hey what up.
you can ask me anything. for being my age i'm pretty smart, have a fair amount of common sense and i have been through a lot. I answer any type of questions really. i won't just give you random advice either. if i know how to answer, i'll answer, if i'm not so sure, i probably won't. i wouldn't want to say the wrong thing. and i don't tell you just what you want to hear, because most of the time, it's better that you hear what you don't want to. that's one piece of advice in itself. :P
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Why did you part ways from your first love? Your personal stories will help with my issue. Thank you. Please feel free to go into as many details as you want or leave it as vague as you choose. (link)
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me and my boyfriend at the time had a lot of drama, the relationship got boring after 10 months, and mostly we just didn't get along. he was finally the one to just break up with me. it was more compplicated all the inbetween of course though.
just a tip--if something isn't meant to be, don't push it. that's one thing i learned.
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(14, F) My boyfriend and I have been going out for 2 months. He treats me amazingly. The other day, he told me that 2 or 3 weeks after we started dating, he kissed another girl. He said he wanted to tell me earlier but didn't want to make me upset. He promises he'll never do it again, he doesn't know why he did it.
Should I break up with him? I really don't want to, but if he cheats once, does it mean he'll do it again? (link)
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Well actually that happened to me in my last relationship. It's a whole freakin story behind it all, but my bf took me back. and i did in fact tell him when it happened and he gave me a second chance.
so like the others said, he did tell you, but then again, i wouldn't necessarily just keep him because he promised he wouldn't do it again. The one thing you need in a relationship is trust and honesty. so if you think you've got that, then give him another chance. ;) but it's really up to you in the end.
i wish you luck ahead. =]
~sumsum~
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I'm in a long distance relationship. We've been together for two years. We're starting to fight a lot lately. : /. He's not texting me as much and such, but when he does he's the sweet self that he always is. My problem is that he told me he'd text me after doing something and he never did. He does that quite often. And I was talking to him about it today and he just hung up. He's been ignoring me all day. I've been thinking about breaking up with him because I can't have him doing this. But, it's so hard. And I feel like I'd be making a mistake? I guess I just want to know what you would do. Sorry this is so long. (link)
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i'm going to be honest. if you feel like you should break up, do it. i had a friend actually not too long ago ask me advice on breakin up and she ended up breaking up because she felt like she needed too. and it wasn't even long distance. but now she's quite happy.
but i am going to say if he doesn't have an explanation soon, then he's not worth it. if he's not acting the same, then i would forget him. and long distnace relationships are hard to manage.
and i know it's been forever, but sometimes it's for the best. and sry for sayin what you might not want to hear, but i wish you luck if you keep him or not. =]
~sumsum~
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I am scared to death right now. I like this guy in my class, but everyone else hates him. I really want to ask him to a dance we're having Friday, but I'm afraid my reputation will sink lower, and its already pretty low! I NEED HELP!!!!!!! (link)
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This is definitely my question to answer. lol.
but like everyone else said...ask him! you don't need to think about what everyone else thinks. if they don't have anything nice to say, their opinions don't matter. and do what makes you happy. and true, i think you'll bring up his reputation like the other person said.
good luck =]
~sumsum~
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ok well me and my boyfriend have been dating for about a month and a half, and well two nights ago he told me that he loves me. it was in a message over myspace so i just didnt respond..well last night he said it again and i asked him if he really did mean it and everything and he said that he did... he said that hes been thinking about it for the past week but he just wanted to be positive that he really did feel that way before he said it... well the thing is that im not sure if i love him, like i love him as a person and everything like i care for him alot but i dont think im in love with him, but yet for some reason i told him that i do love him but that ive been in love with someone before and that i felt alot more for that other person when we had gone out..another thing that im not sure about is that this guy has told three other girls besides me that he loved them.. i asked him about this and he said that he only really loved one of them, the other two that he apparently loved had told him that they loved him first so he just felt obligated to say it back... he told me that he loved me first... i dont really knwo if i should believe him or not... so i just wanted to know basically if A.)i should believe him when he tells me that he loves me and B.) if i should say anything else back to him about him loving me like about how i had told him that i love him too.. should i take it back or what cause i do love him, but im not in love if that makes any sense... thanks in advance. (link)
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Well first i want to say, you'll never know if a guy really loves you until you are actually married, but that's just my opinion...
