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ok...i have a serious boy problem...lets call my jus broke off boyfriend(tyler)and my ex before him (lee) ok tyler and i went out alil over 2 months and i fell so hard for him but lee kept coming in the way...i went out wit lee for about a year and now i just want to be friends with him nothing more but tyler cant understand that.tyler heard that i was with lee the other week and just broke up with me without wanting to talk it out but it wasnt true and i tried to tell him that but he wont listen...he told my bestfriend that we was gonna get back 2gether but he needs time 2 think...should i wait or move on?
move on...if he woudlnt talk to you over a rumor he heard and just jumped to conclusions he's not worth the stress. A good relationship involves talking things out and trusting the other person, if he can't trust you then how are you ever going to be able to be with him.
see, i have a boyfriend..but i think somethings up with him, ever since his good friend started liking me, hes been acting weird lately, he usually talks to me all the time, and sits with me too..i asked my best friend..and of course she went over to him and he said she needed some space.....I dont get it..please help me understand this whole situation!
let him know that he has nothing to worry about and just talk to him about it. It just osunds like he is really insecure right now, and thats understandable. Just talk it out...you might have to make him talk to you but only as a last resort because that could end horribly
can i just ask you people a question....
how old were you when you had your first boyfriend or girlfriend and your first kiss?????
uh... i was in 9th grade for both..well the real kiss part and boy friends. other than that itwas the kind of chasing boys around the play gournd.
my boyfriend is pakistani and muslim. i am white and agnostic. i really care about him and he's head over heels for me but his parents wont let him do ANYTHING (were seniors in high school living w/our parents)with me (b/c of my race- wow im a victim of racism for the first time and it sucks!). he lies so much to see me but even then its not a lot. i see him at school and then occasionally after school while his parents are at work. we NEVER EVER go on real dates and it drives me nuts!!! i feel as if i deserve someone who can take me out and see me without lying or sneaking around. the situation just SUCKS. should i break up with him or just settle for seeing him barely ever? (if i broke up with him i'd still be friends with him)i really dont know what to do- i feel bad breaking it off but i'm unhappy in our current situation- its not fair to me.
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I had this situation with a mormon boy whos mother did not like me at all because I wasnt mormon. It really sucks but I figured out in the end that it is a lot less stressful to date someone that you are allowed to see. If it was meant to be you will find each other when you have control over your own lives but until then I would say dont deal with tha tmuch stress...espically since you will be graduating in a few months.
Ok well..to start off I was raped 3 years ago..and Ive been over that nightmare for a while. But Ive had two bfs since then and never had the same problem I do now. With my current bf I had the dream about my raper and his boys raping me again..noe my bf wasnt in the dream..but it didnt start having the dream until i dated him..and I love him..trully. But everytime I hug him I picture that in my head...and I do trust him..bte Im 15 years old
It could be PTSD, Post Tramatic Stress Disorder. Sometimes it takes a while to set it. Were you in anyway close to the boys who raped you? If so the way you feel now could trigger it. You really need to see a doctor if it keeps occuring. Have you talked to n e one who knows your situation abou this? They may be able to help you more. I am so sorry that all this happened to you. I hope it gets better!
Okay, so I've been with my guy 15 months, and it's been sheer bliss until lately. My stress level went up because music is taking over my life at the moment. I hardly ever see him as it is. Lately, he's been pissing me off. The problem is, I'm not totally sure why I'm so mad at him.
I want to SCREAM at him, and I never yell at anyone. He sprang this whole "I want to talk to you about the future of our relationship" thing on me on tuesday. (However, he told me I had no right to be nervous, there was no possibility I'd end up in tears, and he wasn't breaking up with me or anything remotely ike that.) He told me to call after play practice (I got the lead, so major stress there) so I did, and the line was busy. Then he told me to call after practice yesterday so we could talk. I called - he wasn't there. Today, he left for his friend's house 'cause they're doing this whole winterfest thing or whatever. He's gone all weekend.
He PROMISED me we'd talk about this and get rid of some stress before my college audition (saturday), and so far, we haven't talked about it.
He's causing me all sorts of stress I don't need, not to mention the fact that he's never quite...reliable. He never calls anymore (and if he does, I'm never there. He seems to call when he knows I'll be gone, and then never calls back when my parents tell him I'll be home.)I'm sick of chasing him with phonecalls.
The thing of it is, I honestly think he's under the impression that I'll stick with him no matter what he does (or doesn't do). I'm thinking of talking to him and telling him that though I love him with all my heart, if he continues to take me for granted like this, I will break it off. I can't handle boyfriend stress on top of everything else.
I tried to stay away from relationships, but I couldn't get rid of my quickly developing crush on him.
So what's your advice? What do I do? Do I talk to him and tell him he's taking me for granted? Do I scream at him the way I want to? I can advise everyone except myself dealing with matters of the heart, so I need someone to help me out.
dude try to talk to him first...and if that doesnt work scream and throw a fit! If he loves you like he should be then it wont matter and he will understand. Since you are stressed and he shouldnt be giving you more then you alreayd have i say just let him hear about it. if you dont tell him how you feel it can only get worse.
hey im 16/f, and i ahve guys come up to me liek all the time and ask for liek advice and stuff ...and a few of the s guys i have liked.. how can can i become sum1 tehy liek instead of turning out to be..oh she is like my sis...or she is my best friend....i relaly want to find sum1 to do stuff with and just haev a good time ..and all my friends have boy friends and i feel left out liek all teh time because tehy have som1 and i dont. HELP
~aM
hey i had the same problem. You just gotta find a guy that will accept you. I ono bout you but I was "one of the guys" because I liked sports more than shopping, but I finally found guys that loved that about me. You could try flirting with the guys you like or being flat honest and tell them that its hard on you for htem to as about all your friends and stuff when no one asks about you. Find a guy you really trust and talk to him about it. He might be more helpful! I hope I helped somewhat.
