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Theres this kid. I had a feeling he liked me about 1.5 years ago. I hadn't seen him much since then, until the start of this schoolyear. Lately whenever I look at him he's staring at me with, not an open mouth exactly, but his jaw is definitely kinda dropped. And its not like in the gross way haha.

I turn around a lot to talk to my friend who sits diagonally behind me & he sits beside her (but not behind me) & whenever I do, he's staring.

He's kinda quiet so he's never really made conversation with me, but he butts into me and my friend's conversations sometimes.

Do you think he likes me? (link)
i'm a girl and i noe boys defiently and i think he reallly likes you and does not know how to show it really well


i have a bf and we dont talk much we have fights alot but we make up again idk what to do =-[
plz help me (link)
mabey you should start talking and starting loving more and be all sweet if taht does not work then you have to go froward not backward that means leave him there is plenty more boys out there your not gonna ruin every chance with a guy just because of him if you try the first thing i say then mabey it would be better for you or you can just spend a lot more time together


theres a guy and we've been great friends for 6 years and this year we gotten so much closer we hang out atleast once a week and he says things like hes wants to be by me and wnts to sit with me and like we talk about college (im 15)and he says that he wants me to be his dorm buddie and he offers to buy things for me, plays with my hair , hold the door and says nice things about me. we both manipulate each other by doing things like he gets me to go somewhere if i really don't want to and i get him to go places too and we sing (link)
mabey he starting not to like you so you have to be a bigger person starting looking really good and acting like yourself and start hanging with your other friends taht are guys and mabey if he gets mad you know if it's just friends or not


its a very long story but basically over the years me and my best friend have always wanted to be with each other. things got in the way. he was in a relationship for a while but now that recently ended. we're taking it slow for now but we both know that eventually within the next few months we're going to be dating. we talk on the phone multiple times a day and we love each other without a doubt and we're not afraid to say it. so i have two questions:

1)because we've been best friends for a while and do love each other how do you know when its crossed the point of loving to being in love with each other?

2)im a virgin, hes not but that doesnt really concern me. we're very open about sex and i would trust him with my life so after how many months of dating would it be acceptable to have sex. i know its up to me and whatever im comfortable with but i dont want to do it too soon. and i have to stress this point that we aren't just best friends who are sexually attracted to each other. we want to be in a relationship. (link)
well it's crossed a point that you love eachother and you now might show it and you know you like him and he likes you so i would say that you should wait for at least 5-6 months and when you think your ready then because it's important for you to feel comfortable with you and him being together


***I'm 13 Female***

Okay, so in my math class by my desk is this guy named Nick and this girl named Karlee. Karlee thinks I should date Nick and I don't want to. I don't want to date him and she won't leave me alone! I'm getting really mad at her, and she says everything out loud in a loud voice, so my friends know all this, and I'm going to go crazy sometime soon. And the teacher hears her and just smiles... I'm really mad and want to do something about it but I'm lost.

Any advice?

Thanks! (link)
well you should tell her to stop or tell the teacher if you can move to another seat because she keeps bothering you or just say mind your own buisness and i do what i want


okay so i have a boyfriend. me and his best friend(eric) are really close and he likes me and i like him. my boyfriend is out of town. so me and eric are hanging out one night and we have an inside joke that at 11 each night we will have sexy time.last night we kinda had it. we were in his bed and we would take turns taking off clothes. he was in his boxers and i stole his shirt so i had everything but my bra on.he undid my bra. is this cheating? (link)
yes dat cheating cuz u played him wit hiz best friend da luks bad


okay, so me and my ex (I am 14/ f and he is 13/m) broke up about 2 months ago.
About two weeks ago, i called him to just see how he was, and we ended up talking.
recently, he keeps telling me tht he misses me soooo much and he misses talking to me everyday
and he misses hugging me because my hugs are different then everyone elses and that nothing makes him feel better.
On the phone, we were remincing about old times like when we were laying on his trampoline and looking at the stars or when i fell asleep on him at my house and "how cute i looked"
and he kept saying "wow that was so much funn"
and it was him bringing up these times too not just me.
I also kept asking him what he was thinking about different times and he said
a. how many good times we've had
b. how theres nobody else like me and that im special
c. how cute im being
d. everything
e. me


Then, at 11:11 he asked me if i made a wish and i said "no, did you?" and he said yeah
and i asked him what it was but he wouldnt tell me at all

and this is the worst

there was a point in the convo where i said " i miss you"
and hes like " what? you love me?"
and i didnt say that, but i was like al tired i dont even know why i didnt correct him but i didnt and hes like
"i love you too....i love you too"
like he was repeating it.
and he called me babe more then once. i know it.
it might have been because we were both tired.
but i dont know.
it was about 12 30 when i was like "okay 5 more mins" because he had school the next day and he sounded tired.
and he was like "10 more minuties."
and then when 10 mins was up hes like "nooo. ! unlimited amount of timee"
and then he was like "im gonna talk to you foreverrrr"
and i dont really even know.
and he said he was going to go to a party today but then later in the convo he was like " if your not busy...can i call you tommorow?" then later
"im not going to the party anymore"

He said he still thinks about me alll the time
and then he said he still wants me in his life
and i was like "what do you mean?"
and hes like "i dont knoww"

Then the conversation finally ended when his mom woke up and he had to get off the phone.
The problem is, he has a girlfriend still. He doesnt really talk to his girlfriend on the phone, mostly me.
I dont know what his deal is, and i really just need somebody to tell me what his deal is and what they think about this whole situation.
help, please.? (link)
To tell oyu the truth he likes you but mabey there is something connecting you together.Or its just a bootty call but i think it realy isn't you should be like whats up with us two.


