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I recently met someone while playing a game. We been talking for a week now, yeah such a short period of time, anyway, I feel like I am starting to really like this woman. It's weird though, I've never felt this way before. I felt the need of looking into it, and I ended up here, can you help me with some advice? (link)
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I think that that isn't impossible. Many people meet over the Internet nowadays. What is it that is drawing you in....is it the interest in the game or the conversation? Just relax and enjoy your online time and take things slow:) friendships can always turn to more. It's best to fall in love like that I believe because you actually get to fall in love with the persons mind n heart before the physical
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I'm 15 years old and I'm madly in love with this guy that I've known for quite a while now. I've liked him for 3 yrs and he's 3 yrs older than me.It's not the age that bothers me, it's the fact that I haven't seen him for 1 yr and I'm seeing him again soon. Our parents were friends before but aren't as close anymore. I don't know how to act around him and I'm afraid about how much he could of changed and should i be full on or what and how can i make him like me more? And is it possible to like someone so much at such a young age. I don't even know why I like him so much, it's not looks or personality because i don't know him all that well. But I feel so madly in love with him that no matter what I do, all i think about is him. Thanks (link)
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Blah real love comes later in life I hope you wait on all this junk. Puppy dog love is great but don't wrap your head around this guy yet
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Okay, so I have a boyfriend. And I love him so much nobody would ever understand. Everything reminds me of him and he's always on my mind. Today he confessed that I'm all he ever thinks about no matter what he's doing. That means that he thinks about me a lot because he's always playing football or basketball or soccer or working out. My friends say I'm obbsessed, but I just can't help it. Is there anything I can do that will take my mind off of him or at least tone down my thoughts about him a bit?
Thanks so much! (link)
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although its great to have strong feelings for a person and love them a mature love realizes that real life gets in the middle of things. what i am saying is.... you need to realize that without him you are still you. you must maintain that individual side of yourself so you dont loose yourself in him. im not saying to "act"like he is unimportant because i know how it is to love someone and think of them often but dont loose sight of life because in the end all you have is you if he ever left and you have to strike a healthy balance. besides men are more attracted to a woman that maintains her own identity and interest. continue feeling how you do. its ok to do so. just stay busy and concentrate on the important things that you need to accomplish in your life cause i he loves you now he will love you later. not to mention he'll feel proud that he is with such an interesting woman. even though he claims to think of you all the time i really do believe that noone likes to be smothered and eventually they will loose interest. so love him and adore him, think of him often. butttttttt dont make him your only hobby. best of luck hun.
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Am I justified in being upset with my bf? Since he moved to another state back in November for a job he hasnt contacted me ONCE. I phoned him on Xmas Day and he said that he'd phone me on New Years. I was waiting up all night for his call, and never got one. I've decided to give him one last chance, on Valentines Day. If he doenst phone me then it's over. Life is just too lonely having my life put on hold. My feelings are deeply hurt that he would treat me this way. My question is if he doesnt contact me on V-day, should I phone him up and tell him that it's over between us? (link)
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nope i wouldnt call id just disappear like he did and if he resurfaces tell him that you sent him emails and stuff and you were under the impression he was over you or he moved on so you did the same.
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I met a guy on an online dating site. After just a couple of days he told me he wanted to meet me. The kicker was that he said he didn't have a car, and that I would have to drive up to see him. Remember, I've never met him, and really don't know that much about him except what he wrote about himself. At first I said yes that I would drive up after work on Saturday, but then my gut feeling and intuition were telling me not to do it. So I emailed him and cancelled the date and told him I wasnt comfortable with the arrangement, and that I would prefer he come up to see me. He wrote back and told me that the reason he didnt have a car was that he was taking public transit to save money, and that he wouldnt have a car until May. Then he said he asked to meet me too soon, and would still like to meet me. My gut feeling is telling me that this guy is a little desperate, and I want to back out of the whole thing.
I don't want to hurt his feelings. What would be a nice way to end things with him, and do you think he'll get angry? I told him at first that I wouldnt mind still sending him some getting to know you emails, but I don't even want to do that anymore. I'm thinking realistically, how is this potential relationship going to work? The guy doesnt even live in the same town as me and deosnt have a car.
Would I be a super bitch if I told him I didn't think this would be a good idea? (link)
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go with your intuition you dont wanna be kicking yourself in the ass later. he doesnt sound like he can afford to be dating unless you dont mind pinching pennies and taking the transit on a date. i dont mean to sound mean to him but if a man is in a situation alone like that the last thing he needs to do is start dating until he get all this stuff taken care of. as far as being a nice guy ... yeah he may be the sweetest thing in the world but there are many sweet men out there and how often is he online cause you definitly dont need to be with a guy that has no life and is online all the time. i just imaagine a guy sitting online trolling for women for his own selfish reason when in reality he has no stability to offer if you fell in love and it became serious. unless these things are things you can tolerate ... cause who knows how long he'll be in his situation,,,i wouldnt meet him tell him that you dont feel the timing is right and you dont want to start something with a man in another town at this time. tell him you arent saying you cant be email buddies and keep in touch but you just dont feel comfortable with the current feelings you have.good luck. and remember you really dont know him so dont feel guilty for all you know he may not be a thing like he says he may be sitting in front of a computer in a old motel waiting and luring women to him. be careful
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Like the topic stated I'd like to hear from woman what they would consider fun dates,
first dates and later on when you know the guy better.
