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15/f
okay well there's this guy that likes me and he's going to ask me out i know it because he's already tried but i have no intrest in him but he's just not my type.
he's also in some classes for the slower pple and i don't know him too well so i don't know what to say in rejecting him.
whoa that sounds harsh please help! (link)
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Well, the thing is eventually he's going to ask. You'll just have to face him someday, no matter how long you avoid him. My advice for that; don't cave! You aren't interested like that at all, so no matter what happens, don't agree to go out with him. Also, don't say to him, "maybe in the future..." or something along the lines because that would be leading him on. Just say that you're friends and you just can't see it being anymore. Good luck!
-Becky
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I like to spend alot of time with my b/f and all my close friends have either moved away or i dont talk to them anymore. His friends are always dropping by and constantly are hanging out with him. He keeps saying he wants his alone time and doesn't want me to be there all the time, but how much space is enough space? (link)
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Well, the most obvious answer is to ask, of course. Just standing by is going to lead to lack oftime together, which will end the relationship. When you do ask him though, be sure that you let him know that you don't want constant attention (as much as you do), and that you respect him wanting to be with his friends, just as you do. Make sure it's sincere and he knows exactly how you're feeling!
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ever wanted to decide for someone if they should get over someone? well here's your chance!
I will give you the background info, and then YOU guys decided, get over him or not.. if the majority says yes. then thats it. ill try to get over him.
You'll recognize the story because ive asked atleast 17 questions about this guy on here, since the year 2002 (yes ive had a crush on him for 4 years!)
I met this guy in june, 4 yrs ago, when i was on vacation with my parents. We live on different continents, but i visit his continent every year because my family lives there.
The first year when we met - we were watching a movie with my cousins and he said "damn, she's so hott! i love angelina jolie!" then he looked at me, winked..and said "you're hott too btw!" (sound cheesy, and sleezy, but he said it in a charming way)he left with one of my cousins and came back an hour later.. my cousin then told me "ehh, he thinks you like him!" (i had done nothing to make him belive that..except smile when he said "You're hott too!") but whateer, at this point i didnt really like him, i was more annoyed that he was hanging around while i was trying to spend some time iwth my cousins..
anyways, when he came back with my cousin, my cousin left to talk on the phone, and left me alone with this guy..he ssat down next to me on the porch and said "what's up? you look sad! why are you sitting alone instead of watching tv with the rest of the family?" i said; idk..it's nice outside. and he agreed. then he suddenly gave me a troubled look (which he had not had befofre) and said.. "damn im screwed" (he whispered this though..so i didnt hear it) i said "what?" and he repeated it.. and i asked why? and he explained that his gf of 5 months had crazy ocerprotective parents, and her sister (who is also very over protective) had seen them holding hand at the mall... i tried to give him advice on what to do since he seemed to really care about this girl, and then said.. aww its really cute how you talk about her, i can tell you're a sweettalker! and he said, yeah i guess.. then looked right into my eyes, and told me how beautiful they were.. after this we spent 4 hours togther, flirting and talking..basically just hanging out and getting to know eachother.. he found out i was leaving the next day, asked me for my email..and then said goodbye.
i didnt really start liking him, until after i left the country. thats when i started realiing it. and we talked online a couple of times but not a lot. One of the few times we did talk online he said "if i didnt have a gf, i would have kissed you when we met!" and on another occasion he told me "ive now been with my gf for 11 months and i love her soo much"
so he flirted with me but always made it clear that he had a gf he would never cheat on.
the last conversation we had before i met him the second year he said "if i break up with my gf this summer, are we set?" and i said "deal!" so we basically agreed on hooking up (just making out and getting to know eachother and stuff like that!)
when the day finally came that i saw him again, it happened to be the last day in his country AGAIN, we met..didnt talk to eachother for a while (he talked to my cousin, and made jokes the first few houres!) then we started asking eachother questions.. how've you been since last time? what's been going on? what's new?.. just the regular chit-chat.. and i asked him about his gf and he said "we had a fight yesterday, and we broke up.." and i said " aww really?" and he said "yah, otherwise i wouldnt be here!" (which shows that he thought of me as more than a friend..otherwise he wouldnt say that right?)