I don't understand why I act in a way that is different from myself every time I am around a guy that I like in a date type situation. I mean I have only had one boyfriend in the past but he broke up with me because the relationship was weird, and it was my fault. It was my fault for not being myself and for trying to hide who I am. Ever since I was little I have been strange but I take pride in that and all my friends love me because of who I am. I like my personality too but I can't show that through in relationships. Like right now I really like a guy but feel like when I am around him he is not really SEEING the real me. He is only seeing the shyer, awkwarder version of me. Before I liked him, like before the flirting and more serious situations I could talk to him and try to open myself up to him. I just wish i could understand what my problem is, and i could be able to show people who I am. Because if there is one thing I hate its feeling like I can't control who I am. (link)
hey all you need to do is be around other guys as friends and you can learn by not be shy around them im like that to


so. yesterday, i went over my friends house.
and we decided to talk to my friend on vf.
and ive had a huge crush on him 4 a really long time.
honestly, im not into the whole "online relationship" thing but hes just so sweet and adorable.
anyways, we were talking and my frend nos i like him.
suddenly, he got sad and my fiend tried to cheer him up.
he said he wanted to talk to me
so yea i tried to cheer him up
and it worked
then after that i was sad
(i.d.k. when ppl r sad it makes me sad)
so shannika (my friend) started talking to him again.
she asked em if she could tell him i liked him
i sadi no and she kept asking me and i kept saying no.
eventually i put a illow over my face and said fine.
she told him and this is what he said.

"awh meri.
swheetheart (link)
hey you can stop crying by telling him how you realy feel and ask him about the other girl and ask him out


well i've been with my boyfried for almost 2 months. the first month was great! amazing even. but lately its just seemed as if i were just another girl. i know he cares about me. when its just us two its different(most of the time) its better. im not sure whats change but something has. i feel like when im gone for a while he doesnt miss me..that or he doesnt show it. idk its crazy. i think we need more flirting going on. that could make it funner. but how exactly do i do that? like how do i be more flirty..any tips? thatd be great! (link)
well my friend has been in dat situation n her boyfriend was actin like yours 2.... you just need 2 do more things 2 getha... go 2 places... have fun... open up 2 him... dont b scared 2 do anythin with him or dont b scared 2 say n e thing.. you really think you need 2 b more flirty wit him????// well gurl just get closer 2 him wen you around him let ur self go... r u sure he really wants 2 b wit you??????????/ but n e ways... good luck i hope this helps you a little... by the way if you dont tell him how you feel den he dont know wats wrong wit you n wat he needs to change so you n him can b happy.. n you wont b feelin the way you feelin know..


My ex boyfriend recently started dating this super trashy girl but for some reason it still makes me jealous to see them together. His/her friends talk crap on me when I'm around (like in class, I do not hangout with them) I know 100% that if I layed the offer to go back out with him he would dump her in an instant, but I don't want him. He was abusive and controlling. But I constantly find myself wanting to get back at him or at least show up his jerk friends. I need some ideas of how to make myself seem totally independant of him (like ways to make him jealous I guess but in a mature way) and how to deal with his anonying friends. Any ideas? I'm 16/f (link)
You know what you can do is find another man and start to go out with him and show him that your new man gives you more respect then hima nd go up to his friend and show them taht your not afraid of them and that they are jerks and show off your new boyfriend and when your near him kiss your new boyfriend when he starts to look at you


okay so im a male and im 14 and i asked this girl out and she said yes but then shes like gotten all mad and i dont know if shes mad at me she wont talk to me when i try to talk to her. so i guess its my fault. any advice on how to fix this problem. (link)
hey how is is she whats her name e-mail taht to me and i can probly help u belevive me


my boyfreind tells me i dont act like his girlfreind. i dont get it. what can i do to be a better girlfriend? ive only had one boyfriend before so i guess i dont have much experience. i mean we kiss a lot and have sex but he still tells me i dont act like it. what can i do? (link)
well you can talk to him hang out with him play around say you love him and be good to him


so ive liked this guy for a very long time and i started liking him bc he started giving me hints that he liked me...so we started becoming friends and close enough that we text each other about once a week or so. now i thought he was going to ask me and soon and then the most popular girl in my grade is in our math class and she has no friends so she sits up front next to the class nerd.anyways i sit next to the guy i like and diagnal (or however u spell it) from him is of course that girl and she has only done little flirty things like write her name all over his binder. so today at the end math class when we were handing in our papers she walks up to him and puts her hands around him as if she was slow dancing and i couldnt handle watching it but he didnt do anything back but have the biggest smile on his face. he didnt put his hands on herthank god. put when the bell rang she put her arm around him and walked all the way down the hall like that and he did the same thing just smile...so anyways what should i do because i cant watch her do this any longer..on day was hard enough and i wanna text him saying something like..ohh what happened with you after math class today but idk what to do..plz help..thx in advance :)
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you can go ask him out or let her steal him if it was me i would ask him out before her


