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I wanna be cool but im just too overweight...i have nice clothes and tons of friends but am afraid ill never have a boyfriend because im overweight....i love food.....everything. People make fun of me and i eat healthy but i can just never lose weight...it hurts when people call me fat...and i know it's true...help needed..i wonder what i should do.

The question you have to ask yourself is "are you unhappy?" If you set aside the worry of having a boyfriend, are you happy with yourself. IF the answer is yes then thats all you need and if you like yourself everything else will follow. Yes, teenagers can be mean and talk about your weight but those arent the people you need to associate yourself with let alone start a relationship with. IF you like yourself people will like you for you and you will find that one boy that doesn't care about your weight. However, on the other hand if YOU are unhappy with the way you look its time to do something about it because in the end its all about what you want and what it takes to make you happy. So to answer your question, there are other ways to loose weight other than to starve yourself. Actually thats not how you loose weight at all. You have to eat but eat smaller portions and drink more liquids in order to change your matabalism. Also as you eat you must exercie on a regular. Create a schedule and make sure you stick to it. Good Luck!

It never fails. Everytime I find a guy, who I think is
Perfect, it never works out. If they’re cute, they’re almost always taken. It never fails!I know I got to work hard for what I want, yeah I know, I’ve heard it way too many times before. But I just don’t want to try that hard for something that will never work out. What is the problem? I don’t get it. Is it me? I need some serious help, Oh man. I wish it came easily to me like it does to every other girl. What am I doing wrong??? Its like every cute guy is totally wrong for me and all I can get are the ugly ones. Should I just settle for that? I need help!!!

You should never settle for anyone but maybe you should go for something you wouldn't necessarily go for anyother time what you find might surprise you. Sometimes you have to step outside of you box to find something that will really work for you.

I'm 15/f, he's 16/m

I've been going out with my boyfriend for almost 6 months now... well by Christmas that will be 7 months. I have random little ideas for a gift for him, like based off of inside jokes we have and stuff. I'm not really into generic gifts, like chocolate etc... The problem is just that, though - all the gift ideas I have are LITTLE. I don't think they would really amount to anything, I've only thought of a few. Is there a way I can tie small gifts and a bigger gift together in a way that they would make a good gift? And what can that big gift be? I want to make him happy with this but I have such trouble being creative.

I think it would be really cute to put all the little stuff in little boxes and but all the little boxes in a really nice big box. They also have these cute little boxes that you have to open in wierd ways and that would make him anxious to see whats inside. But still put them all in a big box.

my ex boyfriend and i just broke up. we had an EXTREMELY strong emotional relatoinship, and were each others best friend. but, he told me he loved me one night, and that freaked me out. i said it back by accident and when i told him i didn't mean it yet, he was devastated. we ended up breaking up b/c i didn't feel like it was fair to him for me not to be able to return his feelings. now we both still have extremely strong feelings for ecah other, and i don't know what to do. is it okay to be in a relationship if someone likes you more than you like them? i know ill fall for him, but it will take me much longer than it did him. help!

Ok well its my opinion that everyone in a relationship will have one person have more intense feelings for the other person but that doesn't mean that they don't need to be together. I don't think breaking up with him was the answer to your problem, the fact that both of you still have really strong feelings for one another means that obviously you felt deeply for him, whether it was as strong as his feelings for you or not. I think that you should give it another try and if he loves you as much as he says he does then he will understand how you feel and know that it isn't because you don't care about him at all, its just that you want to be sure of your feelings before you tell him something of that significance. Just because you dont love him now doesn't mean that you won't feel that way for him in the future. Love really does take time and not everyone comes to that reality as fast as others do, and like i said if he loves you like he says he does then he should understand that and not penalize you for it. The most important thing was that you were honest with him in the beginning.

There's this guy in my class that one of my friends thought I would make a cute couple with, and some of my friends think he likes me. They're always bringing him up and stuff, and they always ask if I like him, but I won't tell them I do because they would torture me even more about it. Not that it really matters because 2 of my friends are already convinced I like him (which I do) but also I like this guy from camp who lives 45 minutes away who I haven't seen or talked to since summer, and he told me he liked me and I told him that I liked him on the last day of camp, so I feel bad liking someone else. Me and the guy in my class talk alot even though we aren't exactly friends, and sometimes I see him looking at me (which for all I know could just be a coincidence) but my friends swear that he likes me. I'm not sure what to do...

Any help would be appreciated, and I'm sorry if this was long/confusing

btw, I'm 14/f

First of all I don't think that you should feel bad about liking someone else because ya'll said ya'll liked each other but didn't really make it offical that ya'll are together, so technically your not doing anything wrong. And i think you should figure out if this other guy like you back or if your friends are getting mixed signals, cause depending on his answer that would pretty much make your decision for you. and then depending on his answer you might have to decide which one you like most or which one would work for you the most.

I like this guy... and he likes me. yeah. makes sense. were like... together- but I just like.. LIKE LIKE him, but he's obsessed with me. He likes me more than i like him. is that bad? or.. well. he kinda just wants to get more involved right now more than i do. like... well. im just fine being simply 'together'. he wants to get into all of the LOVE life kind of deal. how do i deal with it?