Ok well i have this really really hot boyfriend and his hottness cannot compare to me. And plus it seems he doesnt really want to get in a big relationgship, and he wants to be more of a friend. WHat shood I do?
dude listen to "you can't hurry love" by the supreemes. (i think thats how thats spelled) lol it solves evertyhing about love!
I have a new boyfriend and things are going great, but I can't help but shy away. I really want to get close to him, but I have been hurt before and I don't want to get hurt again. Does anyone know how to break down the walls that I have built up to protect myself? I would really appreciate it. Thanks...
I have done this over and over. As well as most other girls. If you want to break down the walls then just try to trust him. You can't be afraid to get hurt.
if you dont care then you cant get hurt, but if you arent willing to care then you arent willing to know what love is
I'm a 16 year old girl, and I don't shave my legs or armpits on any regular basis. I'll do them for special occassions or if I'm wearing a special outfit, but most of the time the hair just doesn't bother me so I don't bother removing it. I figure that it's my body, and my time and energy that I'm saving by not shaving, but sometimes I worry that guys won't be interested in me because of this and I've got to the age where I wish guys expressed more interest in me. Should I start shaving, or should I just wait for a guy who doesn't mind me being me?
i dont shave my legs very often either...maybe once a week just if that and guys have never seemed to mind. But my underarms is a different story...i know girls who dont shave at all and they are doing ok with the guys. Just do what you want, if it makes you uneasy then shave more. If you dont care then dont.
My girlfriend & I dated for 3 years and she was the love of my life. Well, I decided to take a job that I couldn't refuse in Michigan. I wanted her to move up there w/ me, but she said she couldn't leave her home in TX. The long-distance thing was too tough, so we mutually broke up on good terms. She then started dating someone new who she was "miserable" with. After over a year of staying in touch w/ her, I moved back home. A short time later, she ended up breaking up w/ the other guy b/c she wasn't happy. Well, we started slowly seeing each other again and things were great, but she wanted to "take things slow and not jump back into a relationship" since she just got out of a bad one. So, not trying to force her into a relationship, we just hung out and did everything that a normal 'boyfriend/girlfriend couple' would do. Well, after a few months of dating each other (and me thinking that we were gonna get back together), she met and started dating a new guy! I WAS CRUSHED!!! Here was a girl who was my best friend, someone I thought I was going to marry, & the love of my life........and now she wants to date this other guy out of the clear blue?!?!?! I was devistated. She's still together with this guy.
Now, it's months later. We still talk (fairly often) via email and sometimes on the phone (I NEVER call her...she only calls me), but I'm still not over her. I truly loved her w/ all of my heart. Part of me hates her for ripping my heart out and the other part of me still loves her very deeply and wants her back. Someone told me "if it's meant to be, then she'll come back to me one day". I just don't know what to do and I need help..... Any advice?
Wow reverse that situation and I have seen it frist hand, same states and all. Like I told my friend. You gotta be honest, honesty may hurt for a while but at least you will know you gave it your best shot. If you really love her fight for her. *not literally* You just gotta be honest and talk to her about it. She may not even know how much she hurt you. I hope it works out for you!
my friend has a crush on the same guy i like but she doesnt know i like him and i dont want to tell her cuz im afraid if he finds out then we wont be like best friends anymore i really really like him and now i think that shes gonna ask him out im dont know wut to do i really like this guy!!!!!!
MaDlY iN LoVe!!!
tell her! if she gets mad at you then she was never your friend to begin with. Just talk it out, maybe she likes someone else. You never know until you ask.
ok latley i havent been able to talk to guys oh im a 13 yr old female- i just need some icebreakers see once the ball gets rolling i can talk to them fine even flirt if i wanna i just can never think of anything to say when i approch the guy which is weird cuz normaly i can so if you all could just give me some icebreakers that would be great please and thanyou
just try to go along with what the guy likes. Find out what he does out side of school and ask him about it. If all else fails tell him you like his shirt our something. Some times random works, or even just saying hi how's your day going. I have never really had your problem, seeing as I am not shy. But when I think about it thats all I really do when I talk to guys. I hope things work out for you!
my boyfriend spends a lot of time with me at my house, but the problem is that i have a lot of siblings (they are close to my age, not much younger) and he always talks to them. he'll just disappear and hangout with them more and it feels like hes ignoring me. i dont really want to talk to him about it cuz i told him i wanted him to get along with my family so i dont want to be a hypocrite.. what should i do and is there any way that i should just deal with it?
I had this same problem with my bf and his friends, because we always hung out with them. If it really bothers you just tell him in a polite way that you really want to hang out just you and him now and then. He shouldnt get angry with you for being honest and its not being a hypocrite. I hope you work it out!
ok, this will be my 2nd vday with my boyfriend and i want this one to be extra special. i bought him a bunch of candy already, might buy him a cd and i'm baking him cookies. anyone know any cute ideas for vday? please share...thanks
thats awesome...2 v-days. Why not try asking him subtly what he really wants. I know my guy just likes it when I make him summin like cookies. Just sweet stuff that comes from the heart should do.