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Once I have anal sex and it didn't slipper to my vagina, am I still a virgin? (Stressed)
Yes, you are still a considered a virgin if you've had anal but not vaginal sex.
OK! I'm a 14/f and I've been talking with my crush who is just a few years older than me (not much and don't talk about age, its not that huge of an age gap) we are both mature and are both in a school activity. Since it's summer we text literally everyday. I love talking to him (its very easy talking to him :D) and lately we are both struggling to find topics. Cause I can tell he likes talking to me just as much as I like talking to him. I want to keep conversation fun and continuous but I need help with ideas. So please give ideas!! We usually talk about the activity we are both in and how our days are. SO PLEASE HELP!!!! :)
Something I always like to talk about with my crush or wih new friends over text is like 20 questions / truth (depends on what you'd like to call it). Basically you ask each other questions about anything you'd like to know and they have to answer truthfully and honestly. Ive always liked conversations like this because it gives you more things to talk about after you find out something about the person and you can find more common interests! Hope this helps!:) and you could always go out to the movies or hangout with him too! that's always a possibility!
Hi im 14.. and confused like crazy. Ive been dating my bf for 6 months now and i heard that he kissed some other girl and was being unfaithful to me. He tells me how beautiful i am and that he really likes me and nice things like that. Can you believe he doesnt even kiss me no more!!! Its been like 3 months now. We hangout with each other alot but i dont think i trust him now more. Please help.. thanks
You need to sit down with him next time you hangout and talk to him about how your feeling because you shouldnt break up wih him until you are sure..
I am a 17 year old girl and have been dating my 18 year old boyfriend for the last two years. We have gone fairly slow and it took us a while to go to 3rd base (but we have done that). One of the main reasons that it took so long is that we don't have places to hook up. Whenever we have like a hookup sesh it will be at his house because his parents don't check in on us. However, my parents are very strict and rarely let me go to his house and whenever my boyfriend comes to mine we are in like the family room and my mom ends up watching like half the movie with us. It has become very frustrating that we haven't been able to move forward sexually for the sole reason that we don't have a place to hook up, and both of us want to lose our virginity before we go off to college in the fall. He loves me very much, but this is the Bain of our relationship. What are some places we could hook up? I'm not especially fond of hooking up in cars or blatantly lying about where I am to my parents (I'm kind of labeled as the "good girl") but I really do want to hook up. Should I just give up on the fact I don't like doing these two things?
Ok so i understand where your coming from with this because my parents are strict too. There isnt many places you can hang out but you could at school after school or you could have a date night with him and then go to his place after a day when his parents arent home. I know you wanna keep thr good girl reputation but if you do then you will never get the the next step. Making out in a car wouldnt be that bad if you were both in the back seat.. Well thats really all there is sorry but i hope it helped
I'm planning to break up with my boyfriend and I'm really nervous, in fact, sick to my stomach about it. We've been dating for almost two years and we're getting nowhere in this relationship.
I'm not sure what to do, though. I've gone through so many scenerios in my head. But I get stuck right up to the part of... what do we do afterwards? I invited him out so that way I can treat him to at least make up for breaking up for him, and hoping we can still be friends, but do I just take him home afterwards? What if he insists on coming over instead? What do we do after I do?
And does anyone have any tips on how to break up with someone? I've never broken up with someone before and I know it's going to hurt him no matter what I do, but is there an easier way to let him down gently?
Ok so the first thing about breqking up with a guy is that you SHOULD NOT do it over text. Do it face to face. I would not auggest having him over after because it would just be awkward between you too. You need to just sit down and tell him at school or something that you think your relationship isnt gling anywhere and u think that the two of you should just be friends. He will be a bit crushed afterwards but he will get over it. If he agrees to be friends then thats good but i still wouldnt reccommend having him over after. Good luck and i know that sick feeling your having . You might feel that way afterwards for a few days as well but i hope this helps
Hi, I'm a 13 year old girl in 8th grade. My ex bf and I was together for 10 months or so then I broke up with him but last week I was thinking about it and I realized I was wrong. I wrote him a note asking him if he'd like to get back together and how I felt and I gave it to him but all he said was sorry but no thanks and last Thursday my friend asked him what up about the note and he said she just wasn't normal around me for way too long. I do admit I could be shy around him but I think if we talked more we could work it out. I really like him and miss him alot, how can I get him back?
