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Q: 19/Male...I finally got up the nerve to talk to this girl in a lunch line. She seemed decent and smiled at me while we talked and introduced ourselves. But it was very short (maybe 2 minutes). I didn't get her number or anything but I see her everyday, and I still want to pursue her. It's hard to me to think of what to say and I really want to avoid that awkward silence that sometime happens. Any advice?

What really works for breaking the ice, diss school with each other, or a teacher. Seriously, it works. Because school is something you automatically have in common and we all know teens hate school. :-p Try it.

..ashleigh

Q: I'm a guy and 16 years old. I was just wondering if going anywhere or doing anything is ok for a first date (my first ever). It'll be this friday. I was thinking about a movie and then some dinner. Would that be ok? I'm pretty comfortable around her, but I'm not too sure if this would be better for later dates as opposed to the first one. Any other ideas or suggestions, things to remember? Are there any guidelines or rules that I should follow as the guy? It is true - guys are much more nervous than girls when it comes to this. Thanks in advance; will rate

Personally, I'd rather be in a more comfortable date than a movie and dinner. Why go somewhere (movies) where you aren't supposed to talk and you can't see each other. And dinners make me feel like I have to act a certain way, (proper). Take her somewhere wild and crazy, bowling (as lame as it sounds, it's fun to be a fool bowling), take her to the beach, and the winner of them all... MAKE HER A PICNIC. A picnic is the best date of all. You make everything, you put it all together, and it's thoughtful, so your actions are showing her that you care about her from the very start. :)

..ashleigh

Q: Sorry its long, but I need help. So, I'm 15, and I have a boyfriend, "George". And he isn't the type to get jealous. But I flirt with other guys. And I don't feel bad about it, and shouldn't I? Also, yesterday I almost kissed this guy "Miles", and I wanted to kiss him. And besides all that I like this other guy "Ryan". So now, when I'm around "George" I'm really quiet and not myself, cause I'm thinking about "Ryan". I don't know what to do. Is this normal even? What should I do?

Break up with that boy. Have fun, you're 15. You should flirt and kiss and have fun, no boyfriends. Please just enjoy it, be a girl.

..ashleigh

Q: Hi, recently an extremely attractive guy moved in next door to me. I didn't see much of him as he is relatively quiet. He speaks to my mum sometimes and they even lend books to each other, but I've never gone pass saying "Hi"
Thing is, I can't stop thinking about him. Like constantly. He's 27 and I'm 17 and I know with that age difference we could never be, at least not right now. I've even started looking through my windows snooping at his house hoping I can catch a glimpse of him. I'm starting to think I'm getting a bit stalkerish but I don't know how to stop myself. I don't even know this guy. Does this seem like a harmless crush, or is it getting too far? Should I get over him? If so, what's the best way to do it?

Thanks advicenators.

Hell girl, he's your neighbor. The peeping at his house is a little much, but you guys live next to each other, go meet him.. be friends. FYI: if it matters, :) I'm 17 and my bf is 27. So just imagine the possibilities.

Q: (f/17)k so lots of people think this is weird, but i am a lesbian and still want to have my OWN children. i am in the most amazing relationship, we are very open and honest and she clearly said she wants kids, but doesnt want to be pregnant, but she thinks it is a beautiful thing to watch(see the belly growing,etc)and we have lots of plans for the future, we even picked a name for a boy, DAMIEN and the thing i have to ask is...
how would i get pregnant without a man?
ive heard about INVITRO-FERTILIZATION..but how does that work??
thanks

This is exciting because my aunt, had the very same dream as you do. Her girlfriend Janet and herself decided they wanted to have a baby together. My aunt, has been a lesbian all of her life, but saw no obstacles to get past in this task. She and her gf picked a close male friend of theirs whom they've been friends with their whole lives, and asked if he would give the male sperm to make the baby. He agreed and donated the sperm to a bank for her to use. She was articially inseminated wit his sperm. Just her luck the she actually had twins! It was amazing, and a very bright idea.

site on the choice of artificial insemination
(http://www.midohiolaser.com/clipart/stars.jpg)

..ashleigh

Q: 20/F.

