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Sorry it might be long but please someone read and help me?
I am just wondering, am I living in a fantasy land? Well I am 16/f and I turn 17 in december. (about to be junior in highschool) The thing is, I have been going out with my bf for 3 month and half, about. I am really great it worked out like that because he's been my best friend for about a year eversince my 10th grade year started. We were just acquaintences at the beginning of my 10th grade (he was senior and now he graduated) and we just became really good friends.
When we were just friends, I realized i liked him as more than a friend but I didnt want to admit that because I wasnt sure if he liked me because he is nice to everyone (he was voted most friendliest...) so i was even in denial that i liked him and i went out with couple guys and i always confided in him about guy stuff. I know... not a good idea to talk about a guy with another guy. but he was only one i could really trust and i know he gives me a solid truth. And we both knew i had some "committment issue" yet when it came down, he still didn't judge me differently and asked me out.
Well that's really great because he is such a great guy and he's my best friend and my boyfriend. I truly believe there is no one wonderful like him (even though that is totally my biased opinion :D) We can and do talk on the phone for hours everynight and there's never and dull moment. We can make fun of eachother like crazy and have fun. We have very similar hobbies and its all good.
However nothing can be this perfect. I am not allow to date anybody until i graduate from high school. We are different race and both of our parents dont really want that. He's already graduated (taking off 1 year before going to any college) and I am about to start my junior year.
But I told him I loved him because I do. I really do love him even if some people may say how can a 16 year old girl know. His response was that he believes that you only love one person and only that person in your whole life so when he tells me, that would be tied up with him asking me to marry me. I respect his decision and opinions so no big deal. But lately we've been talking about marrying and all that and everything but the thing is, is there a even chance that this will actually work out? I mean nothing would make me happy if it all worked out like we planned (yes we even planned on where and when to get married... how wonderful..) or is it just a childish fantasy? (link)
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you never know...i mean no one can really say because everyones diffrent..but its possible..youll just have to wait and see.
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So this guy , who is one of my good friends but isn't that good looking like at all. (Not trying to be mean) was talking about how he was getting roses for this girl for vday, and then he was like so..do you like roses? and I was like uh.. yeah..? am I just being paranoyed (sp?) Or is he getting me roses for vday?!!! I really don't want to have him give me something..but I don't want to be like oh uhh..thanks.. how do I show him that I don't like him without being mean?! he suffers from depression, so I really REALLY don't want him to get sad if I don't like him. WHAT TO DO?! (link)
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his depression isnt your responsibility...if the roses are for you...you can take them...its not like they are handcuffs that bond you to him....you dont pwe him anything...
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I have been dating my boyfriend for 20 months now. I couldn't love him more. There's this little problem though: he doesn't have a job. He quit his job back in November and is barely even trying to get a new one. He used to be a cashier, so he refuses to apply at any job that deals with serving people in general. It bugs the hell out of me that he won't get off his ass, suck it up, and get a job. He needs the money and we both know it. I bug him about getting a job everyday and he just tells me not to worry and he'll take care of it. He told me yesterday he was getting a new gaming system and that just made me thing "Wow. Now you can put off getting a job even longer."
He doesn't ask me for money and I don't lend it to him, but I get upset when we can't go out as much as we used to because he doesn't have any money and I can't pay every time. I'm worried that he'll always be this irresponsible and he won't be able to help support our kids when we get married.
I don't know if I should just leave him and tell him to call me when he gets a job or just sit tight, be supportive, and keep my mouth shut. I love him and I'd do anything to help him out, but this is getting ridiculous. What would you do? (link)
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If i didnt help you then i shouldnt of got a higher rating...Idont believe in that kind of thing..I just thought you were being nasty so i got defensive.Which is what we shouldnt do ..i guess other attitudes are starting to rub off on me but its not your fault
what are you talking about i dont care about the rating...but what made me lash back was the snotty tone of i know what love is thank you very much...im just being truthful..wheter you agree or not...
edit-if your going to get that easily offended you shouldnt ask...i can only go by what you told me..
it doesnt sound like it and i wasnt saying you said he had to be rich but this kindof thing happens if you truly loved him you wouldnt consider breaking it off over something so little...you would just be irritated...unconditional love is needed in marriage..i dont care if you changed the rating..im being truthful...get off your high horse...you either love him and stick with him..no matter what...wow you sound like such a prize...(sarcastic)if its that big of a problem then maybe hes not right for you...you should base your entire future on one event...are you guys even engaged...do you have the wedding planned and to say for him to call you when he gets a job..if your really thinking about marriage then your in it for the highs and lows
Its not like hes asking you for money but if it was real love youd love him if he lived in a card board box....material thing dont matter as long as you have eachother..its called unconditional love and if your thinking about breaking it off over something like that then you need to consider your idea love..its not like this guy is using or abusing you..and before you think about marriage you need to understand that means love through thick and thin despite his carrer,cash flow,e.t.c .
