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hey guys, I'm Stacy.

I've been missing for a while... a really long while. but I'm back, and a lot wiser(: don't be shy, I love helping people. feel free to ask me something- anything. paz.

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My bf of 5 1/2 months broke up with me on Thurs. It's my fault though. We loved each other and been through so much but I have been giving him so much shit and I was so demanding. I wanted everything my way and I always wanted to me right. I always talked shit about his family and his friends when I got mad. I knew he was getting sick of it. He was sick of the shit I was doing. He's given me multiple chances to stop and I took what he said for granted. I thought he'd take me back no matter what. But the last time he dumped me he said the next time I do it, it's really gonna be over and I said I wouldn't. But what happened was that he was out with his friends playing baseball and I texted him twice and he didn't respond and I thought he was ignoring me and was mad at me so then I sent him a text that said well you know what fuck you and your friends. I hope you all burn in hell. You're all gay and you're just like them. He sent me a text back that said well you know what you can kiss me ass because we're done. I thought he was just saying that and then we'd talk later and work it out. But he really ment it. =/ I talked to him on the phone later and I was asking him if he really ment it and at first he said I don't know and I asked him later again and he said Jacky this is what I want. I can't deal with your shit anymore. I can't deal with it. I know I screwed up and I went to far. It's all my fault. He was talking to my best friend that night and he told her that he still likes me a lot and that he's still in love with me but he can't deal with the stuff I do. He wants me to change. He said the only way he would take me back was as if I would change and not just over time but gradually over time. I cried my eyes out the day he dumped me. I only got an hour of sleep or something and then I woke up and went to take shower and I cried even more. Then I went to school and school was a total blur. It was so different without him in my life. But then I saw him at lunch and we were ignoring each other at first and then we started talking..Well more like flirting, a lot. He'd tap his leg against my knee and stare in specific private places that so called "used to be his" and I'd say, what?! And he'd smile and say, "Nothing!" lol. We'd just be smiling and laughing at each other a lot. It felt the same like we were going out. And he just kept staring at me intentionally while I knew it. I really didn't get it, whether he was playing with me or if he wants me back still or something. But what really pissed me off was that at our table he was acting like he's hot shit and he's all happy and everything. I didn't get it..I asked him how he was and he said great. We've been through so much and everything and we know each other so well and we had sex with each other. He told me he'd be with me forever. Then he'd stare at this girls body parts in front of me and act like I'd care and I'd pretend I wouldn't be looking at him while he was doing that then he said Jacky there was this girl who had a nice ass! I was like nice..I didn't understand what he was doing. Then I saw him flirting with my ex best friend laughing and smiling at her and he didn't know I was around but I don't know why he was doing that shit. I was so sad it's incredible. He loves me and still likes me, why would he be doing this?! :( And what was even weirder was that after 7th hour I walked with my best friend Laura because she always meets her bf who's friends with mine and I walked with them and then my ex and were talking and he kept smiling at me and he waited for me at my locker..It was so weird. But my life feels so messed up right now. I really want him back so bad. What do you think I should do? How do I get him back?

wow this is a whole great mess, i'm sorry that you had to go through this. Breaking up with a boyfriend is never easy, reguardless of the situation.

I know you still love him, and vise-versa, I understand that, but to be honest, hun, theres not much you can do to "get him back". you should take in what he says; that a gradual change on your part could really improve the relationship you have.

It's very fortunate that in this situation, he'll still flirt with you, act like you guys are still a couple, etc. that lets you know that he's deff. still interested.

As for the flirting with girls... guys are alwyas like that. You know, they like to make girls jealous, atleast from my experience thats what I gather. I wouldn't take it too personally though I know it hurts but hes probably just doing his guy thing. my advice though is do the same he's doing [flirt with other guys in front of him]. it works, trust me [;

Things will fall into place, because thats always what happens. Give it time, I know it hurts, believe me, all us girls have been in a similar sitiuation. I hope I've helped hun.

