Hey. I'm in my early twenties. I'm currently pregnant with my first child...Well for a couple more days atleast :-D! I live in sunny Sun Diego. I'm married, to a Sergeant in the Marine Corps...
I am here to help and get help. I'm not trying to portray that I'm a perfect person with no problems, but I have been through alot so I figure I'd help people learn from my mistakes...
I've been through alot, from my father death, to my best death, to middle school/high school/college, bad relationships, good relationships, engagment, marriage, deployment, pregnancy, stress and depression...
I am deffinetly here to help 110 % so if you want to talk dont hesitiate i'm here for all of you...xoxox
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i'm sorry if this is long, but i really, really would appreciate some help because i'm going bananas....
ok, i'm trying to remain calm while writing this because i'm about to scream at the top of my lungs. My boyfriend and I have been together for more than three months. We are very, very close. We talk on the phone every day, and pretty much he is my best friend and I love him so much. But, he can be very forgetful, and I know that he doesn't do it maliciously because his mom and I talk too, and she tells me how forgetful he can be. he does not have a good memory according to his sister, his mother, and his friends. So, pretty much, I believe it if that many people are saying the same thing.
Now, I have to start from my first encounter with a boy to really send this message accross. I was thirteen years old when I had my first "encounter" or first started talking to a boy. I really liked him, and this is such a special time in a girl's life. My mom completely had to take over. I guess me going to an all girls school has something to do with it. But, whenever I went on the computer to talk to him, she would follow me into the room, sit next to me, and bring in the entire family into the room to tell me everything to write to him and when I didn't write what they wanted, they would start screaming at me, doors would slam, and you get the idea. I'm not exaggerating, this is just how it happened. Well, he got away all thanks to her just because she liked his best friend better for him. so keep all this in mind
ok, so my boyfriend the other day forgot our anniversary and I was really, really upset about it. But, he felt so bad and he was even like almost crying. So, I felt kind of bad. But, I forgave him because I remembered that he was forgetfull. But, on Wednesday, his sister, whos visiting from colleage, invited me to go to their beach apartment (we live in miami), and she told me to save the date. But, yesturday he didn't call me to give me the address of the apartment. I don't want to call him anymore, I want him to call me, but what should i do.... i need a really good solution and right now honesty is NOT the best policy. He needs a wake-up call and someone has to call him, preferrably a guy, and tell him that he likes me or something. He needs to feel jealousy, rage, and want to keep me away from them. I just need a plan...... BY TODAY!!
Now, back to my mom. All she does is bother me and tell me that he's cheating on me because he didn't call me for one day, and tell me all this stuff and telling me that these are signs of resentment, and i'm done following her advice!! She ruined everything with my first guy, and she's divorced.... so she thinks she knows everything about men, but not all men are the same, people are very different and show things differently, and I don't want her advice on this. I don't want another episode of last time, so I really need your help..... please and thank you
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I think you need to relax. Men are the most forgetful creatures on this earth. They really are. If my husband didnt live with me and I didnt bother him to call me all the time I'd probably never hear from him.
I understand about the whole thing, that girls what guys to call or guys are suppose to call first but in all reality they dont. Men dont worry about little details like women do.
Dont let your mom stress you out on things like this. But dont blame her bad advice on her devorce it might be a completly different story. My moms devorced and sometimes she gives me great advice and sometimes it's the worst advice in the world.
Pick up the phone and call him tell him you want to hear from him more, you want him to call you sometimes. If he really felt that bad about missing your anniversary then he will deffinetly feel bad about not calling you. Honesty is the best policy unless you want your relationship to end and not on good terms.
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I stayed with a woman I met while she was on holiday. Into the second week, I had a visit from two of my male friends, and after dinner we all retired to have a drink. I went to bed early but the woman stayed back chatting to the guys. Later I found out that under the influence of liquor she had oral sex with the guys. She was drunk enough to be free of her inhibitions but not too drunk to know what was going on.
She did not say what happened but I got to know through reliable source and when confronted, admitted. What was significant was up to that time she was even happy to get pregnant with me and have a baby. However, I do not think she is an ideal mother.
She does have her own share of her family problems, both parents being divorced and re-married but her relationship to her father and step mother is at a very low ebb.
She feels that her father has let her down by not supporting her at any point of her life.
Her behaviour is inconsistent and unstable for a good relationship, and she constantly remind of the 20 year age gap we have although first she said it is unimportant as she finds me attractive intelligent and charming. She is also aware that I have numerous affairs.
