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Q: i have one of the greatest guys in my life EVER! hes so sweet and ive never had anyone love me more than him.he treats me like his princess and when he holds me i feel more safe than anytime ever. and i can let him do things that norally i wuld totally freak out with any other guy. and i know that he wont even rush me into things that i dont want to be rushed into. it dosent matter to him as long as he is with me. and we joke around and talk about getting married and having kids and everything. and we really are in love that much. but hes not my boyfriend. we have two problems....1-were only 14 and 16.(im 14 hes 16) and 2- he lives 2 hours away from me. but we act like were a couple. seriously. i dont even know why we arent. everytime he thinks he can handle distance he ends up not being able to. i love this guy so much tho. yeah yeah....i know its ridiculous since im only 14 but i seriously am. please help me! do i ask him out even tho ive always believed that the guy shuld be the one to do it? and even if we do get together how do we deal with the distance? HELP and tell me what you thnk i shoud do!

Hey chickadee~!! It really sucks that u found the love of ur life that lives 2 hours away. He sounds really kewl. About the long distance thing trying to commuicate more can help. The good thing is u can drive soon which really helps and so can he?? But sometimes parents dont let that happen...grrrr..Dealing with long distance takes more time than having a boyfriend live close. It means more and its way more difficult. So be paitent and confident in urself. Let him know exactly how u feel ((if u havent done so)) He sounds totally understanding. About asking him out...thats a hard ?..ask urself do u really wanna be hurt... cuz u said he has a hard time with the long distance. Sometimes things are better when u arent going out. The guy feels that he doesnt have a commitment. Maybe he hasnt asked u cuz of that. It puts more stress on the guy. Except if u two get really close and the communication gets good.. I say GO FOR IT!!!! U obviously love him. Like I say going out with an older guy has its advantages. Well if u need nemore help lemme know. By the way ur problem was a toughy lol Holler xOxO*Shannon

Q: whats a good way to get over someone? (ex boyfriend)
please help me! thanks!

Have a gurlz night out!!!!! Those are always fun xOxO*Shannon

Q: is it weird that i don't like anyone? i mean all my friends obsess over who they like, but i seriously can't think of anyone that i like. and im 14!

My best friend goes through the same thing u do!!! Its okay that u dont like neone. Being different is kewl neways. U just havent found that special guy yet. U will soon though. Dont stress over it kay?!? And u wanna know something else. When u like a guy it can get pretty darn stressful. U watch a lot of what they do and get jelous when they are around other gurlz and they make u cry!! so stick with ur gurlz for a while they will need ya when their crushes make them sad. Just remember the time will come for u eventually and u will need them.... Stay true!!! and be ur own person!! xOxO* Shannon

Q: Ok well i like this kid, but i dunno hes a year older than me, im 13 hes 14.. i know that doesnt matter cuz ive went out with ppl b4 that were that age n i had no problem with it. But hes goin to the high school.. n im still gunna be in middle school.. n i duno he might find new girls. N i think now he kinda wants to be friends w/benefits for now or maybe he wants to go out with me.. but i dunno?! He seems like a player tho, n hes gotten alot farther than me.. i've only got til like makeing out n hes done like everything but sex. Im afraid he might use me, even tho it doesnt seem like it. Shud i give em a chance? Thanks i rate good! x0x confused babe

Hey hun!!! We all go go through this crap with guyz. Friends w/benifets.....I wanted to go that route before. Its kinda stupid though. Why would u wanna have sex with a guy and go that far when ur not even with him? Honestly u really need to like the guy and be going out. If he really is a player ((ery skewl as those)) then dont even try it. He honestly would be using u for some @$$ and thats really wrong. It wouldnt even mean nething to him as much has it prolly would to u. Being in middle skewl and liking someone in high skewl can be tough. There are A LOT more people in high skewl. Atleast talk to him and tell him how u feel if u havent done so. Maybe somethin good will happen. If not it wasnt meant to be. All I gotta say is friends with benifets is messed up in my opinion.xOxO* Shannon

Q: im 14 years old i havent had my first kiss yet or a b/f yet and im starting to fell like im to fat and ugly and ill never find anyone what should i do about this?

