Ok, so I am a guy, but I kinda prefer hanging around with girls most of the time. I'm straight, but I don't have much patience for the whole guy talk scene. I'm mature for my age (And i'm not particularly young lol). My main goal in life is to get a family I love and own a house of my own xD
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I don't know what to do with him! I found out from my bff that my bf made a facebook group thing about our relationshp. I went and red a few things on it and it is personal and nothing anybody should know but us so I told him I knew he had a secret he was keeping from me but not what it was so he would tell me or something but he didn't. i kinda thought that he posted stuff and didn't think it was bad and I wanted to give him chances to say so but he just said he didnt have no secrets so i went back to read the rest and he had made it private only so now it is hidden from me.
I guess what I am asking is if he didn't think this was wrong why did he hide it when i found out? He still denies everything and now i got no proof because i cant see it anymore!!! i have been crying about this and i feel betrayed like he has a secret life on facebook or something! should i stay with him if he isn't going to be honest and still hides things?
Sorry if this is too long! (link)
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Not too long at all.
Not knowing you or your guy, I couldn't say for sure. There may be factors involved that I'm unaware of. From what you have told me though, it sounds like he originally thought it would be perfectly fine to do, but then when you started bringing up secrets he got scared and decided to hide rather than be up front about it.
The first thing you have to remember is that no-one is perfect, and what he's done isn't honestly that bad. Unless you have told him previously that what he has put on this group is private. What's more. Alot of guys like to boast about their current girlfriends, especially when it comes to sex. If he wasn't doing it in this group he'd be doing it somewhere less obvious.
Of course I'm NOT taking his side. I'm just making it clear that this isn't really something you should break up over, if you like him as much as you seem to. However if it does bother you this much, confront him about it! Tell him you found it before he made it private and that it bothers you. Hear his side of the story. Let him defend himself before you do anything drastic =]
If he denies the whole thing after being confronted directly (and you're SURE it was him who has made this group, etc) then THAT is something you should dump him over. Outright lies shouldn't be tolerated in a relationship, after all, he could be lying about other things aswell as clearly lying to you isn't a problem. (This is only the case if he denies after confrontation though...)
Sorry if that was too long an answer ;)
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how do u make out with a guy at the movies this is my first time n i need to now what it means an how to do it (link)
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I'm assuming you're quite young. I whole heartedly apologise if this is not the case. With this assumption comes the fact that your boyfriend is also most likely young (Again, I apologise for any incorrect assumptions)
You're both young, so neither of you know what you're doing. Wanna know the best way to kiss? Make it fun! Laugh at each other for doing it wrong, and most importantly, let each other know that it's ok to not be perfect. You don't need to be good at kissing to be a good girlfriend, it comes with practice. He wont care if you suck, he'll be too happy that he got to kiss you ;)
I hope it goes well. Just relax and let yourself go with the flow!
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I have been fingered roughly many times before. 2-5 fingers to be exact. I wuz wondering if the vagina stretches the more times you get fingered roughly. Also, if you get fingered a lot, does that ease the pain when you have sex for the first time? like, people say it hurts a lot for the first time and yu bleed. I wuz wondering if there wuz anyway to prepare for sex to not make it hurt as bad to make it pleasurable when the penis goes in and comes out. (link)
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Don't worry about it. If you can fit in 5 fingers you'll be fine. The average penis is only about 3 fingers width. Trust me, you're fine. If anything, fitting in 5 fingers is a bit too much and will make it so you don't recieve as much pleasure from penetration. That's just a thought, I've no research to back that up ;)
EDIT: Thinking about it, I have to add, if by 5 fingers you just mean scrunching up your fingers to get them in, then that really only counts as 2 - 3. If however you mean a flat palm or "fisting" motion, then that is truly 5.
If it is the former, you should still be fine. Don't worry about a thing, I just thought I'd clear up a miscommunication we may be having.