So I’ve been with my boyfriend for just over a year now. We have a great relationship and we usually tell each other everything. However, two weeks ago I found out that he has been hiding something from me throughout our entire relationship (that’s not the problem though...).

I was at home when it happened. My boyfriend’s college suite mate called me and asked me to come over right away. He seemed worried, but wouldn’t tell me anything over the phone. I drove to their dorm room, and just as I was about to go up the stairs, I heard someone mumbling. I looked underneath the stairwell, and there was my boyfriend. He was sitting on the floor, with his head in his hands, crying, and freaking out.

It took me almost an hour to get him to calm down. Once he finally did, I asked him what had just happened. He told me that he suffers from mild depression and anxiety. He had been having a massive panic attack. He takes medication for both conditions, but he told me that recently his anxiety had been getting worse.

I’ve never seen him, or even anyone, have a panic attack before and I don’t know anyone else who suffers from anxiety. Nonetheless, I tried to be as supportive as I could. He told me that he had been having trouble sleeping because of the anxiety but that talking to me usually helps him calm down. I ended up spending the night in his dorm, and I haven’t left here since.

He’s been to the doctor, and all they’ve done for him is increase his medication.

He has told many times over the past two weeks that my staying with him, in his dorm, makes him feel more at ease. That when we’re together, he’s able to function like a normal person. However, he still has anxiety when he’s about to go to bed, and sometimes we stay up and talk for hours before he’ll finally fall asleep.

I feel immensely guilty for saying this, but I’ve never been so exhausted, emotionally and physically, in my life. I work full time as well as go to school and this whole situation has really taken it’s toll on me. All of my attention has been focussed on him and I’m constantly worrying about him when we’re apart, but five hours of sleep a night (sometimes less) cannot be healthy.

I’ve tried to tell him that eventually I’ll have to go home, but then he starts to get anxious about the thought of me leaving him alone.

I love my boyfriend and I want to be there for him when he needs me, but I would like to have somewhat of a life of my own. Ugh. I feel selfish saying that...

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Any input would greatly appreciated.

I see a possibly good solution for this, try to work with him on the idea that you two find an apartment nearby the college for you both to share. Perhaps if you have something of your own where he's safe, he'll be a bit more at ease and then you don't have to be exhausted to be together.

..ashleigh

Q: So I have this good-looking next door neighbor, and yesterday my mum and I went to give him back a DVD we borrowed of his because he is going away. Well, I stood there with her and she was speaking to him, but he did not even look me in the eye once! It was almost as if he was avoiding my gaze. I felt very stupid about this. Even if my mum was speaking about me he would not look in my direction. I'm not really sure what I could've done to offend him. I've liked him for quite a while but only seen him a few times.
In case it matters I'm 17 and he's 25.

Am I looking into things too much, or is there a reason he was doing this to me? I felt really embarassed and unwanted being there.

Thanks.

First off, there's nothing wrong with it at all. He was speaking with someone, and it's respectful to look at the person whom you're speaking with. I think you can test this, when him and a family member of yours are speaking with one another sometime, join in on the conversation, see if he objects, or lets you join in.

..ashleigh

Q: when on a dinner date, how should handling the check go?

should i, the woman, grab the book and look at it, or should i wait until my date picks it up?

should i ask him how much it is? should i take the money out of my purse? how do i handle a credit card ?

I, as a woman.. would pick up my purse as if to pay for it, and if he doesn't stop you and pay for it himself, you don't want him. :)

..ashleigh

Q: What is the difference between love and lust? and how do you really know if a guy loves you?

The only statement to explain this truthfully: "Actions speak louder than words". This is so true, in the sense that you will know a man loves you when his actions tell you so. The different between love and lust is the emotion. Lust is primarily a hormonal based feeling. It goes on hormones, it's all physical. Love is something you feel from your heart & soul. Love is an emotional, physical, and mental binding.

..ashleigh

Q: In your honest opinion...

How realistic is it to think that you will one day marry your first love? I don't think it's likely, but it happens, right? I'm 16 and he is 17. And I've never felt this way about anyone in my entire life. I just want to experience everything in life with him. We talk about getting married sometimes, I mean seriously talk about it. When we do talk about it he tells me that he is serious, that he wants to spend the rest of his life with me.

Opinions? Advice Please?

