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Hey, I'm Charlotte and I'm 14 years old. Go ahead & ask me anything, anytime. If you don't like the advice, don't use it. I'm not telling you what to do.

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Yeah, that's about it.. so ask me anytime!

♥ Charlotte

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Hello, my name is Bill, and I'm a 15 year old male. At my school there is a girl I like, named Courtney. I have known Courtney for a few years, and last year I started having more feelings for her. I told her I liked her, but she wasn't sure of her feelings, some people said she liked me and some people said she didn't, so I was very confused. What made it worse was Courtney and I had a fun relationship, she was really funny and was probably the best friend I had that was a girl. When she found out I liked her, she didn't feel as comfortable around me, and we didn't talk very much. Well over the summer I didn't see her much and I lost some of the feelings I had for her, but I still liked her a little bit. When we came back to school, she talked to me normally again, she was more comfortable around me and we talked a lot. I know her family and they know me, and they are very nice people. We still talk a lot and hang out, but usually in a group environment. In the past month I have started to like her very much again, but I haven't told her for fear of what happened last year will happen again. People tell me that last year was different and that she is different now. Others still tell me that she isn't sure who she likes. I know her very well and I don't want to lose my relationship with her again, but I really like her and I just want to tell her. She is a very amazing person, and I not only like her for her looks (though she is very beautiful), but I love her personality. Every time I see her I just can't help smiling. But there is the down side to telling her, please help me out on this one, I'm very confused. Thankyou very much for reading that and I look forward to hearing from you!

Well, first of all if you have "girl" friends that are her friends, try to find out if she likes you or not. And if that doesn't work, I'd try getting her attention, maybe do a little not-so-obvious flirting.. but enough to maybe let her know that you are interested.

Then, after a little while of this, try telling her that you like her, but if she doesn't feel the same then tell her that you don't want your relationship to be any different than it was before, with the comfort level and such. =)

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well my best guy friend (friend with benifits) has his birtday coming up and i really want to get him something but i have no idea what to get him.i really care about him and want to get him something very special but i dont know what.Any ideas?

well, it depends on what he likes. If he's into sports, get him a hat from his favorite team, or maybe tickets to a game if that's not too expensive. But, it would help if i knew what he liked, so ask again so i can give you a better answer.

ask anytime

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I was thinking... When is avrage age to have your first kiss and how far should u be in a relationship... This is my first relationship, and i love him and we've been gong out for 6 months,,, When should you? I have no clue!!! I havent had my first kiss but lately I've been thinking about it...
I want to kiss him... but somthing doesnt seem right,,,and i was talking to my mom and she asked me if i would tell her if my boyfriend kissed me,,, should I tell her?



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if you are thirteen, then it is normal to kiss people. in a relationship for about a month before you kiss him at this age, when you get older, maybe sooner. But after six months, either he's nervous, or he's not interested. I told my mom about my first kiss, but none after. if you want to tell her, go ahead, but if you feel uncomfortable sharing that with your mom, then wait a little while until you want to tell her.

hope i helped! ask me anytime.

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Otay.. Im a good advice giver and all.. But right now i need some advice from some1 else. Okay well theres this boy i really really like.. And we used to go out but then i broke up with him .. Wanna know the reason? So do i.. I dunno.. I was just in a bad mood and he happened to tick me off and i told some1 i was thinking about taking a break and next thing i know she told me she called him and told him it was over.. So after that.. We were akward around each other for the next few months.. But now were like.. bestfriends again.. And now hes off doin his own thing with his love life.. hes already been out with another girl and he likes this girl right now.. And thats sorda my problem.. Im still crazy about this guy.. And Im SICK AND TIERD OF BEING HURT, cuz everytime he talks about her or even says her name i get upset.. And The thought of never being able to be with him again hurts just as bad.. And my problem is.. I have been thinking latly.. That maybe we shouldnt be friends anymore.. Maybe we should just stop talking to each other and like.. never see each other or anything.. I think thats best.. If i totaly push him outta my head i cant like him anymore right? (btw he knows i love him) But im not real certain.. I cant talk to him about this.. because its about him.. and hes prolly end up saying something and hurt my feelings, not meaning to tho. But then again i want to keep being his friend. and i want to keep liking him. Cuz there is STILL this little tinsy wensy spark of hope.. Plus hes like my bestfriend.. And I tell him everything and anything and hes always there to help me out.. but i dunno.. Im just tierd of being hurt, what should i do?