Well, you cant force yourself to love someone especially when thats not what you want right now and im sure he'll understand that. One person in the relationship is always going to feel a little more than the other person, thats natural. But I think if you really do like him and your just not ready for love right now then maybe you will later. You have to grow to love someone not just do it because they do. I think eventually your feelings will change, and if he loves you like he says he does then he'll wait for you.

I started going out with this guy that I really like and he's turning 17 real soon and I'm his 1st gf. Well he sweet and nice and everything I like but he's missing one thing he needs to intimacy just like a LITTLE freak to him he's so shy and stuff and I want to just get something I mean he hugs me but I need MORE!!! How can I get that to him without me saying it .... HELP!

Well first i think you should try just kissing him spontaneously and see what he does. If that doesnt work then start hinting towards it a little. And if he still doesnt get it I'm affraid you might have to actually talk to him about it. Just kinda ease into like asking him to cuddle. and then asking him for a small kiss. Eventually things should start to heat up. Hopefully

he is always making me uspet even over little things. im really over sensitive so i just leave it alone.

today he told my firend he didnt like the "rules i was giving him and all i asked as these so called "rules" was he didnt smoke or drink and didnt ignore me when friends were over and he goes and tells my best friend he is mad at me cause i asked those "rules" so he lied and told me he was never mad and yells at her. so now she hates me and he is mad at me and im crying my eyese out. i dont know what to do. please help me im crying. :) thanks a lot.

Well i think that u should sit down a really ask your boyfriend if he has a problem with your rules and ask why. And if he still gives you the same answer like he doesnt have a problem with them than tell him that if he ever does she should come to you about them not ur best friend. And as for your friend i dont know why shes mad because if he wanted to lie to you and say he never said that than it isn't her problem anymore, and she should tell him that if he didn't want her to go back and tell you that he was havin problems then he shouldn't have told her and he had no right to come back and yell at her when he should've just come to you in the first place.

ok so my boyfriend and i have been going out for a year and i love him sooo much. lets just say were really serious. but hes really moody, and im sure alot of guys are but sometimes he gets extreme. sometimes he gets so mad and tosses me around.. and when i try to hug him he gets really mad, and tells me to slapp him really hard.. like he wants me to hurt him. but of course i dont want. after he goes through his little phase he starts cryin and feels super bad. its only happened twice & very recent. but i get really scared. what should i do? part of me thinks hes bipolar, but i love him so much and i know he loves me to. wat should i do? im sorry this is so long but i really need help with it thank you soo much!

I think that you and your boyfriend should get counseling and try to work out your problems. If you really love him you should try to find out whats wrong with him. See if something is really wrong with him or if he just has anger issues. And if he does you should try to get him help.

I love this boy, but my parents hate his parents and they don't want me to talk to him. We go to the same school and that makes it even harder not to talk to him. His parents didn't tell him anything and he is always trying to get close to me. What should i do?????
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In my opinion you should keep talking to him. obviously if his parents are willing to let you keep talking to him then you should have nothing to worry about. Your parents cant dictate who you talk to just because of their issues. Its not your problem that they don't like his parents and you shouldn't have to pay for it with your happiness.

ok to set the pic i am 13/f and he is 16/m. ok so on to my problem: this kid, lets call him john. well anyways i really like john, but he doesnt like mein that way. he used to be my bros bff, but now we pretty close. wheni was younger i used to like him, and he liked me, but we were too young. well anyways the thing is, i asked him is he liked me nad he was like no,i like this other girl in my grade and i am gonna ask her out. i said oh ok. they just broke up today, and idk if i shopuld tell him how i feel. like i dont want our friendship to change but i really want tolet him know. please help i need to know what to do. also should i ask him how he sees me, i havent seen him in like a month but we always talk on im. so please help

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confused about *him*

Well first let me say I do think that you should tell him, if you want him you should go get him. But I think that you should give him a little time after his break-up. If he really liked this girl he will be a little broken up and you in his face about how you feel about him won't help him any, and he might do or say something that he might regret in the long run. Don't just drop it on him though. Tell him with a little suttlety. And like I told you wait a while because you don't want to his rebound girl and end up the one with your feelings hurt. Wait like 2 or 3 weeks and tell him how you feel.

Ok, me and my boyfriend have been dating for about 2 weeks now. Friday nite we were hanging out and my bro was around so I couldnt give him a kiss without him telling my parents (btw im not allowed to have a b/f) Yesterday, my b/f's best friend asked me if I would kiss him b4 1st pd on Monday, and I said that I was going to Friday, but I couldn't so I would Monday. But I dunno what I should do now because I like dont want all his friends around and everything. I kinda want a kiss from him first tho!! Someone please help me!!! btw I am 13/f and he is 14/m

If you don't want all his friends around tell him that and he should respect your wishes. Tell him that your not comfortable kissing him in front of everybody and i bet he would tell them to back off. Trust me. Just tell him how you feel.

ok i have a girlfriend and i think she's cheating on me with my best friend but she said she has no idea what i'm talking about!!!! and her best friend said she's dumping me on valentines day,and he best friend she is really cute.but i'm dumping my girlfriend.SHould i ask the really cute girl out and should i give her the valentines day present i rate high so help

Well, you should probably see who is telling the truth and who is lying. Your girlfriend might actually be telling the truth and she might not dump you. But If you really believe that she is cheating on you, and that she is going to dump you, then yes i think you should ask the other girl out and give her the present

I have been going out with this girl for a little bit of time and we are having problems. Our number one issue we have is trust what should i do. Should i break up with her or what. Also i like this other girl and i dont know if she likes me we are close friends and have known each other for a long time. I am confused what shall i do.

