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My name is Iris. I am a senior and im making the best of it! A little about me... I am really outgoing and i dont judge people. I love giving people advice, and you can ask me anything. I will give you my honest answer, i dont sugar coat things. I've learned that the people that matter the most are the ones that have been there through everything. I live life to the fullest and learned to never have regrets. Take risks and learn from your mistakes. Have fun and dont look back. Ever....

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Suggest me cute names for my boyfriend

honey bear, boo, baby boy,

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is there a name for it when you drink and get horny

yes its called being drunk

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One day i was going to skool and i saw a guy that i liked and my friends were asking me who i liked and i said his name and most of them seem like they were serious so they went up to his table and ask him out for me and he said yes so i dated him for 2 days then his ex-girlfriend came in the relationship and i was angry forthe day he broke up with me just for a girl that was my bf and she knew that i was datin him so i got angry at her so when i hear his name around i get sad cause i miss him. So i want you answer should i still be mad at my bf? or not? :(

no you should not be mad because you knew tht was your best friends ex so you should have never dated him

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Okay so my boyfriend and I were the perfect couple always g0ot along and the odd time had arguments. Now, he's been acting really differently towards me as if he loves me less and it's freaking me out. I think it might have something to do with that he found out I danced with someone at a party a long time ago but yeah:( I need help I really want too be with him but is that what's best? thank you so much :) btw, I'm 15 and he's 16

if i were you i would ask him whats wrong and tell him how you feel tell him that you feel as though he's being a little distant. if he found out about you dancing with another guy along time ago then i dont think that would really bother him because that was a while ago

kk hope i helped

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So my boyfriend broke up with me today. He was really stuttering along trying to get his words out there and I just knew he was gonna end it by the way he was talking and stuff. So I just took it expectantly. And we went on our ways.

Later he texted me and after a while I decided to text back because I was unsure if I should but I decided I needed closure and to find out what happened.


This is how it went:
Him: 'I'm so sorry. I hope we can still be friends. I just need some time"
Me: "Alright, and you really think that "just being friends' will work or are you just saying that as a popular breakup line? You can tell me the truth, I want to know."
Him: "I have feelings for you still. I just need some time. And if things don't work out I'd like to still have you as a friend." (NOTE: It made me happy to hear this because I feel the same way. But by the way he said that can I assume he wants to try dating again sometime down the line?)
Me: "I agree with you on that. The last thing I want is for you to just be out of my life just like that. But what do you mean when you say 'I just need time' Like you want to hang out with your friends more? You like someone else? Just explain to me why. I can handle it."
Him: "I have to much on my mind with me getting a job right now. All my friends want to hang out. And it's just to much. I have to get it all figured out."
Me: "And that's the honest truth?"
Him: "Yeah pretty much."
Me: "Alright, then I can live with that. Do what you gotta do, I get it."
Him: "I'm sorry"
Me: "It's alright."
Him: "I feel so bad."
Me: "I'm not gonna say I'm completely fine with this but I understand and you shouldn't worry about it too much."
Him: "I'm just as upset as you are. Believe it or not."
Me: "If you say so, it is a little difficult to believe though."
Him: "I am a lot actually."
Me: "I'm sorry to hear that."
Him: "Thanks. I hope you're fine too."
Me: "I will be."

And that's the end of it. I feel a lot better after talking to him about this. Do you think I handled it well? And do you think he is being honest and genuine?

I want to be friends with him. And how can I assure myself that tomorrow at school when I see him it won't be awkward and we can still talk. What are some things I can ask him?

i think you handled it well most people would have just told him off or said something stupid that would end their relationship and friendship, you wanted to figure out the real reason why he broke up with you and you got it. Yeah it might be a little acward at first just because you guys had a relationship and now your only friends but think about it maybe over time you guys can get back together and make things better because he can learn how to manage hanging with friends, work and having time to spend with you if you decide to work things out

kk hope i helped

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I have fallen in love with someone who doesnt feel the same. when he's infront of me he's like the sweetest person in the world, everyone who knows us are always saying what a good couple we'd make, people already think we're dating! however, when he isn't around me, say we dont see eachother for a bit he'd completely ignore me. well, ive fallen in love with him now and i cant get him out my head. he is not interestd as i told him how i feel, he told me staight up hes not interested and he has a girl. but i dont understand why he gets jelous when i talk to other boys though. he still stays with me all day at work, we have a laugh, he just doesnt want a relationship. he stares at me, touches me, jokes about and shows he cares but i really dont understand it. please give me some advice to get over him?

