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Places to make out/do stuff with my boyfriend
I am a 17 year old girl and have been dating my 18 year old boyfriend for the last two years. We have gone fairly slow and it took us a while to go to 3rd base (but we have done that). One of the main reasons that it took so long is that we don't have places to hook up. Whenever we have like a hookup sesh it will be at his house because his parents don't check in on us. However, my parents are very strict and rarely let me go to his house and whenever my boyfriend comes to mine we are in like the family room and my mom ends up watching like half the movie with us. It has become very frustrating that we haven't been able to move forward sexually for the sole reason that we don't have a place to hook up, and both of us want to lose our virginity before we go off to college in the fall. He loves me very much, but this is the Bain of our relationship. What are some places we could hook up? I'm not especially fond of hooking up in cars or blatantly lying about where I am to my parents (I'm kind of labeled as the "good girl") but I really do want to hook up. Should I just give up on the fact I don't like doing these two things?
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First let me state that I am old enough to be your grandfather. My views on sex and teenagers can at times be very liberal. At the end of my writing is a URL that will take you to a Website I have found and recommended to many young women looking at having there first sexual experience.I suggest both you and your boyfriend read it together.
Your first sexual experience is very important. The boy you have that first intercourse with may not be the boy you marry, even so you can only experience something for the first time.
The fact that you are both virgins makes it even more important that you find a time and place that you can have the best possible experience. I would not suggest trying to have that first experience at his house when his parents are away as you will always be fearful they will return and catch you in the act.
This will cause you to rush through something that should be done in a loving and caring way without having to keep one eye on the clock and one ear listening for a car pulling into the driveway.
I would also not recommend having your first sexual relation in the back seat of a car. Back in my day many of lost are virginity that way at the drive-in movies. For the guy the act was accomplished for he got of. For the girl; yes she lost her virginity but I can't say it was anywhere near enjoyable for her. She was uncomfortable, then there was the fear of anyone passing by the car seeing us and of course first time sex for a girl is going to be painful. The awkwardness and fear factor of doing so in the backseat of a car can only have added to her discomfort and pain.
Let be honest here, a guy can get off almost anywhere at any time. There is a saying a guy can use a Knot hole in a piece of wood if he is that desperate. For a gal it is much more complicated. First she must feel loved, then she has to feel secure and safe in her surroundings. Most of all she needs to feel comfortable.
The only place that meets all these criteria is a motel. A nice clean motel like a motel six which is inexpensive. You pay cash when you check in, use the room for as long as you need to and leave. Nothing says you need to spend the entire night.
The motel supplies everything you need; a safe secure place where you won't be intruded upon. It is clean and comfortable and will provide you with the best possible environment for that first experience.
I would make only one suggestion should you choose to take my advice. Pick a motel far out of the town you live in so as not to have his car spotted by anyone who might recognize it.
The only other alternative is to wait one more year until you are 18 and legally responsible for your own life.
Note: You are old enough by a law called HIPPA which is a federal law, to ask your doctor for birth control. You do not need parental permission. This law gives you total medical control and confidentiality over your reproductive system and has been since you were 14.
You should be on birth control for one menstrual cycle before you have your first intercourse. Even so you boyfriend should also use a condom. Granted you are both virgins, though you should start your sex lives practicing safe sex. Never have sex with anyone who will not wear a condom regardless of the fact you are on birth control. While birth control pills are 99% effective in preventing pregnancy adding condoms adds an extra layer of protection. Plus as you may have more partners in the future the condoms are very effective at preventing the transmission of many STDS and the HIV/AIDS virus.
I hope your first time is all you exoect it to be.
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Ok so i understand where your coming from with this because my parents are strict too. There isnt many places you can hang out but you could at school after school or you could have a date night with him and then go to his place after a day when his parents arent home. I know you wanna keep thr good girl reputation but if you do then you will never get the the next step. Making out in a car wouldnt be that bad if you were both in the back seat.. Well thats really all there is sorry but i hope it helped
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