I actually need a couple of date ideas, I live in a big-town/small-city and if a girl has been on more than 5 dates she would have seem everything around here.
Thanks in advance :) (link)
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take her to hawaii but at your house or a hotel.... decorate the room in a hawaaian theme and serve her a drink in a coconut and eat some bbq food and play some romantic hawaaian music shell get a kick outta it or do it italian style with the whole italian decor with pizza or however ya do it it was the creativity she will always remember. and it doesnt have to be expensive.go to a party supply and buy the laou stuff its fun and give her a lai when she walks in the door.hehe
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if love was a question would you answer it? even if it made you feel sad, or mad, or dissapointed or insecure? (link)
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yes because there is a risk in everything you do in life and for love its worth the risk
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Ok so I had asked this questions before:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=414395
The thing is, I am really dependant on him to the point that pretty much everything I did was for him (i.e. buy a Guess top because he loves Guess or go to wherever because he might be there) so all my thoughts revolved around him.
Now I'm trying to get over him and I can't because I can't stop thinking about him. I've never had to force myself to get over someone ever so I don't know what to do. Pretty much everything I think about ends up being about him and then I get mad at myself for it because I'm trying to make myself stop thinking about him.
Does anyone have any tips to try to stop it? How am I supposed to get over him if I'm obsessivley thinking about him? (link)
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you CAN get over him. just keep busy go out with your gilfriends meet new men and have fun and learn to enjoy the fun . just pretend you are having fun and eventually you will. whether you believe it or not you can and will survive this it always seems impossible at first but the besttttttttt thing to do is stay away from him as much as possible.
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How can I find the best way to make my boyfriend to open his soul and heart in front of me?We have a relation since 9 years and we have now this problem. I'm a female and I'm 28 (link)
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well i think that its a question of had he opened up to you in the past and suddenly shut you out or has he always been this way. because if he has always been this way its honestly hard to change a person into a chatterbox. i had that issue i was with a guy since i was 15 married him at 25 had his kid and it just got worse and worse cause he never communicated and we are now divorced and i am totally in love with a man that never shuts up. and now im happy. i hope all goes well keep me posted
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I'm in iraq and my wife is at home in the states. we talk often but it obvious we are slipping apart. I love her very much and it will be a long time before i can see her again. Is it possible we talk to much and the lack of conversation is causing me to over think or am i doomed to a failed marriage because of the military? (link)
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Hmmm
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Ok, i like this guy at my school and he used to bark and me and all this wierd crap well evrytime imj not at school or not aroudn he's always around..and today i missed school to go to the doctor's and he was all around my friends and they were talking with him ALOT today...well my friend and him were walking and he's like so where's your friend, and my friend K* goes uhh ur gonna have to narrow it down..and he goes the one with blue eyes...K's like o ya (my nick name) nd he's like thats her name..nd K's like no it's C*...he's like ya C..where is she???
Ok sorry if that confusing..but anyway do you think he lieks me? I mean how often does a guy actually notic eyour eye color!
*I rate!!
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yea sounds like he is inquiring about you which shows interest id say yeah he likes you
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17/m
well, theres this one chick. and shes hot. but thats besides the point. i like her and i THINK she likes me, but she doesn't want to date. she told me some crap about how shes bad with relationships and she wanted to be fwb. I was all like...um, idk. so now were just sort of like...more than friends but less than other stuff...that whole thing. and the other day she told me that she was going to be all protective of me and stuff. and to me, thats like...WHAT THE HELL!? cause its like, you dont want to date me, but you dont want me dating anyone else. so idk what to do, because I really want a relationship. i tried telling her this but she just told me that she's bad with relationships. (link)
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i say move on i think she just likes the attention and doesnt want you to have the attention from other girls. im 32 i know what im talking about
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If you read this, Id like you to respond. And Id like you to post your age. Consider it a survey. Respond as briefly or as long-winded-ly as youd like, but please respond.
What is love to you? How do you define love? How do you tell when you are in love with someone?
