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I'm a wild and crazy 14 year old, I've had a lot of rough spots with guys, friends, family, etc. important things in life like that. I'm outgoing and bold, if something needs to be said I will say it without hesitation!
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Location: Portage, Michigan
Age: 14
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I was searching through some xangas and I came across this girl that I'm not too fond of. I stopped to look at all the pictures she had thinking it might be pretty funny. I found multiple pictures of this girl, with my boyfriend on his bed. Nothing sexual, I think, but the fact I'M not even allowed in his room let alone his BED kinda ticked me off. Am I wrong to be upset that he had a girl that EVERYONE knows is basically a slut on his bed with him?
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no ma'am. well... if it's him that wont allow you on his ben then no if its his parents then yeh, but it sounds kike its him I woulld be angry to but talk to him about it before you go all Xena on him okay?


My friend broke up with his gf a week ago well actually she broke up with him and she is also my friend, he is like my best friend and i can tell him anything even tho we dont hang out, and same with her im really close with her too, i like really wnat to tell him that im starting to like him again but i dont know if i should cause i know he DOESNT like me and he liked my friend like crazy and she broke up with him so he might still like her or one of the 100 girls who like him, so many girls are always flirtting with him that i just feel like im not good enough for him,i dunno i get a tingly feeling just thinking about him... but yea do u think i should tell him I serioulsy need to know whether or not to, i want to be like your one my best friends right? and I can tell you anything? and then be like I think im starting to like you again... but then im thinking its probably way to soon and i should just wait or get over him completeing because hes not good with any of his ex's... but yea any advice? (link)
It sounds like you got a problem, but it can be solved he just broke up with her and it sounds to m like hes taking it pretty hard now would definately not be a good time to tell him that, and maybe later on he'll see what a great frind you'e been and start to like you to, just be patient, like my neighbor always says dont chase the butterfly wait for it to land on your shoulder.


ok, There is this guy that I am like in love with. But the thing is, is that he is my Ex Boyfriend. I swear we get along so good now. We talk laugh and everything. He even looks 'sorta' like Billie Joe Armstrong (I Guess you can see why.) But the problem is, is that I am sorta confused with him. Ok for the second part. I have this friend Amber and me, her and Kody (my ex) hangs out all the time. He acts like he is in LOVE with me (odd isnt it?) but anyway when he jokes he calls my friend a bit*h, Who*e, and so on. But he never calls me that. he is always so nice to me. So does he like me. He always stares at me and stuff and smiles at me and everything! Sooo?? All 5s! (link)
Sounds like your ex is still head over heals girlie. If you love him go for it. Love is a beautiful thing to share.


My name is stephanie, and I bhave beeen dating my boyfriend for a month now.But here's the twist! My BF(Chris)asked me to hsve sex with him after a band dance. I told him no, b/c I'm not ready to sexualy active just yet! Unexpectingly he said ok I'll respect that b/c I love. I figured that excuse would by me time, and it did! But now he wants more reasons as to why I can't have sex with him. But see what gets me is is that he's telling me he wants to have sex, but when I say no he's ok with what I decide, but he asks repeating , but never makes any kind of action leading to sex. I'm confused! WHY IS HE GIVING ME MIXED SIGNALS?
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What it sounds like to me is that he really loves you. He's telling you that he wants to have sex but if you don't want to he's fine with that,right? but what i think is on his mind is he's going to tell you he loves you, so that you fall in love with him, and eventually cave to his desires, tell him if he really loves you, he'll quit asking.


im 16 f. well i had this boyfriend but we broke up about five months ago and then he started txting me saying that he still loved me and asking me if i felt the same, well the thing is i do, i always have loved him we went out for like seven months and ive never been closer to anyone. well the next day i was txting my friend to tell her what he had been saying and i accidentally sent it to him. he then txt me bak asking me what i was tlaking about because he hadn't txt me in weeks so what am i suposed to think? i covered up by saying it was someone else i was talking about b/c i didn't know what to say but what does this mean? is he interested or not? please help b/c im really confused! (link)
Maybe it wasn't him that sent the messages. I know it sounds wierd but bear with me, someone, a friend maybe, could have gotten a hold of his phone and txtd you all that. if so, his friend is either messing with him or knows that he still loves you and is trying to help him out, has your ex ever had trouble saying what is on his mind? if so it's likely to be option no. 2. It is for you to figure it out by either thinking it through or talking to him.


My boyfriend just broke up with me 2 hours ago IN SCHOOL! he just wants a break so how can i make him want me??!!!

PLease answer!!
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Honey first thing to learn is that you cannon make anyone like you, if that's not how they feel. If you truly like this guy remain friends with him, and after he has his break things should work out.


