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Im 18 years old..born & raised in northern va. I love to have fun with my girls, and ofcourse love to shop. Im a goody goody and damn proud of it! Feel free to ask me any questions, thats what this website is for : )

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how can i get a guys attention?
ive seen this guy before but i know he doesnt know me..i know he doesnt know i exist! i wanna change that :) lets say i see him somewhere..what do i do? i want him to notice me ..i want him to think WOW that girls hott..i dont really wanna go up to him because i will be like 'hi i dont know you but my name is kristen' ha that will sound like stupid..

any suggestions?

try to get to know any 1 of his friends, or if you already have 1 of the same friends or acquantainces...talk to them. try to show up at a party or some place where your acquantance and him both are, and then somehow you guys will end up being introduced but then dont act like you pressed over him, just casually say hi, im kristin and then go off and say hi next time u see him....*

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ok i write poems and stuff at school and i put al of them in this folder one day someone got a hold of it and now im a laughing stock kinda well i put the name of the guy i like and i know he odesnt like me but someone told me to put them in the artest of the month and i won now there posted at the office and everyone is telling me i love your poems and im not s kid like that i not int anything but now the teachers expect so unch that i cant give what do i do i dont know and im convusted
sighed
im not perfect hopefully u help

okay if you won the contest and your teachers like your poems, then that means you probably have real good talent, so you should take advantage of that! lol, and dont even worry about the whole crush thing, if you wrote just his first name, he might not even know. If you did write his entire name, its not THAT big of deal, EVERYONE has crushes, and EVERYONE moves on. Don't act embaressed cause you shouldnt be , be proud of yourself for being such a good writer and forget about the loser guy...it's his loss ( :

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What are some good ways to let me boyfriend down gently? I'm not into him as much as I used to be and we're just not working out. He never calls me and he never really talks to me. We've been one of those couples that looks so cute from the outside but there's nothing on the inside. I just need a way to break up with him without the old "we're better off as friends" excuse or something cheesy like that. He's a nice guy and he's really cool but he's not the dude for me. Thanks :)

Tell him you think its best you guys breakup at the time because you have alot of other stuff going on in your life, and tell you no matter what you still want to stay friends ... i think you should just tell him you dont feel the same anymore though, honesty is the best policy lol take care

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okay well... i have a wonderful boyfriend, but im SUCH a flirt! i cant help it i really try, but i always catch myself doing it. my ex flirts with me like seriously all the time. sometimes i just wanna like kiss him, even thou i dont him. same with another friend i have i really like flirtin with him, and love hangin out wit them. but i never forget my boyfriend (who i love sooo much!!!), and were really serious too. is this normal? i feel really bad.. but i cant help it. thank you soo much!

maybe your not ready to have a real relationship yet, so if you think you might do something that may hurt your boyfriend, its better to break up with him rather than have him hate you later on you know?

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I was searching through some xangas and I came across this girl that I'm not too fond of. I stopped to look at all the pictures she had thinking it might be pretty funny. I found multiple pictures of this girl, with my boyfriend on his bed. Nothing sexual, I think, but the fact I'M not even allowed in his room let alone his BED kinda ticked me off. Am I wrong to be upset that he had a girl that EVERYONE knows is basically a slut on his bed with him?

no you are not wrong to get upset...how did she end up on his bed when you're not even allowed in his room

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Male 13

This is kind of long so if you dont have time to read it it is okay

For the past 6 months i have been asking questions about my best friend and how i like her and what not.

Now a little backround info i have known HER for five years we are best friends. Now for the first three years i knew her i just couldnt be around her enough i had a major crush. Then i finally started letting go or hideing my feelings from myself. What ever it was it worked i really thought i was over her. But then about 6 months to a year ago i started liking her again.

i think this happend because she almost got a boy friend. so i have gotten through all the Drama over her so far her almost having a boy friend, her moving her being pushy ext...

But the thing with her her has always been she would say she didnt need a boyfriend and she would talk to me about all of this.

