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Q: Ok there's thie guy i like in school. But the problem is... i'm homeschooled and now i don't see him as often. Also, when there's a guy i like i get all shy and well... i start to ignore them becuase i get embaressed.
If i see him how could i talk to him without ignoring him and getting shy? Plz help! i could use it...

you just have to be urself-ikno that doesnt rlly help-but maybe ur not used to being around guys-so maybe you should try and make sum guy friends-and that way you would be able to feel better around guy--hope that helps you-

Q: I'm 14 and a female. ok theres this guy that i really like and he wrote me a note and asked me if we could date, and i said i had to get to know him better. so we "talked" for three weeks and then i hear he didnt like me anymore and it was true. So i wrote him a note saying that we should just be friends, but thats not really how i felt, what do i do?

ok well-you were rite to wait to get to kno him-but as soon as you knew how you felt you shoudl have told him-and you still should-say ifwe cant be more then friends can we atleast be friends-that will show him you care-and then maybe he will start liking you again--

Q: what do you say when an 8th grader says you have a nice ass? thanks if you return this

well it depends how old you are-if your younger-you should be proud that sum1 older is seenin you-evern thou thats not how most people would want to be seen-if your older-then well just walk off-forget he said it

Q: ok theres this guy i went out with and he dumped ne after three weeks, its a complicated story but basicly it just wasnt a good time for him to have a girl friend so he said we could go out again in a few months. well since then ive known three girl friends of his (that he went out with after me) and so who knows how many hes had... but the thing is im still totally in love with him but he doesnt notice me or talk to me so its not one of those things where we talk all the time and i can just start flirting with him and hope he starts to like me. what can i do to try to make him like me? please help!

-i hate to say this but you cant make sum1 like you-and most guys dont like it when you chase them-they freak out-they like to do the chaseing most of the time-so rlly just all you can do is make shure he sees you in the halls and stuff-but most of all-make shure your happy-if he sees he cant get you-he is more likley to start liking you-

Q: I have a friend whose bf i like A LOT and i know i would have a chance with him but he's my best friends bf. We even danced at my school dance. But i know i can't have him b/c he belongs to my friend. What should i do?

stay away!!-do not even think about going out with him while he is with her-not cool-think about if your friend liked your b/f-yea kinda upsetting-so this is just one of thoes guys you have to let go of-sry-maybe wait till after they are done and over eachother

Q: Okay. so theres this guy that i like(d) whos a year older than me. i dont really know him but my friends have introduced me to him before and ive just seen him around school and hes really cute n funny.

well i kinda got the feeling that he might have liked me bc if i would see him walking down the hall he'd always look over at me or kinda try and find me i think-- but never came up and talked to me. well i told one of my friends i liked him so they told him and i didnt think it would go farther than that but he said he liked me too ((or he thought i was pretty)) and my friend asked if he would ever go out with me and he said he would think about it...well a couple of weeks later after a lot of aggony and i still never really did talk to him he said he wouldnt ask me out bc he didnt know me well enough [and he told my friend that] soo yeah then another one of my friends started to talk to him about a month later and he said he still liked me but he wasnt going to ask me out bc I WOULDNT GO UP AND TALK TO HIM. yeah i know i kinda started the whole thing but arent guys kinda suppose to come up and talk to the girl or is that just me?? :\ im really confused and i feel kinda stupid...please help

--ok first thing to learn--guys are not all the same--second thing to learn--they will blame everything they can on you--its not awlays ur fault--and third thing to learn-NO! guys dont have to be the one who comes up and talks to you-go up there-dont be shy-dont chase him aways but atleast let him kno you wanna be friends-start talking to him-it doesnt have to be about you liking him-just-well anything--

Q: wht do you do when you go to a school dance and your frined gets asked out but you dont. I just have a question because on the same night of the dance i see my ex-boyfriend slow dancing with this really mean girl lets call her marissa and he deserves so much better.I still have huge feeling for my ex and i just felt so depressed after that. i will rate a 5 for anyone who gives me good advice.,

"melissa" maybe mean to you and other people-but are you shure she is mean to him?-are you shure tha maybe she is good for him and you just dont want him with another grl-belive me its easy to think things like that-i do that even with my guy friends-i nvr think any grl is good enoughfor them-so maybe you should take a step back and see if he is truly happy--

Q: Sorry its long!!! But ill rate you if you answer.

