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crush...
my friend emily is totally in love with this guy named... matt. matt is like the epitome of american hottness, with tan skin, blue jeans, blond hair and blue eyes. she is infatutated with him, and has sent him valentines and everything, BUT has not asked him out yet. i am getting sick of hearing sighing and giggling over him from emily, especially since i like love him too, but only for a shorter time than hera nd i haven't sent any valentines or anything, considering itz april now. emily doesnt know that i like matt too, and i dont want her to get all freaked out at me. not to be mean either, but i so think that he would be so more likely to go out w/ me and not her, but i am so afraid of asking him out since emily is one of my best friendz.
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Well, if you want to date Matt please do. He's not Emily's guy so don't treat him as such. He is fair game. If Emily isn't doing anything about her crush for him that's her problem. If he's such a good looking guy and he's still single, what does she honestly expect to happen? SOMEbody is going to ask him out. Why not just make it you? You don't want to miss out too!
Since she is your friend it would be very respectful of you to talk to her about it beforehand. Don't ask her if it's okay. Tell her that you're going to ask him out. It's very important that you make it clear that you've made up your mind. Don't let her talk you out of asking him out and be very firm with her. You've given her so many chances to ask him herself and you've decided that you're waited long enough and you're going to go after what you want. Even though you need to be firm it's okay to apologize to her since I would imagine you would genuinely feel sorry for her anyway. Telling her about it beforehand, even though she may take it very badly is the respectful thing to do. It is better than her finding out that you asked him out after the fact.
Even though you may lose her friendship over this, in the whole scheme of life, asking him out is the best thing for EVERYONE. You'll have the chance of being in a relationship with Matt, which is good for the both of you even if it doesn't work out. You'll have the experience of having been in the relationship to use in future relationships and you'll have happy memories to take with you. Even if he rejects you, it'll make you that much better and stronger of a person. Emily will learn a valuable lesson. She needs to know what she wants, know how to get it, and go out and do so.
I hope that Emily understands and reacts maturely about this so that you can remain friends with her. Even though it's sometimes for the best, losing a friend is never much fun. The best of luck to you!
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First think to yourself:
What relationship do you like more?
Then stay with that one.
I would personally stay with my friend. If you and Matt break up, you aren't gonna have that friend's shoulder to cry on.
Good LUck!
ALWAYS&&FOREVER
MELiSSA
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I don't get why everyone is concerned with friendship. If you like someone, then go for it. It's gonna hurt people and piss them off, but your happiness should come first.
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okay i know this is not something you want to hear
but leave him
you cant like someone your friend had her eye on first
and from how it sounds she seems to completely like him and if she finds out you will like him you will probably end up fighting and it will be hard for her to firgive you
and when you said " not being mean either"
well actually you were and it kind of sounded like you were getting a little vain there
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