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What else would a guy really like, that doesnt involve sex in the vagina? Because i want my boyfriend to continue to have fun...without even thiinking about sex being better, even if it probably is... (link)
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Bondage works for most guys. If you trust one another then have one tie the other up (If you don't think you can trust him to tie you up and not want to take it all the way, offer to tie him up. You'd be surprised at how many guys would like that idea)
Also, use toys. They are great! You can get them online if you don't wanna be seen walking into stores, and they can be very cheap if you shop smart ;) They don't just come for girls too, there are toys to use on guys aswell.
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Turning 16 In September(: / Female
ohkay so ivee been feeling likee my harmonees hvee been goingg crazyy to feel whaat its likee to have sex. I have a boyfriend who ifeel really comfortable whidd andd can picturee myself loosing it too . Buh im really self consious about my bodyy , dahts whaat stopps me from actually being sexually active whidd someeone, ifeel likee my blubber looks sooo disgustingg when im nakeed! Im 5'2 andd weight about 138 . Whaat shouldd i do? (link)
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I think the problem here is self conciousness. You don't seem to have any sexual issues. I had a girlfriend once who was perfectly sized, she was the exact right weight for her age and height. She thought she was fat though and no manner of compliment would persuade her otherwise. Eventually one day I got so aggrivated with her self confidence issues that I took the option out of her hand. With her approval, I set up an evening for us alone at home where we were both to be naked for the entire night. It sounds weird, and actually wasn't about sex at all. I wanted to show her that I am not only comfortable with my body, but comfortable seeing hers over a long period of time.
It really helped her and made her realise how her problem wasn't real. It was in her head.
I think you have the same issue, and although I don't expect you to do the same as we did, I hope you can get over your self confidence issue. Until you do, you wont be happy with any partner sexually.
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If you give head to a guy at a party while your boyfriend is not there does that mean you cheated on your boyfriend? Yeah, the guy was really hot but it's not like we had sex or anything. I didn't even let him finger me! My boyfriend is really pissed and won't talk to me now but I really can't see his reasoning or point of view. I've done this a few times before but I haven't told him about it and regret telling him this time. Do you think giving a blow job is REALLY cheating? I mean, come on...it's like...kissing...sort of...I don't see a problem. (link)
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If this is honestly how you feel, and not just you making excuses after the fact, then I suggest you find a new boyfriend. The one you're with isn't right for you. You'll need to find someone who you can agree from day one that fellatio (Oral sex) is fine to do with other people as long as that is where it stops.
There is no such thing as a line between cheating and not cheating. If your boyfriend is fine with it, it is not cheating. What IS cheating is thatyou are doing this sort of thing behind his back. You NEED to tell him about these sorts of things and just hope he's ok with it (And also accept that he has a right to do it this with other girls as well. If you don't mind the image of your boyfriend getting oral or giving oral to another girl then it is fine.)
In other words, you did cheat, but no because you did it. It's because you did it and hid it fom your partner.
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What can I do to anger my enemy at school? Especially the first day. (link)
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It looks like you have quite an explosive tempermant, and I guess alot of people will tell you not to anger your enemies at school. That wasn't your question though and despite my qualms with it, I will answer the question you asked.
First of all, do these people dislike you yet? If so, the best way to anger them is to give them sickly sweet smiles. Sarcasm is a very good way to piss people off. (It gives them a taste of what they are missing)
If you don't know if the person dislikes you yet, then instead of being directly mean, do something I like to call selective kindness. That is, make it obvious when they are around you that you're being nice to everyone but them. Try to make them feel as left out as possible.
I hope I helped, you evil little sod ;)
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I have been with my boyfriend for about 8 and 1/2 months now, and we've done a lot of kissing. We also have done fingering and blow jobs, hand jobs and such. I was wondering what else i could do to keep my boyfriend satisfied, but without having sex because i am afraid of pregnancy. Does anyone have any ideas? (link)
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I lost my technical virginity at 16, I had a girlfriend from 14 years old to that time, so I know what you're going through.
