hello, my name is selina and i was advised to create my own column due to the fact that i just cant help giving out advice and helping people with any questions that are on their mind. i know what its like to be botherd by something and not no who to ask it is alot easier to log on and ask a stranger who is willing to listen and help because you get no bad comeback,no spreaded goossip, no judgment,ect, so if you have something on your mind that is bothering you ask me and i will do my very best to help you out!!!!
thank you for reading........
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Occupation: nursery nurse
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I am 17. When me and my boyfriend were first together, things were so great. We used to do so much together. We saw eachother everyday. We couldn't stand being away from eachother. Infact, we couldn't be away from eachother so much that he convinced his parents and I convinced my mom to let me move in beacause it was like we practically lived together anyway. We've been together for 8 1/2 months, and lived together for about 3. I love him so much, but now at days I can't tell how much he loves me. We rarely do anything together anymore. He's always hanging out with his friends. infact, about 5 mins ago he just left with his friend to go watch a movie on his friends big screen. The only reason he came here was to get a movie, and mind you its 2 o'clock in the morning. This is how it is for me every night for like the past 2 weeks, I am up til like 3 waiting for him. I tried to tell him how left out I feel but I havn't seen any improvement. Just now I tried to talk to him and he said "I'm sorry, do you want me to take you back home?" its like his solution is breaking up. I feel like I am last on his list. I don't know what to do. (link)
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wow, this sound just like what me and my boyfriend were like, i live with him, and because i got used to seeing him all the time, when he went out with his mate i felt hurt and like you said, last on his list. it's a good thing you two spending a bit of time apart, in every relationship you have to give each other space, time to do what you like, like chill with your mates ect or the relationship may become boring. spending a bit of time apart will make you apreciate the time you have together alot more, and it will show how much you mean to each other. hope i was helpfull, enjoy yourself...
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okay listen my boyfriend id an asshole he treats me like shit and i don't know why he does i treat him with love and respect well i said i would give him one more chance i told him if he pissed me off or he broke a promise it would be done for good well he broke a promise he said he would call and he didn't so i'm really upset and i did break it off! he said it's not his fault that it's his staff's fault but that's a lie! he says he should have just one more chance so should i put up with his shit or just stay away?!? (link)
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i would say stay away you deserve to be treated alot better than that, a partner is suposed to be there for you, someone you can trust,care for and enjoy their company ect.. if he's not what you want, then move on and find some one else, that'll teach him
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I just started dating this guy and he is really sweet in all but he never talks to me in school or on the phone.And I justed found out that he was just using me to get his ex-girl friend out and I just dumped him.Was that a good choice?because now all my friends have boyfriends and I dont, and all the guys are like takin'.What do I do? and did I make a good choice?
-cheated and used (link)
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absolutly, you deserve alot better than that, no one deserves to be used, its out of order, its good that you dumped him, it shows him that your no fool for letting him use you like that. you'll find better
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okay, my boyfriend heard me say to another person " No you cant tell anyone", and so now he wants to know, what should i do¿
signed,
confused about it (link)
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wouldn't you want to know if you heard him say the same thing, its up to you if you want to tell him or not, he just probably doesnt want to be left out of your business, however there are something that he just doesnt have to know.
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Ok me and this guy have been talkin on msn messenger for about a mounth or two (don't worry i kno his little sis) And we have no clue what each other look like now he wants me to go and meet him @ the bowling alley His sis says that he's kool and all and that i should start to date him and i don't kno what to say or do! I mean we both seem to like each other. Should i go with him, or just keep talkin on messenger?
Love,
!!Plz Help!! (link)
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meet him be yourself and see how it goes from there, even if you dont end up dating you have still gained a great mate to hang out with and that. go for it
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I've liked a certain guy for over a year, and finally let him know. I had my best friend tell him, but she told him in front of his friends. So, his friends started saying all this totally untrue stuff about me (like that I'm a slut & that I'm easy, even though I've never had sex w/ anyone!) My friend also told me that my crush likes someone else. I know I should get over him, but it's soooo hard. Any suggestions?? (link)
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YOU talk to him, his friend are just jelouse thats why they feel the need to spread fake rumours, talk to him more let him get to know you for who you really are so he can see for himself instead of having to go by the stupid rumours. dont let other people put you off each other.
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I have a question regarding my ex-boyfriend...we broke up in December of 2001 abruptly after a horrendous visit to meet his parents (it was all just bad timing) he broke up with me because he felt our disagreements during our visit made a bad impression, thus he broke up with me on the plane...it was all very quick. We had only a very passionate 7 months together mind you. Yet, we had this awkward year and half afterward of not being together yet still feeling so much and having a sexual relationship. I really stopped being close with him around April of 2003. I graduated that year and have since moved. He has been emailing me every so often wanting to know what is up with me and how my life is. He is the type to always have a motive in doing something...why is he bothering?! Yet, most of me is over him..I am curious..and still heart broken. Should I avoid anything really personal when emailing..I dont want him to hurt me again, yet sometimes I wonder about the possibility...I am 24 female he is 23.
Thanks (link)
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try and still stay in contact with him as a friend since you have moved, its probably the fact that he still really likes you as more than a friend but doesnt know how to go about it without hurting your feelings, it looks like he that now that you have moved, that awkward sexual relationship has gone and he just doesnt want to lose you completely. if your emailing each other he wont be able to hurt you as much as if you were still kina seeing each other.
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Is it good to be dating or having relation ship with a class mate of yours (link)
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it depends on your feelings for each other, its more or less the same thing, dating may move up into a relationship any ways, so try dating and see what happens.