Female 18

i think that he may see you as a good friend someone who he can talk to and that he doesnt want you talking to other boys because he could see you as a sister and he doesnt want to see you get hurt . Maybe you feel in love with him because of how he makes you feel, but if he has a girlfriend and is not intrested then maybe you should back off find things that make you keep your mind off of him dont hang out with him as much because the more you hang out then the more attached you might get. Find someone new keep your opitions open dont focus on him
kk hope i helped.

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Name key (fake names):
Me: Annabeth
Boyfriend: Jaysyn

I'm 16, a sophomore in high school. My boyfriend, Jaysyn, is a senior, 18. He's really sweet, and it didn't take me long to fall head over heels for him. I met him last year when I was a freshmen and he was a junior, and we started dating one month later. He was always very sweet and understanding about the whole sex thing: he wanted it, but every time I tried, I told him the truth--I'm no where near being ready for that, even if I might want it. Every time I said so, he was really sweet, saying he understood and wouldn't dream of making me do anything I wasn't ready to do. Lately, he's been going back on that promise. He's been getting kind of physical about it, too. Pushing me and shoving me and stuff; a couple of months ago we were at his house watching TV in his room because he gets free movies on his XBox through netflix, and he started kissing my neck and touching my leg and stuff. He was getting really touchy, and pushed his hand away and told me to stop, and he got really mad and he raised his hand as if he was going to hit me, but instead he just pushed me away from him, and I almost fell off the couch. I left when he did that and I went home. He called me five times an hour all night after that, and almost ten times the next day. Since then, he's been getting more violently, and touchy feely and rough, and when I deny him sex he gets really pissed. Last night I got up to leave and he grabbed my arm so hard I thought my wrist would break. Then he pushed me and I fell into the table--my knees are bruised. He called me a whore and a tease and told me I was being a bitch, and I left. This morning we had a date, and I didn't expect or want to go on the date after last night, but he showed up at my house right on time. I told him to go away and started to close the door, but he forced his way into the house and apologized for last night and got my oat from the closet and we went out and actually had a good time. He was really sweet, and he acted as though last night never happened. What do I do?

girl your in a sticky situation, but if i were you i would leave he sounds like he's violate dont let anyone ver hurt you ! you deserve better why would you let him do those things to you if he loves you then he wouldnt hurt you and thats what he's doing he hurting you. so what you love him he doesnt respect you and if he doesnt respect you then your just going to lose respect for yourself and dont do that because I'm pretty sure your a pretty girl. ALL guys want are sex not all but most and i think that if you dont give it up to him then he'll just hurt you more by getting it from someone else. leave him alone he's a senior pretty soon he'll be off to college

kk hope i helped

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hello all...lately ive given up on finding a boyfriend a stick to messing around with people. But this one guy did make a move on me. his name is Efrain; dominican, and a senior..hes a real sweetie but..theres a three year difference..we arent even supposed to be dating supposedly.
some of my friends say not to mess around with that..others say screw the law.i agree with that point of course but...what should i do?
hugs&rockets---Michelle

hes 18/m (birthday august 18) im 15/f (birthday june 25)
oh and we're still 'talking'

hello(: first off thats not that big of an age diffrence there others who date people who are ten times older then they are. i think your still young so you shouldnt mess around with him only because he's going to be 19 and he's going to be going off to college soon he might not want a high schooler i think that you should find someone whos around your age even though he is around your age .. i think you should go out with him and just see where it goes i mean it wouldnt really be considered rape if you dont have sex or anything like that i would go for it but just be careful and be true to yourself.

k hope i helped.

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hi !
i'm starting to like this guy, and i think that he might like me back too...its just that i don't want to get my hopes too high and get my feelings hurt again..
anyways.. the only thing we do is say hi whenever we pass by each other and thats about it.
but i really want to get to know him and be his friend first. The only problem to this is that i don't really know how to start off a conversation with him, cause whenever we say hi.. we just move on after that...i don't want to look like a weirdo..
Help Me ???

lol i've been in your postion many of times first off you have to just be open and pick up your confidence :) if your confident about yourself then it will help you get courage in order to start a real converstaion with him. maybe you should start of small you know like ask him how was his day or something or tell him a joke just say hey want to hear a joke and then say what did the blanket say when it fell off the bed ? aww shheett. haa i know it sounds lame but trust me thats how i made all my friendships i just come off as goffy just try being yourself and dont freak out stay calm he's only a guy:) and if he likes you back then your good so start
TALKING! k hope i helped keep me posted:)