Ok so your 13 and Im not judging you by young boyfriends or anything but next year you will be in highschool where there is so many more options. If he doesnt want to get back together with you then your going to just have to accept that and move on. Wait a year and you could possibly find someone much better than him. It might be worth the wait to find someone that your more interested in. Dont try holding on to your relationship with this guy because he doesnt feel the same way. It would be like holding on to nothing. Hope this helps!
I like 2 girls: Susan and Victoria. i asked Susan out last year but she rejected me but i still like her, so I just like her and we're only friends. But at the same time i like another girl, Victoria, we are also just friends but she hugs me sometimes. I joined the play and both of them are there. i dont know what to do, how to make them notice me and more interested in me. I cant just stat here and look at victoria,shes the one i really want. I know there still might be hope, but i cant find it. PLEASE HELP!
Youll never know if either likes you until you ask or make a move. Even though susan may have rejected you last year, its been a year things can change. Try being flirty with them and joke around with them. Or play 20 questions or something. If you really like her then you should ask one of them out. Hope it helps"
Y is it that having a broken hart can destroy your life ?
Y do we get so close to someone only to let ourselves be hurt ?
Y do we feel as if we are the only ones on this earth to feel this way ?
I myself have gone through this pain of losing someone I love and feeling like there's nothing for me to live for , when I got dumped by my Fiancée she dumped me over a txt message on the phone after being together for almost 3 years she couldn't even say it to my face :(. I was a grate boyfriend and I looked after her a lot she had a lot of issues and she never really loved me the way I loved her she would flirt with other guys in front of me and contact her exs behind my back knowing they wanted to sleep with her. She did a lot of bad things to me that upset me and depressed me , I am 24 and she was 19 turning 20 . She used me because she knew how much I loved her and that I would do anything to make her happy even if that means giving up my happiness . I sold my motor bikes that I loved ,to take her on expensive holidays everything , we brought a new car together and motor bikes heaps , when she left me she took everything the car the bikes , my hart :(. She left me just the engagement ring that was it not even a expiation for y she dumped me . We worked together side by side and that was very hard for me to come to work and see her all happy while I was sick depressed and upset I loved her so much I wanted to have a life with this girl kids and b a family :(. I would try talk to her and she would tell me to "fuck off and get over it you will find better " I was devastated she even come back up to me and said I will give you another chance and I was so happy I when to the shops and brought her flowers and candy as soon as I got back she said "um can we just be friends first" and I was confused ? We were never friends and she said she was giving me another chance ? Then I told her "we were never friends you know that and u told me you was giving me anther chance half hour ago ?" She said " we I am leaving town next week so ........" I said "so what's that mean are we still together are we going work this out ?" She just said she had to go back to work and walked off then txt me and said I am out so there's no you and me . She played game with me and burned me got my hopes up to shoot me down I left work that day and quite I told my friends at work I am leaving now . They were shocked and angry with my ex that because of her I was leaving . She found out and come back to my place after work and told me don't go I love you , but I knew it was just another act she played with me and hurt me so bad , I always told her that "don't ever lose me because when I am gone I am gone for good " and I told her that night as I was leaving my room "good by my love you will never see me again " as I walked away trying to hold my self from crying I left her there crying as she watched me slip away . I left my hole life behind and I had a good job everything but because of that brake up I lost it all . It's been 6 months and I am currently living with family I am unemployed as its hard to find work here in taz and I have no fiends here I do boxing to help with my emotions and I have had a very hard time getting over the past with my ex love . She still try's to contact me and tell me how she loves me and that there's heaps of guys who want her but she only wants me , I know it's all a act to her and that she dosnt really want me but I still love her I don't trust her and I try not to let her hurt me but I still love her I always will . I know. Things are tuff and that it seams like u can't go on without them but you are wrong you can , and we are the better ones here we are the ones that cared so y should we let ourselves suffer for them ?? We may get knocked down but we still have more fight in us and we should use it to help ourselfs . Yes it's going to b hard to get through it but we can do it , killing yourself means nothing to them they might b sad for 3 weeks or so then they back with someone ells like you didn't matter so think about it hurting yourself isn't hurting them ok it's hurting you and your family and friends . If you ever need to talk to someone this is my email beaubo1988@hotmail.com
This broke my heart to read :'( I seriously cried hearing this story. Im so so sorry you lost her and she turned on you like that. Ive been in a similar situation when someone just toyed with my head and one moment told me he loves me and the next said he hates me. I hope things will get better for you. It takes alot of time to recover from something this depressing and sad. Im sorry you had to go through something like that. You shouldnt have to suffer and you deserve much better than her. I know you still have feelings for her, but its best if you try to find someone new or surroud yourself with great friends who will help you through it. As for unemployment, dont worry if you look hard enough, Im sure you will find great job offers. Im not sure what else to say but if you need any more help or just want to express yourself, you can always inbox me :) I really hope this helps and just try to stay strong and get your mind off her.
