hEY iM MELiSSA.
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ALWAYS&&FOREVER
MELiSSA
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my boyfriend and i have been together for over a year and 3 months..
OK. so I have no idea what to get my boyfriend for Christmas and his birthday. His [[ 18th ]] birthday is February 13th and well, I dont have a whole lot of money to spend on him. He spent a bunch of money on me for my birthday this year and I HAVE TO get him something good.
His hair is a huge deal to him, he has it long right now but is cutting it tomorrow, it's really curly [[ which i love, i even call him my "curly" ]] but he hates his curls and is always running his curling iron through his hair to try to straighten it a little. So I'm thinking a hair straightener.. What else? Do you know of any good hair products?
i cant get him clothes because all the bands' [[ that he likes ]] shirts i can think of, he already has...
He really likes taking baths with candles and stuff. lol.
[[ funny, the way i'm describing him, it sounds like he's gay or something.. haha ]]
he's not. believe me.
oh! when i asked him what he wanted he said a lap dance... lol... i would, but i haven't danced like that in years. so i dont know.
any ideas? sorry if that was long, but if you could give me any ideas at all, it would be greatly appreciated. =]
thank you so much! (link)
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I just thought of a great idea. =)
Although it has nothing to do with what you said. What if you made him a little scrap book?
You have little love quotes and its cute and it can show how much you really do care about him. Although, if you do make a scrapbook, i think you would have to get him something else...like idk..bath bubbles or something
sorry if you don't like it.
ALWAYS&&FOREVER
MEliSSA
oh i just thought of this if you did make a scrapbook..you could ask his mom for like a baby picture of him. on one of the first pages, you could put a picture of you and him as babies and then write:
A Perfect Match?
idk..i just think it would be adorable.
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I have liked this guy for a couple of years, and i resently found out he likes me! but this other guy likes me too! infact, he tells me he loves me! (atleast once a day) he is sweet but he can really get on my nerves, and i met him and he started telling me he loves me before i knew about my crush liking me. but now i don't know who to pick! my crush, or the guy who (constantly) tells me he loves me! (tho he doesn't say it to my face, he just texts it) AG!!!
~confused in the game of love (link)
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I think the answer is obvious. Definately the guy that you've liked for a couple years. Because if the other guy is bothing you like this now, could you imagine what he would be doing if you did date him? And also, it's kinda weird he only texts you that he loves you.
Hope it works out.
ALWAYS&&FOREVER
MEliSSA
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So this isn't a question about liking boys... I DON'T like anybody! I could think they're cute, but that's all. I'm 13/f and I'm not that comfortable thinking about being in a relationship. It makes me uncomfortable, and I can think "ewwwwwwwwwwwww" Some people like me, and it just makes things worse, because I do NOT like them, it's just, "eww".... I even feel weird about my dad or one of my boy teachers. I'm ok around people who I know probably don't like me, and if we're really good friends and stuff. I'm just not interested. One person who likes me, KNOWS that I don't like him, but he's obsessed or something, and it creeps me out. The other guy who likes me is my friend, which still makes me feel awkward. There was a rumor going around that he liked me, and it was annoying how people kept saying "guess what?! so and so likes you!" The same with the other guy! I could honestly care less about boys (no offense) and I love being single :] Boys are also rude, etc, etc, etc! (if you girls know what I mean) but girls can also too. Am I just not ready? I just wish NO ONE would like me! DDDD: D:<
(I'm still thinking, ewww, gross, bleh.....) (link)
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You will definately grow out of this! And, yes you aren't really ready right now. Just know that, at this age nothing is really going to come out of having a boyfriend. You're not going to get married...you're not going to date for ten years. My point is that you should enjoy it while you can. but at the same time, if you enjoy being single tell those guys that, they will get the point and leave you alone!! Being single isn't bad and a lot of times it's better than dating someone. =)
Good Luck!
