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ahh indecision
well last night this guy that i like ALOT asked me out,and i was extremely happy.but heres the catch..hes extremely close friends with my ex boyfriend whom i went out with for 6 months and liked for a year and he was my first love..and now my ex boyfriend told my boyfriend he doesnt wanna talk to him ever again since hes going out with me..and i feel really,really bad. not just about the fact that he lost a friend due to this, but also that im going out with someone whos that close with someone i loved..because i talked to my ex boyfriend today and he made it very very obvious how hurt he is. i just hate hurting people and i do wanna be with my boyfriend but at the same time i dont feel as strongly about him as i thought i did..and im not even sure if this is what i want..maybe its just fear im not sure but if anyone could help me thatd be amazing..thank you.
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oooooooh, tough. but, that is your ex's bad luck. he needs to face facts that you two are NOT together anymore. if your ex isn't friends with your bf anymore because of you(no offense, it could have been anygirl) then he wasn't a good friend in the first place. If you broke up with him, then you have to, HAVE TO, ask him why he's hurting so bad. but if you broke up withhim, forget him. you said goodbye for a reason, and no amount of emotion is gonna help that. if you want your guy, go get him, girl!
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You might feel this way because you're not over your ex boyfriend yet. If you're not, then you need to rethink your decision, and maybe consider breaking up with your current boyfriend to give yourself some more time to think. If you were still in love with your ex, and stayed with you current, it wouldn't be fair to him, and you'd just be leading him on.
If you're over your ex however, hurting him shouldn't bother you. Yeah, it'll make you feel bad, but you two are no longer together so how he feels about this shouldn't be taken into consideration. You're not with him anymore, so you're free to do as you please, and date who you want. If he broke up with you, then that is his problem, but if you broke up with him, then it's not your problem at all simply for the fact that you ended it, and you've moved on.
Explain that to him & see what happens. But my usual suggestion is that if you like your new boyfriend, who cares what other people think? You're dating him now so ex lovers are a thing of the past. Let them stay there.
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It really depends on who you like more. It also seems like your new boyfriend is really not that good of friends with your ex, because he wouldn't do that to him if they were good friends.
If you like your ex more don't go out with your new boyfriend. If you like your new b/f more stay with him, because it doesn't seem like they have that great of a relationship.
Good Luck
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