anyways my recent relationship was almost 11 months, and my ex-bf always told me he loved me, but he still ended up breaking up with me. i believed him when he told me, you know, and he thought about it before he told me...and i said it just b/c he did, but it's okay if you don't say it back. since you have said it once though, just let him know that you love him, but not so much yet. just let him know, you need to settle in first. and i'm sure he will appreciate it that you need time instead of just telling him when you don't mean it. and just don't think about his past relationships. you'll never know, but thinking about it doesn't get you anywhere. it really only messes things up.
so i'd believe him, but just let him know how you feel. =]
~sumsum~
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soo i have a short tongue. and i basically wanted to know if like making out with someone with a short tongue sucks or not? cause i heard that long tongues are better. are they? if so..any tricks? to make it better and all? (link)
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well, i have a short tongue and that never stopped me. ;) in fact, the couple guys i have made out with thought i was great.
and i don't think it makes a difference. i think it's the connection with the people, not the tongues. =D
~sumsum~
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well you see...
i have a friend and she can be a definite boy stealer, you cant tell her anything about your boyfriend or she'll steal him. Im dating a guy... let's call him Mic well Mic tells her she is hot and he loves her but then he says don't tell Franny (thats my name) since we are friends she tells me and i was really sad, she said "i don't like him i already like someone!" then i said " why didn't you tell him that?" she says it helps her gain self asteem when a boy calls her hot. But Mic does not know that i know he's been flirting and i really like him and my best friend. But she always talks about herself and doensnt care about my fellings at all.
HELPPPPP!!! (link)
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you might not like this answer, but maybe she isn't really your friend if she doesn't care about your feelings.
if you guys are friends then pick your house or her house to go to and actually talk to her about how you feel around her. and trust me, if she accepts how you feel, then you know she's your friend. but if she keeps right on doing what she shouldn't, then you have to move on and tell her to leave you alone from now on.
it's the only way knowing if she really is your friend.
i hope i helped. ^_^
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Ok, um...there was this guy that i liked and i really liked him, and i thought he liked me, so i had his friend Alex( a girl) to tell him, and it turned out i was wrong, but how was i supposed to know, he was always flirting with me. Anyways, he isnt interested in me like that, and i was ok with that, but there is only one problem. WHY CANT I GET OVER HIM! I like him evem more, can you tell me why i cant get over him, because i mean shudnt i be like upset? I am so confused. Please help me! (link)
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for me, it's totally the same.
as long as you guys are friends, you don't have to get over him. =) you just know he doesn't like you in that kind of way.
if you guys aren't friends he will go away eventually. trust me, been there done that. you'll eventually find another guy you like. =)
hope i helped. :)
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I kind of cheated on my bf with my ex. I told him about it and everything..we're kind of okay right now but he wants me to write an essay about it. He wants to know how it happened, why it happened, what exactly happened, etc. I don't know how to write this stupid thing for him..does anyone have any help for me? (link)
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you should right down every event that happened that you remember. (on a seperate piece of paper.)
then number them in the order in which they happened and then right everything down in essay form. and if you have too, elaborate on certain parts of it.
hope i helped :)
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is it wrong for a 15 year old and 18 year old to be together? he's still in school yet and he just turned 18 in august? is that still bad? (link)
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i think your fine. there's absolutley nothing wrong with just three years.
my grandparents are ten years apart if that makes you feel better...
