well..i'm 17, i love just about everything! God is my LORD and personal Savior. my family and friends mean the world to me and i would do ANYTHING for them. i pretty much have the most amazing boyfriend anygirl could ever ask for and love him with all my heart. if anybody needs any held, don't hesitate to ask, i will do my best to help! =]
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My girlfriend how I am hopelessly in love with is going to a party tonight and I can't go; and there will be alcohol there and she loves to get drunk...I trust her with my whole heart but when shes drunk she loses control of what she does and she has told me stories of how she got drunk and she made out with guys...she promised me that nothing would happen and we tell each other EVERYTHING!! I just want to know what you guys think will happen if she gets drunk and how can I find out if anything DID happen?
thanks guys
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hun, when i first started dating my ex he promised to never cheat because he was cheated on & it was the worst feeling. after 3 months of dating, new years (our 3 month anniversary)he got drunk and had sex with another girl and lied to me about it for 6 more months. i found out through everyone else at the party. they took a vow that what happened there stayed there, but they liked me more than him so they told me the truth. really the other people there are the only ones you can trust. i'm not trying to get you worried or anything..it just happens with drinking which is why it was a big deal to me that my current bf not be involved in that stuff
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ok...well I have been dating my boyfriend for about 6 months and I love him very much and he loves me. The only problem is he wants to have sex and I don't know. I am only 17 (will be 18 in December) and he just turned 19.! There is a part of me that wants to but another part of me that doesn't cause I kinda want to wait till marrage and I don't want to take a chance of becoming pregent. I thinks it more the pregent part. What should I do? (link)
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honestly girl, i think you should wait. your first time you always want it to be something special as cheesy as that sounds. i went out with a guy for 6 months and he said he would wait because he was a virgin too. well truth was he couldn't WAIT to get rid of his virginity and one night we got caught in the moment and did it.
after a couple of months he told me he was bored and confused and ended up breaking up with me for another girl because i guess he got tired of doing it with the same ol' person. i WAS pregnant (even though he wore protection) and things at school started spreading. i didn't have an abortion, but i did have a miscarriage. and now me and him can't stand the sight of each other.
not only that, but my new boyfriend (who is a virgin) was hurt when he found out i wasn't because he wanted to wait and have his first time be with someone who was a virgin too. so it ended up hurting other people in the end. so, i'd say just wait it out. you'll be happy you did. and if he doesn't want to, then screw him he's not good enough for you
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me and my boyfriend have been going out for a month.. and recently hes just been trying to get me to have sex with him. i dont want to. im 14 and just not ready. i like my boyfriend alot. we live next to eachother and hangout everday. but in school he barly talks to me when hes with his friends.
then theres my good friend, mike. he has a girlfriend but ALWAYS flirts with me. honestly, i flirt with him alot too. but usally we are always joking around. then today we started getting serious. today he texted me and i texted him back but he didnt text me back yet and i went to my boyfriends house and i was waiting for him to text me back. it was weird. then i started to think what if i told my boyfriend i think i like mike alittle. but i couldnt immagine breaking up with him. which i dont like, cause me and my friend told eachother scince were only 14 and got a long way to go, were not going to get attached to guys. and i dont want to get attached to him because what if we do break up? like i would not want to just cry and cry. =[ i have no idea what to do. should i try telling my boyfriend whats going on? but how? i dont know =[ (link)
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first off: do NOT get too serious with a guy if he keeps pressuring you for sex. if he really cared for you, sex wouldn't matter to him. too many times i have had friends who gave it up to the guy because they were scared he'd break up with them if they didn't have sex. so they would, and if it wasn't the next day, it wasn't long after that he broke up with them...
my first time i thought i was ready cuz i was 17, but all it did was attach me to him and make it sooo much harder for me when we broke up after only 7 months. i don't exactly regret it, but i do wish i woulda waited like i planned
secondly: you're naturally gunna get attached to a guy you're dating...it just happens. yeah when there's a break up it hurts, but take what you've learned from him and apply it to the next guy. consider your ex giftwrapping you for your future beau =]. and if you're with a guy but you're looking around and other guys, it's not fair to keep holding on to him. my boyfriend was lookin at other girls after being with me for 7 months and ultimately dumped me for one he'd only known 2 weeks. it hurt like hell yes, but i have a new boyfriend and just applying what i've learned, has made us have one of the strongest relationships i've ever had. be honest with your guy =]
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14/f About a month ago a boy who I liked asked me out and I said yes, but it's like as soon as I said yes I realizied that's not what I wanted! I want to break up with him but I don't want to just tell him I don't like him anymore. He knows my parents are okay with it. What do I do?