There's this girl in my p.e. class, and I think she might like me. She hugs me every day, and she seemed really excited today when she told me that she broke up with her boyfriend. We always joke around, and she's kissed my neck before, just playing around though. The question is, do you think she likes me, should I ask her out, and a random question I'm throwing in: I just got braces, how would making out with someone work? (link)
About the braces, don't worry about I had braces, they don't get in the way of making out, just ignore those stupid rumors about braces, it changes nothing, and as far as this girl goes maybe you guys should get to know each other before thinking about a relationship, but it sounds like she likes you. Like i said get to know her, if things are looking good then go for it.


OK. I have this little problem because I like this guy who is younger than me by like 10 months. People say it's not cool to date younger guys but I don't care. So here's my problem: I like him a lot, but I wanna be more than internet friends. I know him and he knows me, we go to the same school, but we don't talk in school, only online. And one time, my friends told him that I liked him and he said "Don't say that or else I'll throw up in my mouth" but that was a long time ago and he said sorry for it and I forgave him but now I'm feeling mized emotions again. I like him a lot, but at the same time I wanna hate him. What should I do? Still talk to him? Not talk to him at all? Or not be friends? I'll rate anything please!! I really need help... (link)
What I would do is try to talk to him in school, if he blows you off then he's not worth your time, but if he talks to you talk to him about a further relationship either in person or over the internet.


ok soo i have 2 weeeks left of school and we get our year books preety soon. so i like this guy named shane but i dont want to ask himm out. what should i write in his year book to lethim know that i like him? (link)
whatever you want to right it all depends on what kind of person you are, like me, I'm loud and out going so I would put my number and write something like 'hey hottie call me!' but some of my friends are shy and wouldn't even write anything, but if you REALLY like this guy you should definantly let him know somehow.


Theres this guy that i like name joe. And his friend always ask me if i have called joe yet. And i always tell him..joe doesnt like me so why call. Why does his friend keep doing this to me? Do you think joe has said something or what? (link)
He might have, but what I think, is his friend needs to quit getting into his buisness weither he has said something or not, his friend shouldn't get involved, but if you like this guy you should call regardless of weither you think he likes you or not, you might be surprised.


Ok well my friend and I when we were like 13 We kissed (she's a girl) because neither of us had been kissed before! But I realyy like this boy that likes me back a lot. We've gone on dates and kissed. But the kiss with him seem's real and when I kissed my friend it was just an example. Now my friend is OBSESSED with me, I mean I told her the kiss wasnt real and she is just obsessed! My boyfriend HATES her and now I'm starting to hate her! Please help!
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You should sit her down and have a serious talk with her, tell her that you are, as I call it 'strickly dickly' and that you don't feel an attraction to females. Put it lightly, don't be too harsh, but that talk is definantly necessary, and if she won't listen then maybe, no matter how hard it is, you should stop hanging out with her, but always be nice to her.


I am very good friends with this guy and have been interested in him for a while. Last summer he started watching me and other people would tell me that he was doing this it has progressed to a mutual flirting as well he has told me that if anyone would notice what I wear it would be him. He told to call him if I need anything or ever just want to talk and has told me that he would be offended if I needed help and didnt ask him because he wants to be there for me. He gets upset if he feels people misuse me or if they make comments that arent called for. Does he like me and if so why hasnt he asked me out?
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yes,I'm almost positive he likes you, maybe the reason he hasn't asked you out is because he's shy, or scared of what you'll say or both, maybe you should ask him, or have someone, another close friend how he feels.


ive been going out with my boyfriend for a while now but he hasnt told his parents at all so they dont know about us but i think they know something because all of a sudden me and him started hanging out a lot more and so the other day at our track meet his mom was spying on him and since it was cold outside we were sitting pretty close and he was holding me and his mom got all upset and was yelling at him i dont know what to do because i dont want him to keep gettin in trouble for being with me he says he doesnt care because all he wants is to be with me and his parents dont want him to date until he is 16 but he is already and has had girlfriends before me but none have been as serious as ours is now and i think he should tell his parents but i dont want his parents to make us break up because we really love eachother please help -- should he tell his parents about us-- sorry its so long!! x0o (link)
I think that he should sit down and talk to his parents and tell them that he loves you and that you mean a lot to him and if he won't maybe you should, tell his parents that you love him and that they need to let their little bird use his wings and stead of keeping him in a cage, understand? or maybe you could all have a talk together so everything is out in the open, well hope i helped


theres a girl i like but she dont like me how i do. shes so perfect 4 me and we have so much in common. im real good friends with her friends too, but im afraid to go out with her because if i get into a fued with her friends it will tear us apart and im known to be a "sh*t disturber" when it comes to my friends. also, im sort of a sucker for per-preasure and have been involved with drugs and i know she doesnt approve too much in that area, so what should i do?? (link)
Well, if she doesn't like you just keep her dear to your heart and move on, no matter how hard that is.