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Im 15 years old, female, and a 10th grader. Ok, so i have this problem. I like a couple of guys. One of them happens to be my next door neighbor. Hes 2 years older than me. We hung out like every night in the summer time. We kissed twice in August, and then again, last wednesday, after watching the sabres game. We always flirt so much, we cuddle on the couch, hold hands, and he slaps my butt. He tells me how im so pretty, and he always tells me he loves me. So after watching the sabres game together in my basement, we made out for the first time. It was just the two of us watching it, so it was ok. BUT heres the problem-- he has a girlfriend..!! and she hates me so much. and he talks about her behind her back, but theyve been going out for 5 months now, hes broken up with her plenty of times, i think 12, but they always end up getting back together. idk what to do cause its hard to think of us kissing one nite, and then the next day hes with her again. i dont know what to do, cause i dont want to turn him down cause i like him, but im almost thinking i should cause he has a gf. but i dont know if he likes me or not..or if hes jjust leading me on. Answer me back please! (link)
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what i think is that if he honestly likes you, and you guys are getting along well, and it's off and on with the other girl, he should break up with his gf and go out with you.
if they have been breaking up that many times...
they both probably don't want to give up the fact that they don't like each other anymore.
then again, i don't know, but it could be the case.
as far as you told me, there is nothin wrong with what you're doing. what i think you should do though, is tell him how you feel about you feeling like you're in the way (or whatever the case is). you say he loves you, so he should probably respect how you feel. and ask him if he honestly likes the other girl and see what he says.
Eventually if he breaks up with his gf and goes out with you, congratulations. and after that, if his gf has problems, it's for her to deal with not you.
i really hope i helped out.
and god luck :)
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so me and one of my best friends ex's have been having this thing going on. he was going to ask me on a date, but when she found out, she flipped and told him not to. i really like him and want him to ask me out, but i don't really know how to tell him that, have any good ideas? (link)
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honestly, what i think is if your friend flipped out and told her ex not go ask you on a date, she's either got issues or she's not your friend. a friend should not hold you back from a date. it doesn't matter if it is her ex. she should still encourage you or him. and if they still liked each other, they would still be going out. that's all i got say.
i hope i helped a little :)
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15//female.
practically ALL of my friends have a boyfriend//girlfriend. and I have been single.. forever.. literally.. ive never had a boyfriend.
ims so depressing for me to always see them together and all happy.. especially when we leave school and its always like "love you, bye" and then they kiss.
i mean, its incredibly awkward, and i dont know what to do because i feel so lonely.
i dont know what its like to be happy like that and i just wish i did.
there are a few people i like but im too afraid to say anything, and only one of my friends [[who has a boyfriend]] is the only one that knows.. i just dont know what to do.
sorry this was long :x :/ (link)
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oh my gosh! the exact same way with me. (only i'm 14)i know how feels.
what i have been doing is always look on the bright side of things no matter what. just be yourself and eventually someone will notice you.
and/or if you're friends with your friends' boyfriends, you could be friends with their friends and then you could just flirt around with them.
i hope you understood that, cuz that was a little confusing..
i hope i helped out. :)
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I am not an attractive guy. But it's my personality that gets people. My bestfriend ( a girl) is gorgeous, she's just overweight, not by much, but still. I have liked her for 1 year now, and I don't know what to do. She is very popular, but a sweetheart to everyone. I'm scared she won't want to go out with be/I'll be rejected. Should I take a chance? (link)
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i think you should take the chance. i can't guarentee that she'll say yes, but there is a good possibility that you won't be rejected depending on how good of friends you are.
i have this really gorgeous friend and she's going out with this guy who doesn't have very good looks at all, but he is really cool and they have been together for awhile.
and i have been rejected twice by the same guy and i have gotten over it pretty quick and i'm a girl. the reason being is because it didn't ruin our friendship. if she does reject you, just make sure you guys are still friends and it didn't mess anything up.
i hope i helped and good luck :)
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I need help!!!