there is this girl i have a huge crush and i cant stop thinking about her even if i try i think im in love with her. im 13 and shes 14. my issue is my parents wont allow me to date and i think she has a boy friend what do i do
Thats so sweet. I have had the same problem but opposite in gender. I know many people have been saying u dont know what love is and u need to slow down but screw them, your entitled to your own opinion and i believe in young love. What you need to do is talk to her, in person would be better but online is okay if its your first time talking to her. If your parents dont let you date then i suggest only flirting with her and you should ask her if she actually does have a bf before flirting with her. I hope this helps
I don't want stuff really sexual and private but I want suggestions tht r flirty ( I really like this guy )
-Who do u like?
-Best kiss?
-Ever dreamt about me?
-Funniest memory?
-Prettiest girls that you know?
-Farthest youve gone?
-Farthest you would go with me?
-If I were with you right now what would you say/do?
-If I were to kiss you would you kiss me back?
-What is my name in your phone?
-Things you look for in girls?
-Rank me on a scale of 1-10 in looks, and personality
Hope these give you some good ideas =)
okay so i know this is stupid of me to ask but i feel like when i ask people i know i don't get an honest answer. im 5'2 i have light blonde hair that ends right at my boobs its usually curled or in beach waves im a 34DD in a bra i have light blue eyes i usually half to get like a size 8 in dresses since my boobs are so big and have the dress made smaller in the waist i definitely have curves and a butt my waist is smaller and i have big thighs i get really nervous and awkward when i half to get in a bathing suit because i have 2 scars on my stomach. i get told im pretty all the time but i just can't bring myself to believe it i also hate going places because i feel like everywhere i go im being judged
You sound gorgeous. Dont let anyone bring you down! Your human! Everyone has flaws! It doesnt matter about your body shape, because honestly, people with curves is alot prettier than someone who is a stick and doesnt eat to be skinny. Everyone is beautiful!
12, Female
Hello, i'm Melanie. My bestfriend's name is Lily. Ok so she had a boyfriend named Jake. Well, I've liked Jake for a long long time.. Now I think I love him. I'm serious, here. I can't ever get him out of my mind, i've written SO many songs about him, I listen to songs about him, ect. Well, Lily still likes him. At least I think she does. Anyways, I think Jake And Lily will get back together!! If they do, i'll cry so much.. What do I do? I feel so bad for loving him when she likes him. What do I do?!
Dont let a guy come between your friendship with Lily. Your 12, there will be more opportunities and you cannot love someone of the opposite gender when you are that age. If you like Jake then you will need to tell Lily that you do. She will understand.
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(im a girl and Im 13. My boyfriends 14)
So Im dating this guy and he dumped his ex for me. Which is kinda cute yet kinda mean and scary. So its only been one day weve been dating and I want to trust him. His ex keeps telling me (and a whole lot of people) oh dont date him he's a player and he dumped ____ for me and dumped me for you and now who will be next? and all this non sence. But, I have only known him for 2 weeks. He said I was cute the first day we met while he was dting his ex and I said arnt you dating ____ and he said yes but, its not cheating. Im just calling you cute. and we passed notes all the time and payed 21 questions or would you rather. He said I seemed like a really nice person. He also told me he was gonna break up with his ex due to shes so emotinal and getting her friends to ask him questions. Than like on a thursday his ex came up to me and said people are saying your flirting with my bf. THAN right after that he broke up with her and I didnt even know until the next day. I saw him later that other day out of school but, never spoke to him. Than in 2nd period (the only class we have together)
He asked me if I liked him. course I said yes and he asked me out after class. We hugged than went seprate ways to classes. We sat together at lunch and him and his buddy were making fun of his ex's name (it is kinda... weird) but, I was like *is he going to do that to me?* but I didn't say anything. Than after school we met up & I waited for him at his locker and once he was finished we started walking together.
he was so sweet and asked me, "Hey can i carry your books for you?" and I said yes. Than some 6th graders were in front of us (were in 8th) and he was like " move dammit" than the girl was like asshole and of course I laughed. It was funny. I think he was just trying to make me laugh. But, after I was still laughing and I was like, "your mean." and he just smiled back, "kinda ahaha." so were walking still just chatting and he asked, "so wheres your bus?" I poined and said right there."
