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Follow up meeting a girl
19/Male...I finally got up the nerve to talk to this girl in a lunch line. She seemed decent and smiled at me while we talked and introduced ourselves. But it was very short (maybe 2 minutes). I didn't get her number or anything but I see her everyday, and I still want to pursue her. It's hard to me to think of what to say and I really want to avoid that awkward silence that sometime happens. Any advice?
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What really works for breaking the ice, diss school with each other, or a teacher. Seriously, it works. Because school is something you automatically have in common and we all know teens hate school. :-p Try it.
..ashleigh
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If you're in college, look at the books she's carrying. Start a convo with her by asking her questions like "Oh how do you like that class?" or "Who's your professor and how is his/her class?" Asking her questions like this will most likely start up a conversation.
If you're in high school, get to know a little about your crush. Find out what she's into, who she hangs out with, and what she does for fun. Once you know more about her, try to hang around her. Maybe be at the same parties, dance, football game, whatever! Being able to hang around her or the people she hangs out with, will allow you to feel more comfortable around her. Plus, you'll share a common interest that will give you even more to talk about!
Well, I hope I helped! Remember to be yourself and just go for it! You'll do fine.
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talk to her again. friendship never hurt anyone. besides alot of friendships bloom into beautiful love affairs.
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Are you in college? See if you can get into the lunchline behind her, and just say hi, ask her how she's doing, what classes she's taking, what she's interested in, etc. See if she wants to eat lunch with you. If it goes well through that time, see if you can have her number or see if she wants to go on a date with you, maybe a date pertaining to some of the things she's interested in? I'm sure, just meeting someone, that you'll have plenty to talk about, and you can avoid most of those awkward silences. Good luck, hope this helps!
Love,
Nevaeh
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hey well you already have the hard part done. now the next step is small talk. ask her simple everyday questions like whats up? or how did you do on that math test last period?. give her compliments also. like say wow you look really pretty today or something sweet like that. cait ♥
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Good for you, you've made that vital first step that takes the most courage.... stick with your pland...but seek being her friend first. Friendship is such an important part if one wants a good solid foundation for a relationship later.
Well, does she need help with homework from any of your shared classes, do you have any of those going? Do you need help with something, even a home project, like yard work or perhaps she does at her end. Share in a chore and you can chat easily while working. Keep it casual, loose and relaxed. Make sure you keep eye contact with her often.... that's key I feel.
It's real important at this stage to build loyalty and confidence in the friendship. Allow her to know you are a mature, dependable and reliable source of inspiration, support, and guidance for her. And that you would appreciate that from her for yourself.
I'm happy for you that you have stepped forward and created an opportunity. You sound like a very nice young man and one that I am certain deserves a good female friend.... it's a good balance for a guy to have female friends.... and with patience and understanding and time, you may have a very good friend with romantic possibilities and doesn't that sound exciting and enticing?
Good luck you.... have a great day and life!
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Well you have already done the first step. You have already approached her and introduced yourself. Next step is getting her number and keeping the conversation interesting. Next time you see her relax and walk over to her. Say something like, "Hey (name). How have you been?" Let her talk a little bit, and then you comment on how you have been. Then ask her questions like what courses she is taking, which one is the hardest, stuff like that. From there continuing talking to her and really show her that you are interested in getting to know her better. after you guys chat a while, tell her you had fun talking with her and then ask her if she would like to hang out sometime if that is alright. If she says yes, then casually ask for her number and then give her yours too, that way it seems less up front. The rest is up to you from there. Probably wait a day or so to call and then continuing getting to know her. It seems like she likes you, based on the fact that she smiled at you when you guys met and wasn't nervous to introduce herself. Just remember that girls are just as nervous to talk to guys and get to know them as you are. So sometimes taking the initiative is a good thing. Just don't worry about rejection. Just be yourself and be confident. I know awkward silences are the worst, but everyone has that happen. Like I said before, keep asking questions, but again, keep it casual. You want to sound liek you are wanting to talk with her and get to know her, not like you are interviewing her for a newspaper article. I'm sure you will do fine. Just don't stress. Good luck! If you need anymore advice note my inbox. I'll be happy to help.
~Sherah
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Hey..
Well just ask simple questions,Like how is she doin?
Maybe do this tomorrow and also ask what she`s doin this weekend and if she says nothin or nothin much then ask if she`d like to catch a movie,go out for dinner or just hang out some time.. And if she has something to do ask if she`d like to do something sometime..Don`t let their be a silence but don`t like talk your head off.. You should be fine.. ♥Dez
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ok this is my first question i have answered on this site so it might be a little rusty but ill do my best,
mainly just ask questions it will help to get a conversation started and you can always ask the most used question "how are you? how hasa your day been" i hope you take the time to read this advise but as you kno its my first question i have answered.
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