I like 2 guys... and I pretty much need advice on what to do. I really like them both but I have no idea who I like better. Can somebody help me? THANKS!
PS: dont tell me to do Pro's and Con's because I already did that and they both turned out the same.
:( (link)
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first i think you should see which one actually likes you. then you know your answer. but if you know both like you than test them to see which one is more trustworthy and cares about you more.
if neither likes you, than like both.
i hope i helped :)
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i like this guy, and i kno he likes me too, because well... he told me. but hes kinda shy and hes two years older than me, so we dont really talk alot. he gave me his phone number, and he has my number too, but idk if i should call him, would that seem too forward? hes kinda shy so i dont kno if hes gonna call me..so wat should i do? (link)
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you should just call him up first and start talking to him. guys like when th girls aren't afraid to talk to them. if he is shy, he might open up more.you'll never know, after some time you guys might even end up more than friends eventually.
hope i helped :)
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alright im 14/m and theres a girl that lives in the neighborhood next to me whos 13/f and really pretty, however her friend, 14/f, get jealous of me whenever i hang out/talk to her and she tells the 13 year old that im a player and a bunch of bull$#!T that really makes me look bad and i was wondering how i get around that cuz i REALLY like this girl. (link)
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i think you should talk to the girl that keeps saying stuff about you. tell her to shut-up (but in a nice way). she shouldn't be doing that. and if she thinks your being rude when you tell her to stop saying crap she's got it all wrong. she deserves what she gets. and tell the girl you like your feelings to her. she'll appreciate it. and just be nice and prove your not what the other girl said you were.
i hope i helped :)
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my gf recently broke up with me and i really need someone to tell me some good ways to get my mind off of it. it really hert me cuz i really did love her and i just cant stop thinking about it plz help!!!! (link)
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you should do activities after school or help your parents around the house (if you don't already), and/or hang out with friends. it really does get things off your mind. you'll get over her breaking up with you soon enough.
if you know why she broke up with you, you can fix the problem and when you get a new gf or the other girl again, you can help your relationship last longer.
hope i helped. :)
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so i really like this guy. and last semester he kinda said that he will go to a different school and then the other day he said that he have to stay. so school startet three days ago and the first day he was there. but the next two days he was'nt. and i dont know if he's coming back now or not cause next week my class is going to a camp for 1 week. and i'm really worried he's going to a different school now cause i really like him and the school is not the same without him. so what should i do? what do you think????
thx alot
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i'm sorry that he moved, but you might have to find someone else. you might get lucky if he does move back, but don't get your hopes up too high.
good luck in the future :)
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Well I like this guy his name is Sebastian but everyone calls him Sebby. & last year close to the end of the school year we were talking like possibly going out- but school ended & we still talked through the summer & his cell phone was shut off like a month before school started so i couldnt talk to him then [i didnt know his home phone]. Now schools starting agian & we are talking more. He always tells me to write him notes so I do. & he writes me back. Then during science yesterday [friday] we were doing partners & i started looking around the room for one of my friends & Sebby whispered Tiffanie [my name] & looked at him hes like "will you be my partner?" with a HUGE smile on his face. It made me feel really good because all his friends are in that class. & as extra credit we are making cookies together since we are partners. & i`m curious if you think he likes me.. :/ i`m kinda confused. I mean i`m desent looking but hes gorgeous. -
heres three pictures of me ;
http://img59.imageshack.us/img59/3850/18lc1.png
http://img59.imageshack.us/img59/3285/21fk9.png
http://img126.imageshack.us/img126/4655/7sd2.jpg
heres two of him ;
http://img59.imageshack.us/img59/1838/seeeeebbbyyyyhp1.jpg
http://img126.imageshack.us/img126/7535/seebbyytwokw3.jpg
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what i think you should do is if you think he likes you and he is showing that he does, then be patient and he'll ask you out soon. and from my own experience, it might not be good idea to ask the guy out. and its a happier moment when the guy asks you.
hope things work out!
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