anyways, we hung out, flirted a bit (not as much as the year before..) and then he went home and we said "see you tomorrow!" but my family changed the plans.. so we left that same day, and i didnt get to say goodbye! after this i went to camp for 3 weeks, when i came back,, i had an email from him.. with two poems, and he said "i cant stop thinking about you, we never got to say goodbye! i didnt get to give you the present i bought you" and things along those lines, i answered..and we started emailing regurly.. then i for some reason got insecure and made up a story about how i cant email him anymore.. (dont ask, i dont really know why i did that) and we stopped emailing.. until this summer.. when i thought i was gonna meet him again, i went online, and we started IMing.. flirting, promising that we'd get together and have fun this summer, telling eachother how we feel about eachother and so on,.. until one night i found out i wasnt gonna get to see him because my parents had a fight with my cousins parents.. so i wasnt gonna get to cisit my cousins and see him. when i told him this he said "oh well, whatever, its not like its a big deal!" WTF? it is a huge deal! for me it was atleast.. and then i asked why his screenname was so sad...and his answer? its about my ex who im still in love with! he then sent me a 2 page email about who hes never cared for anyone else, how he loves her, how he'll never get over her, they're meant to be..and so on.
i cried, and told my friends.. they id "be honest with him!" so i was, i asked how he could say he loved me when all along he was in love with her? and he said "im sorry if i hurt you, but i didnt realize im still in love with her until recently,," i decided to get over him (of course) and didnt talk to him for a month..but now, we email again.. like nothing ever happened.. like we're just friends.. pen pals.. needles to say, i still have a crush on him, and pray everyday that we're gonna get to see eachother again this christmas! i keep praying he'll be over her by then..!!
so, what do you think?
should i try to get over him?
and HOW? stop emailing??
i dont think it will work..
unless i tell him that "ive chosen not to fall for you, so if i show up this christmas, i dont want to see you..andi cant keep in touch with you anymore!" but thas so awkward! maybe there's another way? what do you guys think?
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Well, I completely agree with Courtney. It seems like he was only interested because you were "hot." Friends seems okay, as long as it doesn't escalade into anything more. Leave him to his girlfriend!
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hi,
my girlfreind is cutting her wrists and im really worried about her and want her to stop how do i go about telling her and getting her to stop i dont want her to hurt herself.. please ..!!:(:( i love her heaps but i dont want her to be hurting herself...
im male and 14.
thankyou (link)
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This is a serious issue, as you probabley know. She seems to have something going on in her life that's deeply emotionally hurting her. If you two are very close, you could try saying something along the lines of "Hey, I love you so much and I'm worried... etc" but if that would be weird, just constantly tell her you love her, try to keep her smiling and keep her happy. Things like these, as hard as they are to handle, tend to pass, and you can help by keeping her laughing.
Becky
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Okay. So, i just broke up with my boyfriend a few days ago, it was a relationship that lasted about a week that i was pretty much forced into. After the third or fourth day this other kid that i've had a crush on for the longest time and that i'm friends with finally has started to notice me, we hug a lot during school and i film him skateboarding after school.
My ex although, once i told him i was interested in someone else, flipped out and told me to promise him i wouldn't give up on the relationship.
I never saw my ex and only talked to him through text messages and IM, this other kid calls ME, and it's great because we talk about the GREATEST things.
My ex is jealous and i'm not sure what to tell him to make him feel better. He was a good friend of mine before we went out and i care about him a lot and i'm still not completley over him. what should i do?
This other kid seems interested...right? (link)
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Go for the "new" kid. Your ex seems jealous and that can ruin it. You also sound like your CHOOSING the second one instead of being forced to like them.
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me and my boyfriend get along great we hav alot of similar interests but we only really talk about his stuff when were chatting on the computer... i embaress myself around him like randomly start talking to myself...dnt ask me why... i just got nervous. anyways i dont want him to lose interest in me he told me today on msn that he wanted a girl that could "explain" herself, and not be shy around him. im afraid that if stop being shy that i will do something stupid and scare him off. does anyone have any ideas how to keep a converstation going without any awkward silences or weird moments... or what i should talk to him about....
thank-you.. i really apreaciate it
xoox
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What's the point if you're not being yourself? If the relationship goes somewhere, you're going to end up living that whole time not being yourself! Be yourself, I'm sure he'll like it. He already said he will. If not, he's not worth your time and he's missing out on something good.
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14/male
There's this girl I really like. We'll call her "B." I know some people said "true" love isn't real for teens, but I can feel that I love her. I have since I met her.
Well, she's a few years older than me, and she's dating this guy I haven't really enjoyed being around in the past. I wrote B a letter, but I signed it "Your Secret Admirer." It basically says stuff about how I love her, and things like that. But, I haven't had a chance to sneak it into her backpack or whatever.
The thing is, I think she might sorta like me, but I'm not sure. Should I sneak the letter into her backpack?