All of asudden she wants a boyfriend (which of course made me upset) But on top of that instead of talking to me about it she talks to this other girl she barley knows. i mean i could understand if she wanted to talk to a girl not a guy but shes never had trouble talking to me before.

the question is what should i do ( i know thats a pretty general question but i am having trouble finding the right words for my question)
I mean she tells me i can talk to her about anything but i have trouble talking to her about her.

SO bassically i just need advice for the whole situation

Well if she can come to you for help, she prob thinks of you as a brother or something

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Alrighty ive got two major questions that are REALLY preoccupying my life right now.

First: Is it sooo wrong to be a gold digga??? huh...u kno, its not like im tryin to get with a broke nigga! 18 years, 18 years, 18 years...

okay, SECOND: Why are you sooo freakin amazing, like where the HELL do you get all this knowledge and hottness from? Masha'allah, u have been truly blessed alhamdul'ilah.

Well, plz let me know, while i shake it like a polaroid picture, thank you...

Hey well I got my hottness from my brotha(actually sister) from another motha...who happens to be egyptian...so my egyptian blood makes me HOTT and I SPIT HOT FIREY ADVICE...cause of all the HOOKAH I be doin.
Yallah. Nimshi. Khallas. BEGED.
ps< also what makes me hot...my mom has two heads*

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i had a boyfriend for almost 3 years we did everything for eachother i thought he loved me but i guess not...i found out he cheated on me 3 times and he is in the military..he got stationed in germany met a girl and brought her home..wat should i do??

okay if he cheated on you, then obviously the relationship is over

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hi im in luv wit emmy rossum and im wondering how to ask her out or w/e.

hey well if you're friends then just let her know how you feel and if you're not friends, then get to know her first.

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My guy friend needs help. He was just on the phone with me ( cause he knows about my site and figured i could help ) and said that theres this girl that he really really likes, but this other girl that he dates ( not a relationship, just dates ) likes him, but he doesn't like her anymore. And he told me she cries to him sometimes on the phone and that she says she doesn't want to lose him and such and he doesn't want to be a jerk, but he doesn't know what to do, and I don't know how to answer. Please help.



Love,
Mel

well he cant just stay with this girl to make her feel good you know? it may be hard but he should really tell the girl he doesnt feel the same for her.

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Hey advicenators! =P

What do you think should be the curfew for a 15 year old girl? I'm asking this because I'm going to the movies with my guy friend and my parents want me home at 10pm. I'm a very trustworthy person and I WON'T have sex with him, that's for sure. He's only a friend. I'm kinda pissed about this because I want to stay out later, but they're strict & say only 10pm. I know I'm lucky because some kids can't even go out with friends yet. But, what do you guys think? Thanks.

10pm is a reasonable time if your 15, and trust me if you stick to the curfew without breaking it, as months go by your parents will loosen up cause they know you respect their rules. Besides it is a dangerous world and they're just tryin to make sure you're safe

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I'm turning 16 soon and I've never had a boyfriend, never been kissed. It's making me wonder if there is something wrong with me. Is there anyone else out there around my age who has never had a boyfriend? I know this isn't exactly an advice question, but it'd make me feel better if I knew there were other girls out there like me!!

Theres nothing wrong with you, my motto is .. the right guy will come when we stop looking and also, highschool guys are so not worth it.

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Ok.. i'm going out with a guy and he smokes ..

i'm 14 and he is 15. do you think thats bad?

i rate high for good answers.

yeah smoking is just nasty and so unneccessary. there plenty of guys out there that don't smoke and respect their bodies, i suggest going out with one of them

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In a lifetime is only one love in your life or a couple "loves"? you know how people...claim to have been in love a couple times?

personally I think you end up admiring many people through out life but only have one true love. But thats just my opinion, ask the people who've been married more than once lol

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I have been going out with my boyfriend for a few days now and what are some things I could do to show him that I am a really good girl to be with and stuff that would make his day?

be nice to him, compliment him, make him lunch, help him with work/chores

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heyy guys.. well my best friend is taking this reallly cute guy to homecoming, but i don't think he likes her anymore. but he i think he flirts with me aloot. i mean calling everydayy, texting at 430 in the morning, texting to wake me up in the morning.. aw. yea i know he's sweet but like when i see him at school it doesn't seem like he likes me? cause i think he is such a cutie! do yall think he likes me or what? pleaaasseee help!! thxx (rate)

well if hes not acknowledge you at school then he definately isn't worth sweating over. If he really liked you, he would be acting just as sweet at school. Maybe he's even trying to two time you wiht your bestfriend....it does happen.