However, I also get the feeling that she is looking to find more men although she feels she has a lesser success than me.
Sex between us is fabulous, first rate but we do have frequent arguments. She expects me to agree to her version of mild explanation on morality and on what took place and at best is very inconsistent when it comes to such a issues.
My question is can I trust her not to behave like that or consume heavy alcohol which may impair her judgement.
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First, I dont think you should blame her past on the situation. Both my parents are devorced and my biological dad was never in the picture, thank god for adoption. My biological mom hasbeen in and out of relationships like it's cool and has been married three times.
But when i found the right guy what my parents had put me through or what had happened in my past with them was erased and i started to rewrite my past and furture.
If she alread got out of control once with alcohol, there is no saying wether or not she's not going to do it again. Unless she really does regret the past and what she's done. Even then you cant be sure.
PS. i deffinetly dont think she's ready to be a mother, if she cant keep true to a commitment, how is she suppose to stay true to 9 months od pregnancy and 18 years of rasing a child?
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when doing stuff with a guy, how long should you doo it for or like what if he doesn't cum..then when do you stop? i dont want to hurt him but he takes a while! (link)
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Well, usually you dont stop until he's done. It usually does take awhile...Just keep switching things up!
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I'll admit this straight up, I get jealous; I'm human. It was never a huge problem because I'm happy with who I am, until I got my recent boyfriend whose known as a flirt. We've been dating for about 9 months now, and we're doing great. But I still get jealous because he'll go to movies alone with one other girl, and right now he's in Italy on a group trip with a girl who is totally in love with him. I trust him for the most part, but some nights when I sit and think about him I worry about what he might be doing. He won't be home from his trip for a few more weeks. So what can I do to stop myself from dying in jealousy, also for the future? Thank you. (link)
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I'm sorta a jealous person, but when i was younger and just in a boyfriend girlfriend commitment i was def. very jealous.
First off he should be just going to the movies with one other girl. I dont care if it is his best friend, your his girlfriend, she isnt. Even if they dont do anything, I wouldnt be okay with that. Not a cool thing to do. I'm completly serious on that one.
Second, the way i started getting over it was by just telling myself that he is either going to cheat on me or he isnt, his choice, and i always hoped for the best.
I dont know if I was much help but thats the way i use to look at things and it help. I wish you the best!
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I'm a 23 year old woman. I'm graduating from college by Christmas.
In the future, I really would like to get married, and most people marry someone they met in high school or college. There's no one at my college that I've met that I can see a future with. How hard is it to find your soulmate when you're out of school? (link)
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Not hard at all. Dont stress out about it, because i did and the minute i wasnt out there looking i found him. I found him where i worked, you never know where your going to meet the love of your life but dont stress yourself out. You have to make yourself happy before you get to have someone else make you happy!
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This is an amazing site, and so are the people on here and i thank everyone and anyone who reads this question.
Theres this boy, Mike. Everyone in my school hates him, I don't know why, or how, but hes gorgeous.
He wants to hook up with me, but in school, and you know, I like him and I'm up for it. But in school?? what would happen if we got caught, or out of class for so long that our teachers were looking for us?
And I sit with this boy at lunch, but he is really mean to my friend and calls her mexican, and he is also rude to me in front of his friends. Like his friend jon calls me anorexic, becuase i can't eat at like, 10:00 in the morning, im usually still sleeping then.
But, when i wear a skirt, he trys to feel up my skirt, or tight jeans he grabs my thigh or trys to stick his hands up my skirt or throws pretzles. i dont allow him becuase not to sound self centered im like a popular person in my school and all the guys are always looking at me but its kinda embarissing if hes like putting his hand up my skirt. but i see guys doing this all the time and the girls dont care, i dont get why i do...
But the question is, is he using me just for giving him a bj.. or does he really like me? i like him, but its embarissing to like him, i mean really. he is one of the most hated [but was really popular in 7th grade im now in 8th grade] boy now. but hes gorgeous and really nice to me.. (link)
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I dont understand how boys are puttig there hands up your skirt in middle school. I wouldnt go putting out sweetie that's just making a bad name for yourself. Just wait things out, and who cares if he's the most hated, if you care for him thats all that should matter not your popularity.
