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call him?
ok so i met this guy at a debate tournement and he lives an hour away and he gave me his number and i want to call him but i dont know wut to talk about. i dont know wut to do please help me.
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Do you know him? If you do then give him a call. If you think he really likes you, it doesnt matter what you talk about it just matters that you called.
If you dont, then DONT call him. For all you know he could be a sneaky person.
Hope I've been helpful
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This is a tough one!
We've all been through it, or will go through it, and I speciffically mean the nervous-ness, the jittery hands that threaten to drop the telephone, the fingers that wish they dialed the wrong number, and the urge to hang up after you hear hello.
Well, that won't happen to you!
First off, consider yourself lucky. You scored a guy's number! And, you being the one with the number, lets you have the upperhand and can control when you call him and he'll be the one waiting by the phone.
Talking to a guy can be hard, especially one you don't know very well. But this is your advantage, because that means there is so much you can learn about him and vice versa. Think about things you talk about with your friends. Think about things going on at your school. Think about funny stories you can tell this guy. A good laugh always breaks the ice. The possibilities are endless.
Make a list. Write down topics, questions, and even your answers if you want to be really safe. If you and this guy have a connection, you'll find that you won't even need the list.
Keep the conversation positive. Learn about him and let him learn about you. But don't be to negative, or say anything too controversial, because that can be a major turnoff from the beginning. There is nothing wrong with you two having your differences, but dont assert that in the very beginning. And, a light and fun convo will make both of you happy, and both of you wanting to talk even more.
IF YOU REALLY REALLY REALLY are dreading this call, try these alternatives:
-If you got his cell, send him a text. Texts are easy, quick, and a non formal way to talk. But it's not very personal, so don't expect to connect over cell phones. And you'll wrack up quite the phone bill.
-Find out his screen name. Talking on instant messenger is my perfered way of communicating actually, because you can think exactly what you want to say and can control your respond time. No blurting out the most stupid things or tripping over your words. (unless you have bad typing) Talk with him like that for a while, and bond a little bit. But do not become dependant on it, because a relationship based purely in cyberspace never works out when it comes to real life. You have to be comfortable around each other no matter what.
No matter what, relax. It's really not that hard, and just gets easier. And even if you do mess up, or find out that guy is a jerk, you should be so proud for taking a risk and putting yourself out there.
So be confident, and have fun most importantly! That's what this is all about, right?
And btw, don't try hanging up after hello. Most of us who left the 90's have caller ID.
Lot's of Luck,
DearAbby92
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start to talk about the debate tournament first then it should flow. I mean yins have that much in common that you know of =]
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alot of people dont realize that because you dont know eachother gives you alot to talk about because you need to get to know eachother.you can start off about debate team then you can ask whatever pops in to your head...come on you have to be curious about him in some way and wonder about his interests and what not....just call him And if you click it will all flow...if not then its no big deal..its best not to plan what to say because you never know what the other person will say...
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Well why do you want to call him? Is he -interesting-? One of the oldest, most sneaky tricks in the book for not having to say anything in a conversation, while making the other person think the conversation is great, is to ask them about themselves.
What do you want to know about him?
"So, what school did you say you go to?..."
"What do you do in your spare time?"
"What's your favourite topic to debate?"
Interesting conversations <= interesting questions <= curiosity.
If everything else fails, either talk about the debate, debating in general, or pick a random word, and demand to talk about it ;) Such as "FERRETS!"
"uh ferrets?"
"Yes. Ferrets. I really don't like Ferrets... etc."
Try to avoid the weather, unless it's very unusual at the time.
If you really liked this guy, when the conversation is comfortable, you could sneak flirtateous questions into the conversation, such as "So, do you go out very often?", or "So what do you respect in a girl/woman" or *insert in right place* "I'll bet your girlfriend was really impressed.", and see if he says "actually, I don't have one".
Good luck!
-K
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