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There's this guy. He's basically my best friend, and though he's told me before: "I see you as a sister, not a girl I'd ever date... but we can fuck sometime:)" (Ok, I know what you're thinking, but he's not a douche! haha, the whole "screwing thing", that's just how we joke around with eachother). we still text/call every single day and flirt and hang out and what not... I can't help but to fall for the guy that's always there for me, supporting me, making me laugh, protecting me... And I know he doesn't like any other girls. Except for this one girl... We were playing the "questions game" and he asked me if I had to date someone, who would it be. But I said "I don't wanna answer that. what would you say?" and he goes "(girl in his grade's name). Not cause I like her... but she's nice and we talk every so often". He wants to ask her to prom... This girl. She IS nice. And she's not ugly or anything like that. She's just kind of... plain? That's not a nice thing to say but... She's just so... UGH. Hahaha I'm sorry, I can't explain it. There's just something about her that bugs me. Maybe it's his interest in her?? I just can't help but think that him and I are so RIGHT for eachother. But I don't think he sees it that way. He says he loves me like his sister. Which I don't know... I guess I love him like that too. He's really protective of me. He doesn't like guys taking me out, hitting on me, touching me, basically even talking to me... He says no ones good enough for me. Whatever. I don't know what to do. It's like a punch in the gut when I think about him with any other girl. But it's weird to think about me with him like that too... I can't sort out the feelings of brotherly love from the feelings of what might be something different. How can he want to talk to me and see me everysingle day and not care about me the way I do for him...? Or think I do...? I just don't know what to do because I don't want to ruin our friendship. I don't know if I could live without him... haha, not literally of course, but you know what I mean. Can anyone PLEASE just help me sort all of this out...??? (Oh, we HAVE both admitted there is... uh, physical attraction, but we've never kissed anywhere but the cheek. We kinda cuddle sometimes...) I'm 15, girl. He's 16, almost 17)

if i were in your postion i might tell him how i really feel about him maybe you should play the question game with him and ask him how he really feels about you. i think that you to oviously like each other if you cuddle and talk a lot maybe there is something there between you to but you just dont know it yet. maybe he feels the same way that you feel about him if he always defends you and cant see you with another guys just like you cant bare to see him with another girl. i think maybe you should talk to him about how you feel.

kk hope i helped

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hey everyone 13/f I love watching old movies on tcm and up to date movies in old time surrondings like in a different time period like the Notebook in the 40's. I was just wondering is there men still like that these days like noah from the notebook and similar characters. I just really can't explain I mean like that aren't trash. Like thats sweet old fashioned and things? I hope I'm not making A fool outta myself I just hate it when I think about it that guys aren't the same now as when they were in the 40's and 50's ? So do you think their are still guys like that?? Thanks you guys(: Please help!

I'm pretty sure there is but its really hard to find now and days this is 2011 all thses boys try to act like there something there not just to fit in and i think that they should be more like the guys in the movies instead of something fake and fony guys that your trying to find are out there you just have to be patient and try to find them once you find them you know that you'll always have someone to be there for you because they are the sweetest thing (:

kk hope i helped

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I'm fifteen. I am in a great relationship with one of the most amazing guys I have ever known. We have been dating for about three months now, and I am so happy. This relationship is trusting and open, and it's just a wonderful thing to be in a relationship without fear of loving again. Anyway, I usually write him little love notes, and he really likes when I do that. But I really want to show him how much I love and appreciate him. He buys me gifts and treats me like I'm the world, and I really want to show my gratitude to him another way besides notes and material things. What do you suggest?

you should plan a day to hang out with him all day maybe go to the movies or something just a day where you two can both spend the whole day together and maybe even tell him how much he means to you in person because its better if he hears it from you rather then notes even though notes are cute(: i"m glad for you that you are in a open relationship its hard to find those now and days but good luck

kk i hope i helped

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So it's been a month now since I broke up with my ex bf. I have a new bf and he sees pictures of me and my ex on his facebook all the time ...it kinda bothers him...no wait it really bothers him and he asked me why my ex has those pictures up still and I told him I don't know. Well last night my ex text me about something I don't remember and I asked him to put the pictures down. He told me that he wouldn't and I quote "I don't care for your relationsips these are my pictures and I want to remember what we had" I don't care what he does in his private home but I just don't want to see pictures of us on facebook like it doesn't look cool. I don't know why he's acting like this, what can I do to have him at least put them in a private file or something?