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girl that happened to me sophomore. this guy came to my house and i knew he liked me so i had convinced myself that i liked him to. well we watched a movie and he held my hand and instantly i was thinking "oh crap, this isn't gunna work" so the next day i called him and just flat out told him "you're sweet and everything don't get me wrong, i just don't think things are gunna work out with us in that way. i hope we can still be friends though, it's just that right now i don't want a boyfriend and i just want to be single for a little bit. maybe farther down the road we can see if it could maybe work, but for now, lets just be friends"
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ok i like this guy who i work with but has a girlfriend. I know wat ur going to say, dont try anything if hes involved with someone. I havent. Its just that at first he was a little weird right our flirting wasnt the same cause he had a girlfriend. But now its back if not more flirting. We talk about things in depth things and i dunno i feel like its meant to be. he tells me things he says he doesnt tell others and we have soo much in common. he was feeling bad one day so i admitted that b4 he got a girlfriend that i liked him and he said he liked me to. I remember he hinted to something but i didnt say anything on the comment, stupid me! Ugh, how do i further our relationship without being obvious or deliberatley breaking them up. I really like him and i know he likes me. Thanks! (link)
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time. time is all a guy really needs. i was in the same situation...there was a guy i really liked cuz i started to get to know him, but he had a gf and i didn't want to come between them. eventually he realized it wasn't right to have a gf when he liked somebody else so he broke up with her and we started going out the following week, and now, we've been together for almost half a year. give him time, he sounds like he's coming around =]
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There is this cute guy that goes to myspace and is at my school. He isn't "totally freakin adorable" though. what are some good convo starters. in a message? (link)
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if he posts a bulletin, respond with something witty or funny...not sarcastic/smart-allicy though. cuz i found this cute guy on myspace who happened to go to my school and one day we randomly messaged and then met in person at school and now we've been together for almost 5 months! just little icebreakers, don't ask too many questions cuz it kinda gets annoying...just be yourself
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The story goes like this: Friday, Feb 9th will be our seven month anniversary. He's got this crazy exgirlfriend who's claimed that he's trying to cheat on me and has been claiming this for the whole time. I don't really know her, but she's done this 3 or 4 times now. The first time was right before homecoming and right before our 2 month anniversary. it turned out she lied, or at least according to him because he called her and told her to stop saying this stuff. The second time was right before Christmas, just a days after she saw him and i eating at a resturant on a date. again she lied, again according to him because he called her and told her to stop saying this stuff. This time, a few days before our 7 month anniversary and valentines day she says that he called her Sunday night, drunk, 25 minutes after I got off the phone with him. He was perfectly sober when we got off the phone. Granted he did drink about a glass and a half of Vodca, and about half a glass of that was grape juice, once we got off the phone, and granted he watched Aquateen Hunger Force at 10:30 or 11 and fell asleep watching it, and granted *I* busted her for lying this time, I don't know what to do. She conveniently doesn't have caller ID to send me a picture of from when he supposedly called her Sunday night, and she sent me some IM conversations with completely unreal dates and times because he was at work and another of his friends testified to that before they even knew what was going on, not to mention there are no computers to get online with at McDonald's. I know in my heart he didn't do it, but she's done this so many times now that I can't help but have a little doubt. What should I do? oh yeah, i'm 15/F and he's 18/M (link)
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this girl could be wanting to get back with your bf and doesn't like he's happy with another girl. for me, the DAY after i got asked out, my bf's ex gf imed me and told me he was only in the relationship for the benefits and that he's mean, mentally abusive, and a liar. so i followed my instincts and didn't believe her and about a month ago when i was telling this story to my bf *we've been together a while and none of what she said has happened* and found out as she was telling me that, she was messaging him and asking for him back and for another chance. annd some girl i didn't even know said he cheated on me with her at a party, but the party was at my friend's house and i had to leave, and i have everybody else from that party testifying that he didn't cheat on me and that she was with some other guy. so chances are, this girl just wants to get back with her ex. i would keep a guard up and kinda watch to see what happens, but don't get all suspicious and question the guy cuz he'll get mad
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So I know its illegal to have sex with someone over 18 if you are a minor... no big deal, we both are very strict about the wait till you aare married thing and i will not let my guard down. my quaetion is, is it still illegal if we date and i am a minor and he is 18 but we do not have sex or anything?
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nope not at all. as long as ya'll aren't having sex, it is completely legal. because if it was you consider that dating is just being with someone you really like, holding hands, huggin, kissing and you know all that jazz. well if it was illegal, what about movies where you got like 20 year olds playin high schoolers which would mean having co-stars who probably are in high school? kinda like in freaky friday when chad michael murray was like 20somethin and lindsay lohan was like 16 or 17....so no, unless ya'll have sex, it's perfectly legal.
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this guy and I have been talking for a while. We have gotten real close and he asked me out today.
Okay, that's all good until he said 'Love you'
and that he wanted to kiss me.