Thanks,
-Fyce
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Do it! I love to hear things like that, and when I do, I never reject them! I tend to go head over heels. Haha. But put it in her coat or locker, not backpack. It could fall to them bottom, get crumpled, then she may never see it.
-Becky
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I heard before christmas that a boy liked me but at the time I didn't like him. Now I'm CRAZY about him! But I think he has already moved on..I asked his friend if he used to like me and he said, "Yeah..USED to." How do I find out from him without letting it sound like I like him? (link)
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A Boy...,
Well, you could play the game I invented. Just get a friend to say "OOO, lets play 'date.' Would u date [name]? (Answer). Would u date [ur name]? (Answer). Would you date [name]? (Answer)." and get her to report back to you!
-Becky
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ok i started dateing this guy and i thought we should just be friends ( because we just met like a week before that ) anyway he was fine with it.at school he still try's to hold my hand and stuff and he grabbed my ass too. i dont mind it but do you think me letting him do all this makes him think we are dateing again?? we went out the other night and someone asked me if he was my boyfriend and i didnt know what to say....is it stupid to ask him to be just friends with benefits because i would do stuff with him but i dont want a boyfriend???? ill rate high (link)
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I definately like all of the other advice you've recieved, but another option is, if he grabs your ass, or your hand, etc, just turn and straight up say "That's over. Stop." and walk away. Don't even turn around. It'll get your message to him and he'll look stupid for doing it. It'll stop then. Also, tell someone that you're not going out if they ask.
-Becky
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So, my partner's parents/family have 'seen the bruises' and now think I'm some vest-wearing wifebeater and have 'warned me'.
How on earth do I tactfully explain what's really going on before I get the rozzers called on me?
I don't think they'll appreciate the honest truth about what their 'little princess' likes in bed somehow...
>.<
Awful and delicate situation, help! (link)
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BDSM,
Hm, that is a toughie. Obviously, you cant talk about their "little princess," but you need a way out. Just go with the old, 'I have no idea where they came from,' etc etc.
-Becky
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My boyfriend (of a year and a couple months) and I broke up a little over 6 months ago. (we’ll call him K) But we’ve acted like we were still together up until 4 weeks ago. I met someone (we’ll call him M) a week before I went on vacation/work. (3 weeks ago) (I would talk to M everyday almost 3 times a day! I would also talk to K while I was out of town. K would tell me how much he loves me, he can’t move on and he doesn’t want to, he wants me to come back, etc. A few days after I got back M and I hung out and we got together officially. Now K calls me every once in awhile and we’ve gone out to lunch a couple days within the past two weeks. And the last few days I’ve hung out with him and his friends, and I’ve missed that. Now, about K, he has cheated on me…a couple times, but I seriously love him with all my heart. I miss everything. And I know, I’ve been told, once he has cheated, he’ll do it again and that I’m stupid for taking him back, but I really cannot help it. So, now M and I have been dating for less than 3 weeks and I feel bad because he’s into everything I’m into and he cares about me A LOT! And now I don’t know what to do. I’ve tried to write out each good and bad thing about each of them and I can’t figure out who I really want to be with. I mean, I do want to be with K, but at the same time M is there too. I don’t know what to do. If you have good advice, help me out! J I rate.. If this is too confusing or something, let me know and I can explain a little better. (link)
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*help*,
My advice is, go for "M." Normally, I'd say "follow your heart" etc., but K seems like a total jerk. If he really loved you, he wouldn't have cheated. I like the "one guy, one girl" idea, and it sounds like you do, too. From what you hear, K is up to his old games. Go for M. He'll love you and treat you right.
-Becky
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Well, I'm having a bit of trouble with the ladies. I got a nice car, i got nice clothes, and i use all that "what's on the inside" junk, but im seriously having some trouble!
-Lousy in Love (link)
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-L.I.L.,
Do NOT try to impress girls. We know what your doing and, frankly, it makes us laugh. In the end, you just look like an idiot! Also, don't try and be what you think the "ladies" would want! Just be you! It'll work out, even though that's so cheesy!
-Becky
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how can i tunr a guy down easily like because hes really cool but i dont like him that way i dont want to hurt his feelings because hes like sensitve like that
please help
brittany (link)
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Brittany, we've all been there. My advice is think of it this way; unless you want to date him, you don't have a choice but to turn him down. There's no nice way to do this. I know that's not the answer you were looking for, but it's the sad truth. Just explain to him that it's not because your not interested (even if you aren't), but that you just aren't ready for a relationship(even if you are), or you Have a boyfriend (even if you dont). I wouldn't suggest that one, it tends to backfire.
-Becky
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