Well I REALLY like this guy that 'used to' go to my school, but then he got expelled so now he's going to another school!
And we don't see eachother outside of school...So right now I'm like really depressed and I miss him and there's like no one I can talk to because some people are tired of hearing about him and others might think I'm pathetic or something if I tell them how much I miss him! So how should I deal with this? I hate being depressed (obviously), but I can't help it!
I miss him SO much!!!!!!
What should I do???!!!
Any advice would be GREAT! Thanks! (link)
hey tell me a little more about the boy e-mail me at lopez.ivelisse@yahoo.com 13 f so don't get scared


sigh, ok sorry if this is long...

alright so you know how once you get something you want, things change? let me be specific. Here is what you need to know:
I'm 17
I got out of a long relationship a year ago.
Since then, I haven't been with another guy
I was sick of being in a relationship basically.
It was great for a year but then i wanted to get out there again, on a certain level.
I just wanted to have fun, nothing serious.

Now, i had this guy friend for two years and he would always flirt with me, even when I had a boyfriend. I liked him, he was fun and cute and very chill, however i could never picture us together as more than friends, even though i found him attractive. OK also at the time my best friend had a HUGE crush on him so...

But that was last year. Since then i broke up with my boyfriend and my best friend not only got over him but she also moved three hours away. So when i started feeling like i wanted to have fun, i thought of him as the perfect candidate. I talk to my best friend still and when i told her she told me to watch out because he might really like me and want a relationship. I just let things go their natural way and he ended up coming over my house one day to watch a movie, but we hooked up instead. The thing is before he asked i told him the truth- i dont want anythings serious. He said yeah me either so it was ok.

Now the problem:

I started feeling like maybe it wasnt the smartest thing to do. He said he was single but i didnt really make sure he was. truth is i have no idea, he flirts with a lot of girls. then i started thinking he was a player and i was OK with that because after all, i just wanted to have fun too. I dont know, like i said, things change. I started doubting myself on whether it was ok... So now finally the questions:

1. Was it ok to do what we did?
2. Is it ok to keep doing it because id be up for it still. I like him but not enough to get involved so i thought it was perfect.
3. Should I tell my best friend (we kinda promised to tell each other everything but this...I dont know)

Anyone who can help me figure this out, I appreciate it!
Thanks! =]

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well you should tell her and you should ask him to be honest and tell him how you feel cause he might have another girl you know so tell him that you don't like him to flirt with other girls and do be like serois


ok well my b.f is comin to spend the day with me at my neighborhood TODAY!!! like a ina few hours and i dont no what the hell lwe are going to do !!! PLEASE we dont live close to anything ,,,,and he doesnt have a car sooooo please like i mean litearally we have nothing near us NOTHING and my neighborhood..is a freakin circle,,,,!! HELP PLEASE IT URGENT ..im taking any advice anything (link)
well you could go walk and talk to him you can also watch t.v and play games or just invite your friends and play teenager things with him to or just sit outside or on the roof show him your pics of you and hold hands


how to tease a guy to the point where he is about to go crazy....some tips please(:

I will rate! (link)
make fun of him and talk to other boys and hug the other boys or act very funny


I have been with my boyfriend for 6 months now and I care about him alot. With the Christmas season here he has been having to work about 60 hours a week with no days off(since about the begining of November). Now all we do is fight. I know it is because he is stressed and exhausted and I never feel like I get to see him; I also know that it will get back to normal after holiday season calms down in about a month. I just don't know what to do to make him not hate me for fighting with him all of the time. I don't want us to break up but I don't know how to calm my mood swings and fighting so he won't get tired of me. Please help... I have been so depressed because of this. (link)
mabey you should let him work and talk to him when he not tired or working and you know you can always count on him to love you.


me and my boyfriend have been dating a month and like two weeks. he always tells me he likes me soo much and he gets jealous easily when im with my guy friends so i know he likes me. im his first girlfriend soo yea i know he cares. well we joke around with eachother alot like sometimes we are mean joking and sometimes we're playful so i cant really tell when hes kidding or not...but anyway, like a week ago he was like i made out with a girl she was hott. im like ohh thats cute and i thought he was kidding and all this stuff..and we didnt talk about it..but then today on the bus my friend blake (who sometimtes jokes around too) told me that tyler(my boyfriend) made out with this chick like a week ago. and i remembered tyler telling me he did. but i thought he was kidding? soo whats going on? what should i do..are they messing with me or what. i have no idea.. (link)
i would act like you kissed another boy and tell him that you kissed a very cute boy.




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