Answer me these questions three and then we'll see what love means to thee! (link)
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love is the highest form of respect you can give someone. its loving someone so much that you can ignore things in them that you wouldnt ordinarly ignore in others. you feel thier pain you hope thier hopes you are thier biggest cheerleader in life. the bad times only make you love them more and you feel stronger after the dust settles with arguements. there is a understanding that is so deep that if you wronged that person it would actually also hurt you. love is the truest form of devotion . loving a man to me is seeing my unborn children in thier eyes, seeing me and him sharing eye glasses when we are old.love is lasting even when it seems like it wont
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So is it true what they say, that once you are friends with a girl you are trapped in the friend zone forever, and it will never grow into something more? or is it just a myth? (link)
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no i call te friend zone oppourtunityyyyyyyyyyyyy just wait and be yourself most women will start to notice you
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So I've never really had to buy my girlfriend anything because my mom always took care of all of that. But last year, my gf found out that I don't personally buy her presents and she got all upset. Now, she wants me to go out and buy her her present this year by myself. My mom refuses to help me now. I've really never done this before and you don't have to believe me but it's true. Anyways, this is what I have so far:
100$ Abercrombie card (her fav. store)
50$ Hollister or Forever 21 card (her second fav.--I'm not sure which yet though)
And these earrings her sister helped me pick out. They're pink sapphires with pearl on top they're pretty nice.
But I can see my gf's face when she sees these..."oh gift cards...thanks babe..." She might like the earrings more though...I don't know. I'm already spending 250$ on all of that--I'll put in maybe like 75 more. Does anyone have any ideas? (link)
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show her how much this is important to her by showing her this entry you put in here. she will know you cared and put massive idea and thought into her gift.
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26/m
i don't know what to expect from this but here goes.
everytime i really start liking a woman i always end up being "like a brother", this last time seemed to have taken the life out of me to the point where i start feeling resentfull towards woman and sociaty in general.
I really want a girlfriend, and always try to be just myself, but nobody seems interested, EVER. i've never had a girlfriend, i really can't believe that i'm such a big loser.
I really don't know what to do anymore :( (link)
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you are not a loser oh my god. the problem is the women not you. im sure you are adorable. look for a woman that wants a nice guy. let those bimbos get hurt by the mach bad boy image. cause we all know thats the end result. you will find love hun. i was married to a loserrrrrrrrrr and i decided to go for the nice guy with manners now and man i wish i would have when i was younger im 32 now and hes 28 and im so happyi hope the best to you and i promise it will get better. just keep high standards you deserve the best
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I have been dating a girl for almost a year now. I am 29, she is 27. I recently found out that she cheated on her previous boyfriends. Do you think there is a better chance that I'll be cheated on than if I was dating a girl who had never cheated? (link)
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i would say its highly likely that she will if she has before. only reason i have for that is because most women that do that do it when the relationships passion dies down a little. if you dont pay her the attention like you did at the beginning of dating. most likely what happens is work or life gets in the way , you get to busy and some ther guy gives her compliments and if shes an attention whore which most women who cheat are she will take the bait. be careful hun cheating is a big red flag. it has a lot to do with integrity and character. be smart and careful with your heart with her.
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Can you fall out of love?
I mean ive been w/ my bf for a while now and its great! this last month however is kinda shaky. I feel myself NOT wanting to hang out w/ him. But i miss him.
Am i falling out of love or whats wrong?
how can i fix it? (link)
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maybe you just need some time alone. i dont mean break up with him. i mean like girl time. like reading magazines painting your toenails that kinda garbage. sometimes we need that lil female break. maybe things have gotten to where the passion has fizzled out and you need to bring it back. dont break up with him and explain your feelings to him. i assure you arent out of love unless you are desiring other men, then that may be an issue to explore. well good luck hun. also remember in your lifetime it will feel like you fall in and out of love alot even when you are married, but you must look at the big picture such as what stress are you under. it can make you feel immune to taking in love at times. best of luck keep me posted
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ok. this is my new years resolution
i will not, under any circumstance, try to contact him. i wont IM him, i wont EMAIL him, i wont call him, comment him or anything. he is still a friend but our friendship lies in his hands now. he wanted "space" so im giving it to him. ok so theres this guy and we hadnt talked in like several days and i was completely in love with him. ok so thats why thats my resolution cause i just want to be over him. so today my friend calls me and says brian wants me to call him. and of course im excited. but then at the same time. im like wtcrap why do i have to call him? if he cared he would call me. but in a way i want soo bad to call him. but i dont want to get hurt again. ok so heres the question. i dont want to break my new years resolutionbut i also want so bad to call him. and i know if i call him it will proably just leave to another heartbreak. but if i dont, i know what ill be missing out on. so what should i do? (link)
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well dont call him be strong and commit to yourself not him. you promised yourself you wouldnt follow through with it and prove to yourself and him what a strong woman you are dont give in i have in the past and it was heartache over and over hang in there i hope you havent already called
well thats great that you havent called im proud of you what a great feeling huh to know he waits for you not the other way around
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If some guy says you're both dating, but not officially going out [boyfriend/girlfriend], then does that mean you're single or taken? (link)
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single dating is variety ...testing the waters... testing the car ya wanna buy. exclusive is exclusive one on one committed relationship
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