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ok so me and one of my bestfriends went to a basketball game last night and we were gunna meet two of my other friends there. and when we went to the bathroom they were saying stuff like omg there so annoying and stuff like that about us. and when we tried to find them they started like hiding from us and stuff. then they came up and was like whats your problem and being really rude. so we just kinda ignored them and left the game. now they're really mad at us but i really didnt do anything wrong. i've been bestfriends with them for a really long time. and i dont know if i should apologize because i dont think they are and i cant live without them. i dont know what to do. =[
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you shud talk to your friends and ask them wat happened... you might've done sumthing that annoyed them, but if you ask them, they might tell you wat you did wrong and if you did, you can apologize..
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If people make these kinds of remarks about you behind your back they certainly are not your real friends. They are the ones with the problem here and not you and your pal.
You have nothing at all to apologize over having done nothing wrong but minding your own business when you happened to overhear them. The biggest mistake you made was leaving the game after they got in your face. Let them be mad and take this as an opportunity to move on.
Trust me, you don't need them to thrive socially as people will be attracted to you for who you are. I KNOW that you absolutely must confront them even if you don't want to before dropping them completely.
It's rather easy as only say "If you wondered why we left the basketball game suddenly last night we overheard your nasty comments last night. You might want to use a little tact next time you are in public as you never know who could be listening.
Let them be the ones to apologize and recognize the mistake they made. They are the foolish and immature ones in the situation. Don't worry about retribution either as they'll be too embarassed after you tell them off in the subtle way I mentioned above.
Just say that and walk away before they can utter a word. If they start saying something no matter how negative as you leave let it roll off your back like a drop of water and utter the words "save your breath." That's the correct way to handle this as once you show they have no power to mess with you they'll all of a sudden move along.
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