ALWAYS&&FOREVER
MEliSSA
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I'm 15 years old, female i live in Iowa. i've never liked the computer much, but for the past six months, ive been on it every night for an average of five hours and sometimes more. the reason-- i met this guy, he's 17 and he lives in california. the first time i met him, we talked for 14 hours straight. (not exagerating) he's so great.. i can talk to him about anything and i'm understood so well.. i can understand him too and he says he's never felt the way he feels when talking to me...this probably sounds creepy but it's honestly not. i really love him.. i don't know why. i just do. i know 15 is young to love and probably to young. i've never felt this way about a guy.. i look at other guys and see nothing in them, no future. i just want him. We both have these feelings and want to meet. i know it's dangerous. I've been warned about how he can be different in person or not even be what he says he is. also that he could rap/kidnap/kill me. I know all of the bad stuff that can happen yet i still want to see what could happen. I don't want to ask myself 5 years from now what could have happened if we did meet. Even through all of this, i'm scared alot. it's so hard to like someone so much who is so far away. is it wrong for me to want to meet him in person?... if not.. what should i do? > (link)
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It's not the best idea to meet in person. You just have to be very cautious. If you absolutely want to meet him, go to a public place, where people could see you if something went wrong. Also, bring a friend or parent and tell him to do the same. This is just an idea, but have your parents talk, because you do live a distance apart, and parents wouldn't appreciate it if you just walked out and left to go meet someone from the internet. ya know?
If he rejects any of these ideas you know he's not for real. Just remember you don't really know if he's for real. It could just be some pervert 40 year old looking for something to do.
Good luck!
ALWAYS&&FOREVER
MEliSSA
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hey i was just wondering if any of you married your high school sweethearts? if you have any cool stories about your relationship please share! :] (link)
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It wasn't me personally, but one of my really close friends married their highschool sweetheart. They dated for 10 years and then he finally proposed. They are so adorable together, and they always seem to have the best times!
And the best part is, they are expecting in January! It's gonna be a boy!
Hope you liked the story!
ALWAYS&&FOREVER
MEliSSA
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15/f
i'm a sophmore in highschool and i've never been kissed and never had a boyfriend.Please don't write "it's going to happen someday" or "just wait, it'll come soon when you're not expecting it" But, the thing is it seems like i'm the one who's scaring off all the guys though.I come off pretty mean. But it's like every time i try to tell myself to be nice or don't say anything hurtful, it happens anyway. It's like I can't control what my actions. So basically i want advice on how to be a lot less mean, and way more nice.i know it sounds stupid, but i think if i had like the right mind set then maybe i can get somewhere in my social life.
THANX IN ADVANCE! (link)
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To start, if you are a sarcastic person..just stop. For some people, like me, when your sarcastic it comes off totally wrong and comes across as mean. If you hang around people who are being mean, that can affect your status. So try to have your "meaner" friends make a change for the better with you and it will be soo much easier to do it with a friend.
Also when your on your way to become a nicer person, don't start lying. People can tell when you're being genuine or fake. So instead, if you really do like Suzy Q's shoes TELL HER!
Lastly, don't make a sudden change, just work on one thing at a time. Like the first couple days say I am not going to talk about anyone behind their back. The next couple days say I won't make fun of anyone. Making little subtle changes also make the transition easier. Also if you make one sudden change people will think you are fake.
Good Luck and when you do become a nicer person, some lucky guy is gonna notice, and he'll be all over you. =)
ALWAYS&&FOREVER
MEliSSA
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okay so theres this guy, steven. steven is really popular, smart REALLY smart but not in a have no social skills way he just is very studious, he is nice to everyone, and he has a hot body. he has only been living in SC for a year and is moving to COLORADO! i really love him but he just likes me as a friend. he knows i like him too. it started when we slow danced at a dance. well my friend asked him to ask me, he asked me and we danced it was the happiest moment ever! but i feel like he was just doing it to be nice and it made this boy robert REALLLY mad becsue he likes me. i want to stay in touch with him he is leaving at the end of the school year and i have already started crying and we're not even dating! i wish we were but he doesnt like me that way. our lockers are next to each other, we sit by each other twice a week in town meetings and he is in my homeroom and in 2 of my classes. hes everywhere. but he is so popular his friends are always all over him or hes with the teachers bc hes just so smart! i cant bear to let him be gone forever.
i want to still keep in contact with him when he leaves i was thinking give him my street address. im afraid he wont write to me and if he doesnt, i wont know his street address :[ he doesnt have im either! im so worried.
and i want to invite him out to lunch with me and my firends [as a group thing so its not akward for him] but how do i ask him if he wont give me a chance!
im so sad i have no idea what to do!
please give me answers! im so distressed. (link)
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If it is too embarassing for you to give him your address just trade email addresses. It would be so much easier for you to keep in contact. If that works dont send him those chain letters, those can get annoying.