My best memory was of me sitting next to my then girlfriend in class and she would play with me under the table. That was fun because of the risk factor.
If you don't like the idea of during school, try on a bus or train.
That might not be your thing, but it definitely got me through two years of abstinence :)
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when you go in for birth control pills?
I'm going in to get birth control pills tomorrow because I've been on my period for a month (i have really irregular periods)
I'm 18 and I've been depressed for about 4 years now, ever since my grandma passed away who was more like a mother to me.
In the past 4 years I've gained 50-70 pounds, my sophomore year I told the school that I was considering suicide and they called my mom...both of my parents thought I was being dramatic and just looking for attention. That all blew over within a week. Before this I was overdosing on cough syrup to get high with a friend since we didn't have any kind of connections to get any real drugs. I almost died because I took too much. My parents never found out about that. I got caught shoplifting when I was 16 during my junior year of high school. I didn't graduate. I was supposed to last may but didn't have enough credits because I skipped too much. Now im not doing my alternative school because I have no motivation to go
My parents really don't care at all. All of this has happened and they never once said anything to me, other than get mad and yell..then time passed and they never really cared. I'm so alone. I have no friends, no nothing. I'm just sad all the time.
Oh god. Okay, i know that was a lot of pointless info but i couldn't stop typing..
My main question is do i tell my nurse that im depressed tomorrow when i go in for the pills? or is it not her problem? I don't want to bring it up if there's nothing she can do or if that's not who i should talk to about it. (link)
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Ok, so I'll be honest. I don't know what you're going through. I really don't, and so I'm not going to say it'll be ok, or it'll get better. I have no idea if it will or not.
What I WILL say is that you NEED to talk about your depression. I know someone advised you against talking to a nurse, but wih all due respect, I believe talking to someone in person is alot better than a call center. If you go into your local hospital or pharmacy and explain your situation. If they don't help you directly, they can give you professional advice.
This topic is incredibly complicated and there's no definite best way to deal with it. You don't need to go to a nurse or a doctor. Not at all. It might help you, I believe it is your best option, after all it sounds like you're not coping alone.
I do suggest that you make these two visits seperate. Don't ask for birth control pills then bring up that you're depressed (That may well sounds like you're attention seeking). Go in on a seperate occasion and ask to speak to a health advisor.
If you would like me to explain more about what i'm talking about, because I don't know if I said it properly here, send me a message and I'll help you as much as I can.
Above all, remember, you're an amazing, beautiful person who is lucky to be alive. Before you were born you already won. You beat all the 100,000 other sperm cells to the egg ;) You've survived this long. You're fantastic!
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I know sugar is real bad for you and can make you fat and sluggish. I am trying to lose weight and been using SPLENDA sweetener. I like the sweetner personally. My Mom told me today she won't buy me any more Splenda though because it is artificial or something and it is toxic. I don't know what she's talking about. THE STORE SELLS IT. If it was bad it wouldn't be on shelves right? Is it bad or not? I want to show my mom it isn't harmful so she will buy it for me for my diet. (link)
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Splenda usually contains 95% dextrose and maltodextrin which the body readily metabolizes, combined with a small amount of mostly indigestible sucralose. A repeated dose study of sucralose concluded that "there is no indication that adverse effects on human health would occur from frequent or long-term exposure to sucralose at the maximum anticipated levels of intake".
To put in lamens terms. There's nothing wrong with splenda.
The thing is though, if you're on a diet, cutting down on sugar but swapping to splenda wont help much. It's the calories that do it. The packet says "0 calories" but it does contain a small amount. Not much less than regular sugar.
LONG STORY SHORT: There are no specific health risks for splenda over sugar, but the benefits aren't as good as you might think. You're better off just cutting down on sugar, having it as a treat or something.
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