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my boyfreind tells me i dont act like his girlfreind. i dont get it. what can i do to be a better girlfriend? ive only had one boyfriend before so i guess i dont have much experience. i mean we kiss a lot and have sex but he still tells me i dont act like it. what can i do?
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I think it is good that your boyfriend communicated enough to let you know that he feels something is missing from your relationship. He may have not followed through with explaining why but he may think that you already know what he meant. From here it's your turn to ask him what he feels is missing and why he is feeling that you're not acting much like a girlfriend.
It's important that you inquire from him what exactly he feels you should be doing. My guess is you two have stopped going out on dates as often (or he feels you should if you haven't). Usually couples go out for movies or dinner occasionally; although, it's not uncommon to have an at-home date with home-made dinner and a movie rental. He may be feeling that the bond between you two is diminishing so try to find some things you two can do together that you two haven't done (or haven't done in awhile).
Sometimes it's the little things that matter. If you two are out, he may feel that you should be holding his hand. He may feel that you two should talk more often (especially if all you are doing when together is having sex--there may be a huge lack of communication if this is the issue). Maybe he feels you should be coming to him with problems more often than you do (guys like to solve problems). He may really miss little things you use to tell him ("I miss you").
You really will have to ask him what is missing if you want a truthful answer. He is the only one that really knows.
On another subject, having sex does not make you a girlfriend, wife, friend, or whatever else you may think. Anyone can have sex with anyone. Prostitutes have sex every day and they don't have any attachment to their customers. So, having sex isn't making you any more or less of a girlfriend.
I hope you find the time to discuss your relationship with your boyfriend and find out what is missing for him. I wish you the best of luck working everything out.
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well you can talk to him hang out with him play around say you love him and be good to him
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some guys just have high expectations, especially younger guys that may not have had a lot of successful relationships. hes probably expecting you to wait on him hand and foot, and thats not cool.
if you feel your doing right by him then next time he says your not acting like a girlfriend then tell him he can go find someone who will, because your not the problem here and i can bet after a week he'll come crawling back. if not your better off without him, demanding guys aren't worth keeping, life is too short and you deserve better.
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Talk to him about this. Tell him to be more specific. What exactly does he expect from you?
In the end, that's kind of rude of him to say. He should like/love you for the way you are no matter how you act. He's dating you and you shouldn't have to change anything about yourself.
If you really want to please him, I guess a few minor changes wouldn't hurt. Maybe do random sweet things for him like love notes and such.
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