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Ok heres the deal my sister has been going out with his guy marlon for a couple of monthes she says she loves him, but i don't really care i don't think she is happy, cause the only thing their relationship is based off of is humor, and that they are funny people and even funnier together. But i think she should stop going with him, i mean they always agruing and why would you want that! But he's cool and everything i just want her to be with chris brown they are a lot like each other and she knows if she could she'd take him over marlon any day! But should i just leave this situation alone or take action right away!? She said that chris brown is still awesome and everything,but she would never get the chance, but i am saving up all my money so that when chris brown new cd come out in august i can buy two copies one for her and me and then tickets to when he goes on tour for the album and maybe even backstage passes so that she can see that she was wrong and i know i'm exaggerating a little, but who cares! I don't even know if they will still be together by then,but if so and i save up my money and get this and my plan don't work i'm going to hurt marlon! Just kidding! Hahahaha!

thats nice of you to be saving up your money to try to make your sister happy by meeting Chris Brown but the people below me are right. It's very unlikely that they`ll end up falling in love. You seem like you're a good sister to her, so maybe you should just take your sisters word for it. if she says shes happy then i'll believe her. plus two every relationship has arguments at one point.

let your sister make the dicisions for her own life.

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Well I really like this guy and it seems like he likes me too. Should I ask him out or wait for him to ask me out?

I say ask him [=. Don't loose your chance, trust me. It's happened before and its hard to go through with. Hope I helped, and good luck! [=

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Ok well I have really big boobs and I am skinny and so ya I am considered hot...but see a lot of guys that I talk to only like me because I am "hot" and so I don't know how to get a guy that likes me for me and not just my body..because all the guys just look at my boobs and stuff...How do I get the guys to like my personality and not just my looks?? I want guys and girls to answer this...THANKS!!!

The guys that are into that aren't the ones you should be hanging out with. The guys that are not, are the ones that you need to hang out with. People shouldn't like you for only your looks, that's just wrong. If you have friends because they want some "attention" from you, than that's not fair to you, you don't deserve that.

As for you question on the guys llikeing you for your personallity, if you are always yourself, then guys should appreciate that. Just be yourself and always do what you think is best and stuff, people seem to appreciate that.

Hope I helped

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yo i have a friend (whos a girl) and im a dude (of course) and shes like my best friend, she helps me when i feel like every1 hates me. i really truly do love her. but i very well doubt she likes me can u help me express my feelings without losing my best friend or at least not sorta freakin her out?
signed,
loves but not loved

If you are best friends, than you should be able to talk to her like that. Don't bring it up randomly, and try not to spill out what you're going to say all at once, it might overwhelm her. Maybe you should ask her who she likes, and try to see if you can get her to open up.

You should tell her that you like her. It's worth a try, seriously. You never know, she could like you too. Oh yeah, try and flirt with her, and spend time with her (but don't suffocate her, you know?).

Hope I helped

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I like this guy so much, but he doesn't even notice me. its like omg, it gets so frustrating. what shuold i do to make him notice me?

Um, do you talk to him? lol. Maybe if you try to go up to him, touch his arm, giggle a little bit, he might seem to take intrest in you. But don't try to hard, that looks like... well... your trying to hard, and no one likes that, trust me.

Hope I helped

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is it alright to have a crush on an actor as long as you dont go bananas??? like a small one not too serious??? i feel guilty because i do>>>> sorry that this question is properly punctuated> the shift key has suddenly been deactivated

:) hollis

If you have a crush on an actor is fine. I know people that are obsessed with certain actors.

There are a lot of girls who are totally "bananas" about certain actors. If you have a little crush that's fine, there's not abnormal about that. Why do you feel guilty about it though? There's seriously nothing wrong with that, no matter what actor.

Hope I helped!

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Does anyone know any good websites with heartbreak or love quotes?? Beside firehoquotes.com....

I love wittyprofiles.com, it has a great variety, and yes, great heartbreak and love quotes.

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