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we went out for a year and a half and he cheated on me with some other girl then he cheated on her with me and told me we were gonna get back together.. we had sex and everything and he told me he loved me then out of nowhere he told me he doesnt think our relationship is gonna work out and told me he doesnt want to see me anymore. i told him i didnt wanna talk to him anymore because theres no reason because ill just keep falling in love with him and never get over him. the problem is he wont stop calling.. and he calls from private numbers. and he tries to be my friend! i dont get it does he still love me? (link)
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If he ever truly loved you he wouldnt of did that..hges using you and wants you at a good reach so he can do it again..please dont let him...move on and disconnect from him..if he keeps it up its called harrassment.
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My ex dumped me cause she wasnt felling it, Any way I want her back but she likes for othere guys, and just wants to stay freinds. I cant live without her she is the love of my life, and I cant let her go. She already has a date to the dance with one of the guys she likes, and I was with on of my freinds the othere day and we were walking threw the hall and she so us and I had my arm around her and my ex gave the othere girl like a dirty look. Anyway I want her back relly bad but she just wants to stay friends soo how doo i get her to like me in that love way? And my friends and people have told me to get her jelious. How do i get her jelouis she is in grade 7 but im in grade 8 but im the same age but I dont get to she her much unless its ressec which a barely see her or after school I might talk to her for 2-8 mins a day but I need to make her jelouis and in a short amount of time, ill give you a bit about her she likes to dance she lived in B.C and was the Ugly girl inher school and no on liked her but she is like in the middle at out school like alot of people no and hang out with her there is 4 kids she likes that one is like this big hot shoot hockey player and has theeth like a beaver and the othere 2 are in my grade and are pretty atractive and the othere one is unknown but she says she likes a lil action not in the whore way but like a kiss and I going out with her for a week and I kissed her once but I think she thinks im green but I relly like her and I relly need to make her jelouis to get her back. So I need to no some ways to make her jelouis? Thanks :]
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you could start focusing on or talking about other girls in front of her but its not right to use people to get back at someone one else and if she broke up with you and isnt feeling it and wants to be just friend then your not going to make her jealous if she doesnt want you..i know its hard but your going to have to move on there are other people to love and chances and if that other person no longer has feelings for you its a lost cause and could make her angry..just let it go for now..who knows in the future it might rekindle but then again it might not things have a way of working out...you never know you could find someone better even if you doubt it now...
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This boy acted liked me for about a month and a half then just completely stopped talking to me. I guess he liked me, now he doesn't. Problem is, I like him now. I was lead on, now completely ditched. How can I get over this quick? I realized he's an asshole, but it still really hurts. Help? (link)
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Yeah it hurts but youll eventually get over it thats the type of guy whos going to treat you like dirt even if you guys do achieve a relationship is..start focusing on a new guy...this other guy seems alittle immature anyways forget him hes not the only guy on the planet.
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So my boyfriend for almost a month still hasn't told his parents that we are going out. His parents are very strict, but he is 18 and I told him that he should be able to do what he wants. I wish he would tell them because I feel like I am in hiding because I can never call him because his parents are around. What should I do about this problem?
Also what is a good gift to give him for valentines. I was thinking a big card and homemade cookies. Is that to much or do you think that is just right?
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i think home made cookies or baked good of somesort would be great....if you want to stay with him you might have to bare with it for now but hes a big boy and an adult now and needs to start acting like one...ask him what hes so afraid of.