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Anyone care to explain why so many dumb***es insist on having sex before they turn 18!!!!!!!!! It's bad enough they don't wait until after marriage, that I can live with easily, but COME ON PEOPLE, it's illegal. SOMEONE TELL ME WHY!! (link)
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simple... when you tell a teenager not to do somthing, there at that age where they think they are big,cool ect if they do
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There is this boy in my class.I like him as a boyfriend and he likes me as a girlfriend.That means we are girlfriend-boyfriend right?Anyway I ask him if he likes Tara as a girlfriend.(if i get mad if he says yes he dosen't like tara as a girlfriend.I fi say i won't get mad he'll say he does like her as a girlfriend.he is just trying to make me happy and give me wat i want.he just want me not 2 be mad at him...
should i stay his girlfriend or dump him.Even though we love each other infinity plus two...
wat should I dooo??????????????? (link)
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y do u ask him if he likes tara as a girlfriend? he probably says yes just to get on your nerves because its always being brought up, he's with you and if he's not showing any proper signs that he likes tara then i think you should just get on with your relationship and stop bringing up the questions about her.
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I am a 16 year old female whose having some boy trouble. The boy I go with now, used to have a big crush on my bestfriend. But she never liked him like that. So we started talking and eventually he started to like me and here we are going out. Now, i think this other dude is cute(not saying I like him), but he likes my other friend, but she doesn't feel him like he's feeling her. Plus, she's moving to Hawaii(we live in Virginia). I just want to know what might be one reason why I like the guys that like my friends. About the unsatisfied part, no matter how sweet a boi is, he always seem to fall short of being "my type"...or maybe my expectations are too high. Please help! (link)
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sorry for taking so long to reply, internet trouble. n e ways its like with all groups of girlfriends, boys will come and go and like 1 or more out of you and your friends, its normal, and now that you are going out with someone other boys will no youir taken and show feelings for your friends and it is also very normal to think other guys are cute even if they like your mates or any one else for that matter
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i have been friends with these 2 for 5 years. he finally ask me out a couple months ago but broke up with me like every month and i kept going back out with him. well this time he said that hes not gonna break up with me again and that hes really dumb for breaking up with me. and now shes pissed off at me because she doesnt want me to cry over him again. which i havnt the last 2 times. why would i start now? shes also mad because i dont stand up for her when her brother(my bf) picks on her. all i do is laugh. i wanna say something but yet i dont. how can i get her not mad at me but stay with him. she wants me to break up with him but i dont want to. and also. when i go over to thier house to spend the night i always slept in her room. but now that shes mad at me i probably wont get to. i cant sleep in garys room cuz his dad would freak. how can i stay over there? ok this is 2 long. thanks everyone! bye (link)
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you need to make sure that your relationship with gary is what you both really want, and if it is talk to you friend and ask her to put herself in your shoes and get her to realise how hard it would be for her. still stay over, spend time with her like you used to and then with him, its like with any friends, when one gets a boyfriend, they get jelouse, shes just extra mad because its her brother, which in some cases its better, would she rather you go out with someone else, which will end up with you 2 spending less time together as friends?
the best tool friend have is communication, talk,listen and understand each other, it may not be all good, but as friends you learn to deal with it because its worth it.
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I've never used an advice forum b4 but i guess i'll give you an over view of my situation first. I've been with my boyfriend for about 18months, he moved in to my house about 4 months ago, which was his suggestion. Everything was pretty good for a month or so but then we started to notice certain bits about each other, which is obviously going to happen. Silly little things like how we cleaned a room or when the washing up was done...silly little things. I, at the time, was going through a bit of a rough patch with my job, quite stressful and wasn't super happy or bubbly. My other half started to moan that I frowned too much or that i left the room in a mess etc but after doing a 12hour day i was tired and wanted to chill out. He works away on weekends so every weekend i did a full clean of the whole house, but this isn't the way he'd likes it doing. he is very particular about the way he likes things to be done and i'm trying to adapt to these ways but i know, he doesn't, that this isnt going to happen overnight.He's never been in a serious relationship b4 and seems to get very impatient when our relationship doesn't seem to be getting anywhere (where he wants it to go i'm not sure as he doesn't agree with marriage or kids and we're already living together) he's very good at pointing out my faults but can't take me pointing out any of his, he says he won't change for anyone and doesn't believe in comprimise. We're getting to the stage where we either do something about the situation we're in or we spilt up. I really don't want this to happen but I'm running out of ideas on what to do. He's got himself in a negative frame of mind and i don't know how to get him out of it. Please help?
Ps. I'm female and 22, hes 26 and obviously a guy! (link)
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hiya, i am in a similar situation as you, i have moved in with my partner (in his house) which was his idea and just like you said it was all fine at first and then we also started to notice small things about each other that were starting to get really frustrating, however i was the one that is like your partner,and after a while we had no choice but to relise that no relationship is perfect and if its only things like these that we are begining to find hard, its not the end of the world or the near end to the relationship, we were able to talk to each other properly and both give our opinion on what was bothering us and to be in a long term relationship both people may have to make small changes to make it work. tell him everything you feel about the situation, and ask him if the relationship is worth it and what he really wants he has got to try and make some changes, and that your relationship isnt all about him, he needs to understand what being in a relationship is all about and stop being so selfish. he should be grateful and understanding that you let him move into your house, if he isnt willing to change for no one who does he think he is making you change so much for him. tell him if he cant try and adjust to your life, you wont stain your guts out to do so to his, and then see what he says. its the year 2004 not 1900 so men need to stop trying to be so overuling,it dont work like that any more. talk about the future and what you both want and are both looking forward to, do what ever makes you happy!!
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