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disappointed, lonely, and confused
I am 17. When me and my boyfriend were first together, things were so great. We used to do so much together. We saw eachother everyday. We couldn't stand being away from eachother. Infact, we couldn't be away from eachother so much that he convinced his parents and I convinced my mom to let me move in beacause it was like we practically lived together anyway. We've been together for 8 1/2 months, and lived together for about 3. I love him so much, but now at days I can't tell how much he loves me. We rarely do anything together anymore. He's always hanging out with his friends. infact, about 5 mins ago he just left with his friend to go watch a movie on his friends big screen. The only reason he came here was to get a movie, and mind you its 2 o'clock in the morning. This is how it is for me every night for like the past 2 weeks, I am up til like 3 waiting for him. I tried to tell him how left out I feel but I havn't seen any improvement. Just now I tried to talk to him and he said "I'm sorry, do you want me to take you back home?" its like his solution is breaking up. I feel like I am last on his list. I don't know what to do.
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ok um first off, if i were u, i would have never moved in with him, i think that was ur biggest mistake right there bcuz i think thats partly the reason why he broke up with you..maybe bcuz he saw too much of you and was tired of seeing u everyday..bcuz thats how me and one of my X's broke up bcuz we saw each other too much and he wanted to "explore"...AND we didnt even live together! bcuz its nice sometimes to have time for urself w/o ur girl/boyfriend over ur back all the time. i think u guys woulda lasted longer if u guys didnt move in together..i mean, its sorta nice just to have that feeling of "oh, i cant wait to see my boyfriend" typa thing i hope i helped..
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First of all, YOU MOVED IN WITH HIM??!?!!!?!!!?! WOW! Anyway, when he leaves stop him!!!!! Tell him "Listen, how come you havnt been even careing about me?" Dont let him go til he agrees that he will take you with him. Thats what I would do.
Hoped I helped with your love life!
-CHickaroo12
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It's important to realize that in all relationships there is a stage that everyone goes through at the beginning where you always want to be together with your new love, where you believe that you'll never tire from one another, and that you can't imagine possibly being apart set in. You two felt this... And took it much, much too far. You two are young adults, but in all honesty, much too young to be making a committment to be living together and having the expectation that you will spend every waking minute with one another without growing tired of one another.
It sounds as though your boyfriend has gotten past the "honeymoon stage" while you're still stuck inside of it, wondering where the old boyfriend went. He wants to spend time with his friends, and I think that the knowledge of you always being there waiting for him when he gets home is a little bit scary to him right now.
Here's my advice: Move back home. You're young... Spend time with your family and don't jump into situations as serious as moving in with a boyfriend of 5 months. This relationship may not be over, but I definitely think that the two of you need to spend time apart before you can move on. If you continue to live at his house, I think that it's inevitable that he will keep pushing you farther and farther away while you are left alone in his home wondering what you did wrong.
EDIT: Your immaturity astounds me. If you were not looking for someone's honest opinion, you should have just typed "Somebody please tell my 17 year old undeveloped mind that my boyfriend whom I have been dating for 8 and a half months still loves me more than anything in the world and wants to come home every night for the rest of his life to see me there."
The way in which you chose to not even consider my advice, insult my integrity, call me immature names, and take the advice that you had already formulated in your head simply reaffirms the belief that I already had that you are an immature girl who has no idea what she is getting herself into. Best of luck to you.
Lauren
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there are 2 different reasons your man may be doing this, #1, after being together for a while, a man get's "comfortable" in his relationship. acts more himself, stops opening car doors (lol) hangs out with his friends, guys do love them big screen T.V.'s.....lol #2, one thing that bothered me in your letter was the time he was leaving to go watch this so called movie. which leads me to think he may be seeing someone else. If you love him, try to make it work but keep your eyes OPEN to things that he is doing.. {possibly cheating} you also might want to check into that.
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wow, this sound just like what me and my boyfriend were like, i live with him, and because i got used to seeing him all the time, when he went out with his mate i felt hurt and like you said, last on his list. it's a good thing you two spending a bit of time apart, in every relationship you have to give each other space, time to do what you like, like chill with your mates ect or the relationship may become boring. spending a bit of time apart will make you apreciate the time you have together alot more, and it will show how much you mean to each other. hope i was helpfull, enjoy yourself...
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