Smile and feel happy about being u. Its the best thing u can do for urself. Rushing into things can make erything worse. Ur first kiss will more than likely be special if u wait for that right person. The time will come when its what should happen. Im sure ur a pretty person. Dont say nething bad to bring urself down. Promise me that kay?!? Your wonderful. BoYs ArE gReAt but u derserve the best....so be picky!!! If u havent yet try to flirt more its fun once u get the hang of it. Just dont lead guys on okie dokie. Dont feel weird cuz when u get ur first kiss ur going to remember it for the rest of ur life. ((that is if u want it to be special)) xOxO* Shannon

Q: Iam 18 years old and just got into a new relationship with an older guy. Hes 22. Im still a virgin and he isnt. He told me when and if Im ready to have sex with him then that will be an issue that we sit down and discuss. Iam very mature and know exactly what I want out of life. Im a great person..so Im told. I really do think that I am emotionally and physically ready to have sex. Its just that Im so self concious and think that I wont be any good. Not just at sex, but kissing and oral sex. I havent kissed a guy in 4 years and Im terrified to mess up. How should I handle this? How can I make myself feel better about this?

*Calm down* this guy knows that u arent experienced obviously since he knows ur a virgin. He understands. Be sure to tell him erything u just said, but a lil different. Most older guys are more mature so it will be easier. I'm not saying eryone is but u know how that goes. He should love u more for who u are, not for how good at sex or kissing. Besides practice makes perfect lol :) So do nething that ur comfortable with. This guy seems to really care since he can wait to have sex with u.

Q: On Friday I was with this boy it was our first time hanging out we've been friends for almost a year. We made out and stuff and he went up my shirt. He kept asking to finger me and I said no and then he would ask again and again. I dunno I think this is a little werid don't you? We're not going out like bf and gf but I can see us doing that. I really do like him but should I let him?? and please don't tell me o0o wait until ur comforable bc I don't want him doing it then never talking to me again. sry if this is long

First of all... I think u shouldnt let him. I dont know this guy but it sounds like hes going for u cuz he wants some. ((if u know what I mean)) Thats really disrespectful. Also in my opinion letting a guy finger u is kind of slutty. Its ur life and ur man though. U two should atleast be going out to do nething like that u know?

Q: My bf jokes around with me all the time like he'll say
"your dumb" jk. Or eww who would want to go out with you? then he says no im jk your beatafull. (don't know how to spell it lol) Is he just flirting or is he really thinking that and just saying jk? we've been going out for 8 months and I really don't think he would say somthing like that. but tell me what you think!

I honestly I think hes just bothering u to make u laugh. If it upsets u though talk to him about it. He'll understand. He prolly doesnt mean it. 8 months is a LoOoOong time. It really sounds like he loves ya and feels right when hes with u. okie dokie?

Q: OK heres the thing me and my boyfriend have been going out for almost a year, and hes a grade younger than me, so next year ill be in a different school an im wondering if othr people are goin to make fun of me and stuff, i rlly like him but im afraid that it might ruin my reputaion, also im afraid wht will appen if he was to brake up wit me? will my reputaion be ruined forevr? PLEASE HELP ME!! I RATE HIGH!!

ok well I gotta ? for u out of these people who would u rather chill with? People that dont respect u cuz of your b/f or the guy that makes u happy. If u really love/like ur b/f it shouldn't matter how old he is. If people dont want to respect u for u. Then they dont need u. You would deserve better friends then that . The people that do accept it are the true ones. Dont care what other people think though. Its none of their biz. Also if ur b/f loves/likes u then he also shouldnt care what ppl say about u. ighty

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I try to give my honest opinion on things. I never let people pull me down, but sometimes I just cant help except let them hurt me. I try to stay firm about things.

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