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Well, if you feel that strongly about it I would try and talk to her about it and make sure its really what she wants to do, but if there is no way for her to raise a kid you have to respect her decision. Talk to her about possibly having it & giving it up for adoption, because thats better than killing it. Basically all and all just talk to her about your feelings on it and her feelings but be understanding and not force your decision on her, you know? Make sure she knows no matter what she decides to do that your here for her and dont let it effect your friendship because ultimately its her body & her decision and if she decides to have one it doesnt mean that you two arent friends or anything.
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what you need to do is be there for your friend. even if your against abortion, your friend needs you right now. support her no matter what. you can support someone even if your against what they are doing. she needs you to be there for her. its her choice..so just support her in what she does
-melissa-
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You know, if she thinks she can afford an abortion a home pregnancy test should be a breeze!
Could the possible father to be afford the test? That is one option. How long has she been without her period? If it been 30 days go for the test, if not, I would wait it out. You are right about the stress possibly causing her not to have her period.
If you have strong feelings about abortion, then of course you can't encourage that. You can lend support though.
A lot of this talk is probably fear more than anything else. She needs to tell her mom. I've been there and the thought of it was much scarier than the outcome was. Never underestimate moms ability to surprise a girl!
So, encourage her to calm down. Get a pregnancy test. You might see if there is a health department in your county. There are in most and they may give her a test for free. If her period is more than 30 days late, encourage her to talk to her mom. :)
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The only thing you can do is help your friend out emotionally. You can also help draw her attention to various facts - such as the importance of needing to find out if she's pregnant before she begins worrying about what to do if she is.
Why can't she buy a home pregnancy test? She should be able to get these at any pharmacy; she can then take them in a public bathroom or a friend's house if she feels uncomfortable doing it at her home. Home pregnancy tests are small and would be easy to carry away with her to dispose in a safe place. They are also very accurate and a good first step towards resolving the pregnancy issue.
Should she be pregnant, she will need to take medical advice. Depending on her individual situation, there may be several options available to terminate the pregnancy with. It is by far safer to have a medical professional give advice and administer the abortion than to try to force herself to miscarry. Doing it privately offers numerous health risks, and is no guarantee - she could end up too far along to actually get an abortion, and end up giving birth to a child who has been significantly harmed by her private attempts to abort.
It sounds as if whatever is happening, she doesn't feel happy or confident in herself regarding sex or pregnancy tests. Perhaps you offering support will help her overcome some of her reluctance to take care of herself.
If it doesn't, though, please remember that the only person who is responsible for your friend's actions is your friend.
Best of luck.
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