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trying to get back at an ex
My ex boyfriend recently started dating this super trashy girl but for some reason it still makes me jealous to see them together. His/her friends talk crap on me when I'm around (like in class, I do not hangout with them) I know 100% that if I layed the offer to go back out with him he would dump her in an instant, but I don't want him. He was abusive and controlling. But I constantly find myself wanting to get back at him or at least show up his jerk friends. I need some ideas of how to make myself seem totally independant of him (like ways to make him jealous I guess but in a mature way) and how to deal with his anonying friends. Any ideas? I'm 16/f
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You know what you can do is find another man and start to go out with him and show him that your new man gives you more respect then hima nd go up to his friend and show them taht your not afraid of them and that they are jerks and show off your new boyfriend and when your near him kiss your new boyfriend when he starts to look at you
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There is no 'mature way' to make someone jealous. Trying to make someone jealous is simply an imature behavoir.
You don't need to *seem* totally indepedant of him. You ARE totally indepedant of him. If he is so stupid he doesn't see that, well, there is nothing you can do that will make him any less of an idiot.
It's okay to WANT to do something, but it's far better not to bother. Frankly, I've never seen anybody try to make another person jealous without having it blow up in thier face.
It wont make you feel better.
The best thing you can do is learn to stop caring what he thinks. That way, if he doesn't get jealous, you don't give a shit, and if for some strange reason he does, it's just a nice bonus.
Just give him and his friend exactly what they deserve: Ignore them completely. They simply don't matter.
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the simplest solution to this problem is for you to find a boyfriend, or boytoy, or someone to just help make him jealous.
play the same game he's playing.
showing him that you are definately over him is a guarantee way of making him realize what he lost.
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My personal opinion? Do nothing. He's obviously dating her to make you jealous, and it's working. You said yourself he was abusive and controlling, so he deserves what he's got now.
I think it'd be a poised and mature thing to simply ignore him and move on with your life. I suppose you could get back at him by being a better person than him. And when you get a new guy (a better one than him, I hope!) you can let him know what he's missing.
Oh and as a side note, if that girl isn't one who is talking crap about you (though I have a feeling she is) I'd give her a heads up on the abusive/controlling part of his personality, even though she probably won't listen to you.
-LM
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