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Okay. So I have this guy friend. He's 17. And I like him a lot. He's very nice to me, and we're practically best friends. BUT...about 2 weeks ago, he told me he didn't want to be with me. But we should still be best friends. And so about two weeks ago, I found out he has a girlfriend. She's the same age, but he knew her for a less amount of time than me. The thing is - I get SO jealous and I want to be with him - but since he already told me off about that, there is really nothing I can do. But, whenever we're in a group conversation on MSN or something, I get SO pissed and jealous and just storm off. The thing is - she's really nice. As much as I would love to be happy for them - him and her - I can't face my jealousy. I can't be happy for them without hating her evern though she didn't do anything bad to her. Now whenever I talk to him, I'm filled with hatred and the most JEALOUS kind of jealousy in the world. I always wish them the worst. I always cry about it and wish that they would break up. What do I do? How can I overcome this? :( (link)
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hes already spoken so your going to have to get over it or risk losing his friendship....try focusing your attention on someone else whos attractive to you with time it will go away keep in mind that if it doesnt he might make you go away...this kind of thing happened to me only it was my best friend who like me ans he wouldnt let it go so i just cut him off completely its been a couple years and i havent looked back and dont plan to.....so dont let that happen to you if you truly value his friendship..if it helps think about if you had a friend(not him) who you got really close and liked you but you didnt have romantic feelings for that person but they wouldnt let it go..how would you feel..your going to either stop being friends or bare with it and get over it..because storming out of the room and jealousy gets really old
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I'm in a relationship with this guy. We have been going out since the 6th. And I'm having weird feelings about him.
We talked online. I like him when I talk to him online but in person.. those feelings slowly fade. I still think he's sweet but I can't see myself kissing him.. when he's actually around me. When I'm at home.. I can picture it.
I have OCD. I think he's.. dirty and I don't really want to touch him. That sounds stupid i know..
I don't know if this could work because he's so busy. He has a job. He's in karate/gymnastics.
Should I give him space and be distance with him? I don't want to be clingy. I don't want to ask him to hang out with me one weekend if he's that busy. (link)
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Maybe hes just not the right guy..that doesnt sound like a good relation ship if you dont want to kiss him and think hes dirty..if you think its because of ocd then you need to see a doctor and get it fixed...seems like youve already given him space..if you dont want him then dont go with him....i really do think you should see a doctor though.
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so there is this guy, m1 is what we will call him, and the day before new years eve i was at his house and he held my hand while we were playing man hunt with our younger siblings, but the lights were off. then he and i became closer, and now my friend says that he laughs and smiles around me and when im around he gets a *twinkle* in his eyes, but my other friend thinks he likes her so im like uhhhhh clueless. And to add to this whole thing his mom and my mom are BEST friends which is why i was at his house on that day. and we've known each other for ever and i dont know what to do! (link)
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Maybe the other girl likes him and doesnt want you two to get closer(even if she denies it)...I think you should go up to him and talk about if youve known eachother and like him..Your not mind readers.
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well im not sure what to do..this this guy kevin and were friends with benefit but were more like boy friend girl friend but without the title were realy close.he is very anti cheating even talking about it pisses him off.i want to be honest and tell him that when i was still dating jorden that i cheated on jorden with him but im scared of what he will do.i asked him but i said what if and he said he would probly be ashamed and might go back to old habits such as cutting,drinking.ect. what should i do i wanna be honest and tell him but i dont want to lose what we have pls help asap (link)
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then be honest....its really not a requirement thought since your not officially going out and those old bad habits are his doing and he cant blame them on anyone else....if you want to be honest then do it but if your not officially going out then you really dont owe it to him because for all you know if he hasnt asked you out he could be using you...you could start off fresh ask him out and just say nothing about it..to him..but im sure hes no angel either so dont feel to bad and if he goes back to those things its not your fault....hes not even giving you a real relationship and you dont know how many girls hes doing the same with since technically its not cheating if their all friends with benefits...tell him if you want but hell take it how he takes it good or bad and if he goes back to those things hes voluntarily doing it no ones forcing it on them..its bad on his part to hold it over your head or use it to get what he wants..your better of ending this and finding a boyfriend learn from your mistakes
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me & my bf are a really good couple. we think so anyways. the thing is our status is completely different. hes from this extremely rich family that owns about 5 houses and is going to the best college in our area. my family is..not rich and im going to a regular state college. his parents are nice but i think you get where im going with this. we went to his cousins wedding this past weekend. there were about 50 really pretty girls there that were family friends and he talked to all of them and i was kind of left on the side. i basically followed him around the whole time. he wouldnt hold my hand, he wouldnt touch me, he barely looked at me, but when we were by ourselves everything was normal. they know im his gf! i always feel left out with this. any ideas?? oh and im uncomfortable talking about it with him. (link)
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maybe he just felt uncomfortable showing pda in front of his family or at family functions some people see it as rude. if thats the only time he does that then thats probably why but if he does when you guys are out without the parent in an unformal setting and hes checking out other girls then id question it if not then dont worry about it maybe he just didnt want to be rude to people around you guys.
