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Jealousy
15/f
Okay. So I have this guy friend. He's 17. And I like him a lot. He's very nice to me, and we're practically best friends. BUT...about 2 weeks ago, he told me he didn't want to be with me. But we should still be best friends. And so about two weeks ago, I found out he has a girlfriend. She's the same age, but he knew her for a less amount of time than me. The thing is - I get SO jealous and I want to be with him - but since he already told me off about that, there is really nothing I can do. But, whenever we're in a group conversation on MSN or something, I get SO pissed and jealous and just storm off. The thing is - she's really nice. As much as I would love to be happy for them - him and her - I can't face my jealousy. I can't be happy for them without hating her evern though she didn't do anything bad to her. Now whenever I talk to him, I'm filled with hatred and the most JEALOUS kind of jealousy in the world. I always wish them the worst. I always cry about it and wish that they would break up. What do I do? How can I overcome this? :(
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SUCK IT UP AND MOVE ON...SHE DIDNT DO ANYTHING......
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hey, alright well he likes her and made it clear that he wants to be just best friends. being jealous all the time might ruin the friendship. would you want to go from best friends to nothing and not be able to talk to him at all? just try to adapt to the new relationship that he has. maybe you guys just werent meant to be and if you are things will work out for you. just wait it out and see what happens.
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hes already spoken so your going to have to get over it or risk losing his friendship....try focusing your attention on someone else whos attractive to you with time it will go away keep in mind that if it doesnt he might make you go away...this kind of thing happened to me only it was my best friend who like me ans he wouldnt let it go so i just cut him off completely its been a couple years and i havent looked back and dont plan to.....so dont let that happen to you if you truly value his friendship..if it helps think about if you had a friend(not him) who you got really close and liked you but you didnt have romantic feelings for that person but they wouldnt let it go..how would you feel..your going to either stop being friends or bare with it and get over it..because storming out of the room and jealousy gets really old
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Oh boy- that ugly green monster we call jealousy. Once it sinks it's claws into us, it's hard to get rid of.
So this guy is your best friend, right? You need to respect him and his wishes. You need to respect his girlfriend, and try to make friends with her. Yah, I know that is a hard thing to do right now, but it is something you NEED to do because he is your friend.
Think of it this way, you jealousy is effecting your friendship. You don't want that to happen, I'm quite sure. It's also effecting a potentially good friendship you could have with his girlfriend.
My suggestion? You need to give yourself a little space from them until you can get over your crush on him. Don't talk to them, don't hang out with them until you get your head screwed on straight.
He already knows your feelings towards him, so tell him why you plan to steer clear of him for a while so he understands what is going on. You don't want something like this to tear apart a good friendship, and I highly doubt he does either.
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