I don't think it's accurate to say that it's not likely for high-school sweethearts to last. First off don't let anybody judge this for you, don't let them fill your head with "statistics". However, quite a bit of these kinds of relationships don't last, alot of them do. Love is always worth taking a risk for. If you feel it's right, then it is. Your marriage wouldn't be about or for anybody but you. Marriage is a personal choice, not a "group vote".

..ashleigh

Q: To graduate high school I had to take a theater class but I wasn't really into that stuff so instead of doing my assignments, my teacher let me do other things for grades (stay after and clean the stage, stuff like that). Whenever I'd do that, we would be together. We talked all the time and started to get really close. We ended up making out once but we didn't let it get in farther. We got together a few times outside of school for coffee and such but nothing more because we knew we couldn't

Well, now that I've graduated, he not my teacher, and I don't even go to that school anymore. So do you think it'd be okay to try to pursue a relationship with him? I'm 18 and he's 24 by the way.

Definately, although I don't think the hooking up after class and making out was a wise decision, and it could have been very costly to both of you (ie: expulsion for both). Now that the schooling is over, I see no problem in you trying to seek something out of what-was. If you two got along then, then things can only progress, since there has been time and you've matured on the situation.

..ashleigh

Q: Well my dad died a few years back, and my mom has been depressed and lonely ever since. She tells me all the time that it's hopeless for her to find a single guy her age anymore (45, but she doesn't near look it). Just last night she said to me, 'Honey, I'm lonely,'. And it broke my heart, because she loved my dad, but she hasn't found anyone. She has tried online dating and that wasn't her thing. What are some of your ideas for my mom to meet men? Thank you so much for your help!

I had a close friend once who's mother was in the same type of dillema. You say she's 45, well hell.. that's still young. She shouldn't feel like her life is over because of her age. I understand that her husband is deceased, but it's been a few years. Nobody said she had to forget him, and I'm sure that she never will. There is one thing that people always say about death and marriages, "He would have wanted her to be happy." If she loved him, she should know that even after his death, he would have wanted her to be happy and live life, love again. Online sites, usually aren't the answer. I suggest, strongly, that she work. Working keeps people's minds off of stressful personal problems. She would have more to do with her time and not be so lonley. Perhaps she doesn't need a boyfriend directly, but maybe a couple of girlfriends. Girlfriends are the best way to meet guys. They have good taste, and they know how things work. Tell her to ask some of her friends, have them introduce her to some male friends, and see where it goes.

..ashleigh

Q: When I was about 13, I decided that I never want to get married and I still feel this way and believe that I will always feel this way. I guess it does kind of reflect on my family because both my parents have been married multiple times but it isn't just because of that. It seems as if married means nothing anymore to most people (not all people, I know). So I don't know, people are always telling me that not all marriages end and that mine doesn't have to be all bad like my parents and I know that but I just dont see myself getting married. Does anyone else feel this is way or am I alone? Please don't tell me reason why marriage is so great and how if it's the right person it'll work because I've heard it all before. 17/f

It's true, there are always complications in life. In everything we do, and say, and are. Marriage was once a blissful thing to engage in, it was BASED on love, and happiness. It was basic instinct once, you were born, grew up, got married, then came the children. It's a simple society based myth. If you feel you don't ever want to be married, then don't. Marriage is a choice, not a requirement in life. It's a right, not a guarentee. So feel how you will, if you don't want to be married, then don't be. Be free in the world and experience life.

..ashleigh

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i have a boyfriend & he's amazing & i love him more than anything
and 1 of the most amazing bests, krispoopie.
i hate people that try as hard as they can to get 6765437 bajillion friends on myspace. it annoys me.
i love hanging out with my girls. they're amazinggg.
shopping makes me really happy & i love it.
fake people are stupid & irritating & i really hate all of them.
drama is retarded & i hate it beyond words.
i straighten my hair almost everyday, because i love the way it looks when it's straight.
i think being in love is the most amazing feeling in the entire world.
shoes & hoodies complete my life.
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i take alot of picturesss. i love ittt.
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i absolutely love victoria's secret.
i'm loud & obnoxious. & idc what you think of that because i love it. haha.
i'm terrified of drive-thru's.. don't ask me why. i hate them.
that's pretty much all about me.