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ok so i met this guy at a debate tournement and he lives an hour away and he gave me his number and i want to call him but i dont know wut to talk about. i dont know wut to do please help me. (link)
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alot of people dont realize that because you dont know eachother gives you alot to talk about because you need to get to know eachother.you can start off about debate team then you can ask whatever pops in to your head...come on you have to be curious about him in some way and wonder about his interests and what not....just call him And if you click it will all flow...if not then its no big deal..its best not to plan what to say because you never know what the other person will say...
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14/f well i really need advice soon please..Well on Friday afterschool..i was hanging with my friends as always, and this guy comes..and i never met him in my life..but he kept flirting with me and asking me whats my number and if i wanted to "bone". (He was just joking though,just to make me laugh) he was really cute..he kept asking me out and for my number but i was too shy, i wanted to tell him yes..but i didnt.i think on he is coming to where i hang out next frieday...so i need advice,do u think he was serious when he said he wanted to bone...cuz i thought he was joking but i wasnt sure, please give me tips on how to flirt with a guy and show him that i like him..in a sexy way.thanks in advance
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There are other ways to joke besides that and any guy who comes up to you in that manner is probably no good and then asking you out when he barely knows you is a sign that maybe hes a little on the sleezy side and wants something else theres a slight chance that hes ok but i wouldnt set your heart on him you can try it if you want..but maybe you should throw up the i dea of getting to know him alittle more and see what he says to that just get it straight to him on where you stand oh yeah and flirting in a sexy way with someone you dont know isnt really a good way to go because it could give some one the wrong idea just a warning but if thats how you are or the message you want to send then by all means do it....i guess..but i wouldnt reccomend it what i would reccomend is just being your self.
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ok u know the guy i dumped for tallon he was just using me !!! and before i dumped him he was hanging out with this girl ignoring me and he said he loved me and now i miss tallon im sooo mad and when i dumped him the girl he was hanging out with they went out after i dumped him and she dumped her bf again for him! (link)
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well it should teach you a lesson..not everyone has the best intention for you....you live you learn
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I was going out with this one guy that I really liked for a little over a month. But then he started wanting to know where I was, who I was with, and all that stuff. He called me a million times a day and when I didn't answer his call he'd keep calling until i'd pick up. or he'd leave messages cussing at me asking why the f*** I wasn't answering my cell. Plus, he wanted all my time and if I was busy, he would just ask to come with me and do it too or come with me and my friends. So, I broke up with him.
Now, he calls me still and leaves a million more messages, wants to be "friends" and now he's bugging me even more now then he did when we were going out. He says, "I love you, babe" and all that crap.
should I take it or call the cops or what??
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i would talk to the cops about it because hes alittle extreme and people like that could get violent so save all th evidence you have against him because youll need it
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i have a huge problem...i am going out with this guy who is really nice but i have this HUGE MEGA load of a problem i like him but i like someone else more although the other person i like is (his brother) and i can't break up with him because THE BIGGEST COUPLE HOLIDAY is NEXT WEEK!!! please help
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That doesnt matter...if you dont like someone or like someone else more then its not fair to either of you. You can break up with them..i mean yeah a holiday is coming up but thats kind of a superficial thing to base the idea of keeping a relationship going on.
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Love at 16...?
What do you guys think? Is it possible? Or is it just a bunch of teen emotions? (link)
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it depends on the person...i think its possible as long as your sure if its true love then you dont have to question it or have anyones opinion. I would say its very possible because just because your 16 doesnt separate you from human and love is a human emotion..just becareful because some people are immature and might use that against you..so make sure the one you love feels the same way if you do love someone.
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I am 20/male in college, but I am having trouble approaching a girl in one of my classes. I sit in the back and she sits in the front, and we leave in different directions after class. How can I approach her and what do I say once I do? The only reason I mention that we leave different ways is because I dont want to follow her out and look like a stalker or something. But I guess my biggest problem is just knowing what to say. Thanks (link)
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why dont you wait for her to sit down in class and then walk by her as you go down to your seat and say hi how are you doing and smile.If shes interested that will get the ball rolling.
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yes, i have a bf but i also have this friend who like watches every move i make i can never do things at my own pace cas she always gets hers and her bf's nose in everything...i really love my bf but i want to go at my own pace not hers....wht should i do??? (link)
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exactly what you just said go at your own pace not yours..just because your her friend doesnt mean your her puppet or under her control..everyones diffrent and thats ok... who are they to tell you how to live your life...Dont let anyone decide who you are no matter how good of friends you are.
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