i have lived through just about anything you can imagine.. so let me help you out with ANY topic. nothing is too extreme! i'm 18 and majoring in psychology at college. i know this stuff.
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ok sorry if this gets long. ok so theres this boy(chris) and we went out awile ago but we continued to mess around. i love him. and i told him this and he said we are to young to know what love is im 15 and hes 17. i know i love him. we dont mess around to much aymore b/c its hard to see each other b/c he moved about a hour and a half away. but we talk online once in awhile. well he was drunk one night and i wasnt online but he was talkin to one of my friends and told her he loves me and wants to be with me bt its hard b/c of the distance. and he also told her not to tell me b/c he doesnt want to get my hopes up b/c we cant be together b/c of the distance. but my friend ofcourse told me this. i want to talk to him about this but i dont know how to do it. if he wanted me to know he would tell me wouldnt he?and how do i talk to him about it b/c im not supposed to know?
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he did tell your friend, so you knowing should be expected. keep in mind he was drunk... i've said a lot of things while i'm drunk. yes, most of the times the truth will come out when you're drinking b/c it's what you want to say but never have the guts to. chances are he really does love you, but is afraid of getting tied down too young. maybe just say your friend slipped and mentioned it to you, and you think that the two of you should start a loose relationship. tell him you want to talk more and see him whenever possible... when you can drive it will probably be easier to see him cause you could meet him halfway or something like that... good luck!!
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ok. theres this guy that i like. his names ricky. and hes a major hottie. and i think he likes me but im not sure. ok. and he wants to hang this weekend. i dont know what were gonna do yet. but he was saying he wants to hook up with me. and i dont know if thats kissing or sex. but im not worried about that right now. ok. and like he seems like he likes me. but then sometimes he doesnt. like.....i dont know how to explain it. but anyways...like hes nice to me. and seems fun to hang with. and i like him alot!! and i really wanna hang out with him. and do a lil more. =] ha. but anyways....do u think he likes me or just wants to get some....? cause im a virgin. and he aint gonna get that. he might get kissing and maybe a lil more. but not that.
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ok, my first advice is to be careful! most hot guys know they can get any girl so don't let him use you! if you wanna make out with him and such then go for it.. but only as far as you are comfortable with. if he says he just wants to "hook up" and nothing about being friends or hanging out i'd be a little cautious. good luck!
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okay. me and this boy named will, LOVE each other. we fight everyday but always say sorry. but today, one of his friends says love=trust. he asked me if i trusted him, i said yeah just not with heather (his ex girl friend for a YEAR AND A HALF) so that gives me a reason not to. but i trust him. then he was like then you dont love me, and i was like yes i do.. then he was like i love you so much but its going anywhere, we fight everyday. and then i was like yeah but you said we fight because we care and he was like well i was roung we fight because I care not you. then he said whatever forget you. thats where i started to cry! =( now me and him are in a HUGE fight over that. i really love him. but now i think its over with us. =( do you think it is? what should i do? should i still love him or let what we had go ?
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i totally understand you not wanting to trust him with his ex, but i do think it's important for you to learn to trust him. trust is the most important thing in a relationship, so if it's not there it just can't work. that being said, i don't think you should give up on him if you really do love him. decide if you truly love him or if you just don't want to go through the short time of pain from breaking up. go with your heart on it, and good luck!!
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okay i like this guy and he has a girlfriend we talk every night & day and im pretty sure he likes me too. we kind of mess around all the time and i just want to know what i should do i mean i've told him im not going to mess around with him until he brakes up with his girlfriend and he said he would but he hasnt what should i do? (link)
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don't go there, girl!! there's nothing wrong with liking him, but don't even give it a chance to become more until he is totally single. you don't need that drama, and if he cheats on her with you then he's not worth your time cause he'd maybe do it to you sometime. tell him you like him a lot and want a chance with him, but it's not fair to you or his current girlfriend to be playin games.