He walked me and slowed down about 10 feet away from the bus and leaned over and kinda whispered, "do you mind if I kiss you goodbye?" and of course this is like the most sweetest thing ever that he would ask me that. So I said yes and we kissed. Just a long like 5 second kiss. No tounge just lip. I said bye and smiled my whole way home.
I got dressed up on friday for him but, forgot he wasn't going to be here. He was going to be in court. yes, court. For family issues I believe but, before we started dating he told me he went to court on monday for being caught with alchohl. and No that doesn't scare me or anything because I have had plenty of friends like that who under age drink but, i dont. I said okay and we went on. He sounded kinda shy like he didn't want to tak about it so I said okay and respected his privacy.
But, is he a player or not? His ex said he had a note about me that he said something about how he just wanted to hurt her and date me to do so cause she would care but than my friend kept a note from him that said why he broke up with his ex and because she was really emotinal and thats why (I explained more in the beggining)
So is he? I wanna believe he isn't but I dont know. And he has this best friend where he acts kinda diffrent around me when hes alone. And not by much but he kinda acts like all guyish. (you know, "hey ______ you have a big butt.) Thy said that to me but than i was like thats kinda insulting and he said no its a compliment. Its good. and I was all like sure whatever. and really didn't care. i was suprised cause i really dont have a big butt but whatever.
So please tell me if hes either or and explain why. thanks for reading all of this.
Ok well first off, dont appologize for the length of your question because I do the same thing all the time. Ive had a similar boyfriend before and he was the player type and I didnt belieeve my friends or his ex's because everyone kept telling me he would hurt me and he did. All he liked me for was my boobs and my looks and butt.
Having a big butt to a guy is a compliment but to a girl saying it to another girl it is not. I dont know why that works that way but it does. I think he is a player and eventually once he gets what he wants from you (your heart, boobs, butt, lips, and possibly sex), he will hurt you. Im not saying to break up with him right away but just think, is this the type of guy you really wanna be with? I mean of course he is funny and nice and calls you cute but soon I think that he will only want you for the stuff I listed above.
Sorry, I dont want to be the one to break the bad news to you but its true that he is the player type. You cant expect him to change either, he will say cute things to you then hurt you (known from personal experience). Just be careful with this guy, make sure you know everything about him and his past girl friends before you do anything with him or break up with him. I know you dont wanna be called mean names by him and his friends if you guys break up but it will eventually go away. If I were you, I would kinda wanna know why he was going to court.
If he acts differently around you than with his friends, then that practically means he's two faced. What you need to do is find out which face is real and which is a lie.
Hope this helps!
i had many kisses with my boyfrend some times when he kis me he kisses on my neck alsoo but we had no sex just kiss so i dont want to get pregnent does it makes me pregnent
Go ahead and kiss your boyfriend, that doesnt get you pregnant. To get pregnant you must have sexual intercourse with the opposite gender and what happens to become pregnant is that during intercourse the sperm come out of the boy's penis and all girls carry eggs (to produce baby's) and then the sperm fertilize the egg and voila! A baby starts growing inside a girl (only if you do not wear a condom)
If you have intercourse please wear a condom because you have less chance of getting pregnant if the sperm cant get through. The worst thing to worry about with your boyfriend kissing you is if he is sucking and kissing your neck is that you get something called a hicky (sorry I dont know how to spell today) =P A hicky is permanant and can not be removed so be careful as he is kissing your neck.
ok so.. im 14 , girl with light brown hair, light blue eyes, average weight, i wear glasses, people say i have a beautiful smile....i smile alot... i like this guy (14) .we have been friends for 2 years or so now we just see eachother in school. nothing has happened between us. i have started to like him A LOT but the problem is he is a total man whore and loves sluts,he also smokes. i dont really know if he likes me, but i always see him looking at me while we are in class and he is always teasing me in a fun way, my friends say he likes me but i dont know. i dont think he would ever like a girl with glasses..... does he like me too, and if so should i go out with him even though he likes sluts and smokes?