Help Me!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Well first i think you should find out how this other girl feels about you so you won't break up with this girl for her and she doesn't like you. As for the other question i can't tell you what to do you have to go with your own heart and how you feel about her. I am going to say this though, you can't have a successful relationship, or any relationship at all for that matter, if there is no trust. But if you think that she's worth the fight stay with her and work on it

hiya,
im 14 and ive been going out with my boyfriend for 3 weeks now. it'll be exactly a month on valentines day. he's the sweetest guy i could ever know, and i know he'd never do anything to hurt me. he's so sweet in fact that he texted me last night to ask if it would be ok for him ti kiss me on valentines day. we're going ot watch the sunset in the park overlooking the city, it should be really pretty.
in theory, it should be the perfect evening, but im terrified. ive never kissed a guy before, so im really scared about my first kiss. and i like him so much, i really dont want to mess this up. everyones told me it'll be fine if i relax and enjoy it, but im scared that i wont enjoy it! i mean, what if we kiss and its horrible? what do i do then? and what if i screw it up completely?
please help!
xxx

I think your friends are right and you should just relax. If you do i think it will come naturally. If its really right you'll feel it and just go with the flow of things. If the night is perfect like you described it to be, the kiss will be too.

a guyy and i were really good friends and he said he was gonna ask me out and stuff and then he asked out some other girl!!! now he tells all my friends he likes me a lot and when i asked him if this was true he said yes and then said he is just going out with her to see if he really like me so i dont have to waste my time.... should i just give up even though i like him a lot?

I don't think you should give up because you like him and its obvious he likes you so, just ask him to make a decision, is he going to go out with you or the other girl.

ok heres the issue-
theres this guy at my school(lets call him josh) and me and josh always hang out at school. about the second day after we started hanging out, josh started to flirt with me. ALOT. the problem is hes a senior, and i think he has a girlfriend, but she doenst go to our school. should i flirt back???
thanks

Well, in my opinion flirting never hurts(god knows i do it enough). and you never know he might not and if he does and hes flirting with you then things might not be going so well in his relationship. But if you really think that its wrong to flirt when your not sure if hes taken or not, then don't. Always go with your conscience it will never steer you wrong.

Okay im 15 .. and i like these two guys .. tha first one lets call him Joe ..okay well he goes to my school .. and hes a junior(im a freshman) well our lockers are right next to each other so thas sorta how we met but then we started talking,talking bc i became "close friends" with his friend (lets call him) Steve .. well me ans Steve just have sorta drifted away .. but me and Joe still talk alot !! n we talk online n everyday at school .. and i like him alot .. hes 17 .. soo hott and is soo sweet to me!! we just sorta click i guess.. hes so awesome .. and then tha other guy lets call him Bob .. well i met him about a month and a half ago from my two bff's ..Well we have all hung out together a few times and me and Bob talk online all tha time n see each other about every weekand(hes a freshman too but goes to another school) .. so every weekand me and my friends go to these local concert things .. its just basically a whole bunc of local punk/emo bands and they play .. its really awesome .. well me n my friends have been goin every sat. night for tha past month .. well this comming up saturday .. i invited Joe and Bob .. and they are both sorta thinking like im guna be there n we can get close or flirt or hook up or w/e .. which we prolly will ... but i dont want like Bob to think like we are guna make out or anyhthing bc then Joe is guna be there and vice versa .. i dont want to hurt either of them .. Me and Bob talk ALOT and we both like each other and know it.. but me n Joe .. well i like him ALOT and i think he knows it but im not sure how he feels about me .. I really like both of them .. Bob has a great personality and is SOOO sweet .. There are so many things i love about him .. but then Joe hes so hott ..and nice and sweet..n i like alotta things about him too .. and i told my mom that i liked both of them but she keeps insiting that i should forget about Bob and just keep persuing Joe !! but i think she thinks that bc hes older and his family is way rich ... so im not sure what i should do about this upcomming weekand .. Pleae help ? I rate 'XoX

Well first i think you should find out how joe feels about you before you make your choice. If he doesn't feel the same then your choice is made for you. If he does then you have to think long and hard about which one you feel the most for. I don't think you should have invited them both to the same event on the same night, but on the other hand it might help your decision a little bit. You can see how each one acts around each other. See which one gets jelous or acts like a jerk. But if they both act really cool then i think you should pick bob because he is closer to your age. Remember if you need more help or advice just hit me up and send it to my inbox.

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