Over the past 11 monthes i have liked this one guy. His name is Craig. And we dated a little while a few monthes ago but some stuff happened and we broke up for no reason. So he got over me, but i never got over him. So recently we went to a party and we played football. well the entire time he kept tackleing me, but none of the other girls. And he didnt want me to leave. Then my friend asked him if he liked me and he said he never thought about it. I really want to tell him i like him to make him think about, but i dont want to A. risk our friendship, and B. get rejected. What do you think about all of this and how should i handle it?

ok-wut could be better then a friend you get to hangout with all the time and flirt with?-yea im shure you want more-like that way you kno its just you hes flirting with-i dont think you shoudl tell him rite now-just keep flirting back-but at the same time dont put youself all out there-make him chase you-guys dont like to be chased by grls most of the time--

Q: I put a question like this on here a few days ago, but I'll go over whats going on again.
My friend and I both liked a guy, then I backed off so she could have him, then she didn't want a bf. So I stepped up and now I like him and he likes me and outa no where she says she likes him again, so I told her I liked him too and now shes all wierd about it. I told her I didn't want a bf though, and now me and Andy (the guy) have been hanging out alot and I really like him, and when I come home from our dates I hear "Amanda really likes Andy, what are you doing?" and stupid stuff like that. What the hell am I supposed to do? I mean I can't control my feelings, and she had her chance with him. And I'm not going to date him right now anyways b/c I want to get to know him...so people are making it into a lot bigger deal than it is...what do I do?

ok-tell your bestfriend to back down a little-tell her you told her she could have him and she didnt take the chance-its her lose-and its your turn-tell her you love her but its not fair because she had her chance and blew it-

Q: Dear advice people givers (lol),

I got my heart broken recently. Last Sunday to be exact. We'll call him Jason. Jason and I have been going out for a week and 4 days. We known each other for a couple of months and have been aquainted. Jason and I got in a fight the day before we broke up. He was on the phone with me and I told him my personal life and I began to cry too and he threw it in my face saying all this mean stuff. It left me so mad at him. You can't even imagine. Well on the 11th (next day) day he calls and he was all like "Hey what are you doing?" and I said "I am at my house.." I said it with an attitude because I was mad at him. Then he was like "I think we should just be friends..." I just hung up the phone. I have no idea why he broke up with me... I could not talk to him, I didn't want to. Then like 15min later he calls my cell on his friends phone and when I answer he hangs up! I was so mad and so sad. I know boys lie but somehow they make you believe their lie, He said I was the best thing that has ever happened to him and he loved me soo much and he wanted this realationship to last forever. Well...I believed it. I haven't talked to him since we broke up (dec. 5) and for some reason I really want to call him and talk but then again I think I don't want to but then I really do...do i make sense? But then my best friend told me the weirdest thing, she said that when we started hanging out as just friends, that he thought I was a ho or a slut (i wasn't supposed to know). And 1st of all I do not dress or act like one because, yo, I am the farest from being a slut and dude, he wouldn't have gone out with me if that was all that he was looking for. Because he knows me...everything almost. Should I call him? I really miss him...a lot. But he hasn't called me, not even once. I don't want to call him and feel like an idiot...srry 4 it being so long :)
Thanks :)

--wow--that sucks-like bad-but no,i wouldnt call him-not for a little bit longer atleast-cuz you were friends befor-maybe you can pull it off again-but you need to kno-you not ready to be friends with a guy that just broke your heart-and yes if you loved this guy it will take a long time to get over(sry to say)-it took my half a year to get to the point where i could finaly hangout with him-but i still hurt and its been well over a year and a half--and lets get this clear-when most guys say forever-forever to them means until there ready to move on-(also sry to say)-you will miss him-for a long time-even if you do become friends again--this is rlly all i can say to you-broken hearts happen often-the guy who fixes it for you comes not so often--
--good luck to you--hope things work out