How do I tell him that I want to slow down?
I'm used to waiting months for a first kiss.
I may be old fashion.. is this how relationships are .. nowadays?
I want to say it in the nicest way so he doesn't get embarrassed.. because I think.. he might take it as rejection. "No, I don't want to kiss you."
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everybody is different when it comes to that. one of my good friends waited almost 5 months before she ever let her bf kiss her cuz she wanted to make sure he really liked her, and he totally respected her and never tried until she was ready because she meant that much to him. it is kinda noticable that he sometimes gets annoyed with too many "rules" and they do tend to fight more over it. but if this guy you're with really likes you and respects you, then he'll be willing to wait. just tell him you wanna get to know him better before you start to get more attached
i, however, kissed my boyfriend on our first date and we had only known eachother maybe 2 weeks i guess. this seems to be more of the "nowadays" way, but of course never do anything you don't want to...
i hope i helped!! =]
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okay so i like boys..but boys like girls with boobs..yeah i dont have boobs.
thats the problem. boys dont like me because of my invisible boobs. NO SERIOUSLY IM SO FLAT CHESTED!
ughh i dont want to STUFF. i dont want to be a fake. i want to be MYSELF, but what if MYSELF is no boobs.
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i never understood why some guys like girls with big chests...they can be quite gross if they're too big. and girl believe me, you wanna find a guy that will go past your physical appearance. i'm not very big uptop either...i'm the smallest out of all my friends and a lot of people i know and yeah, i used to get self concious (sp) about it...especially in swim suits and stuff. but since i've been with my boyfriend(who i'll add is quite good looking, sweet and popular *not adding it for the effect, just adding it to emphasize that even people like him aren't always shallow*), i could care less because i know he's not interested in me from the neck down and that he really likes me for me. and i would advise not stuffing because you never know what people can see if you bend over or spill something, and i tried the whole *buy bra's bigger than what i am* and all it did was look funny in the locker room when i was changing or when i was in a swim suit and was *no longer that big* and i accepted the fact that i'd rather be small than huge and always have people staring *not only boys, but old nasty men* and i won't have back problems *which a lot of women have with big boobs*
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does anyone have any tips on " moving on " or possibly " winning your bf back" ahha thanks (link)
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a little while back, my bf broke up with me and it absolutely devasted me *he was my first serious relationship*. and you know we talked everything through, i just didn't know why he broke up with me. so i didn't want him totally out of my life and wanted him as a friend more than nothing, so that's what i was...a friend. he still called me and we hung out everyday and we acted the same way towards each other as we did when we were together. and i believe that it was that that made him want to get back together...he just saw i wasn't bitter, i wasn't trying to "get back at him" and that i sincerely just wanted him in my life and in the end, we got back together and are STILL together today.
and moving on, sometimes it's best to look at how he is handling the situation because it will say a lot about his character and how he really feels about you...it could determine whether you are still head over heels or whether you'll be thinking "what a jerk"
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okay there is this guy right..and i talk to him everyday.I like him alot. But i never know what to talk about..what do i do? what do i talk about with him? (link)
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the best thing to do is to try and just speak w/e is on your mind or something you have thought about. buuut i've noticed even with myself that when i'm with my bf and i am actually thinking about what i'm going to say or talk about with him during passing periods at school, it comes out as "so....uh....what class are you going to again?" vs. when you don't think about it, you'll get along better and have a better time talking...hope this makes sense, it's hard trying to explain it =]
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well i need help with this,
i'm 14 and a chick
my boyfriend just broke up with me about 2 days ago and i still love him sooooo much. like you guys have no idea.
but i dont know what to do, i want to get over him but it seems impossible.
and it was such a rash decision too.
about 3 days before he was telling me how much he loved me and that i was pretty and all these reasons why he loved me, but then he just broke up with me.
he says its because he cant handle the pressure of being in a relasionship, and i told him i wouldnt pressure him at all.
we had been dating for 4 months by the way.
help would realllyy be appreciated. and i'll love you forever =] (link)
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girl, i feel your pain. same thing happened to me 2 months ago *we too had been together for 4 months*. we talked things over and he just said he wasn't wanting anything serious and basically that he wanted to have his fun while he was young. so what i did was not pressure him. i didn't call him, if he wanted to talk he could call me, i didn't treat him any differently, i didn't start talking about all these guy's phone numbers i had. i just played it cool. and 6 days after we broke up he picked me up and we went to his place and yeah, it was awkward at first, but we ended up kissing and after a while i said something and he was like "maybe we should give us another shot" and we got back together. sometimes i wonder if guys just do this to see how much you really care for him. cuz since then, things have been better than ever. so just keep it cool, and if you have any questions, let me know
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well my bf lives about 4 hours aways and i dont know what to get him for valentines day. and today he told me he missed my perfume. so i was thinking of buying a 2 ounce bottle of my perfume as a reminder of me and then i'll buy him something else too. do you think the perfume idea is a cute idea? i'd like a guys opinion too. thanks (link)
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yeah the perfume is cute, but like the 2 below me said, instead of getting a whole bottle thats not technically being used, get something that will remind him of you...like your own inside joke type thing and spray your scent on it.