Hi I'm 19/f and my boyfriend is 20/m. We've been going out for 2.5 years now and like every couple, we have our share of arguments.

The problem with my boyfriend is that he's beginning to develop a short fuse. The reason I say develop is because his anger has never been this bad, not until recently. Fortunately, he doesn't get violent, but he does say a lot of mean and hurtful things that he admits that he regrets later.

When I talk to him about it, he sincerely apologizes, and tells me that when he gets angry now, it's hard to control his anger. It's really bothering me that he's like this because it seems like he gets irritable more often over the silliest of things and his hurtful words are taking its toll on me and our relationship.

We've decided long ago to keep our disagreements and conflicts civil to the best of our ability, and it was working for the most part, but now I'm the only one putting in any real effort.

I know he doesn't mean it, and my question is if there is anything I can really do to help him? I'm usually good at giving myself advice on how to handle situations like these, but I feel I've tried everything. I've confronted him about it, when we fight I hardly raise my voice and I tell him to calm down, I've proposed taking breaks, just anything you can really imagine. Some say that I should threaten to leave him or something along those lines, but trust me, it only makes him more angry.

It's like male PMS or something, he gets more irritable than me sometimes!

And no, it's not because he's sexually frustrated. How I know it's not a problem is because we are very honest and open about sex and everything for that matter; our communication and sex life are great.

So really I need advice on if there is anything I can do (that I haven't tried) and if anyone knows where this sudden bad temperment could have come from? Thanks so much! (link)
Ask him if there is anything you can do to help him with his anger and let him now how worried you are and how much you care.


Now.. don't think I'm a slut or anything but me and my best friend share a boyfriend... and I am attrated to her too... is that a bad thing.. I mean we have done stuff in the past but I don't know if she likes me. should I make a move on her or not. or should i just talk to her and tell her my feelings I mean she is always looking at me in that sexy way and it turns me on everytime.. am I a bi-sexual and should I go for her... please don't be mean because I really need help (link)
I'm bi and i believe you are. You should definately talk to her and ask her how she feels but don't go overboard.


OK I have been going out with this guy call him bob for 2 weeks yeah I know its' not long but we're alrady having problems. He doesn't talk to me that much, and im the one who gets his and and approches him, he never says hi ok well he has but like 2 times. Im the one who has to make the first move in everything in talking and in holding hands, he doesn't hold mine, I hold his. And I walk him to 3rd period and today he just left (we stand with all the punk rockers on the wall for like 3 minutes and talk) didn't even say bye im leaving or anyhting and it's not the first time. The first time we were holding hands talking to out friends and he just let go and left not even a kiss. I don't know what to do because I really like him I have known him for a year and I didn't know he was like this...please help me I don't wanna break up with him I want this to work. (link)
Well bob is either A not into you that much or B simply shy, talk to him and see how he feels


OK let me start from the beginining:
I was set up with this guy by my best friend. He is so cute and nice and I was starting to really get into him, but then he got too into me (i.e. he wrote all about me on his xanga and profile and invited me to prom on our 2nd date and he called like once if not twice a day at least.) So i had a talk with him telling him that I felt we were moving extremley fast and there was no reason for that so he took it so well and totally agreed, he even said "yeah I agree, I thought I might have been coming on very strongly." So everything was good and he laid off just a little bit. we hung out again not last saturday, but the saturday before and everything was fine but he hasnt called me since. When I go online and he's online, he doesn't IM me. I texted him yesterday and he didnt text me back (he is always good with returning my texts within like an hour.)
I really do like this guy, and I don't know what to do now. Can someone please give me advice (I don't want to sound desperate, so thats why I'm not calling him. I assume that if he's not calling me, there is a reason). Please help me. Thanks for taking the time to read this. I'll rate high.
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maybe he's just been busy with friends and stuff, don't stress it.


okay well my friend is making me pretty mad because she keeps calling me boy crazy because im like in love with this boy. and she tells me, "boys arent life" well i told her that i while ago.. and now she's like, "yeah i know u told me that but ur worse than i was" and it's making me mad because i think she's gonna say that in front of my boyfriend, and it's annoying and might get him mad. she's saying this because i talk about him all the time and i have him in my info and my xanga everywhere, does this make me boy crazy? (link)
No, it makes you normal. Tell your friend that when she feels the way you do, then she can talk.


How do you know when you love someone? (link)
i can't explain it, you'll just know.




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