|
out of place
me & my bf are a really good couple. we think so anyways. the thing is our status is completely different. hes from this extremely rich family that owns about 5 houses and is going to the best college in our area. my family is..not rich and im going to a regular state college. his parents are nice but i think you get where im going with this. we went to his cousins wedding this past weekend. there were about 50 really pretty girls there that were family friends and he talked to all of them and i was kind of left on the side. i basically followed him around the whole time. he wouldnt hold my hand, he wouldnt touch me, he barely looked at me, but when we were by ourselves everything was normal. they know im his gf! i always feel left out with this. any ideas?? oh and im uncomfortable talking about it with him.
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
Hi,
Well, first of all, why is it that you're uncomfortable talking about the problem with your boyfriend? "Really good couples" should be able to talk about serious things, like possible flaws in their relationship. I think it's possible that you're worried that he would be angry about it, or perhaps there is something that you don't want him to say, such as he doesn't want to carry the relationship on.
If that was the case, would you really want to prolong the problem where you simply follow him around, and watch him talk to other girls for as long as it took for him to bring it up? Sorry to be harsh, but the only way it will change is with you saying something to him (or writing it down if you don't want to say it).
It shouldn't matter whether you two are of a completely different social or economic class. I don't know if you've heard about Princess Mary of Denmark, but I sure as heck have, coming from the same island as her. Fairytale infrequency aside, Mary was a commoner, until the friggin' prince of Denmark decided he liked her, and asked her to marry him, etc.. As long as you can act the part, you can aspire to be as high as you want.
Ok, but here is the real problem. He's at a cousin's wedding, and he's talking to everyone (young girls), except you. Just out of curiosity, who invited You to the wedding? Him? It seems very strange to do such a thing, and then ignore you.
There are many reasons it may have happened;
1. Hand-holding is seen by many (especially higher social classes) as childish, and not to be publicly displayed.
2. The deal is similar with touching, and anything except greeting-kisses, or dancing. He -didn't- dance with anybody else, did he?
3. He may have been concerned that too many introductions would freak you out.
But on the nasty side, I think you have already been using your imagination for the "cons" side of the argument.
It IS important for him to talk to you. He should also introduce you to people. It's only polite. It's ok if you have to follow him around all night, but if so, you should be regarded as a part of him, to either be in step, occasionally leading him to the next location you are going, or being included in the conversations he has. Not that you need to be at his side the whole night. That may seem somewhat clingy. You could take time out, to go enjoy what's happening wherever you two are together (on your own).
If it were to happen again, how would your boyfriend react if you were to disappear from his side for a few minutes, and go have a chat with one of the cutest boys you can see? Surely if there are 50 pretty girls there, there must be a few boys who you can use to try to stir some form of jealousy in your boyfriend?
And who knows, if your boyfriend doesn't seem to give a damn, perhaps you would end up in better company at the end of the day ;)
I wish you much luck with your boyfriend,
-K
]
maybe he just felt uncomfortable showing pda in front of his family or at family functions some people see it as rude. if thats the only time he does that then thats probably why but if he does when you guys are out without the parent in an unformal setting and hes checking out other girls then id question it if not then dont worry about it maybe he just didnt want to be rude to people around you guys.
]
More Questions: |