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My Ex & I have been done for overr 2 months.. but he calls me, emails me, IMs me, etc.. non-stop.. I don't really understand because we both decided to just be friends. & just called me & i find it kind of random.. What should I do? Why does my ex want to talk to me so much?
Sincerely,
ThinkI'mOvErIt! (link)
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there is always the possibility that he wants to get backtogether with you. my bf broke up with me and said he just wanted to be friends and didn't want a relationship, but then he kept calling me asking me, messaging me over myspace, and hanging out and everything and eventually he asked for another shot (which of course i said yes). i mean, it could be possible that he really does want to be good friends and sees this as you being his best friend, but there is always the possibility that he wants to be more than that again. hope i helped =]
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hey well i have my boyfriend(thomas) and we go to the same school and all but we like never talk. i feel like were just friends i havent kissed him or anything we've only hold hands once and we have been going out for a month and 8 days and i just dont know wat to do should i give it more time and maybe things will change or should i just break up wiht him and the worst thing is that we are going to christmas break today and i wont c him till three weeks so i dont know wat to do some one help me pls... (link)
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if you think he is worth it, then you should definately wait! some guys just like to take things slow or are just different. my bf, for example, kissed me on our first date and now we've been together for 3 months so in that area we are affectionate, but we hardley ever hold hands. at first i was like "wait? does he not want to be seen with me? and just wants something when we're alone?" but he has his own way of showing affection when we're together. and he's getting better about holding my hand (he usually does when we go somewhere like the mall). so some guys are just more affectionate than others, it doesn't necessarily mean he's not interested. i'd say wait it out, you might find out it was wayyy worth it! =]
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ok, i really like this boy, and some people think he likes me too becuase of the way he acts around me. but on myspace, he NEVER comments ANY of my pictures. BUTTT there r these 2 girls that i know, one of them hes good friends with and he comments her pictures like "dam hot pic" and this other girl hoo he never evn says a word to he comments her picss..."dam hot pic" or stuff like that. whats going on? this makes me sooo mad! (link)
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heck, that doesn't mean he doesn't like you. my bf of almost 4 months and me hardley ever comment eachother on myspace...the reason being if there's something we want to say, we'll just say it in person or over the phone, and we are a very lovey couple...heck, i know i lot of couples like that where they'll comment others sites constantly but not eachothers. and the fact he says "hot pic" doesn't mean he likes them. i've known people who write that, but mean it sarcastically or really do, but they're not interested in anything past that.
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What's the differnce between french kissing and makeing out? Cause people always say there's a differnce, but I see them as the same. Cause they don't they both involve tongue? I don't know, I'm confused. What's the differnce?! (link)
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they're the same. just 2 different phrases for the same thing. kinda like when you call a kiss a "kiss" or a "smooch" or a "peck". same thing, different name. making out doesn't necessarily mean touching and all that stuff, but it can imply that.
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i have a ex boyfriend and he dumped me and he still loves me and ive been sad forever and i want to go back out with him and i dont know if he still wants to what should it do?? (link)
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sometimes the best thing to do is to just give him space. sometimes the best thing to do is to just be his friend. honey, not long ago my bf quit talking to me and then just up and broke up with me. so i cried and cried but i accepted the fact we were still friends and whenever we were together, i never even gave the hint of still having feelings like that. less than a week later, we were hanging out by ourselves and it was really awkward...we were practically on opposite sides of the room. eventually we talked lol, then we got closer, then were were just goofing off and we ended up kissing. minutes later i asked if we were gunna get back together, and he said yes. it wasn't even a week, but sometimes certain guys need more time than others.
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i have had past relationships, still a virgin tho, and we used to kiss alot.. but it kinda felt unatural like i didn't really want to do it but i did it anyways. my fiancee' and i haven't done anything like kissing, sex, or anything like that, so when we do kiss i want it to kind of impress him. so i was wondering if there were any tips to tease him a lil' with kissing and to be a good kisser.. i know practice and it'll come natural.. but i just don't want to seem like a total goof. thank you
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one thing that my bf told me that "makes him melt" is when i kiss him gently on the neck. another thing is lightly biting down on his bottom lip and giving it a slight tug. one time i did that plus, before i let go, i did a little spur improv, and he actually gasped and leaned back and said "wow...now THAT was hott". just add your own touches...he'll love them!
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