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My best friend (A) might or at least I think is flirting with my Ex who I am still in love with. She knows I like him and she has a boyfriend that she likes to. But what got me mad was when I saw them play fighting. So I got mad and left and I 'sorta' got over it today until I saw her around him again play fighting and acting stupid. It broke my heart and I almost cried cause I he might like her!! What can I say to her. Thanks All 5's SWEAR! (link)
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did your best friend know this guy when he was with you? if so, maybe they're just friends... you should try talking to her about it. trying saying something like this...i've seen your around __ lately, anything up with that? don't say it in a mad tone or she won't tell you. then just try outdoing her maybe.. go flirt with your ex yourself if you still like him.. show him what he lost. good luck!!
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ok i really like this guy and he always is being sweet and stuff and always asks to play the question game so he can ask me questions and i have to answer them too and he tells me i am so gorgeous and he is just ginuinly the nicest guy i have ever met and hes cute... and i know hes not just using me for sex and stuff because he believes in abstinance but eh only catch to him is that he has a girl friend but he like asks me questions that you dotn ask a girl you dotn really ike and stuff and so i play along is that wrong... and should i wait for them to break up... pleas help if youcan
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my advice is to be careful with this one... there is nothing wrong with hanging out with him, but imagine him as your boyfriend for a sec. would you want a boyfriend of yours talking to another girl in the way he is to you? he could be honestly into you, but he is doing this while he has a girlfriend. if they break up, go for it if you think there's potential for a relationship. good luck!
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well, here's the deal. I really like this guy, like alot! he's so perfect in almost every way. I guess you could kind of say that we're together, but nothings official. I want to be with him so bad, but theres a porblem... my best friend is his little sister. he's a junior, and i'm a freshman and his sister's a sophomore. you'd think that they'd be really close, but they're not, not at all. she's my best friend, so i've told her all about her brother and i. She made it really clear that we should not be together. She doesn't even think that he would ever want to be with me because I'm a freshman. when she first told me all of this i promised that it was just a crush, and that i would never date him, because i knew she was against it. but at that time i never thought any thing would really happen between us. now things are starting to happen and i really want then to happen. i can't help how i feel, and her reasoning for not wanting us to be together seem pretty stupid. but at the same time, she is my best friend and hopefully always will be. I think going out with her brother would hurtour friend ship, but i don't want to give up this opportunity with the perfect guy. i need help!!! what should i do? (link)
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i think you should go with your heart. remember that a true friend will be happy for you when you find a great guy. if she knew something about her brother that could hurt you then it'd be different, but if she has no solid reason, i think you should go for it. talk to her about it, and tell her that you don't want it to hurt your friendship. do what makes you happy!
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The very first time my boyfriend and I said "I love you" to each other was about two weeks ago. He said it first. Now though, I always say it first. He never tells me he loves me unless I say it to him. So what's wrong? Does he regret saying it? Is he just shy? What can I do to make him say it first? (link)
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being a psychology major in college, i recently studied personality types and relationships... him not telling you does NOT mean anything is wrong. it's completely normal. guys are different from girls. girls need to hear that they are loved every day all the time.. guys function differently. to guys, if they don't say something bad to you then they really do like you. i have been with my boyfriend for about a year and he still doesn't always tell me he loves me first... try mentioning to him that it means a lot to hear that he loves you. just don't be too pushy. most of all it's true that actions speak louder than words so if he's treating you great.. you'll know he loves you.
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Some background:
My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly a year and a half. We've been together since I was in 8th grade and I am now a sophmore in highschool. Unfortunately we don't go to the same school, so I see him once a week or twice a week if I'm lucky.
I have been friends with this boy for a few years, we dated when I was in 7th grade so it was hardly a relationship. But me and this boy have always remained very close friends even before my boyfriend and I met. He as well does not got to my school.
Friday night (The 11th) I was hanging out with him and a friend of mine at my friend's house. For some reason I ended up kissing this boy. To be honest I still can't figure out why I did it. I felt guilty about it after it happened and the guilt was eating me up inside. I saw my boyfriend the day after and I didn't tell him because I was too scared of what he would think, do or say.
The next day (Sunday) I told him what happened. He got really upset which I already knew would happen. I apologized a million times over and I promised him it would never happen again. I screwed up, I know that, believe me I know I screwed up.