Good luck
ALWAYS&&fOREVER
MELiSSA
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my bf and i just got back together, we took a break for about 2 months. but he is out of town and can only come back once in awhile. we talk on the phone everyday, and we argue a bit about the past. but eventually get over it. last night we were talking and no arguement occured. he was being the same old sweet jon i used to know. he asked me if i have had sex with anyone since him and told him no. which is very true. he is the only guy i've had sex with ever. then i asked him the same thing, and he was like well i've had a gf while we were broken up but i broke up with her cuz i missed you too much, and we never had sex. but for some reason i don't believe him, i want us to get tested when he gets back but im worried to tell him that. i also have to tell him that while we were broken up, i had to have an abortion, with his baby. how do i tell him that. he will probably hate me, but im only 16 and it just happened and my mom made me. i would've kept it, but my mom said i have plenty of time to have a baby. what do i do.
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I definately think you should get tested. Tell him that you believe him, but you want to do it for health reasons.
I think it would be best if you didn't tell him about the abortion. But if you really want to, I agree with the person below me.
ALWAYS&&fOREVER
MELiSSA
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I really really like this guy, but I'm not sure about how he is feeling at the moment.
We had been aquaintences before we met at Prom, but began to pay attention to eachother when we both were in the same picture party group, and found out that neither of us had dates. So we spent the evening together getting to know eachother and found that we're quite similar! He called me the day after telling me that he liked me and wanted to see me again. That week he called me everynight on the phone and we talked for hours.
About a week after prom, we went on our first date. (this date was also my very first date too! so it was special) We had a great time, and I let him kiss me. (It was also my first kiss!)
We see eachother sometimes at school and he always seems happy to see me.
But heres the thing, it's been two weeks after our date, I see him less and less at school now, and and he hasn't called me once! He told my friend that he really really likes me but might possibly be too busy to make things official.
Of course I really want us to be Boyfriend/girlfriend, but I'm also fine with going a little bit slower to accomodate his schedule.
So, what should I do? Its killing me how sparsely I see him, and I feel like some of the magic is being lost with less and less contact. He makes me incredibly happy when we're together, and I really like him and don't want to lose him. This is my first 'relationship' so I have no idea what to do!
Thanks so much! (link)
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It sounds like you both really like each other. I think the b/f g/f thing would def. work out.
To talk to him say your own words: Of course I really want us to be Boyfriend/girlfriend, but I'm also fine with going a little bit slower to accomodate his schedule.
He will appreciate your concern for him now and wil want you to care about him in a relationship.
Good luck
ALWAYS&&fOREVER
MEliSSA
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There's this guy, Jack. He's friends with a lot of my camp friends, and I've started talking to him online. He's really great, but I haven't met him in person yet. I want to, but we live like, half an hour away. And the camp friends that he knows aren't greattt friends of mine, and I don't really see them a lot. However, I think if I could get invited to one of their places I'd meet him, cause he's constantly with them.
So any ideas on how to get myself invited?
and also, i asked a question similar to this a while back(different situation, but the begginning was similar) and i got a million responses on how to be careful cause he could really be a 40 year old man.
PLEASE none of those this time.
I've talked to him on the phone once, and I'm the only one of my friends who hasn't met him.
So none of those. (link)
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When you find out about one of their parties casually say, "Those sound like a lot of fun... I wish I could go." Or something they will probably invite you.
Good luck
ALWAYS&&fOREVER
MELiSSA
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Ok well 13f and ive known this guy for about a year. We've never officially went out but we are talking about it now!! We say we love each other etc. but when he promises to call me back he never does then when i tell him aobut it he says it must be your phone b/c i called you & you didnt answer!! he swears he called me!!! what should i do..... i love him alot!!!!???? :) (link)
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If you really love him GO OUT!, and again if you really do love him one phone call isn't going to matter.
Good Luck
ALWAYS&&fOREVER
MELiSSA
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I really need a b/f all the guys except one is nice and stuff to me...what should I do? (link)
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You never NEED a boyfriend. But casually flirt with the one guy that you like. Don't try too hard or he will turn away. Then eventually tell him that you like him.