Q: Hello, I'm 16 years old and I'm female. Let me start off by saying I hate the phrase "Let's just be friends." My best friend is one of those types of people who's actions very easily deceive you. I love him so much, and it hurts so bad. We hold hands, hug all the time, even say "I love you". But he says that to everyone. It's so hard because I'm confusing platonic love with "real" love. I take his gestures seriously though, and I really do love him. I want to tell him how I feel, but I don't want to ruin our friendship. He likes someone else, but he is currently single. Should I even bother trying? Am I too young to even be thinking about love? What should I say to him? Thank you so much!

ok to start of with-NO-your not to young to be thinking about love!-are you crazy?-you dont think about loving sum1-it just happens-so make shure your not forceing yourself to like him-cuz we tend to like things we cant have-he may act a little flirty towards to sometimes-but thats sum10 all guys will do-and because your friends with him-your always there so he is able to flirt-and if hes into another grl-he most likley wont want to try goin with you at the moment-friends are the best type of people to go out with-because you kno them so well and are with them all the time-so if you give him time and dont let this get in the way of your friendship-thats rlly all i can tell you-just dont give up on him-but dont let your heart get hurt by sum10 he doesnt mean-like sayin i love you-and maybe he does mean it-just not the way you want him too

Q: Theres this guy. and hes my close friend and he tells me he likes me and thinks about me alot and loves my eyes.Then he goes out with my friend. But he apologized to me 7347 times and said hes goin out with her for the wrong reasons and that when we were with her the one time that all he could think was me and how he hurt me. And he still tells me he wants to be with me and that he likes me a lot and even told some of his friends he might break up with my "friend" n get with me. But then today on my advice page he asked me a question about her n how he still likes her n how he heard shes gonna break up with him n he doesnt want to ruin the relationship by doin it first if its not true. It hurt to read that and i dont want to ber mad at him because its not in my nature.idk if i should wait for him or should i jus move on?? please help when i ask him about it he says " ur paranoid i like u"

ok- if your the kind of person who likes to wait around whilke the guy you like is messin around with ur bsetfriend-shure wait--belive me when i say this-this guy doesnt kno wut he wants-either that or he wants sum1 to be there is sumthing happens to "him and her"-iv had this happene to me-and he mite not have been lien-he could have ment it-but maybe now he sees that he rlly likes the new grl he found-so maybe you should just move on-and go to a guy that doesnt make you wait while he goes out with your bestfriend

Q: Ok, well, let me start off by saying i'm a 7th grade girl. Today at lunch this kid named derek passed me a note and said it was from my friend brian. I took one of my girl freinds, tara, to the bathrooom and read the note. It was really orny and soft....it read, "Roses are read, Violets are blue, sugar is sweet, and so are you......will you go out with me?". My friend tara started cracking up while i was numb and shocked from the note. I threw it in the trash and ignored brian the whole day. Now, me being quite popular (not rele popular, but popular as in knoing everyone in our grade and tlk to them and hang) and brian being shy and non-social. It's really weird and almost gross that he asked me out.....i rele don't know how to tell him that i don't want to go out with him at all so that he on't get embarrased and i won't get embarrased. Pleask tell me what i can write to him so he on't get hurt.
Thank-you so much for the help

--ok-you seem like a nice person-cuz ur worried about how he will be embarrased. but also i think you worry to much about wut other people think-you havent even givein this guy a chance-but if you rlly dont want to-then just simply tell him that youv got another guy on your mind-now if you dont plan on ever going out with him-dont tell him maybe later-tell him ur not into him like that and that you think you two could maybe try being friends

Q: I went derrell online .we talked online for one months.I gave him my phone number ,he started to call me ,he's really funny.I think I like him
he also askedme out and I said yes.now he's the only thing I think about,dream about and talk about.but I'm having some doubts,he lives really far from me.I kind of scare to tell what I feel
when he asks me what I want to talk about I say nothing.what should I do??

-well goign out with sum1 far away isnt easy-trust me i'v been there-i also have been in a relationship where i had sum trouble beling everything he said-because he didnt live near me. He was also a guy i thought about all the time-non stop-but finlay i got to the point where i had to turn to my friends-they told me they had seen sum changes in me-so i decided that a guy isnt worth worrying abuot-yes i will be hard-it will be ver hard-but if you rlly want to be happy-this guy isnt going to help-unless you think there is a chance that you two could work it out--