We didn't talk up until late yesterday night and he told me that he'd give me another chance. However he said he's not sure if it's going to work because he doesn't know if he'll be able to trust me again. I know I don't deserve this second chance, but I am so greatful for it.
So my question is, what specific things can I do to regain his trust? Again, I know I screwed up really bad and I feel awful about the whole thing and I wish I could just take it back. I want to regain his trust and try to make things as close to "right" as it can be. But I don't know how I'm going to go about that.
He said to me that he's not sure if he'd be able to kiss me without being able to think about what I did.
I told him that if he wanted me to that I wouldn't talk to this kid ever again. What should I do? I don't want to end our year and a half relationship...
By the way, this is the FIRST AND LAST time I have and will EVER do something like that again. Please help me.. (link)
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first know that people make mistakes and you admitting to your mistake is awesome! i cheated on my current boyfriend after dating only 3 months and i also felt just how you're feeling afterwards. my boyfriend also gave me a second chance and we've been together eight more months since then, so it can work!
you definitely have it going for you that you've been with him for so long. that gives you a good base because you two obviously have something special.
know that he will definitely not trust you for a while, and you have to be ok with that. he might ask you tons of things when you aren't together, but just answer them. it will help him if you always tell him when you're going to hang out with other people and exactly what you'll be doing.
as frustrating as it will be, it will mostly just take some time. don't be too pushy with him, but let him know that you truly do love him. i know it can work out.. i've been there
so best of luck with your boyfriend!!! i hope it all works out!
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Hey! Me and my ex boyfriend of 2 years broke up about 1 month ago. And since then I have moved on to sometime else that is wayy better for me. But I feel like something is holding me back from loving him. Could this be because I sill am not over my ex boyfriend? What should I do?? Thanks for the advice (link)
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i think you answered this yourself, but i understand needing some reassurance. like you said, you found someone who is way better for you. that's great! of course, it's totally normal to be missing your ex. you were with him for two years, and that is a long time. i would work slowly into this new relationship, but definitely go for it. eventually, you will be over your ex and having a great time with the new guy in your life.
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I don't know exactly is going on. I'm definatly overwhelmed.
First of all, I'm (female) 16.. he's 15. We've been going out for almost a month and a half. When we first started going out, it was kind of rocky. I felt neglected, but he did change after a week of dating. Then when it seemed like things were seriously turning around.. he gets kicked out of his house. Now he lives across the state. His phone got turned off and I haven't seen him since he moved unannounced.
So I can't see, hear, or touch him. So I'm basically going out with thin air, and I'm MISERABLE. Sure we IM eachother just about every day.. but that is pathetic. He is worth my time, but I don't know if I can manage dating someone who is slowly becoming a stranger to me. He like me a lot more than I like him.. and the move devastated him.
I'm not sure how he'll take it if I do break up with him. If I do break up with him.. it will be to his face. I have enough respect for him to do that to his face. He might be around town this weekend. =|
I do like him, he likes me back. He treats me well, and sometimes it seems like we're made for eachother. He MIGHT move back, but I don't know. I hate this so much!
I guess my question is, should I end it.. or stick it out? (link)
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long distances will either make or break a relationship. i know it's hard to be apart from someone you care about, but you also need to be happy in a relationship. talk openly with him about how hard it is for you to have so much distance between you. you're right... talking online is not at all the same as holding someone or seeing their face. it may hurt at first to break it off, but it's always best to do what makes you happy even if it's hard. good luck with it all!
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I have this boyfriend and we've been in a relationship for a year and I'm currently six months pregnant. The problem is that I'm starting to get kind of tired of his ways and his situation. He have this bestfriend, and recently he and his girlfriend is always over my boyfriend house and that is starting to get on my nerves because I really don't like them. It's times that I might want to go somewhere and my boyfriend acts like he don't want to take me but when one of his friends asks, it seems like he always could find a way to take them to where they got to go. I just don't feel comfortable at his house anymore because his best friend and his girlfriend is always there. I feel like I can't even spend time with him anymore because I don't want to be around them. He always want me to come over but he knows how I feel about them being there and he never say anything about it. Another thing is that he always dis me to play the game. He is a grown ass man and if he always have to hang up the phone with me to play a game then he needs to grow up cause I barely talk to him. A part of me is getting kind of tired of this, but it's hard because I'm pregnant with his child. PLEASE TELL ME WHAT I SHOULD DO!!!!!!! (link)
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first of all, if you're not happy with him don't stay with him only because of the child. i admire you wanting to set up a mom, dad, kid environment, but no one will benefit from it if you aren't happy.