If he's into slutty girls and he likes to smoke then definately no! Dont date someone like that! If you guys are good friends then you really should tell him to stop smoking because you dont want to be around that kind of influence. You could do alot better and you sound pretty =) If you think he wont like you because you have glasses that is so stupid! Looks dont matter! Its the person in side that counts! Ugh! Dont be his friend even if you think he would judge you like that and telling him that he's a man whore if you think of him like that and wtf if you think of him as a man whore then why do you wanna date him? WTF
I am A 13year old female. And i would like to know if anyone knows the easiest way to die?. I've just really had enough of my life to be honest. There is no point in me being alive. I am NOTHING. I have my GCSE'S coming up this summer and next year, I've been put under so much pressure I cant handle it. Im not ready to face failure. And On top of that I am in a relationship with this really nice boy. we recently started dating and its going quite well, however i still love my ex. me and my ex had a quite sexual relationship and its hard to accept the fact that we cant be together anymore. i cant break up with my current boyfriend, i'll feel like a bad person. AND BASICALLY IVE JUST HAD ENOUGH OF LIFE. SERIOUSLY DONT WANT TO BE HERE. AND I FIND IT TO BE DEATH IS THE ONLY ANSWER TO ALL OF MY PROBLEMS. AND I GOT MANY THIS IS JUST ONE/TWO
You cant kill yourself, its not the right thing! We've all been in a situation where we felt like dying was the only way, but its not! I know from experience, when I was 14, I was fed up and I thought I couldnt live anymore. I had a boyfriend and he broke my heart for my best friend, my best friend went with him and I felt like sh!t. All my friends turned on me, I got black mailed and after a year of that I went to my basement and took my dog's leash and tried to hang myself. Then I thought it over, all my family, the people who actually are nice to me, and everything I love could be over if I chose that path. So the next day of school, I told someone about my problems and I got helped through it. I realized that the people who I thought were friends werent! I got new friends who were actually nice to me and I have a wonderful boyfriend now who appreciates me. Im 16 now and I just need you to know that whatever you choose, think about all possible outcomes first. Pressure and failure is a part of life, we've all been there. If you love your ex still, you need to tell your current boyfriend about that. Im sure he'll understand. The truth is the best, even when you tell little white lies they can come back and bite you in the ass. I cant stop you from killing yourself but just think your life over before you make any drastic decisions.
-Hope this helps
I want a good nicknane for my boyfriend he is so cute ,adorable ,sexy and sweet
Me and my friends come up with "sweet" nicknames for our crushes so we can talk about them when they are listening and they wont have a clue who we're talking about. The nicknames we've used have been desserts, a few of the many names we've used is: Cotton Candy, Triscuit, Gummy Bear, Cupcake, Fudgee-O, and Snickers. Hope this helps =)
Ok I have started chattin to this lad on bbm and we just click and I've told him stuff neva told neone before and he actually understands iv invited him to mine over weekend and his agreed to come back now I'm nervous how shall I play it and any advice etc xxxX
Sounds kind of like 'Love at first sight' Dont be nervous the worst that could happen is he says he just wants to be friends. Just pretend you've known each other for years and act as if he's your best friend. Good luck, hope this helps =)
My bf broke up with me and I need him back. I know you're probably thinking, "No you don't need him, you want him. Get over him. Pick up a new hobby or something to keep your mind off him" I kept telling myself this and I have been trying and trying to get him out of my head, I've tried like everything, and it's been over a month since this guy broke up with me. I feel like i'm going crazy. I can fix the mistakes I've made, and now I want him back. What do I do? Any advice on how to get him back?
Im in the same situation, I think about my ex all the time and I still love him. Many people have told me to move on but I just cant, there's something that pulls me back to him but its as if there's an invisible force field between us. And now my ex says that he wants to kiss me once more so he can move on but I really dont understand that because I dont want him to feel a spark and then love me again. I want whats best for him and I've learned from my mistakes but cant move on.
I think you should try hanging out with other guys, just as friends and then it could make him jealous. Show him how happy you are without him (even though your not) and this could draw him back to you. I say you should get a bunch of new guy friends and hang out with them alot and then you will make him jealous and trust me, jealous guys always come back. Well, hope this helps =)
I have no idea how to kissl n i was wondering if you can give me as much advice as possible like how do you move ur lips n how do you use ur tounge Oh n i am 15 n my bf is 17 n he has alot more experience than me
I was nervous about my first kiss too, It bugged me for the longest time once I got a boyfriend. Its really quite simple though, my boyfriend told me to just follow what he does. Apparently Im quite good at it. If your boyfriend has more experience then just follow what he does, let him lead. http://www.instructables.com/id/How-to-Kiss/