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hi my name is jake, i'm 16 sophmore in high school. over the years i watch my friends go through relationships and stuff, n i never had one. n its not bc i'm antisocial or anything; i think i'm pretty popular, lots of friends and stuff. just thinks never seem to happen or get to the point of relationships; is this weird? should i try to put more an effort to startin a relationship? or should i just kinda be passive about it like i've been. i do want to find someone, to have fun with.

no dont try to get a gf just to have a gf because then it def wont work out. when you find a girl you like, go for it and ask her out. thats the only right way to be in a relationship.

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y is it that all you gurls say you want a nice sweet guys when u wind up going out with the dark nasty selfish ones.

and dont say its bs because u know exactly what i am sayin

and a serious question demands a serious answer because my sanity is @ stake

Some girls think the nice guys are desperate or just needy because they're so sweet and never blow you off. Girls get attracted to bad boys because those guys act like they don't care so much and like they have better things to do, which makes them seem "cool". In the end though every girl wants a good guy...the bad boy thing is just a stage for most.

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"its not your actions that make me feel the way i feel, its just being around you. and you dont make me feel bad otherwise i wouldnt wan to be with you. i care for you and you make me feel great its just that it hasnt built up to incredible yet"

How do you interput that? I don't understand what my boyfriend means when he said that.

you dont have to do anything to make him feel the way you do.....but he hasnt felt incredible being with you yet...*and you dont make him feel bad otherwise he woudlnt be with you

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ok so ive liked my neighbor every since he has moved in...and i had never talekd to him before because hes 2 years older than me but we got ahold of eachother's number and started talking on the phone...the first night we talked he was so nice to me but everything went bad after that night...i had my best friend over (and this guy would only hang out with me at night) and we snuck out to go to his house and he was flirting with me but ended up playing us against eachother so me and her got in a big fight but we ar ebest friends again it just took awhile...but while me and her were in a fight me and him egged her house and stuff and i snuck out everynight for 2 weeks with him and like he was the first guy i had done alot of stuff with so i liked him alot the only problem was he was so mean to me. wone time i called him and he asked if i liked suger were going down and i said i didnt like that song and he goes SLUT! and hangs up on me...i went on vaca for a week and the night before i left he invited me over to his house and we hung out and his mom said if i ever wanted a ride to any of his races ( he races mx) to let her know and she would give me a ride...so i told him that and he said 'well my mom wont be coming to my races anymore' and me and him didnt talk for the whole week i was gone well maybe once or twice and then i called him the second i got home and we talked but he was so mean to me...he like trys to hook me up with ugly guys and stuff.. then about a week and half ago he wanted me to sneek out again...so i did with me, my cousin, him, and his 2 friends we all hung out and then they said they had to go and would call me in 30 minutes so i got a call 30 minutes later but i was too tired and didnt want to come watch movies with him and he gets mad when i wont come over...he hasnt called or talked to me ever since andi just found out he was with another girl on my birthday and he KNEW it was my birthday!! so i know i need to get over him but i have never liked someone so much before so i just dotn know what to do...and hes not the type of guy i can talk to about it...but i mean he even gets mad at me when i talk or hang out with othe rguys...i even ceran rapped his car and he doesnt know it was me yet but i really wish i could talk to him but my best friend wont let me call him and if i did call him she would know because i cannot lie to her...HELP ME!

omg that is so damn long lol if he doesnt respect you forget about him

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