Good luck and remember your beautiful w/o a b/f
ALWAYS&&fOREVER
MELiSSA
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Well I have a crush on this boy and he knows since everyone told him. I saw him look at me like a 1000 times and so has my friends. He did the whole things where he tells his friend and the friend looks at the person to approve, at least it looked like it. But he asked my bff out, he asked her out 3 months ago and then he found out she likes him so he asked her out. So does that mean he doesnt like me now? (link)
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Not really. Boys do that a lot. If they think that you don't like them, but they find a girl that likes him. They'll go with the girl they know likes him.
He could also be doing that to make you jealous. =)
ALWAYS&&fOREVER
MELiSSA
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well last night this guy that i like ALOT asked me out,and i was extremely happy.but heres the catch..hes extremely close friends with my ex boyfriend whom i went out with for 6 months and liked for a year and he was my first love..and now my ex boyfriend told my boyfriend he doesnt wanna talk to him ever again since hes going out with me..and i feel really,really bad. not just about the fact that he lost a friend due to this, but also that im going out with someone whos that close with someone i loved..because i talked to my ex boyfriend today and he made it very very obvious how hurt he is. i just hate hurting people and i do wanna be with my boyfriend but at the same time i dont feel as strongly about him as i thought i did..and im not even sure if this is what i want..maybe its just fear im not sure but if anyone could help me thatd be amazing..thank you. (link)
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It really depends on who you like more. It also seems like your new boyfriend is really not that good of friends with your ex, because he wouldn't do that to him if they were good friends.
If you like your ex more don't go out with your new boyfriend. If you like your new b/f more stay with him, because it doesn't seem like they have that great of a relationship.
Good Luck
ALWAYS&&fOREVER
MELiSSA
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my friend emily is totally in love with this guy named... matt. matt is like the epitome of american hottness, with tan skin, blue jeans, blond hair and blue eyes. she is infatutated with him, and has sent him valentines and everything, BUT has not asked him out yet. i am getting sick of hearing sighing and giggling over him from emily, especially since i like love him too, but only for a shorter time than hera nd i haven't sent any valentines or anything, considering itz april now. emily doesnt know that i like matt too, and i dont want her to get all freaked out at me. not to be mean either, but i so think that he would be so more likely to go out w/ me and not her, but i am so afraid of asking him out since emily is one of my best friendz. (link)
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First think to yourself:
What relationship do you like more?
Then stay with that one.
I would personally stay with my friend. If you and Matt break up, you aren't gonna have that friend's shoulder to cry on.
Good LUck!
ALWAYS&&FOREVER
MELiSSA
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ughh. im in a very bad mood sometimes. like alot of my friends have boyfriends and stuff. and i admit it..im sooo jealous. well like i used to have one but i dumped him because well its a long story. well anyways. i see how like their boyfriends protect them. and im reading advice things on here and one was on this thing where her best friend wanted to have sex with her and she had a boyfriend. and everyone is like tel lyour boyfriend he would be so protective over you. and i miss all that. and like i can never talk to my friends on the phone because there on with there boyfriends. and if i hang out with them and their boyfriends its awkward. you know? becuase we all used to go on group dates. and now i either go alone or i cant. what do i do to not be in a bad mood? like its really annoying me. (link)
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This may sound totally cliche...but try to focus on stuff you do have like good friends, school, good family. While you're happy because of the things your proud of...one boy is gonna find that totally hot.
ALWAYS&&FORVER
MELiSSA
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me and my boyfriend of 9 months, just broke up for good today i'm pretty sure. i can't take this. i love him so freaking much. i don't know what to do. i'm really thinking death, you don't understand. he means everything to me. he's mad cause i'm GROUNDED and can't do anything. omfg. i need help, sorry! please. (link)
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first of all...dont think death its not the way to go.
If your sure that you have broken up give him a couple days and then call him or talk to him at school. Just nicely explain why you were grounded and how you think he overreacted. Don't start yelling and dont say I love you. Only say that if you get back together.
Remember: things will get better and life will go on even if you don't get back together.
Good luck!
ALWAYS&&FOREVER
melissa
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