tell him that you guys moved on and maybe he should move on to, i think he might still be stuck on you but if the relationship ended it obviously ended for a reason . i think that it will take him time for him to come around and actually put the pictures down but he will eventaully trust me i was in the same situaiton. The best thing that you can do in this situation is tell your new bf about everything and jus be open with him tell him that you told your ex to take the pictures down but he wont and if this guy is a nice guy then he will understand

kk hope i helped

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i am a freshmen in high school and i am 16 i have been in a long distance relationship for 4 months and he broke up with me because he said he does not know what to do anymore so what should i do should i give him space or what????

sometimes long distance relationships aren't meant to be. Maybe you were too pushy or something but for right now he wants his space i think that you should give it to him at least for now maybe he'll come around and realize what he missed . Maybe he feels as though he cant be in the relationship anymore because of the distance? i think that you guys should talk about the situation more. Because you dont want to hold on to him and then there end up being no hope.

kk hope i helpedd (:

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me and this kid have been seeing eachother for a little while now and we really like eachother. but....i live wwith my dad and i have 5 older brothers who would be more than willing to kick ome butt so idk how i would tell them. because i dont wanna keep him a secret anymore.

Maybe you should talk to your dad about the situtaion before actually coming out with the truth just to see what he might say and maybe you should tell him when he's calm

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So i've been dating this guy for about 4 months now. He's very sweet to me, unlike any guy i've ever dated. He and I both work together. So does my bestfriend marie. I'm not usually they type to get jealous but i kinda am in this situation. I always see them talking in the store that we work in, whenever it's us three standing there it just seems like he talks to her more than me. I could be over thinking it but im not sure. He has a very friendly personality and i know that he dosen't mean anything by it but sometimes i just feel like he is flirting. I just feel left out sometimes in the situation. I've joked with him about liking her before just to see what he would say and he always says he dosen't like her or even find her attractive. He "likes" almost everything she posts on facebook, and i dont know, maybe im over reacting? Someone please let me know what you think.

i dont think your over reacting it normal for you to feel this way maybe your starting to develope deep feelings toward your boyfriend and thats why you may be acting the way you are. BUT i dont think that he would do anything to hurt you maybe he jus wants to be close friends with this girl. I"m sure he doesnt mean for it to come off as him flirting with her they just might have alot in common and maybe he can talk to her about things that he couldnt talk about to you know what I"m saying?
well i hope i helped just keep your head up :)

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My boyfriend and I just got over a huge fight we had today.

It started when my boyfriend texted me. He said he was looking at other girls breasts. I got really upset. He jokes a lot, and I am kinda sensitive, but I have learned to accept his playful attitude. However, when I told him I was upset and he knows saying that is hurtful, he said he didn't know what I was talking about. I told him it was extremely hurtful, and even though I know I should trust him, my insecurities get to me. He didn't answer for about an hour and we got in a huge fight. He was upset that I didn't trust him and he told me he couldn't believe the way I was acting. I was rather hurt too. I told him I didn't mean to overreact and I wanted to stay together. So we both worked it out and decided to only learn from it and become closer.

I'm happy we worked it out. But while we were texting I felt on edge and like we weren't going to work out. I have second thoughts because I caused such a hard time. I feel like he deserves better than insecure, crazy me. But at the same time I know he wouldn't ever hurt me. I want us to be back to normal before I made a mistake.


Help?

Sometimes in a relationship theres always going to be some kind of conflict because NO relationship is perfect theres always going to be something wrong with a relationship weather its trust issues or something simple but its the conflict which brings people closer together :) sometimes its hard but in the end the result it great and you'll know so much about each other .

hope i helped
just stay strong and try not to focus on the negative things about your self and focus on the postive :)

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I really like this guy but im scared to talk to him any advice on how to do it?

maybe you should just try being yourself just walk up to him and intrduce yourself or go up to him with a group of friends and just join in the conversation you could also try telling a joke :P thats what i do i have a lot of guy friends by just telling them my corny jokes .

hope this helped good luck

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how can you tell if a guy likes you?

IF a guy likes you he will try to get your attention and mess around with you a little bit and depending on the age he might be a little shy around you and he might smile alot at you or just look at you from time to time with out you noticing .

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whats consider cheeting? i just wanna know thanks.. im a 15 year old girl!!

cheating is when the person that your dating flirts "talks" or kisses another person... think about it if there in a relationship with you then they shouldnt be focused on someone else only you. i think personally flirting is considered cheating some people dnt bt i do because if they have you then why flirt with someone else know what i mean ?

kk hope i helped :)

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