your other option could be to try talking to his friend and the girlfriend. why don't you like them? is it something they can change? if so, try talking to them.
above all, choose what is best for YOU... you are pregnant so you need to take care of yourself and make yourself happy. many women make it being a single mom, and i'm sure you can find someone else to love you down the road
good luck!!
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I'm about to turn 21, and I've been with my first and only boyfriend for about a year and a half. He adores me and I believe that if we were to stay together he would love me until he dies. Unfortunately, I am not so secure in my feelings.
There are some down sides to the relationship:
A) I am a dedicated student while he seems to have little ambition. He dropped out of college and works at a fast food place.
B)Because I'm in college we are living in two different cities.
C) He is extremely insecure. He gets unreasonably angry with me when he knows I've spoken to another guy. He has also told me that if we ever break up he would be too upset to want to get back together.
D) Because I haven't had a previous relationship, I often have doubts. I'm not unhappy in the relationship, but sometimes I wonder if there is a better match for me.
Should I end a relationship I am comfortable with for the possibility of one that is 'ideal' for me? (link)
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wow, your situation is quite similar to my own. i am also in college dating a guy not in school and living about 3 hours apart. when i first came to school, we actually took a "break" for a couple weeks while i sorted out those feelings. my advice would be to not do that. it complicates things and makes it hard to trust your feelings even more. i think it's great that you haven't been in other relationships. sometimes those can complicate a current relationship. sure, it's completely normal to wonder "what if" but i wouldn't act on. if you're already completely happy with the relationship you have don't give it up. good luck with it all...
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Well I've been dating this guy for almost 9months and he still doesn't trust me! I've never cheated on him or gave him a right to not trust me,I just lost my viginity to him and he lost his to me..and he told me he trusted me 200%. Then this guy friend of mine wrote me a note, and he was like let me read it and I was like why dont you trust me cuz I had told him what it said ...he says he trusts me but apparently not if he has to read the note...now he's telling me that the guy was hitting on me and stuff but all he asked was why we don't hang out anymore because we were friends way before I started dating my bf. How can I get him to trust me like I trust him??? (link)
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if you have nothing to hide, just let him read the note. yes, he should just trust you, but put yourself in his place. if you saw some girl pass him a note that he wouldn't let you read, i'm sure you'd be very curious as to seeing exactly what it said. it's a simple fix.
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Which of these boys should I ask to my winter formal? I go to an all girls school, so for the winter formal, all the girls have to ask the guys. Vote who you think I should ask:
guy 1: Pretty much my best guyfriend. Hang out with often. Am comfortable with. Nice, friendly, social, and a bit geeky. He's a dork. Mama's boy. Boy next door. Not a great dancer. Haha. Currently has a crush on me that I just found out about from my friend.
guy 2: Older than me by two grades. Friendly, but speaks really quietly. Has recently asked me out to see a show with him but I couldn't go. A bit boring to talk to on the phone. Sweet and laid back. Can actually dance. Never hang out with him in person.
guy 3: My personal crush. Asked him to formal last year and got turned down b/c he didn't know me that well. He now knows me better this year. Funniest guy I know. Always makes me laugh. Sweet and friendly and social. A nerd. But still social and outgoing. My friend thinks he has a crush on me because of the attention he gives me when I'm around. But I don't think so. He doesn't really like to dance. Smart. There's another girl who really likes him. I want to choke her. Well. Not really. Okay, yeah I do.
So give me feedback! WHICH ONE? (link)
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i would definitely go with guy 3! the first line says it all... he's your personal crush. he's the guy you want to get to know. it's obvious you like hanging around him and talking to him. if he's funny then being able to dance isn't going to be a big deal, because you'll be entertained anyway. so don't be shy.. go ask him! before that other girl does
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