well... you said he knows that you love him... so i would wait... -i know it's hard- until he breaks up with his girlfriend... then go to him and talk to him... not immediately after they break up... but soon enough.. then again... if he's one of your best friends with him right now... you might ruin the friendship if you go out with him again... maybe not. but either way... its up to you... i'm just here to give suggestions!

if you need more help... ask me anytime!

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aight im with this girl we've been together for 5 months. I really love her and care a lot about her.The last 5 months have been the best. she goes on spring break. She tells me on the phone one night while she was on spring break that she meet this girl and 2 guys. She told me that they hang out all week and they want out to eat one night and had some drinks. she told me she didn't cheat on me that these guys are just friends. She comes home and shows me pics and i see pics of her and just one guy. their were other pics of the other ppl but she was in pics huggin this guy. She told me again that they were just friends. But this guy calls her every night. Yea they live far apart but it bothers me really bad. I told her that it bothered me and she said she wouldn't talk to him anymore becasue i was more important but they next day she did. then she lied to me and tried to say it was sombody else. then i finally looked up the area code to show she was liein to me. I was hurt that she lied to me so i told her we need a break. we ended up gettin back togheter and she told me again she wouldn't answer his phone calls. but she did and she called me and told me she talked to him. But she says that im bein controling which im try not to be. I finally told her she can talk to him and do what she wants. But it bothers me and i don't know what to do.

well... first of all... you are being a little tiny bit controlling... i know you may think that she's cheating... but if you really love her.. then you might want to either talk to this guy yourself... or maybe take a permanet break from eachother if you don't want her talking to this guy.

in the pics of her and these friends that she met... you said they were hugging. ok.. i hug guy friends.. it's fine... doesn't mean anything. but... i would talk to the guy.. your girlfriend.. or just breakup... for good.

hope i helped!

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this guyyasked me on my advise column about wat to do and his questiion was "i think i love you. what shouled i do. u dont like me. im ugly
i really want to no who it is. how do i find out??

ok. so i already talked to you about this yesterday... but i'll post what i said. so. this guy likes you. and you don't know who he is. basically as your answer put: i dont' know who you are so i won't be able to tell you if i like you or not... unless i kno who you are. because besides that... how else are you gonna find out?! wow. that kid is sorta stupid but... i hope all goes well.

Fill me in on what happens!


~char~

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Ok, so I know ppl say in 8th grade you cant be in love but.... Well there is this guy and I went out with him. But my parents made me break up with him and now theyare letting me date!!!! But he is going out with another girl. Yes he is still talking to me but... I REALLY WANT HIM BACK
My heart aches when Im talking or even around him and I dont know. And then like 2 days ago I heard his g/f talking to one of my BFF and she was saying what a perv he was and everything and she thinks she gonna break up with him. Ok so I guess here is my question. A: WHAT DO I DO. B: If they break up should I ask him or wait for him?

you sound like someone i know...
tell this guy ((let's call him bob)) that you still like him ALOT. and then check with his girlfriend about what you heard her saying... how was he being a perv? she might be making it all up... maybe not tho. if it doesn't sound like him, consult him. but don't tell him where you heard it from b/c then they might break up and you might loose a friend or two in the process. if they DO break up, wait a while... it's just nice to do that. wait at least 1 1/2 weeks. then, you can start asking around who he likes and maybe talking to him more and telling him that you like him. if he likes you too... ask him out, if you want to. if not, wait for him to ask you.

Fill me in on what happens!

~charlotte~

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