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I love my boyfriend to death and we've been together for a really long time but how do i know if he really loves me? But he never calls me back but tell's everyone how much he loves me? (link)
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If he expresses his love for you to people i'm pretty sure you've got nothing to worry about. Most men have ADD and cant expect a phone call. I mean damn i hardly get one from my husband. hhahah Things you'll learn. I wouldnt stress if he loves you he loves you dont question it.
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My boyfriend of about two years, just recently got his stationing and will be in Korea for two years, I get to see him in 6 months, but I'm not sure about when I'll get to see if after that. His flight leaves at 5am, which is 3 minutes. I saw him last on Friday night.
Does anyone have any ideas of what I can do to make the time apart easier on us, and our relationship?
And also, what can I do to keep myself busy, and not all depressed. Any help would be amazing.
Thank you so much.
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I'm not an amry wife but i am a marine wife. It's tough hang in there. Just remember to cherish what you've had. And cherish every moment you two have on the phone together, cherish ever email he sends. And believe me when he gets home, it'll be the best feeling ever. I think that deployments are good for some couples, because it really makes or breaks a relationship. But if you hold on strong to what you guys have you'll be fine :-D!!!
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I have a problem with getting attached so quickly and so much.It may be a problem with my current boyfriend and I don't know how to stop.I always seem to want to know what he's doing or thinking.I mean it isn't ridiculously bad to where I'm obsessed,But I know it may effect being so close.. and if/when it ever happens..that me and my boyfriend might break up.I'd be a wreck.I honestly don't know what to do or how to approach it in any way,But then again.My boyfriend is kind of the same way.Not so much as me,But he always want to see me or talk to me..whatever.It would be nice if I could just chill out or something.I'm just worried that I won't be okay in the future.I want to over-come it.How do I approach this? (link)
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It's tough I know. Being over attached happens to the best of us. There really isnt anyway to change it besides waiting it out, Being over attached will fade with age. I know it's not the answer you were looking for but it's the blunt truth!
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hi. well i need help with my boyfriend. i love him so much but he really wants to meet my family my mom knows about him but doesnt want to tell my family. i feel bad he gets mad but what can i do? im so sad hes a good guy and i wanna be with him forever but hes sad he thinks i dont want him to meet them n stuff. =( (link)
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Why is your mom acting that way. Did something happen or does she just hold a grudge against someone having intrest in her daughter. I'd sit down and talk to her about it. And let her know by not telling the family about him, she's pushing you both away. I think that might make her think I'm sure your more important to her then stressing out over a boyfriend meeting the family!
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This chick really likes my boyfriend. She texts him all the time.. which interrupts our time together sometimes. The thing is, he pays for all the texts. Incoming and whatnot. So she's flooding his phone. Blah blah. She gets mad whenever he says he busy or that he's with me ["his girl"]
She keeps sending messages about sex, getting drunk, and bjs. She just won't stop. She knows he's taken and that he's busy.
Advice? He's getting really annoyed and she's not taking a hint.
And here's my problem.
My new friend already likes me. He wants something more and he's like.. waiting for my relationship to fail. He's been "joking" or whatever about kissing me and making out. He's really sweet, believe me. But I'm really happy right now and I don't want to hang out with him.. to lead him on. He called me so many times in one day and now he's wanting for me to call him to hang out. I honestly don't want to hang out with him. It's so awkward and I don't trust him. During my finals, he walked me to all my classes and kissed my head, then later that day my cheek. :| Yeah, my boyfriend does not like that. He doesn't go to my school so he can't "Take care" of my friend. He already said sorry but he's annoying me with the constant "HANG OUT WITH ME" "ARE YOU BUSY TODAY" "CALL ME!" "CAN I HAVE YOUR NUMBER"
i have a really kind heart and i can't seem to let him down. any advice for me? (link)
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Now you see what your boyfriend is going through. Dont let this guy stress you out about letting your relationship fail or it will. Just tell him your happy at the moment and thats all you really can say. If he gets to be too much, let him know that. Dont let it keep going, doesnt matter how nice you are you have to stand up for your self. If you feel uncomforable telling him that, have a friend do it. Dont be threatning just be sweet about it.
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i fantasize about doing things w/ guys but when it comes time to actually do something with one i dont get turned on at all. but i get horny when i see my friends undressing. does that mean ima lesbian? (link)
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No you'd know if you were a lesbian. I sometime feel like that too. I'm married now, but while I was in high school I was like that. Some men just suck at what they do, you just need to find the right guy and he'll turn you on no worries, it's completly normal I promise.
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